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My cousin from a different country
Well, I moved to the USA when I was six, ten years ago. I left all my family behind. Well, my aunt recently remarried and moved to a town (San Francisco) an hour away from us, and my cousin has just arrived a couple of days ago and will be living with my aunt and his step dad. We are going to visit them tomorow.
The thing is, that I barely know him. He is a really cool person, VERY smart, funny, etc. I really admire and look up to him. But I only visit him like once every two or three years, so we never got a chance to have a real friendship. Well, I will be seeing him quite regularly now, probably about once every two or three weeks.
I know what you are going to say: just be yourself, play games together, teach him English (which he already knows). But I can't really be myself when I'm around him. Where he's from, I would be considered a spoiled, pampered little girl. For example, I like to go shopping, paint my nails, straighten my hair, listen to the kind of music that there is considered very barbaric. All of these activities are only seen in the very rich, spoiled girls.
Also, education wise, I am far behind (by their country's standards). I would probably be in fifth or sixth grade math if I were to go to school there. Also my writing suffers horribly, and I make grammatical errors worse than a second grader's. And I was homeschooled for a while, and my mom taught me how to read and write in that language, and, well, I suck. There's just too many spelling rules that I don't get and forget.
How do I appear like I am smart and funny to my cousin. I mean, should I hide the things that I do from him, or should I flaunt them. Like I'm smart, but by American standards. He always says witty things, and he is multi-talented. I really want him to willingly be friends with me, not just because we are related. We have nothing in common, I can't really teach him anything, and he can teach me loads but it probably won't be very fun for him. =/ We just led different lifestyles, and were brought up differently, were exposed to different problems in life. We are like from two different worlds. He is actually from Ukraine, so I guess you could say he has lived half a world away my whole life.
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You said it all. You were raised differently. So be different. Dont change yourself for him. If he cant sxcept you for you then, thats no good!! He is just family. So why worry about what he thinks that much? Like I said dont change a thing about you. And if he throws somethin in your face about where the both of you are from, and says O well, we don do that over there Just simply tell him, well we do it over here! So thats how im going to do it.
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I don't really understand this question, hun. The only thing I can tell you, is be yourself and if that isn't good enough for someone, even your cousin, then it isnt worth pretending to be someone that your not. Being YOU is all you really can do and there is nothing wrong with that. Just try to enjoy yourself. Best of luck and have an awesome time! *Smiles*
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