Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
I'm nowhere near perfect. I'm a busy girl,so I don't have much time to get on as I used to. I'll hit you up immediately if you inbox me.
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hey.
okay everyone says that smoking pot is so fun and relaxing. I dont smoke and I dont know if you do, and im just not going to ask. But if a person smokes pot for the first time do you know what the feelings they get are and what happens exactly, like why people think its so cool and it seems to be the new trend. (link)
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I've never smoked, you should never smoke, and its not as cool as people make it. It's actually so stupid. I know people who do/have smoked pot. It does smell good tho- i cant even mistake the smell. The first time it burns your throat like crap, worse than ciggarets, and you're stuck with the soreness for 2 weeks. The high is "amazing" and nothing matters, so you do things you wouldnt normally do. But from what I've seen of my friends when theyre high, they act clumsy and dont care, and they embarass themselves. It's a mind altering drug thats not extremely addictive, but its not a club drug so easy access? It's expensive depending on where you get it, and the reason everyone thinks its cool is because people with tons of friends are ignorant, and all they no is that if they all get together and do this, they're having fun.. so even losers copy it. They know its not really as fun as they make it, thats why most dont smoke alone. They just like the company and having something in common.
It's all extremely foolish, I could go on all day.
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I've never understood the whole emo cutting wrists thing at ALL. But when I think about it, I get sick and almost throw up. LIke right now. So don't think I'm trying to learn how. I just don't understand how and why. Do they do long cut marks or what? No idea.. please inform me. (link)
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I totally relate to your confusion! A former cutter friend of mine told me;
They cut so that the physical pain can outweigh the emotional pain they feel, and that emotional pain will bleed out.
Attention
Various mental illness
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I wear lip gloss but i don't over-wear it or anything. But at the end of the day when i'm looking at the mirror, I'll realize that there's white stuff on my lips (and it isn't dry skin). There's just a thin line of it on my inner lip and it's really annoying. How can I get that to not happen when i wear lip gloss? (link)
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If your talking about that weird thin line of white almost slimy stuff, Its most likely your toothpaste actually. After you mouthwash, floss or brush, rinse your mouth a bit more than u usually do, especially on the inside. This white thing happens to pretty much everybody, sometimes even if you dont use lipgloss. Its because there is still a bit of toothpaste residue inside your mouth, and it comes out in a tiny film
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The guy I like is hated by so many people at our school. Like he dresses extremely preppy (but I LIKE that stylleee). So I heard he's gonna ask me out, but I don't want to say yea, because then my reputation would go bad. Basically, he acts exactly like a girl, which is why so many people hate him. But we get along GREAAATT!
But I really don't want to go out with him beacuse I'm kinda popular and my reputation would die.
Please don't say "do whatever makes you happy," because its much more complicated than that, and I'm really confused... =[
THANKS FOR ANY HELP!!! (link)
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Everything everybody here said is right but immma make my imput fairly short.
IF he asks you out, say yes. If you are popular, make it cool to date people like him, and trash anybody who tries to trash him. Your followers will be happy and jealous of you, and your bf will become cool.
If you end up a "loser", which you won't, at least you have a bf whos a "loser" too.
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I have a problem saying thank you to people older then me..I don't know why it's not like I have a grudge or something it's just that it jsut doesn't come out.
I used to say thank you in school to everyone and the teachers everytime they hand me a peice of paper but now when people give me something the word thank you won't come out. =S
Liek as a treat, the teacher handed us candy and I couldnt' say thank you and it really slipped off the back of my mind
I really wanted to thank my mom for walking all the wya to the drug store to get me cough drops when i was sick but i dunno..the word just won't come out (link)
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You know, if you say a word, any word too many times you forget what it means.
I know this happened to me, and I thought I was being impolite all the time when I really was greatful for things, I just didnt say it, tho I had said it so much in the past for like every little thing.
Its all a matter of remembering to say it, and once you remember, say it even if it really feels fake, or even if you just dont want to. It will become a habit soon enough. Im guessing we're all a little bit past the tying a string around your finger to remember something, so buy a ring that fits, and wear it all the time as a reminder. Once saying it is no problem, you can take the ring off, or if its cute, make a fashion statement and continue to wear it! It will become your signature piece everyone will remember you for.
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okay i dont like taking pictures because im not photogenic so does anyone know how to be photogenic or any tips? thank you (link)
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Tilt your chin up and forward, put your shoulders back and tilt your head slightely to one side, so look in a mirror and find your good side. Think happy thoughts, or think of an inside joke and smile. Sometimes saying cheese or something stupid will help. Try to suppress the happiness so it looks natural and so you dont burst out laughing. Put your tounge behind your two top front teeth. Remember to think about how your eyes look. If thinking happy doesnt make your eyes look happy, they will look dull and ruin your face. I personally lower my eyelids while taking a photo, or else I look too eager. When taking a full length picture remeber all this, then put your dominant *probably your right foot in front going straight, and keep the left at an angle going left, behind your right foot. Keep your arms at both sides, hold something if that feels awkward, or put a hand or both on your waist, but remember to keep your shoulders back. If you've got questions about hair makeup and clothes dont hesitate to ask ;)
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what is street smart and is it possible to be street smart in the suburbs (link)
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Is when you know the enviroment around you so well you no how to survive without getting in trouble/killed. You arent naive if ur street smart. You cant really be street smart in the suburbs, being street smart is usually for the ghetto
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come to think of it
what is book smart? (link)
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Its when you know alot of factual information, when you know many things that will help you in school. It means your bright in scholarly, academic stuff.
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Does anyone know any foods that will make my skin look good? I need to look PERFECT at my grad (link)
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WATER. Drink a lot of it and eat a balanced diet, like doing what the food period tells you, which practically nobody does. Use hypoallergenic lotions and cosmetics and bathe before you go to bed, to get every product you used off your body. Take vitamins. Your skin will be flawless
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Can you put any type of lotion/body lotion, on your face? or is it just for the body? My face is really dry from using acne medicine a lot so I want to mosturize it but I get oily skin a lot and right after I wash my face too so I don't want it to get more oily (link)
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Yes, you can but very very little , and its better if you only put it on the driest places. Make sure it doesnt have fragrance, because that can irritate your face, especially because you have acne. I would suggest Eucerin, because its hypoallergenic, dermatologist recomended, fragrance free, and it doesnt make you feel greasy. Thats what I use.
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Ok when I'm mad I say OH MY GOD or JESUS CHRIST or when I'm surprised or something and people always say, don't say that! Is it because they hate God or something else? (link)
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Saying oh my God is using The Lords name in vain, a majorly horrible sin, some people even call it blasphemy. they love God, so they would preffer you saying oh my goodness or gosh. They think throwing around words having to do with God is bad, i personally agree with that
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http://www.bravotv.com/Real_Housewives_2/videos/index.php?id=60422
in this video, what does jo say her favorite drink is? i can barely understand her (link)
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The best answer I can make out is
Kettle on the Rock, with a splash of soda and 3 limes. Now the words im unsure about are Kettle and limes.
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what age bra SHOULD you be wearing when your 13
when your 14 and when your 15
I am 28a anD I am 14 - under average help (link)
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your not under average. the bra size you have is the bra size you should be wearing.
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I'm very afraid of storms and wind at night. I have to hand my hands over my ears to fall asleep. My heart just pounds and pounds. If the storm gets really bad, or loud for that matter, I go sleep my parents or my mom comes to sleep in my bed.
The sound of wind or thunder or rain is what scares, as well as power outages. Now that it is winter, it is a bit stormy almost every night, and it's horrible.
How can I rid myself of this terrible fear?
P.S. I am afraid right now, as it is 7:30 pm and it is windy and rainy. (link)
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I know u are scared of the noise, but what about the noise are you scared of? Noises cant do anything to you. If you are scared of their booming sound, get earplugs to reduce it, or wear earplugs and earmuffs and stuff. Really you need to target what about loud strange noises you are scared of. Once you figure that out you may find a better solution. When you grow older, make your room soundproof maybe. Sadly we cant stop nature. As for me, i hate germs and gross looking things that i know many germs are growing all over. Im scared of them making me sick, but we have antibiotics, and i rarely get sick anyways, but i hate them, just because they look gross, but I've tried this method ant it works so hopefully it will help you too.
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what does 69 mean.
like i've heard some people talking about sex with it but i don't understand what it means in that way.
can anyone help me out? (link)
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The person before me is right. They call it 69 because when its happening the guy and the girl together look like 6 and 9 and you get it from there
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How can you get someone's attention on AIM without IMing them? Like put something in my pro/away msg? What could I put? Thank you! (link)
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Use your preferences to make the sound it makes when you sign on and sign off very different, like a cow moo or trumpet. Sign on and off many times so the thing that appears on the side with the noice comes up alot. Then set up the away message saying wut you wanna say in it, and go away then return and away and return a few times then stay away. They will probably get curious to why you go on and off and they will probably see the message
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this guy was gonna kiss me but i backed away because i was afraid my breath would smell
or he wouldn't like my breath and embarrass myself how do i make my breath less smelly and how do i know if he likes it (link)
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Good hygene works. Try a prebrush rinse before you brush for it to be more effective. Make sure your mouthwash, prebrush rinse, and toothpaste are sugar and alchol free. Sugar and alchol will make your breath stink. Floss, and try a tounge scraper to get plauge off your tounge. Brush at least twice a day, and after meals that would make your breath stink like onions,garlic and stuff. At least chew sugarfree gum, or pop sugarfree mints. That wont make your breath stink.
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i sent a message to someone by accident. is there a way to delete it before they can read it? thankss (link)
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nope. just say sorry i guess
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Is lipgloss, lipliner, eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara, foundation, and concealer too much for a 10th grader?
I haven't seen other girls wear this much makeup.
Is this too much makeup for my age? [15]
It's not caked on or anything... I'm just wanting your opinion. (link)
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ohyah thats way to much and way too unnatural. makes people wonder how old their trying to be and why they're trying to hard, maybe for some guy who could care less. thats what i think. sorry if this applies to you though
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i have been hearing about bed bugs coming to the united states and it's really freaking me out.
so i want to know; how would i know i had bed bugs?? like what would it look like??
--thanks
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uno that saying "good night dont let the bedbugs bite?" its by benjamin franklin. he lived in america. there already here. common matresses now i doubt would have bedbugs, but beds back then were made of lesser materials. you would know you had bedbugs because they would bite you, and it would hurt. there are some weird creatures in pillows too, but i think bleach might kill them, and some pillows just dont get them. thats all i know
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