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confused feelings
Okay, so there's this guy that's been my really good friend for a long time. Last October, I got a crush on him. Then in December, he had a girlfriend, but he told me that he'd liked me since October too, and a week later, he broke up with his girlfriend. But he didn't ask me out until a month later, because he 'didn't want people to think he liked me when he liked his other girlfriend'. So we were 'sort of' going out for about a month, but we never actually went on a date. He asked me out to a carnival, but then he ditched me. Then...worst of all...the school dance. He danced with me once, and then went back to his ex girlfriend and was dancing with HER for the rest of the time. I talked to him and he told me he didn't like me anymore, but we decided to stay friends anyways.
Now, about 3 months later...I think I still like him, but I'm not sure. We're still very good friends. I want him to be happy with whatever girl he goes out with, but I'm jealous at the same time. My heart jumps when I had to kiss him on the cheek for this school performance..and when I fell asleep on his shoulder in the movie theater (with other friends there)...and I feel crap when I see the girl he likes sleeping on his other shoulder, or sitting super close to him. What should I do? How do I get over him? Please help!
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wow you are EXACTLY like me! even the dates are the same!! i liked a guy since october then he went out with someone else, dumped her in december, waited till january to go out with me, then danced with his ex through half of our dance! and now he is happily going out with his ex again and i have finally gotten over him! ill tell you a few things. first of all, you won't get over him until you meet a guy who really makes you feel as good as he did ((at first)). and if your guy goes out with other girls, of course you'll be jealous. i mean, you still like him, so you have every right to be jealous. just don't do anything which would make his new girl think you still like him, cuz that can lead into a big issue. i would just let it be known that ur single and looking, but make an effort to stay his friend. because girlfriends come and go, but real friends ((any gender)) stay forever. i know it'll be really hard, but there is a guy out there who is everything this guy is and more.
i hope i helped. if you wanna talk sometime, im at augustagurrl@yahoo.com
xoxo
torie
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He doesn't sound like good boyfriend material. I think you should remain friends. I think you will probably feel jealous until you have a boyfriend of your own. :)
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Aw! That must of sucked. I think that pretty much every girl has been in that situation and its really not that easy just to forget or get over a guy. It just takes time tho. What he did was really rude and stupid! He seems a little immature! I really think that you shouldnt even worry about this guy. You can do sooo much better and you dont need to put up with him! I know how it feels to just look back at everyhing you both went through before but you will find yourself another boyfriend who will treat you with respect and better then this guy!! Try your best to get over him. Make yourself belive that you have no feelings for him other then friends. Go out and meet new guys! It will keep your mind off of him.. do the things you love to do. Sometimes it will be okay if you just cry about it or something there is nothing wrong with that and every girl does. You just really liked this guy tho so it still might hurt you to see him with other girls! X0`
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many of people go threw the same thing that you are so your not alone!!! it will be really hard for you to get over this guy.. believe me... it's goign to be really hard ... your can't really tell yourself to get over him because it is so hard so what you can do is try and like move away from him slowly and not talk to him a lot because if you don't talk to him it will be hard for you not to liek him anymore.. another thing you could do is try and get to now another boy that you think that you would like or get to be close friends with .. this way you could take your mind off of this other boy... but it is goign to take some time.. it is goign to take at least 1 month or longer depending how much you like him.. it took me 3 months!! good luck and i hope i helped!
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I am really sorry to hear this. We have all been there! I think it is time for you to move on and try to find someone else. I know this will be hard, but I think it is for the best. This guy obviously likes his ex-girlfriend still and from what you have said, I dont think that is going to change. I am sorry! This is a very hard thing to go through. Just try to find some other guy to like or maybe just hang out with your friends a lot more. Friends can always help you to feel better. Best Of Luck and if you ever need to talk just IM me. My screename is on my Advice Column. Hope I helped! Sorry once again sweetie!
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I don't think he cares at all. Or at least he doesn't care enough. It seems like he enjoys having two girls who have feelings for him. Do yourself a favor and get over him. Try to spend less time with him and go out and do other things. Spend time with other friends. Try to find other guys to date.
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I think the guy you have a crush with is having confused feelings also. One moment he likes you the other he does not and I think he still likes his ex-girlfriend. Maybe the best thing you should do is to just remain friends and try to let go of him. I've suffered in a somewhat the same situation but not really that exactly the same. The guy I liked is also confused and therefore I gave him the time to think. Maybe you should give him space also. To let him think the situation over or to let him choose. If he still goes on with his ex-gf then there are ways to get over the guy
1) start dating other guys
2)concentrate on other more important things than love life
3) Do things that you like best to do and forget him.
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if you really care about this guy and won't hurt him when you're going out, you should just wait for him to like you back. you can't just have dessert whenever you want, you have to have it after dinner. all you'll do by prying him away from his girlfriend is hurt him. if you think it's real, then you shouldn't feel any different later. pass the time until it happens by just hanging out with your friends, and hang out with him a little bit less. Boys always want girls they can't get easily. play hard-to-get
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I think you should definently talk to him! If he cares for you at all, he will understand! If not than get over him!
~*~Candy~*~
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hi there , i think these feeling are really confused, first of all was he the one that revealed his feeling for you or maybe he didnt want to hurt your feeling, but i think you got hurt anyway
i think what you are doing is very good, because from what you wrote ou are not trying to break them up, it shows that you truly love him and that you are a great friend because you love him enough to be happy with the next girl, not persistent on two of you being together , maybe he isnt ready for a staedy relationship because he might be scared that he'll end up hurting you and you two wouldnt speak together
ii believe that you truly love him, i don't know about any way you can get over someone, just give it time and i know that its not easy
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