My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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So a long time ago, I asked my friend why her father's face was all cratery, full of holes [like crater face in the movie Grease], and she told me he had said it was because he used to pop all of his pimples when he was younger. I'd never given it much thought, until I noticed recently that I was getting small, tiny little holes in my face, not a lot, maybe 2 or 3. They look like a collapsed zit, with the skin curving inward instead of out. It's really bugging me, because even though I'm not sure if they're appearing in the exact spot where the pimples once were, but I do pop a lot of them. I'm worried sick. Does this mean I'll eventually have a crater face? Will it just stop if I stop popping, or is it something else altogether? Are they irreversible? Help! (link)
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Please don't pop your spots because that could cause infections and scarring. I suggest you treat your spots with some acne cream recommended by the pharmicist. If you do find you are left with some scarring you can use Bio Oil to help with this once you have treated the acne. All the best.
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So, not too long ago, I was watching a movie in the local theater called American Gangster (stars Denzel Washington and Russell Crowe, just for reference). I know there are plenty of movies about the mafia, gangsters, and mobsters but one question really hit me during the movie:
Is the mafia actually real?
I mean, seriously, does the mafia exist?
Was the mafia made up for television and movies by Hollywood?
In some movies you hear about the Russian mafia, the Italian mafia, etc. I even know there are also television series based on the mafia like The Sopranos. So, IF the mafia is real--they must be lots of different kinds, right? Would that mean that the Russian mafia is located in Russia, the Italian mafia is located in Italy, and so forth?
Any information is appreciated because I'm pretty clueless. Thanks! (link)
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Yes the Mafia are real. Google 'Mafia Gangs' and you can read about the history of the Mafia.
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Our gym class is biking to an ice cream place and we have a uniform. Where could I put my money? I don't want to bring a purse or something because that will distract me and i'll probably crash.
Many girls stick it in their bras but I'm VERY flat chested; if I sticked a penny I think people would notice.
Would it work if i stick it in my shoes? (link)
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1) Inside your socks.
2) Create a small pocket on a wrist band.
3) Sellotape it in a bag to your handle bars.
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some random guy told me i had hairy arms?? ive never noticed it before... should girls shave there arms?? (link)
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It's not a good idea to shave your arms, but it is possible to lighten the colour of the hairs. My daughter has very hairy arms and she uses a Nair to make them less noticeable. It's worth asking at the pharmicist for help looking for a suitable product.
If you do go for this solution, always do a skin test first to make sure you are not allergic to the bleach.
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Will God forgive you for everything you do even if its so so so bad you guys dont know how bad it was it was all my fault and I'm afraid God wont forgive me I really want to know if God forgives us for all of our sins and if he does is there such a place as hell? (link)
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I think it is more important that you can forgive yourself eventually. Did you learn any valuable lessons from it all? If you did then I am sure that your God will forgive you too. If you didn't learn anything and will continue to repeat the bad things, then it is a downward spiral to being in Hell on Earth.
I strive to believe in a God but I also believe in greater meanings, and beings in life like Guardian Angels and Witches. I don't know if there is a Heaven and a Hell and you can only make the most of this life whilst you are here. Start to understand what you did and why and take every opportunity to put right, if you can, those things that you did wrong. Admit to your 'crimes' and forgive yourself.
If you would like to ask anything more, please do. Good luck.
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Okay hey yall! I am 16/f. Tommarow night I am going to my friends house with a few other girls. All girls! Only like 5. We are planning on having some fun and drinking some alocohol like way later in the night. Ive never been drunk or buzzed before ive only had sips of alocohol. I want to do this! Im not asking if I should or not..so please dont get confused. But my questions are..How much should I drink if i dont want to get FULLY drunk? Will I throw up after 2 or 1 1/2 beers? Would i get a bad hang over sunday if i only get buzzed? I only want to get buzzed so how much should i drink? -If its just beer and vodka? Im not gonna drink more then sips of vodka ofcourse. I just really do not want to throw up..or feel sick the next day. Thankyou!!
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It is very difficult to give you a straight answer because it all depends on how you are built, what you drink and if you intend to have something to eat.
If you are small in build then it doesn't take much alcohol to affect you, if you are bigger then it will take more. If you have eaten a lot then the alcohol will take longer to absorb into your system.
I suggest that you start off with a small amount of spirit and some beer. Too many spirit drinks will certainly have you throwing up everywhere. Once you start to feel a little 'out of yourself' that is the time to stop drinking alcohol.
Just one word of warning - never get so drunk, especially in mixed company, that you cannot defend yourself. Your parents won't like it either if you go home inebriated. Have fun but take care.
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Ok so i have these two bumps on the top of my vagina. They look like two large zits. Does anyone have any idea what these bumps are? I never had sex and i dont mess around. 19\f (link)
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It is quite possible to get zits in this area. If they concern you a lot it may be worth getting them checked out at the doctors. If they don't bother you too much try a little antiseptic cream for a couple of days and see if that improves things. If that does not work, definitely go and get them checked out. All the best.
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Why do I always see pictures of people with their pants down on toilets (mostly girls) when theyre drunk? like on facebook or myspace or whatever. is it like...a ritual thing? or what? i dont get it haha (link)
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The people who post stupid/offensive pictures on Facebook should realise that in future it may harm their chances of getting a job.
More and more employers are searching these sites to see what kind of character their 'future' employee may be like. It could jeopardise their chances of getting the job of their choice.
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For christmas, I'm making my parents a DVD with pictures from the day they were married to now. This has taken me about a total of 7 hours so far and i'm only halfway done.
Do you think i should get them something additional on top of this? (link)
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My children did the same for me recently to celebrate an anniversary. I was moved to tears with the amount of effort that went into such a thoughtful present. They also put together a small montage of photos of themselves in silly poses and nice poses in a picture frame. I think that what you are doing is great and I am sure your parents will be completely bowled over by it too. As for getting another present to go with it - only do so if you have money to spare, I assure you that they will be thrilled with just the DVD. Merry Christmas to you all.
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13/f
I really want to get my belly pieced but my parents won't let me because they say i'm too young.I've wanted to get it done for a while what are some things i can say to get them to let me piece my belly?
thanx (link)
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I believe that it would be better for you to accept their decision for another year. I agree with them that you are a little too young at the moment.
The reason I suggest waiting without complaining is this:
If you agree to wait but suggest talking it through next year, they may feel that you are being sensible now and could well change their minds next year. I know that 365 days sounds a very long time but it will soon pass. If you accept what they say now without protest, you will have a better chance when you are older of changing their minds about something far more important should you need them to. Good luck.
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ok well sometimes when im talkimg to some guys at school idk how to respond so im like "okay.." like this guy always says that we're tight.. and i keep saying "okayy" and i wanna say something else like funny but idk.. like i've know him for 2 years now but with some guys its a little hard to open up. btw im 13 and a girl. thanks :) (link)
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Sometimes it can help to repeat back a little of what has just been said to you. That way a guy will know that you are listening and understanding what he is saying to you.
For instance if he says:
"and I really like going to the park to kick a ball around"
you could then say back "so you really like going to the park - so do I"
Try not to repeat back parrot fashion or too much.
It is called reflecting back and can work well.
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14/f
i need a halloween costume that is quick and easy to make. i dont have money to buy a costume, because most of them are pretty expensive, so i need something that i can easily pull together with things from around the house or with things that will cost like under 15 dollars. my friend is setting me up with this kid ive never met before halloween night and we're all going to go out trick or treating together and things like that, so i need something thats cute, but not like slutty.
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If you have a black leotard, black tight trousers or leggings and black boots, why not put it all together and turn yourself into a cat. It is quite easy to make a pair of ears and a tail using old black tights and paint a nose and whiskers onto your face. Have fun.
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sometimes when my boyfriend and I talk on the phone he wants me to talk sexy or dirty to him. Is that normal? I did it once or twice but i hate doing it because i don't know what to say or how to start off or anything. WHY DOES HE DO THIS? he told me that him and his friend called one of those hotlines and it was funny but im not a sex hotline. I want to make him happy but like this?? PLus he doesnt do it for me! So why should I?! and let's say i do "talk dirty" what do i say?? (link)
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He shouldn't be asking you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell him that you do not want to do this and he should understand why. Your boyfriend and his mate are just wasting money calling hotlines and the 'girls' (picture a middle-aged mum feeding her youngster in her slippers whilst on the phone scenario - no offence to anyone who does this for a living) are being paid to talk dirty and to keep the guys on the line for as long as possible.
If you do want to do this for him, then he should reciprocate in kind for you. Stick to what makes you happy and don't give in to any pressure or blackmail. All the best.
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How can I comfort others with just touch? I have a gentle touch, but I want there to be warmth in it.
ie. hand on shoulder to ask how someone's doing.
This is not a sexual question...just to clear things up. (link)
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Sometimes just a small touch on the shoulder is enough to convey a lot of feelings. Sometimes if it is accompanied by a slight smile and warmth in the eyes, that helps too. Just the fact that you are there with the person who needs comforting is all that is necessary occasionally.
You need to judge each situation and person individually, taking into account how well you know them too. Family members and close friends probably appreciate a hug and a few choice words, whereas friends and acquaintances may only need a slight touch on the hand.
A warm look can convey a million words and emotions and just knowing you care can really help. Whatever life throws at someone, knowing they have a friend they can rely on in the good and bads time is the absolute best thing ever. You sound a really great person to me and I wish you all the very best life has for you.
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I'm having a big party, and I want to invite all my friends, and most of their friends so everyone feels comfortable. A friend of mine, Fred, has a friend, Phil, who I asked out last year, not really serious, but he took it seriously and rejected me. We kinda lost touch, and I want to invite him to my party because I never really meant anything by it and I was never hurt. The issue is, I don't know if I should, cause I don't know if he's going to think that I still "want to go out with him", or whether he'd be uncomfortable at my party. What should I do? (link)
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Quick answer - write him a little note explaining what you have just said here and then say you would really like it if he came to your party strictly as a friend and nothing more. That way he can make a decision for himself about how he would feel. Good luck.
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Okay so I'm 14f and I've been sad for like ever and now I really don't know what to do. I just sit at home all day doing nothing. Nobody ever calls my mom doesnt take me anywhere. And I'm just ready for something else. Do you know anything I can do when I'm just sitting at home and being useless and feeling dead. I just can't take this anymore. thanks in advance!!! (link)
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I think that you need to build up your feelings of self worth. Would you be able to do some volunteer work? If you go to the library or somewhere similar I am sure there will be notices asking for volunteers to help out at playshcemes or care homes etc. Once you give yourself something else to focus on your feelings of being sad and bored will go away. When you help other people, regardless of how you help them, you will feel better about yourself. To receive you need to give. Good luck.
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Well i got training on Saturday
At hungry jacks and i've never been to a job training and im really nervous i do something wrong and i don't get the job =[ and i'm just really nervous lol. (link)
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I'm guessing your question is about how to cope with the training. All you can really do is go along and do the best you can. Make sure you listen to everything that is said to you and write notes if necessary. Don't be afraid to ask questions - it won't seem silly to ask if you don't know. If you do something wrong, speak up and admit that you are nervous and could you be shown again. This is what training is all about, to understand what you are doing, why you are doing it and to do it to the best of your ability. The trainers will understand that some people get nervous. Good luck with your new job.
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Couple weeks ago, my friend has a party. I went with one of my good friends, Amber. Since she drove, she promised that she wouldn't drink and if she did, she wouldn't have a lot. Once we got to the party I asked her for her keys just INCASE and I hid them in my purse. Like usual, she thought she wouldn't get drunk, she did.
She got SOO wasted that she couldn't even walk for 5 seconds and it freaked me out because everyone there was drunk and I didn't know how to drive but we both had to get home since our parent's and her sister were calling non-stop.
I finally answered to her sister's phone call and explained to her what was going on and she came to pick us up. I did not want Amber to be driving drunk and get us killed. I would never let that happen.
The next day, she was so furious with me that I took her keys and wouldn't let her drive. She even knew I had them. She was also very mad at me for calling her sister and now her sister is mad at her.
I can't help but feel like this is my fault. I didn't want us to get hurt and then regret anything later. What do I do? Advice? Thank you. (link)
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Younggrandma has said everything I would have said but I would like to add that I felt tearful reading your question. The reason is because you acted so sensibly and saved many people such a lot of heartache. Hold your head up with pride, and from this Mum thank you very much. :)
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I need some smart come backs to my aunt when we come to her house and she verbally abuses me and my siblings calling us fat (we're a size double zero!) and other sutff!
I like one I got from hollister_lover09 saying, "and what did YOU look like when you were my age?"
some really smart ass comebacks would be great because she's picking on us and i know she's older then us and we're nto supposed to talk back but this is merely standing up for ourselves because I'm tired of just standing there, taking it in while a lot of guests are there and watching my siblings on the verge of tears. (link)
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Get your Mum to have a word with her about her attitude, or persuade her to stop your visits. If that is not possible try blanking her because she obviously gets a kick out of insulting you. If all else fails try "yeah whatever!".
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I know this is a stupid question but can you iron paper? or will it burn or stick? (link)
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Yes you can iron paper. In certain circles the newspaper is ironed before it is given to the master of the household!!!
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