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I am a Wiccan and so is my boyfriend. I told my mom he was (but not me) now she won't let me see him. My mom's a very conservative Christian who is very judgmental andtakes everything personaly. Should I tell her I'm a Wiccan, my boyfriend says I should..because even though we can sneek and talk we can't sneek and see each other and I'm only 16 so I still have 2 years before I can move out.

PS- I'm worried that if I tell her she will have me on complete lock down

I think that you should tell her.
That is totally NOT right of your mother to do - not to let you see someone just because of their beliefs. Horrible.
Im not saying that your mom is a mean person. I bet that she is very nice, and that is why you are seeking for help. You dont want to hurt her.
It might take a while, but yes, i totally think you should tell her. She might give you a few talks about hoping to change your religion, but try to show her what the Wiccan Religion TRULY means, and not what everyone thinks it does.
Blessed be.

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my sister always takes my parents side. like, usually when a parent is unfair to the kids, the kids take sides right?? well for example, my parents won't let me pierce my ears till i'm 18 (i'm 13) and she totally supports it. she's like "oh i'd do that to my kids too". and when my parents complain that i have too much clothes when i only own about 15 shirts and some of them were from about 2.5 years ago, she supported them too while she had like 3495783475 more shirts. and she just never backs me up. every girl i know-they're sister backs them up. mine never does. it's not that she's some suck-up to parents,she's not shes like 21 and shes not like that...but she just never defends me. i just don't fuckin get it. it annoys me so much. i don't get to see her that often but sometimes i wish she would just go away because sometimes she can just be so rude and mean and bitchy to me. please help

wow. do Not take dr.socko's advice. i read it and fell off my chair laughing.
i have a sister EXACTLY like that. when shes being unfair, tell her. thats what i do. i break down crying telling her how mean she can be and ask her questions about how unfair she is to get it through her head that what she is doing to you is hurting you.
after a while, she might susbside and do it less and less. my sister is now doing it half as much as she used to. mostly she keeps her opinions in her head and doesnt express it to my parents. sometimes now, when im right, she'll take my side.

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What do i do when i have an abuse of mother, who has mode swings, and is VERY abuse of somtime, its starting to be more abuseive than not, i am scared to tell anyone cause i know that it will come back to her and she will hurt me, like last week i didnt do my chores and she twisted my wrist, and now i have a sprained wrist.

please help!

i suggest that you get professional help.
i know that you are scared of what your mother's reaction might be, and she will be scared as well, but it seems like she really needs the help.

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For a musical I am doing with a lot of dancing, I need to wear character heels. My parents are "opposed" for some reason against my character heels because they think it's a health problem for me, even though the heel is only one inch and the whole thing is built for dancing in. They want to buy me other shoes, but I need to wear my character heels! What can I do to convince them? They are CONVINCED that their way of thinking is right without listening to me, too.

have your teacher talk to your parents about the character heels. if another adult who is responsible tells your parents that they need to buy you the character shoes, your parents will probably will buy you them.

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Just as a forewarning, this is going to be long. I write a lot. If that's a problem, stop reading right now.
I've been with my guy for nearly two years, and we're planning to get married after college.
His parents love me, his mom treats me like her daughter, I call her mom and she's fine with it. My dad likes my guy, and my guy likes my dad (they have a lot in common, actually...), I have a ring on my finger, and we hardly ever fight.
The only problem is my mother...My whole life I've always craved my mother's approval. For awhile, she was almost my idol. I admired her...but I find myself trying to ignore her now. All she does is criticize things my boyfriend does and point out all the negative things she possibly can when she knows I love him and he's proven to her several times that he loves me and truly cares for me.
A big problem is my mother's chemical sensitivity. She's allergic to quite a bit of...well, everything, really. My family can't use anything scented because scents make her sick - they give her headaches, make her nauseated, she acts drunk...
She needs to ask people who come over to our house to wash their clothes in unscented laundry detergent, to use unscented shampoo, soap, everything.
My boyfriend's not exactly...compliant. I hate having to ask people to get unscented, especially him. Call me girly, but I like the way he smells. I can't help it. It's kind of a comforting thing. So I'm not pushing the "get unscented" issue because I don't really want it to happen. However I would like him to be able to come over every so often. He doesn't seem to understand that he can't fool my mom by standing under the shower for a few minutes and that he needs to use unscented shampoo and soap to get the smell that was there off.
He thinks my mom's crazy. It offends me a little, and I've told him that. But it bothers me more that my mother seems to be trying more than anything to get me to break up with him, though she claims she's not. She told me once "get another boyfriend who'll do what we need."
How do I get her to see that I picked him, I want to marry him, and I'm not about to leave him for some prick who only loves my body?
How do I get him to be more compliant?
How do I get my mother and my fiance to get along? I've tried talking to her and I've tried talking to him. I haven't tried having them talk to each other, though. I'm not sure how much that'd help, though...they can't go out to dinner or whatever because my mother's allergic to everything. What can I do?
Please, no smartass remarks and make an effort not to use chatspeak. It confuses me, and I'll just rate you down. Thanks in advance. =)

this is a very common problem. most mothers dont want to give their daughters away- unless that boy is completely loyal and shows it. it will take your mother a while to accept that you and your boyfriend are getting married.

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hi jenna i have such a big problem. ok my moms family really bothers me they make my life hell. i cant stop thinking about them. they have done such mean things to me. should i let it go and forgive them?

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A girl who needs an answer-
im really sorry to hear that your mom's family really bothers you.
i am going through the same thing with my immediate family.
even though they make your life hell, they are your family and you should be nice to them.
i think that you should forgive them, but i know it will be extremely hard and it will take a really long time to do so.
i do not know how serious the mean things that they are doing to you are. though, here are a couple of choices the next time they do something mean: 1)ignore it, or 2)tell them that what they are doing is hurting you and to please not do it again.
and remember, you always can tell your mom what is happening!

any time you need to talk, i'll be here :)

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