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Death of a freind
My freind died over the summer because of drugs. He was only seventeen. We went out summer after freshman year and most of sophomore yr (now I'm going to be a senior.) He was my first love. We didnt talk for a while because of the akwardness but near the end of junior yr we became close again. We hung out a week before he passed away. We both got out of a relationship at the same time and it was pretty much the same situation so we tried to help eachother through it. When we hung out though it felt like old times when we went out. We were compatible and he knew that. We even kissed and it was just as perfect as it was before... he was the one who brought that to my attention. He even asked me if I thought we would get back together. I was scared to answer yes so i said I dont know. I've always had feelings for him. He told me things he didn't tell a lot of people while we hung out. He told me about his problem and the fact he wanted help. I even confessed to his parents what I knew after the fact. I feel terrible now because I feel I could have saved him by telling his parents in the first place. How do you get over someone that meant so much and knowing you could have saved him?
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Missing you always
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Hey. First of all I'm so sorry about your friend he sounds like a great guy. I recently lost several greatly loved ones in the past 3 or 4 years and 2 just this week and last week so I know how much it hurts :-(. First of all though, you didn't know your friend was going to pass away. In fact you had no idea that would happen and if you did, you did the right thing by telling his parents. You should feel so glad that you became close again and have those great memories of the past week.
If you didn't get close again before he passed away you would have felt even worse. Don't beat yourself up because it's not your fault. You just began hanging out again in that past week and in that past week you did tell his parents about his drug problem! You did the exact thing a good friend would have done. I know you may be hurting now and the pain will take a while to go away but he's in a better place now and you can still talk to him if you want. The fact you had the experience of a first love is so great and will make you stronger. I really hope this helped if even only a little so please let me know :).
Chrissie
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Dear Missing you always,
I had the same thing happen to me last year. My friend was only 15 though. We wern't close like you were, but we were brother-sister close. We talked all the time, and I knew he was on drugs... and told him to stop, he always said " one day Samm, one day.. but not TODAY! " But then when he died from an overdose of it, I felt like it was my fault because I knew about it, and I knew that if I would've told his parents there's a chance he could be alive today. But you can't just put all of this pressure of this on yourself. I mean you just have to face the fact that he's gone, and even though you loved him.. you didn't make him use drugs, and it wasn't your fault that he died. Even though you knew about it, there's not a lot you could've done. Yes, tell his parents.. but there's no telling what could've happened from there. He could've gone to a rehab and then when he got out.. just went right back to it. But you couldn't of saved him hun, he's the only one who could save himself. I hope this helped.
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