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i cant choose!
16/f.ok so i just moved to a new school and the very first day i met this really nice girl. shes so sweet, and i sit with her at lunch. ive even gone over to her house and hung out with her. shes not really the type of person i usually hang out with, but shes so sweet. but over the weeknd i met these group of girls that go to my school and tehre more my type. they invited me to sit with them at lunch and they want to hang out with me more, but i dont know what to do. these girls dont liket he girl i met the first day and they dont really associate with her. who should i sit with and how do i break the news to the other one? thanks.
p.s-sitting with all of us together would NOT be an option. thanks.
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honestly, do those group of girls really know your friend? i mean you say she's a sweet girl, so why wouldn't they like her. im guessing they're those kind of girls who judge on looks? am i right? if so, screw them. honestly, you should surround yourself with really cool, down to earth, i dont give a shit(about how you look) kind of people. i think you should sit with the girl you met on the first day, she seems better. just tell the group of girls you don't wanna leave your other friend. and if those girls diss you for that, again..screw them. im not trying to be mean or whatever, but seriously why would you wanna be friends with those type of people? and just imagen what they might do if you don't do everything you want them to do, they might shun you or whatever. and then who are your friends? i mean they could influence you to do shit, like drugs, sex, alchohol..etc. so be careful. i hope i helped.
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Hey. Yeah I've been in a situation like this before and I know, it's tough. Well does that other group have any reason to hate the sweet girl? You said she's really sweet so why would she be hated? That doesn't really sound like a nice group if they hate her because she's too sweet or nice but maybe there's more to it. Is the sweet girl alone? Then I would probably sit with her and I know you said all of you sitting together is not an option but I would at least ask the sweet girl if she wanted to sit with them too. But ask the other group first. If they say no I would sit with the sweet girl but still hang out with the others on certain days and the sweet girl on other days. Or ask if there's any reason they hate her. Are you sure they're just not the same and you're exaggerating? Hopefully that's the case :). Well I hope I helped a little and please give feedback my friend.
Chrissie
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I know wat your feeling.You should sit with the sweet girl bcuz the other people dont like her but you like her.Or sit the the person you think is the right person to sit with.BYE!
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Of course, this kind of thing happens all the time.
If I were you, I would sit with the girl that you met on the first day, I think she is the "real" friend.
Be sure to split your time between both of em. An easy way to split the time is with the group at lunch and the other girl at other times, but when you first tell the oether sweet girl that you won't eat with her, tell her nicely. Say, some girls said they want to show me something, or want to discuss something with me over lunch, and I have a feeling that you friend will understand. Then after that tell her what's up. and be sure to not to mention any of these following words, "friends, always, never, want"
The other girls that are more like you may not be able to relate to you on certain levels on like that other chic. So depending on you personality at that point in time, you know which to go to.
There must be a reason that they hate each other. If the girls hate the other one for no reason at all, that is pretty shallow, I would not really hang with them for that.
So it is up to you to choose, I can't really choose for you.
I know this is beside the point, but the japanese have an effective way of dealing against this. Their mentality: school for work, not socialising. This also allows you to do good in school and get a scholarship and go very far in life, and be able to get enough friends (tenfold) and fun later in life.
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who says you have to choose? i have friends in different cliques too. Just sit with one group one day then with your other friend another day, so alternate. If you hang out with your friends one weekend then hang out with the other girl the next weekend, you have to find a balance in your friendships, if someone doesn't want to be your friend because they don't like your other friend then they are not a true friend.
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yeah..this is what happend to me..i found out the the nice girl i met..was supposidly the loser group...wtf...i know...i hate stupid labels,i hung out with her and i hung out with the girls that were more..my type..but you got to think...what if you were the sweet girl? you wouldnt want to be left behind,that could come back to you.and if they dont like you just cause the friends you have...then they really arent your friends.oh and also...be friends with ANYONE..be nice to everyone,because thats how you meet a lot of people,even if there people you might not hang with..its still to change it up ! i just realized that 2 years ago,i was a complete idiot,i thought i only wanted to be with the popular people,whatever. it worked,i was popular...next year...im not so popular cause theres a new girl. so now i relize how freakin...stupid i was =/,now i have a pretty big group of friends that care about me.. anyways its just about finding you place,the place you want to be...ok since you 16.i suggest you hang out with all of them,and keep meeting them,its a new start,your new,you can choose anything you want. cherish that..also i'd sit with the group,and maybe then meet some more people,just be all over the place,kay?
i tried...im kinda sick right now so i might not be making sence with what i type..but good luck!!!!
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Well, what I would do is just divide the days up per group. Like, since there's 5 days of school, you sit with the group of girls Monday, Wednsday and Friday and sit with the other girl Tuesday and Thursday, or the other way around, whichever. What I think would be alot easier on you is to just split the lunch period half and half. Spend half of it with her, the rest with the group of girls. You shouldn't have to ditch one for the other, you should be able to hang with whoever you want. You'll just have to learn to balance your lunch period. I hope I helped.
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Hey. I know how you feel. But you shouldnt have to choose. Sit with the girl you met first, first and then the next day you can sit with the other girls if they cant except the fact that you have other friends then they arent worth worrying about. good luck
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Awe. I know what these feels like. It not the best situation. Well, tell the sweet girl you will sit with her certain days, and tell the other girls that you will sit with them on certain days. You dont want to be unfair about it and only sit with one person. So, just kinda sit switch.
Good luck sweetie =]
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umm ya that happend to me b4 and like you are allowed to hav more than 1 friend (or groups) of friends so like just explain to her the story and some days you can sit and hangout with her and other days you can sit and hangout with them..as in doing this make sure that you never ditch anyone and it should work out
well i hope i heped
~kelly
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