Hello my name is Chrissie and a lot of people call me the latest Dear Abby. I give advice to anyone who needs it whether it be friends, family, or strangers. I've been giving advice on the internet for a little while now and just recently I've found this. So please feel free to ask me anything. I'm not just an advice columnist but I'm a friend :-).
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16/f.ok so i just moved to a new school and the very first day i met this really nice girl. shes so sweet, and i sit with her at lunch. ive even gone over to her house and hung out with her. shes not really the type of person i usually hang out with, but shes so sweet. but over the weeknd i met these group of girls that go to my school and tehre more my type. they invited me to sit with them at lunch and they want to hang out with me more, but i dont know what to do. these girls dont liket he girl i met the first day and they dont really associate with her. who should i sit with and how do i break the news to the other one? thanks.
p.s-sitting with all of us together would NOT be an option. thanks. (link)
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Hey. Yeah I've been in a situation like this before and I know, it's tough. Well does that other group have any reason to hate the sweet girl? You said she's really sweet so why would she be hated? That doesn't really sound like a nice group if they hate her because she's too sweet or nice but maybe there's more to it. Is the sweet girl alone? Then I would probably sit with her and I know you said all of you sitting together is not an option but I would at least ask the sweet girl if she wanted to sit with them too. But ask the other group first. If they say no I would sit with the sweet girl but still hang out with the others on certain days and the sweet girl on other days. Or ask if there's any reason they hate her. Are you sure they're just not the same and you're exaggerating? Hopefully that's the case :). Well I hope I helped a little and please give feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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16/f
how do you exactly grind with someone? like a guy...its gonna be really embarassing the first time i try and dance with a guy because ive never done it before and i wont know what im doing! and im afraid i will do it wrong =( (link)
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Grinding is when you and a guy (or girl in my old school, haha only back to back) lean up against eachother front to front and you move in and out really sexy like up against him. Just watch the other people sneakily out of the corner of your eye and you'll catch on :). Haha. Hope I helped a little :). Please give feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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ok i love my best friend more than anything. but i cant be happy for her when she gets a boyfriend!
now you would think i was jealous, but i dont think thats it because the boys she chooses are ugly and have zero personality. i would never be with them in a million years.
maybe it bothers me that i know she could do so much better but she doesnt? but that doesnt really make sense.
i thought it could be because i dont have a boyfriend? but i have 3 gorgeous guys that like me, so its not like i need attention.
i cant figure it out. all these guys are so fucking annoying and immature. and when i have to hear about them, watch them make out with her, or like read their conversations when she wants me to, i get really pissed off. i always tell her no to go out with them or whatever, and when its over she admits that she was crazy to get involved with them. but then when the next loser comes around i tell her the same thing and shes liek "im not listening to you this time" and has an annoying little smirk on her face. she is so annoying too. liek ogm i get so pissed off. its really annoying me that i care about something so much and idk why! does anyone else feel liek this ?
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Hey. Well firstly I think that you can't understand why your friend goes out with these guys when you feel she's way out of your leauge. It agrivates you because you feel she shouldn't be acting all happy with these guys when she could have better. She probably says I'm not listening to you this time because she wants to find out for herself what the guy is like and all on her own. She would probably be upset if she didn't give him a chance because who knows, she could marry him. This may be her feeling and this is why she gives him a chance and then breaks up with him without listening to a friends advice first. Let her date the guys she choses and you will both be much happier (I hope :)) and heck why don't you go out with one of those hot guys that like you? You never know unless you give em a chance right? Oh and to answer your question about does anyone else feel this way I think that everyone feels this way about a friend at some time so don't feel wierd about it. It's only natural to feel your friend deserves better :). I hope this helped a little and please give feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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My friend keeps popping my pimples. It's gross. How can I make her stop? She randomly comes up to me and holds my face and BLAH. She didnt seem to understand 'Stop!' I hate going to class with blood smeared on my face.
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Okay well first of all that's really creepy! Eww.... I would stay away from her as a friend because that is just creepy lol. Anyway now to helping you with your problem. Uhm I would probably just talk to her sternly (yes I know it will be hard but you have to do it or she will never stop), and say that's digusting and I really don't appreciate you popping my pimples at school because it hurts and I look like a bloody creep (you probably don't but just say that :) lol.) When she goes to do it just move away and say stop, really sternly! Oh and did you know popping pimples can cause you to loose brain cells? Personally I don't think so but just add that in so she will feel bad. I hope I helped my friend :).
Chrissie
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Okay I put this in the category "Relationships -> Friendship" because I didnt know what else it would be classified as.
But lets get one thing straight,
the girl I'm going to talk about I am not friends with her.
Okay, well I was adopted and so was this girl, from the same place. And when we were in elementary school we tried to be friends, it didnt really work, she like lives for PITY, (because she was adopted).. and after we figured out it couoldnt work (well I figured it out)
we just stopped talking.
But now speed forward, to highschool.
She is bugging the crap out of me, my freshman year (last year) i felt bad for her, so yet again I befriended her, and she made it worse, she became freakishly clingy, and caused a LOT of drama. And i said I've had it and I'm not going ot be your friend. Not now anymore, or ever. And you cant convince me too.
I've talked ot school counsulars, but they dont know half of our past so they cant help.
Just know that, we always argued when we were friends, and it was unhealthy and I cant take the drama from her.
But I'm going into my sophmore year,
and she has been obsessing over me it seems. Like reading my comments on xanga ( i have a tracker, and shes not blocked so its not like she cant comment) so yeah. And its annoying, and she thinks we have some tie together since we're "both adopted" but therea re other pepole adopted at our school, from teh same place, but does she bug them? NO? so whats so special about me? She thinks of her adoption of being "abandonded" and thats why she acts eepressed and wants pity all the time.
But I mean she can get help, btu cant she leave me alone? I've even gone to see conuslars about her, but they all told me how i can treat her, and what to say so she will leave me alone. But my questions are:
WHY DOES SHE KEEP BUGGING ME?
WHAT IS HER PROBLEM?
And also she has a hard time letting go of things, like our past.
And I've had it, with her, I'm liable to i dont know what, But I've had it. please help.
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Hey. Wow this sounds pretty sick. Well first of all it does sound like this girl has an obsession and needs some serious help. For some reason she got it in her mind that she really wants to be friends with you. But if she's going to cause all this drama I don't blame you for being upset. Now to her it's probably become almost like a "game" to be obsessed with you and as you know that is not normal. This may be a physological problem that is going through her and she needs help. Just do whatever you can to stay away from her but to be honest if you're a little friendly it may make her stop obsessing and trying so hard to be you're friend. Don't be mean or anything because it will just make you look bad and make her continue to obsess. Also you should tell your mom and dad who adopted you about this and maybe they can talk about it to her mom and dad. I know this sounds embaressing but believe me, I deffinitely think it will make her embarressed and she will stop bugging you! I hope this helped at least a little and please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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14/female
Hey,okay so I just found out this girl that i "thought" was my friend went behind my back and told this girl who wants to fight me a whole bunch of stuff. Cause me and her used to you know just talk about how she hated me and i was like i could care less and stuff. And i am extremley mad right now! does anyone know how i can confront her (my so called friend) please i need help soon and fast!!
-AberFitchhyy- (link)
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Hey. Well first off I know you're probably really upset right now but don't let it get to you. I would just completely blow off both of them to be honest but first I'd confront your friend and ask her why she did this. Most likely she will lie or cause more drama so just blow off them both. Even if she gives this sob story that's deffinitely not a friend. Don't fight the other girl either no matter what and know you're the better person. All this drama is ridiculous and don't let it get to you my friend :-). Find new people to hang out with and if you already have other nice people to hang out with stay with them. I hope this helped a little and please give feedback.
Chrissie
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me and one of my guy friends have been friends for like, 4 years and everyone always says we should go out. we always laugh it off and say that we never would because were just friends but the more i think about it the more i kind of get what everyone is saying. we get along really well and our personalities to match up pretty good but i have that lame fear that if we go out that we wont be friends if it doesnt work. i dont have a thing for him, or much of one anyways but i could see myself with him. i want to try it out and date him but i dont know if hes thinking what i am and i dont know how to tell. were like best friends and everyone thinks we like each other or that were flirting or that were already going out. thanks soooo much (link)
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Hey. Well you say you and him get along really well right. Then I think it would probably work out great. I bet inside he really likes you too but you're both afraid to ask eachother (or at least he may be) for fear of rejection. I would deffinitely give it a try and if he says no that's okay don't let it ruin your friendship, he may still be embarressed or in shock :). If he says yes then that's great and if you fight it's okay you will get over it just like when you're friends. If he breaks up with you don't feel bad you can still be friends and if you feel you're going to break up with him just tell him you really want to be friends still but you don't want you going out to ruin your relationship. Who knows, maybe you'll get married? I hope this helped a little and please give me feedback on if this helped my friend :-).
Chrissie
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I like my friend, josh and today i told him that i liked him and i couldnt really tell if he liked me or not andi just really dont know because alot of people think he likes me but my friend told me he didnt like me well what should i do? and if you have any advice on how to get a guy to like you that would be so helpful!! thanks!! (link)
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Hey. Well you say a lot of people thinks he likes you right? And only one friend doesn't. It sounds to me like this friend is very jealous. In fact, that's not a very nice friend to even say that so try to take long breaks from her. Tell the guy how you feel and it may be embaressing but if you really like him it will work out in the long run. If he says he likes you too then that's great. If he says no or he just wants to be friends then that's okay at least you tried and there's nothing wrong with that but I would deffinitely go for it. Don't get discouraged either if he says no because it may mean that to be honest he's a little embarressed himself :). I hope this helped and please give some feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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i'm 15...and yeah... so... ever since i met this person... she hates me... and she hangs out with my best friend. i know she's a pretty insecure person since she's overwieght and her mom was a whore(literally...i'm not tryin to be mean) and left her as a little kid. and my best friend feels sorry for her. i used to, but her past gives her no right 2 boss me around and treat me like shit. and it's only getting worse every day. i jus can't take it anymore, and i don't know what to do... i've tried avoiding her, but if i do that i can't ever hang with my friend b/c she's always hangin with that person. we play on the same basketball team at school, so during practice she'll boss me around about the stupidest things, and i don't want the coach yo see us fighting b/c try-outs are still going on, so i jus do what she says... i've tried telling my friend about it, but evertime i try i litterally get pushed out of the way by the person. all my other teamates tell me 2 forget them both... but i could never forget my best friend, i care about her 2 much, and she's goin through sum pretty sucky stuff right now (link)
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Hey. No matter what this girls backround is it gives her no right to boss you around like this. First of all I would talk to your b-ball coach about this. I know it sounds easier then it will be and you don't want to look like you're causing trouble but heck, you're deffinitely not. If someone is being this mean to you for no reason you need to confront the issue and tell someone.
I know it's hard but work up the guts or this problem will never end with her. Get the girls on the team to hang out with you more often but when you're around them don't talk about this girl or it will make you look bad. If they do just say yeah I don't know why she's such a mean person but whatever floats her boat. Laugh and change the subject. I know this may sound corney but it's the best option my friend.
As for your best friend try to get her alone no matter what. And if she doesn't go with you and lets this girl boss you around then I hate to say it but that's not a good friend at all. I know it may hurt at first but you will have to make new, nicer friends. If she does go along with you and stops hanging out with this girl slowly then great. She may have to stop her friendship with this girl slowly because she doesn't want this girl to be mean to her to so be prepared. If she continues to see this girl whether sneakily or not after seeing you get bossed around by her then she's not a friend. Hey, I hope this helped if even a little so please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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i have this really good friend. we always used to do everything together and everyone knew we were like the best of friends. ever since this year started she always hangs out with other people and never me. i talked to her about it and she said she still likes me and everything but she just doesn't get it at all. i miss hanging out with her but she obviously doesnt miss hanging out with me, and sometimes i feel like she doesnt even care about me...well it doesnt seem like it...should i try to get her back ? how? or should i forget about her? and how? (link)
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Hey. Well first of all, don't feel bad because this happens to everyone eventually. It may hurt at first that she's putting other friends before you but eventually you'll make new friends too and it will make you feel a lot better. I mean don't completely get rid of her. Maybe you can pick a day once in a while to make a not to hang out with her too but if she never recipricates, forget about it.
Yes it will probably be upsetting and all but you will get over it soon enough when you and all your new friends are making new memories to share. Do you know any of the friends she's hanging out with? Just act friendly toawards them too and who knows? I know that sounds tough but maybe you can be friends with some of them too.
I mean don't hog them away or anything but all of you guys can hang out :). Or if this option sunded completely ridiculous just make new friends and you will be fine :-). I really hope this helped even if only a little so please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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I'm starting High School this tuesday.
I'm not scared or excited like everyone else is.
My friends are all going to different schools.
And I have a problem with meeting new people.
I have trust issuses with everyone around me(including strangers), so I try not to get close to anybody.
Everyone judges me as mean because of that.
Because of my hair, kids think I'm emo. and I'm tired of only making friends with kids who listen to emo music.
so, what do I say or do?
I want to meet all different types of people.
and this year isn't a good year for me, so I want to meet people who can help me get through everything. (link)
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Hey. Well first of all it's not good to judge people right off the start because then you will already have an image of them and may never become friends. Hey, you don't like when people judge you right? So I wouldn't do the same thing back. Everyone's new just like you and even if they know people already they probably want to meet new friends too. As long as you're friendly and nice they probably will be too and you will meet a lot of new friends. And heck, if they aren't nice, now you know. But as long as you're nice and friendly to everyone no matter what they are you can feel good about yourself and lots of others will too. Sidenote: I just started high school too not knowing litterally anyone since my two best friends are going to two different schools also. I know it can be scary but I just try to be as friendly and nice as possible and so far it's working out.
I hope this helps and please give me feedback my friend :).
Chrissie
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My freind died over the summer because of drugs. He was only seventeen. We went out summer after freshman year and most of sophomore yr (now I'm going to be a senior.) He was my first love. We didnt talk for a while because of the akwardness but near the end of junior yr we became close again. We hung out a week before he passed away. We both got out of a relationship at the same time and it was pretty much the same situation so we tried to help eachother through it. When we hung out though it felt like old times when we went out. We were compatible and he knew that. We even kissed and it was just as perfect as it was before... he was the one who brought that to my attention. He even asked me if I thought we would get back together. I was scared to answer yes so i said I dont know. I've always had feelings for him. He told me things he didn't tell a lot of people while we hung out. He told me about his problem and the fact he wanted help. I even confessed to his parents what I knew after the fact. I feel terrible now because I feel I could have saved him by telling his parents in the first place. How do you get over someone that meant so much and knowing you could have saved him?
signed,
Missing you always (link)
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Hey. First of all I'm so sorry about your friend he sounds like a great guy. I recently lost several greatly loved ones in the past 3 or 4 years and 2 just this week and last week so I know how much it hurts :-(. First of all though, you didn't know your friend was going to pass away. In fact you had no idea that would happen and if you did, you did the right thing by telling his parents. You should feel so glad that you became close again and have those great memories of the past week.
If you didn't get close again before he passed away you would have felt even worse. Don't beat yourself up because it's not your fault. You just began hanging out again in that past week and in that past week you did tell his parents about his drug problem! You did the exact thing a good friend would have done. I know you may be hurting now and the pain will take a while to go away but he's in a better place now and you can still talk to him if you want. The fact you had the experience of a first love is so great and will make you stronger. I really hope this helped if even only a little so please let me know :).
Chrissie
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I am In a youth group at my church, and we're are all close like a family. Until a couple weeks ago, and I'm just now finding out a couple days ago. But there is an adult We call him "Womble" hes about 26-27 and hes soo cool and funny, and there is this is this girl he name Is Erika. She Is one of my best friends and she is 15 a couple months away from 16th Both of them are very Christan like and know whats right and not right but Something very wrong has happend Me and my friends at church just can't beleve they ar not friend when me and erika and stephanie all spent the night over josh's house I took her phone and there was this big long messege from womble and she chased me around cause she didn't want me reading it, I didn't read It cause I wanted to respect her privacy and me and stephanie asked her last night what was wrong between them 2 and she wouldnt tell us But she did tell us that they are going to talk only if he talks to her first and I dont blame her we kep askin her questions and she said It was something he said and did kinda but I just wanna know what can I do I dont want them to rueien the relationship. and I know there was nuttin bad in it just a slip up of words. Just HELP ME! (link)
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Well it sounds like Womble and Erika had something (possibly embaressing) happen between them and don't exactly want to share this with anyone else. And that's okay. She said they were going to talk about it so this means that they want to sort it out. She probably wouldn't have said that if they had no intention of becoming friend's again. I wouldn't worry about it and try not to get to involved because I think that would just make it worse. If you see their friendship is really getting bad then maybe you can help out a little but wait till things settle down. Just let them handle it and have no worries my friend. Please give me feedback on if this helped :-).
Chrissie
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how can i become more outgoing? like i was at my cousins bonfire with all her friends and they wanted people to do like the lawn mower and the sprinkler and be stupid! but nobody wanted to and in my head i was like just do it just do it and then i was like noo i will look stupid! because there were a couple guys there that i thought were hott =) and i wish i wouldnt care what people thought of me! its always like..if i say something i think someone will think im stupid or something! even if someone asks me to go to a party with them and i dont really know anyone i will be all freaked out and be like oh my god this is going to be weird im scared! because im not going to know anyone and then who am i gonna talk to...everyones gonna look at me and wonder who i am! thats just how i am..or if im like at a football game with everyone and im trying to find a seat with my friend i feel like everyone is staring at me and i like the attention from guys..but then its like i dont really like the attention?! its weird. i just think i would make more friends and i would like for myself to be more outgoing and not care what people think. its so hard for me to change though. and in school in class i never talk..answer questions, participate because im scared to like say an answer or read something off! and i HATE speaking in front of anyone..ahh anyone know how to get over this!?
by the way im 16/f.
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Hey. Don't worry, a lot of people have this problem and it's easy to get over as long as you believe in yourself. Sometimes I get this also with certain people but the most important thing to do is just be yourself and no one will think anything of it. If you act like you're all shy and afraid to say things this will turn people off a lot more then if you just say it. You want to be more outgoing huh?
Well, just go for it and if you have to, force yourself to say things that you want to, or do things, or laugh at things you think are funny and everyone will love you. I used to be afraid to say certain things and I'd look even more wierd then if I said them. I learned that the more I laughed and went along with things (even if at first I forced myself), a lot more people liked it. If you're really afraid to do this practice on someone you know or even an inanamite object (when no ones around of course :-)). You may feel folish but believe me you are deffinitely not the only one doing it. I hope this helps and please give me feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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So there is this guy and he is very nice and he is always saying to me, you are really cool, you are pretty, etc. So sometimes online he will ask me questions like do you think i am hot, do you think you could ever like me more as a friend and stuff like that.
So usually I say no or idk. Because I don't want to lead him on by saying yes or something else. But then I feel bad, like I am hurting his self esteem and putting him down. What should I do? What should I say when he asks me? (link)
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Hey. Well when he asks you these things and you reply no or idk it probably is hurting him so I probably wouldn't do that. Say things like I think you are so cute and such a great friend but right now I have a lot going on. Believe me you won't lead him on too much if you throw him a few compliments and be nice to him. Also, if this other guy likes you only a little, why not be nicer to this guy who really likes you? If you're really not interested just try to keep your friendship at a happy, healthy rate. I hope this helps and please give me feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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okay this is going to be freaking huge haha.
well, i'm in a class that does video announcements from school. and my best friend is in that class, which is a great awesome thing. anyway, her and i, and another girl are in the same group. so my friend has this thing, where (to me) it seems like she acts like she knows everything about anything. and when i give an opinion about stuff, its either shot down or she gives me a reason why it won't work, or why we can't do it. i understand that. but its the way she says it, like im stupid or something. so sometimes i just kinda sit there..i don't look mad or sad or happy or anything, its just a blah kind of state. she tells me to do stuff and then i'll try and do it and she ends up taking over because she doesn't have the patience. and then i feel bad because she makes it seem like its so bad that i don't do everything exactly right or exactly the way she wants me to. and today, she made a big deal about how she was the only person who edited our last piece like if we made her do all the work. which isn't true, she hardly ever gave us the chance to do anything. all we really did was give an opinion on something, and i researched the information. and also, if i do say something she'll say "don't get all mad"..which is so annoying because i'm not mad!!! i just wanna figure out how to do stuff without her breathing down my back and telling me what to do. im not trying to be a control freak or anything, but i do want a say in some of the stuff we do. and then when i do give a good idea, she doesn't say oh good idea or tell me anything nice, she just acts like its a big pain to her. i don't get it. but i love that girl to death, outside of class its so much different we have so much fun all the time no matter what. its just inside class she acts different. and she's really disrespectful towards our teacher, which i hate. i try and show as much respect for him as possible, but when she acts rude towards him, he lectures our whole group. i've been lectured enough in my life, so i try and avoid it.
if i tryed to tell her how she's acting, or tell her to quit, she'll just turn around and start telling me stuff that i'm doing too and that she's not the only one being "mean" or whatever she wants to call it. i hate it, i don't know how to talk to her at all about this whole thing. and honestly i'm scared, because i don't like arguing with people, i don't like when they get mad or offended, and i hate the whole "shut up" look. drives me insane.
any advice on how to deal with this all would be SO appreciated. (link)
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Wow, that's horrible. First of all, it sounds like you don't like confrontation and I feel that way a lot too. But, you have to talk to her after class (not during!) and tell her how you feel. It may be hard at first but work up the guts or this will never end! Just force yourself to say how you feel and if she doesn't understand then she has a really big problem. It sounds like this a class she thinks she's really good at and is an obsessed control freak about it which sometimes is hard to, well, control. It's also not right that you're whole group is getting yelled at for her actions but I'm sure, as long as you don't act snobby or rude back, the teacher knows who really is being rude and disrepectful. Also, how does you other friend feel about this? Does she say anything to you? If so maybe the two of you could go up to her to make you feel better and if this girl still is angry I would stay away from her no matter how much you love her to death. This is not normal. Ask the teacher to switch your group. And if your other friend doesn't go along just talk to this girl on your own no matter what. Make sure of it. Possibly (I know this option may be tough and hard), get an adult involved because this is sad, cruel, and somewhat, serious. I hope this helps and please give me feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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Judi my friend. is avoiding me. I don't know why. What do I do?
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Hey. Well first of all I would deffinitely talk to Judi if you have no idea why. Try to think back to your past conversations with her. You may have said something that accidentally upset her so if so, ask if that's the reason and say I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt you or something like that. If you still have no idea why then yes ask her what's wrong or tell someone you know and ask them to help you sort it all out. Sometimes it makes you feel better when the people you love are helping you. I really hope this helps and please give feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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18/F
I recently (two months ago) became friends with this group of girls after I broke off with my friends of four years. The prime group of girls consist of D, H and M. I've suffered from depression and having it out with my old friends really took a toll on me and my new friends have helped me through it. H has always made me feel better, D has always cheered me up and M listens to all my problems.
Last week we went to this party. I saw C, this really hot bad boy type from back in high school. I don't know but whenever I see this guy, I feel electricity. Like I get goosebumps. So I was sitting with D later on and I was being casually like, "C is kinda hot. You think i'd I try, he'll give me a go?". D was silent for a second and then she's like, "You can't do that" and when I asked her why she told me that M and C had this thing going on for the past five years where he used to like her and she rejected him because he was a loser and then she started to like him four years ago (this is all without saying a word to each other) and only recently she had started talking to him again and he was cool with talking to her too but apparently she's still obsessed but trying to get over him. But she hasn't seen him for three months because she wasn't at the party.
I was kind of mad after that though and now I'm wondering whether I should still go after him. He's one of the only people who make me feel that way and I think he's exactly my type whereas M is kind of a good girl. I don't even know if he likes me back but I think he might. I know if I start something in front of M, that'll be too insensitive. But maybe I can keep it under cover until she's over him? I feel kinda guilty but if she's trying to get over him, he should be fair game and she deserves someone better than him anyway. He's kind of a trouble maker.
Any help will be appreciated. I'll feedback. (link)
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Hey. Wow this is a really tough one. Well it sounds to me that you should first of all talk to your friend because if you start going out with him sneakily then she will be even more upset about it. Just explain your feelings to her and say you didn't know until after about the whole situation. Just be honest. Then, if she says it's okay I would take it easy with the guy at first. You know, just be friends and stuff and let everything happen slowly but don't talk about him much around this friend because it will probably hurt her and make her angry or upset. If she says no then I would continue to talk to her and say you can't help your feelings for him. I really hope this will help and please give me feed back my friend.
Chrissie
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my friend & my other friend, are in a HUGE fight. The one girl.. lets call her Candy, ahha. well here, let me explain a little bit of her past before i continue...
She dated a guy, named steve. well, they broke up.. like last week. So, now steve, likes me & candys bff, Cassandra. & cassandra said i don't know. So, now candy is all mad at cassandra, because cassandra likes candy & was saying all this stuff like.."its not fair, i've never even had a boyfriend & you & stacy (me) have had like 10." so we were like, umm ok.
So then, is she technically saying that she only wants to date him for a boyfriend?
& thenn anyways, also cassandra talks behind candys back like a TON. i mean like all the time. so we told her so now she says she can't trust casssandra anymore.
& all this stuff.
i feel bad that they are not going to be friends anymore. because candy is usually a total pusshover & shes pretty serious about this.. soo, is there anything i can say or do?
&.. about cassandra wanting to date steve.. well, i was thinking, "all is fair in love & war." even though were only in 8th grade, does that nesscarily still like count? because like candy & cassandra aren't very like... mature, mature. i'm like smarter then them when it comes to these things.. but i don't know exactly what to say for this one.
so any help, on like any tiny bit of this, would be GREATLY appreciated. (link)
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Hey. Yes, this is waaaay too much drama for eighth grade over some guy. I don't understand why Candy is mad at Cassandra if her and Steve already broke up. It sounds as if she's jealous to me so give Cassandra a break because she's right, it's not fair. Now if Steve mistreated Candy then yes, Cassandra should be like screw him he was mean to my best friend. Oh but the fact that Cassandra talks about Candy isn't right either but maybe she doesn't understand why she can't go out with Steve. Just don't talk about either one and you will be fine. Try to bring them back together and have them both apologize to eachother. I hope this works, please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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This boy & I fight a lot, over the dumbest things. Like I'll jokingly say something slightly rude, and he'll take it so so so personally and not talk to me for a week. We are extremely close, and getting in these small fights about every week stresses me out badly. Is there any tips you can give me on how to avoid these fights? (And he jokes too, I just don't take it as bad as he does) (link)
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Hey! This boy sounds like when he gets upset he needs a lot of attention which is very immature. But, since you are so close you probably would hate the friendship to end, and it would be riduclous if this happened anyway :-). Just make sure that when you are joking it's nothing hurtful like you're so ugly (because although you may be kidding its not nice). But, if he's saying the same EXACT things back to you or similar (which you kind of said) and you're not getting upset and he is then that's not normal. Tell him this and if he still gets upset, tough cookies! I hope this helped so please give feedback my friend! :-).
Chrissie
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