I am finally getting a job, so when I told my parents about how I won't need their money to go the mall anymore I felt mature and glad I wasen't going to have to keep asking them from cash. Well, in the middle of the conversation my mom was like "You do know that you are putting a third in the bank and giving a third to us right?" I couldn't believe that I have to pay them my money. My dad was like "Well what about our hard earned money? We give it to you two (my sister and I) all the time. Besides the family needs it." Um hello, isn't that what you two are for? My mom thinks since I have a job I have to pay "room and board" WTH?! Are my parents being unreasonably rediculous here???
(Keep in mind I'm earning minimum wage here, so saving up for anything now is foolish)
The first couple of people who answered your question must be about 14. Comming from someone whos almost 20 years old and has been through the same thing, im telling you it does suck. But your parents are right. The same thing happened to me, I was living off my parents, not having to pay them a dime, but the second a child gets theyre first job, they start having responsibilities. There is no place in life that you can live where you get free room and board, free food, free laundry services, free clothes etc. NO place. Your parents house is the only exception, until you get a job. Its better to learn these responsibilities when your young. It may suck but this is really good for you, not only are you learning now so that its not so hard later in life, but your helping out your family. So no, you are not being unreasonably ridiclous, any kid with a first time job would feel the same way, I did too. But what your parents are doing is very good for you and them both, and you will learn that. It will suck sometimes, just keep your head up and know that some really good things will come our of this in the long run. Dont worry! :]
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OK My bro. is the same age i am 13. he seems to think boys are stronger than girls. But i showed him off. and beet him at like 15 different things. so my question is which do you think is stronger boys or girls.
thats a stupid question. it all depends. if you have a boy who weighs 60 lbs and a girl who weighs 300 lbs..then its a little obvious that the girl would be stronger. you cant just classify it in the sense that one sex is stronger then the other. some boys are stronger than some girls, and some girls are stronger than some boys. just like some boys are smarter than some girls..and some girls are smarter than some boys. also, being able to beat your brother at doing something, doesnt mean your stronger, it sould just mean your faster, or smarter. etc.
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My grandpa died about one year ago, and the only time I cried about it is when i recieved the news on the phone. Not even at the funeral/wake..=\. But it's sort of hard to believe that I didn't because I used to have a diary and i wrote about how close i was to him and how much i loved him and such. Now for the past few days, all I have been doing is crying about him because I miss him so much. I mean i can't even watch certain shows on tv anymore because we used to watch them together, and songs that sing about relationships make me cry. My question is, why am i just starting to miss him and crying now? What should I do? This is the first time i've cried about him being gone.
Thanks for any advice. And btw, I dont have any other grandparents, and my parents and i arent that close so i cant get help from them. Thanks.
the exact same thing happened to me about a year after my grandmother died. i cried at school when i recieved the news and i cried when i got home and held her hand. but i never cried at the wake, or the funeral, or talking about it until one day..i randomly thought about it and completely broke down (around a year later). i think that this is somewhat of denial. it hadent quite soaked in, it was more like the ones we love were on some kind of vacation and you knew they were comming back. then one day you realize, they arent comming back you know? its been almost four years now and ill be in the town where i lived with her for 12 years, or ill see an old lady whos just like her at the store, or ill find something of hers packed away and ill cry. its completely normal. crying helps, so let it out babe, you'll see him again :)
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I want to know how i can solve my problems like what should i do to convince my dad that he did something bad?
i think you need to sit down and have a serious talk with your dad. just because you saw them so great together, doesnt mean they didnt have secrets and hide problems they were having from you. after my parents split up it was about two years before i found out the truth and all the secrets, and i still dont know the whole story. even if this isnt the case with your parents, the only thing you can do is talk to your dad. tell him exactly whats on your mind, and how you feel. maybe talk to him about getting a therapist or something. i hope everthing works out for you
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Okay so I was on the phone with my best friend right cause she wanted me to go over. Well my mom said no because I got off the computer at 10:00 last nigth even though she asked me to get off at 9:30! Well i really got off at ten but she said i didn't get off til' midnight! Its was a school night and she lied when I was on the phone! HELP! WHat should I say to her!
♥Staci♥
your mom said no because you didnt get off the copmuter when she told you too. even if you got off at 10 and not 12. you still didnt listen. so you ARE the one in the wrong.
by the way, just because its not what you want to hear doesnt mean its bad advice.
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Hi im 14 and my brother just turned 18.Usually he has been coming home a half hour late and all he gets is a lecture but if i come home 10 mintues late i get grounded for a week.how can i tell my parents how i feel.ive tried telling them but they say oo come on hes 4 years older.it makes me feel like they like him better.just recently he had his bday and i was a little jealous.i dont know what to do because i feel like my family doesnt love me.i always want to leave but they say no and if he says it they say sure.i dont feel loved and i want to die i need help.
you saying you want to die is a little dramatic. think about it a little. hes 18. legally an adult. he can buy porn, and cigaretts and order stuff off the tv. plus he can drive and get into bars. your only 14 you havent even finished puberty yet. your still a little kid, thats why your parents dont let you do as much stuff. you cant handle yourself like he can, even if you think you can. your still their little baby and they dont hate you they just worry more about you. do you see how your freaking out about this? it just goes to show that your still not mature enough to be treated the same way he does.
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awhile ago me and one of my friends got arrested for vandilism. we spray painted some cars and broke some windows. when will my parents begin to trust me again? me and my friend have talked and we wont get in anymore trouble. we want to hang out. i want trust and think i deserve it.
Thanks a lot
Timothy
well timothy i think you should just be thankful at this point that your not in boot camp. which is where my parents would have sent me. or be thankful that someone didnt beat the shit out of you. cause i would have if youd fucked up my car. maybe you should try sitting your parents down and talking to them. tell them what was on your mind then, and why you think you deserve theyre trust now. it will take a while to earn theyre trust back, but you just need to be patient and show them your trying. hope it works out for ya.
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me and my best friend (amy) were wondering
if was to marry her cousin (jack) would me and amy be related? like sister in law or what ever?
its kinda weird lol
thanx
you would be her cousin-in-law. if you wanted to be her sister-in-law youd have to marry her brother.
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I'm really into anarchy and im a member at anarchystar.com. Its really cool there and for the 1st time i feel like i belong somewhere.
My mom and i are close and i tell her a lot that goes on in my life, i've always had a hidden side to myself that i kept to just me. No one else, but now i feel like im pretending to be someone im not.
I dunno. I guess, should i tell my mom im into anarchy,and am totally against bush? I mean i havent told anyone how into anarchy i am. Is it a bad thing? Like, will people think lowly of me if they know im into anarchy?
I need help.
just because you feel like you need to hide it, doesnt mean your pretending to be someone your not. its not a bad thing at all if your getting your facts straight. some people may think low of you but then those people are blind and theyre opinions dont matter. its always nice to be able to tell your mom things, and im sure you two would be able to discuss it and share your thoughts and what-not. but from experience your mom may just think your crazy and that your watching too much television. i dont know how your mother is though so you need to base telling her or not off of what you know about her. good luck with everything i hope it works out for you.
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hey my sister just got over cancer and she gets all of the sttention!! she was always like the "specila child" so i wasnt surprised when my mom and dad kind of forgot about me when she got sick. one night they just left to go to the hospital cuz she had a fever but they didnt tell me they were leaving so i woke up and knowbody was in my house (except for my neighboor). they didnt think i would care if they left and they didnt want to wake me up but bull crap. i dont really care i would have liked to know. and then one night we were out to eat with my grandparents and one of my grandpa's friends were there he went to introduce my family and he left me out!! i was sitting right there next to him and he said every one else's name but he didnt even say any yhing about me!! i know my sister had it bad but i mean would it hurt someone to say "hey how are you doing today"?? my friend recently died of cancer and we were really close. her brother would stya with us when she had to go to the hospital so when she was sick i didnt want him to feel like i did and i tryed to talk to him as much as i could about his sister. when she died people came up to him and said it is kk i no how you feel but they dont no how the siblings of cancer paticents feel!! i love my family but they just dont no any thing about me!! i dont think they care any more. what should i tell them? please can you help me??
you need to tell your parents exactly what you just wrote. if you dont tell them what the problem is, they cant fix it. understand? your parents havent forgotten about you, and your family does care. you just need to sit them down (probably without your sister) and tell them EXACTLY whats on your mind. let me know how everything goes.
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Well my family is a family with 5 kids. We are running sort of low on money. How couild I help them out. I mean my mom could nopt even buy shampoo the other day!
get a job
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when i first had sex, i lasted for 10 minutes and went all out, i was told that most guys only last like 2 minutes top their first time, is that true? and if it is does that mean i'll always last longer?
not true. take a guy for instance who has never masturbated..he probably wouldnt last a minute. now take a guy who masturbates three times a day, i dont know about you but i think that would make a pretty big difference. i could be wrong, but i do know that you wont always last longer, thats a definate negatory.
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Alright so i have been going through alot lately..and I was a lil upset so i felt like sneeking out and going for a walk.. well my friend said he would go with me.. so at 1 we snuck out.. I thought I might ad in that I have always liked my friend but i know we will probly only ever be friends. well when we was walken.. and just talken.. my mom pulls up.. and gets really mad.. and emberisses me infront of him. so Yeah i was caught.. Well I told my mom not to talk to me.. cause I was really upset. So today if I want to do anything im probly going to have to talk to her about it. What do I say?
that was by far, the dumbest thing ive ever heard.
"sneeking" sneaking
"ad" add
"probly" probably
"talken" talkin' ; talking
"emberisses" embarrasses
"aquward" awkward
"catchen" catchin' ; catching
"sneeken" sneakin' ; sneaking
"wana" want to
"when we was walken" when we were walking*
PLUS: if you werent such a little asshole, and you didnt sneak out of the house your mom wouldnt have to yell at you. so its your own fault that you got into trouble, and your the one who told her not to talk to you. so now all of a sudden you want to know what to do to be able to go places because your an asshole to the only person who has any say over what you can do. might i add, that shes the very person who cares so much about you and takes care of you and puts a roof over your head. she does the best she can. why dont you treat her with a little more respect. try sitting down and discussing with her whats going on in your head. things like this will continue to happen if you dont have an understanding of eachother.
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my best friend has been ahving a lot of probelems wit her aunt and she has a problem wit her bf he really doesnt love her . i have tryed tellin her but she dont listen he look her in the eyes today and told her he doesnt want to break up wit her and was smiling the whole time.he reall doesnt he ahs told everyone and we try telling her but doesnt want to believe it even though he has been giving her signs like leavin her all alone and ignoring her. they have been togetehr 4 a month and eh wont break up wit her bc he doesnt have the guts. what should i do i cant just stand here and watch my friend suffer like this!! plz help!
it sounds to me like your the one who has a problem with this guy. if she doesnt believe you..quit telling her. if shes happy how she is then let her be. ever heard the saying "ignorance is bliss"? if shes happy in the relationship and is oblivious to what hes doing to her, then its ok as long as shes happy. dont you think?
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hey im 13/f and i have been shaving since i was 11 but my mom doesnt know cuz i never asked her im way to scared to talk to her about anything
what do i do?
real question:how do i ask my mom that i want to shave?
boy im inbaressed
yea that and you cant spell. why dont you just say "mom im hairy and people make fun of me" then tell her your nick name at school is gorilla or somethign like that.
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my dad is in the navy, so 4 like 2 or 1 more year he'll be stationed in bahrain.
my mom 1 time answered his phone when he was here visitin and out golfin.it was a womans voice. and then again when she text messaged him.
im worried,and my mom has been cryin every now and then. i need desperate help. im so sad, i always feel like cryin and feel like goin goth.
plz help me
when your sad you dont just turn goth. do you think that when people get sad they say "oh im depressed ill just turn goth, lets not try and find a solution or try and make ourselves happy..because turning goth is the only way to handle sadness" its cold so you put on a sweater..your thirsty so you get some water..its almost like you think that the logical thing to do like in these situations is..im sad so ill turn goth. do you know what a goth is? maybe youve just always wanted to experiment with this 'goth' crap and being sad is just your reason to try it. i cant believe you said that..
now if i wasnt bitchy enough, dont worry about your parents. you didnt make sence out of your story but im thinking that you think your dad is cheating on yall and that your parents will split up and your scared. im not going to tell you your parents wont split up because they might. i dont think hardly anyone dies happily married these days. all i can say is to just stay with your mom and dont let her feel alone, things may get hard but they will always get better. but also, this could all be nothing. the lady from the phone could be an old friend, and your mom may be sad about something she doesnt want to tell you about. she could also be hitting menopause wich will cause her to be VERY emotional. of corse i could be way off subject and not helping at all, so good luck with your situation..and dont turn goth pal its not cool.
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What do you do when the only person in your family that understands you is gone?
you bottle it up like everyone else does. then you become depressed and start taking medications. you become a freak and people start talking bad things about you. you grow up with split personalities and your children will be very pale and gothic.
i hope you take this as a "GET OVER IT"
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Hello. Im asking advice today for a stupid little problem i have, but im not sure if there is any way i could control it. If im in school, or with my friends, or whatever (by the way im 14), when they mention "mom" or "dad", or "family", my eyes start to water and i just about cry. Not the "WAA-WAA" kind, it is just the red face, tears coming down and stuff, no squeaking or any of that crazy stuff. I cant say anything about parents or anything. When i talk about my family when someone asks, my voice gets shaky and i choke, and it makes me very uncomfortable because crying in front of the class isnt really a fun interest. I cry because my family has...problems. I just feel like i want either them or me to die. I feel like i hate them so much. Its not some "im mad at them because they took away my cell phone" kind of thing. Its more of a love issue. Im seeing a therapist but that is not working, she's not changing them. Well, in a nutshell, whenever someone talks about their parents, and when i talk about mine, i cry. Umm, i hope someone can help me with this, if its possible. Thank you.
dont be such a damn sissy.
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My mom and I spent the whole day together. That's not the point. We went somewhere to visit family and when we came home, I went in my room to get away, to relax. So she goes in the living room and sits down on her fat ass.. and conviniently starts ordering me to do things. I was sitting her, we had gotten home like 15 minutes prior to this. I told her I would do it in a bit but she proceeded to yell at me to do it. So the very last time she yelled at me, these were her words: "If you're not fucking out here in 5 damn minutes, I'm kicking your ass off the computer." So in return, I told her to shut up. Not even yelling, it was to myself, and she overhead. So she came to take my danm cellphone, the phone I bought with my money, and pay for with my money, and for some reason she believes she has owenership over because its in her name. BULLSHIT. I'm so pissed I'm hitting shit now.. I want to hit her. Please help.
do it, hit her in the face.
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How did you get your picture on your column?
um in profile settings. theres a bunch of crap. if you use the URL youll need something like photobucket. but otherwise you can upload it from your files by hitting the browse button.
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