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how do i get someone 2 stop bossing me around
i'm 15...and yeah... so... ever since i met this person... she hates me... and she hangs out with my best friend. i know she's a pretty insecure person since she's overwieght and her mom was a whore(literally...i'm not tryin to be mean) and left her as a little kid. and my best friend feels sorry for her. i used to, but her past gives her no right 2 boss me around and treat me like shit. and it's only getting worse every day. i jus can't take it anymore, and i don't know what to do... i've tried avoiding her, but if i do that i can't ever hang with my friend b/c she's always hangin with that person. we play on the same basketball team at school, so during practice she'll boss me around about the stupidest things, and i don't want the coach yo see us fighting b/c try-outs are still going on, so i jus do what she says... i've tried telling my friend about it, but evertime i try i litterally get pushed out of the way by the person. all my other teamates tell me 2 forget them both... but i could never forget my best friend, i care about her 2 much, and she's goin through sum pretty sucky stuff right now
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Hey. No matter what this girls backround is it gives her no right to boss you around like this. First of all I would talk to your b-ball coach about this. I know it sounds easier then it will be and you don't want to look like you're causing trouble but heck, you're deffinitely not. If someone is being this mean to you for no reason you need to confront the issue and tell someone.
I know it's hard but work up the guts or this problem will never end with her. Get the girls on the team to hang out with you more often but when you're around them don't talk about this girl or it will make you look bad. If they do just say yeah I don't know why she's such a mean person but whatever floats her boat. Laugh and change the subject. I know this may sound corney but it's the best option my friend.
As for your best friend try to get her alone no matter what. And if she doesn't go with you and lets this girl boss you around then I hate to say it but that's not a good friend at all. I know it may hurt at first but you will have to make new, nicer friends. If she does go along with you and stops hanging out with this girl slowly then great. She may have to stop her friendship with this girl slowly because she doesn't want this girl to be mean to her to so be prepared. If she continues to see this girl whether sneakily or not after seeing you get bossed around by her then she's not a friend. Hey, I hope this helped if even a little so please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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when you and your best friend are alone tell her your feelings openly. say that your not trying to break her friend ship with the other girl, but you just want to get over your problem. also tell her that you would leave the other girl and avoid her but the only reason you wont is beacouse your friendship means alot to you.
and sweety if she doesnt listen shes not a good friend.... no matter how long you've been friends. if u really care about her like that she cares about you. if not just forget her. i no its hard but hey...
as for the othe girl tell your b-ball coach about her and every time she says something be like "i dont really want to do that" or "no i dont think thats such a good idea" or be like "i dont feel like it" try to polite to your enemy when you insult them... its like a fist. and if she doesnt stop.. seek help from guidence councler. avoid her. or just tell her to get the shit out of your face.
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i would just talk to the girl. ask her if she'll step aside for a second because you two really need to talk. if she says no, then just ask her right there cause you got to try to figure this out somehow. just be like,"look, i just want to know. what did i do or say or something that makes you hate me so much? i don't want you to hate me, and i want us to at least be able to talk nicely towards eachother whenever we're trying out and everything. i don't want to be bossed around." and just try talking to her about it. if she keeps bossing you around, don't let her. nobody should boss you around. and talk to your friend about it. just be like,"i'm sorry, i've tried resolving whatever her problem is with me, but nothings worked. so whenever we talk or anything, just make sure she's not there cause i don't want anything to get started, but i don't want to lose you as a best friend or something." [ something like that ]. if nothing here tries to get resolved, i would take the advice of the other girls on your team and just forget them. i mean, i know you don't want to lose your best friend, but if she doesn't try and make time to talk to you and hang out with you without the girl being there when she knows the other girl hates you, she's not putting forth much of an effort. i hope i helped.
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