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I'm starting High School this tuesday.
I'm not scared or excited like everyone else is.
My friends are all going to different schools.
And I have a problem with meeting new people.
I have trust issuses with everyone around me(including strangers), so I try not to get close to anybody.
Everyone judges me as mean because of that.
Because of my hair, kids think I'm emo. and I'm tired of only making friends with kids who listen to emo music.
so, what do I say or do?
I want to meet all different types of people.
and this year isn't a good year for me, so I want to meet people who can help me get through everything.
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Hey. Well first of all it's not good to judge people right off the start because then you will already have an image of them and may never become friends. Hey, you don't like when people judge you right? So I wouldn't do the same thing back. Everyone's new just like you and even if they know people already they probably want to meet new friends too. As long as you're friendly and nice they probably will be too and you will meet a lot of new friends. And heck, if they aren't nice, now you know. But as long as you're nice and friendly to everyone no matter what they are you can feel good about yourself and lots of others will too. Sidenote: I just started high school too not knowing litterally anyone since my two best friends are going to two different schools also. I know it can be scary but I just try to be as friendly and nice as possible and so far it's working out.
I hope this helps and please give me feedback my friend :).
Chrissie
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One thing that's hard to do at first is just let your guard down, but once you do it, seeing how friends flock towards you makes it a lot easier. You just have to forget about what everyone else is thinking and put yourself out there. Even though you may be scared of being rejected by new people, there's no better way to make friends than to make the first move. Good luck with school, I hope it works out well for you.
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The main part of that question that caught my eye was the part about people thinking your emo. Um, listen. Last year, I had really hard times because of a lot of things going on in my life, and I tried some pretty stupid things, thinking it would make me feel better. It didnt. I almost lost my life. I stopped doing all of that nonsense, and now im happy again. But thats beside the point, i just recently dyed my hair black and sometimes I paint my fingernails black, blahblahblah. So now me and all my friends are considered "emo." I know what you are feeling. This is ridiculous. But DONT change yourself to suit someone else. Always be yourself. & keep your head up hunnie because there are people that would kill to see you fall. goodluck.
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at the beginning of the year, if there's a dance commitee [sp] or some social event coming up you can help out with, join. or try joining an after school club. that'd be a good way to meet people with the same interests as you, and already something in common.
whenever you're in class, just start talking to the people near you or around the room. ask them if they can help tell you where things in the building are since you're new or ask them what they think of the class and maybe even crack a joke about it. or ask them for help with the assignment, and then just let the conversation go off into wherever. start asking about them and what they like to do, listen to, etc. show you're interested in what they have to say. and just talk to anybody you want, all types of people.
people should stop calling people stuff. just because you have a certain hair cut, you're "emo" now. it really does make me wonder what MY haircut's considered then. -.-
anyways, i hope i helped.
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Join clubs, play sports, get active. In classes, start small conversations with people. If it seems like someone would be a good friend, start asking them to do things with you. Some schools even have new students meetings for new students to meet people. You should look into that.
If there's a homeroom or study hall in your school, it would benefit you to meet all the people you can because most likely your homeroom won't ever change (at least at my school). Just ask people what classes they're taking, what sports they play, about the school, etc.
I've been in your situation twice. I know what it's like to be shy and not know anyone. Just trust that everything will go alright and you will meet people. Maybe not in one day, or even one week, but eventually you WILL find friends just like you. Believe it or not, I spent a year of middle school pretending to be friends with people who I had nothing in common with so that I wouldn't be alone. It wasn't until the year after that when I met my true friends.
I'm probably the shyest, most insecure person you could meet, and if I could make friends at a new school, anyone can. Even you. =)
Not to sound cliche, but best of luck to you!
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