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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)
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theirs this party for our graduation from 8th grade and her brothers from senior in highschool, there will be drinking. im only staying at the party for like 2 hours then i have to go to my school carnival with my friends and cousins and if im drunk theyd kill me. but i wana go its one of my best friends, but if i drink more than just one thatd be bad, altho im not that light at it. if my parents or cousins do notice i drank at all and ask me, what should i say, bc if i say no and they can tell or smell it, what do i do? if i end up drunk what do i do, i have to go to the carnival after :/ what could i do to make the drunkness calm down however you say that lol eat or drink or do anything ill do it. i just need toknow before hand, its this weekend. any advice about going or what i can do if i get drunk.
Just don't drink.
There is NO way to become "un-drunk." Alcohol takes time to go through your system, and nothing can speed up that process. The myths you may have heard about there being a remedy to make alcohol go through your system faster are untrue.
Plus, even if you just drink a beer or two, you're still going to have your breath smell like it.
You don't HAVE to drink. You're about to enter high school; don't start out thinking you have to do something just because everyone else is doing it. Learning to say "no" is a skill you need to learn now. I know you've heard that a million times, but it's true.
Really, don't drink. The chances of your parents and cousins finding out are way, way too high.
If you need anything else, let me know!
-Manders
I am very optimistic around other people, and that brings them joy.
But, i have depression. I have a therapist and Anti-depressants.
I was dating a guy for over a year, and he cheated on me with a girl who was also cheating on her boyfriend.
He says he still cares about me, but it just hurts me more when he talks to me. I do avoid him, but its hard to avoid him in the halls at school.
Im not the boy-crazy type, or the one who obsesses over make-up clothes etc.
I just want to be happy on the inside as well.
anything at all?
When I said that you should be optimistic, I didn't mean that you should just be that way around others. It's a state of mind. You have to THINK confidently and happily, not just act as such.
Thinking confidently, like I said in my previous answer, means realizing your potential and living up to it. You know you're amazing. Believe it. Do things (getting good grades, etc) for YOURSELF, not others. But at the same time, be nice and do things for others because you want to, not because you think it will make them like you more.
I'm sorry about what that guy did to you. I honestly think that you should continue to avoid him. Unless, of course, you have something to tell him. Does he know how much he hurt you? If he doesn't, talking to him may help give you closure and allow you to move on. You deserve someone who respects you, and by cheating, he showed that he's not the most respectful guy ever.
I suggest that you talk to your therapist about this more, if you haven't done so yet. He/she may be able to help you more than I.
I hope I helped a little bit more. But, if I didn't, please send me another message. I really want to help you with anything you need.
-Manders
idk. my best friende killed himself. my boyfriend and ex boyfriend almost got killed in a car accident. my dad was and could stil be a cheater. i finally found someone to love, my boyfriend. He's moving soon. far away. im all by myself. i cant take much more, i can hardly breath, theres no such thing as happiness. everytime i find it, it gets taken away. i cant do this much longer. i try so fuckin hard to get strong, i get there, then something worse happens. its not the first time, its the millionth. so much pain is in my body. ive done the pills. gone to counseling, everything the whole deal. nothing works. i cant do drugs even causeit makes me worse. im all by myself. and when my boyfriend/best friend of one year leaves me, god i dont even know what ill do...
someone help me.
I understand how it feels when things just keep going wrong and it feels like they'll never get better. So, I'm not going to hold anything back here. And what I say may not really comfort you now, but just listen (or read, haha).
I wish I could do something or say something to get your boyfriend to stay. I wish I could bring your best friend back. Unfortunately, I'm no miracle worker. Nobody is. Since these events can't be avoided or reversed, please try your hardest to cope with and accept them. It will help you so much on the road to recovery. You can't heal pain without accepting the events that caused such pain. Denial won't change anything.
I heard a quote once that said that if you can't change an event, change your attitude. I live by that phrase, and whoever said it was a genius.
Please try your hardest to be optimistic. I know it's hard. Believe me, this year has made me lose a lot more than I ever wanted to. But even so, I've learned that wallowing in my pain and loneliness will not bring my friends back. Hold your head up high, even though it may be difficult.
Your pain isn't in vain (and I promise, I didn't mean to make that rhyme, haha). By experiencing what you are now, you could use your wisdom to help someone in the future.
Also, I have to add that you shouldn't resort to drugs. If you do, you're only running away from everything going on, and that doesn't mean that it's going to fade away. Eventually, you could possibly deal with a drug problem AND everything you're dealing with now. Don't do it.
Please stay strong. I know you can pull through this. Happiness sometimes is hard to find in darkness, but nothing is impossible.
I'm always here for you.
-Manders
I tear my face up. It's this horrible habit that started when i was younger, but it's gotten to be a real problem now that i've got the whole "teen angst" thing going on. :|. My mom threatens to ground me or take away my mirror whenever she notices that i've got meaty-looking wounds on my face. It starts like I'm just popping a zit or something but my face is actually clear. I squeeze every pore, and my face takes FOREVER to heal because it's really all beat up. I have to wear tons of concealer to look normal, and it's really starting to get on my nerves. I've even promised my best friend that i would stop, but, alas, I've recently broken that promise. I can tell myself to stop. I DO tell myself to stop... but i just CAN'T STOP. It's especially bad after some form of drama, or before bed after a long, bad day.
So, i'm wondering what i should do. I know you're not a doctor, but i was wondering if you had any interesting ideas of ways i can make myself stop.
Thank you,
Waffle.
Believe it or not, there's a name for your habit: Dermatillomania. It's what is called an impulse control disorder, which is a group of psychiatric disorders that involve a long-term loss in exchange for a short-term gain. For example, your skin-picking is your gain, at the time. You feel as if you have done something positive when you finish picking your face. Well, such a feeling won't be present when you look at your scarred face in the future.
First and foremost, change your state of mind. You KNOW that picking your face is going to look bad in the future. Make it a goal to have a scab-free face. Maybe when you see how good that looks, you'll be more willing to stop.
Also, think of it this way: Your skin-picking, like worrying or cutting, will do NOTHING to solve your problem. All it will achieve is creating another problem.
Second of all, you should find other non-destructive ways to occupy your hands. For example, using a Rubix cube or writing.
If it is really extreme and none of those methods seem to help, you may want to go to a psychologist for treatment. Just be aware that you're not the only one who picks her skin.
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!
-Manders
One guy that's in almost all my classes told me in 3rd period that he doesn't like me, straight up. I have no idea why he would even say that. We barely know each other, and I'm not but not bragging smart and I try to be a perfectionist but i'm not straight up, i just lay behind in like the shadows and am really quiet. He's really quiet too.
I'm sure that everyone probably hates some people for no reasons (we all admit this to ourselves) but it hurts so much that we don't even know each other at all and he just tells me that he doesn't like me. Worst of all, just straight up, face to face. And yes, he was serious.
I'm just so hurt and my esteem went down ten-folds. Is there anything i can do to make myself feel better or anything you can say that will help me feel better? i feel like the world hates me.
Live your life for YOURSELF. Don't live up to anybody's standards but your own.
What I mean is that you shouldn't live to make everyone in the world like you, especially ignorant people like the guy who claims not to like you when you barely know him.
What does he have to dislike? He doesn't know a thing about you! His disliking you isn't even reasonable, because he has nothing to back up his negative feelings. He's expressing what I call "empty hate," and that term pretty much speaks for itself.
You can't let these feelings of "empty hate" directed toward you bring you down. Why? Who he thinks you are and who you REALLY are are different. He's just ignorant, and you can't let ignorant people effect your self-esteem.
I'm not so much concerned about him as I am about you. I assume that you're pretty young (somewhere in the early or middle teenage years), and it helps to understand this now: You can't please everybody. There are a lot of people in this world. These people have different backgrounds, have different pet peeves, believe different things, etc. Sooner or later, you and another person are going to dislike each other. The world's diversity is a beautiful thing, though it can cause some trouble at times. You just have to take the good with the bad.
I'm sure you're an awesome person. Please don't let this negative guy bring you down. =]
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!
-Manders
So, I asked the last question....
No ones ever suggested being bipolar... But over the last couple of years, i've been thinking I might be.
And recently, my older brother started going to therapy and they told him that he might be borderline bipolar/schizo.... and we kind of share the same personalities i guess, Like everytime he talks about something he believes or the way he views life, It always makes perfect sense to me, while everyone else is confused and telling us that we're crazy...
But because of my own personality, i havn't grown open enough or confortable enough to talk about how i'm feeling with my brother or my mother... and i've tried, but it's so hard for me.
I find it easier to talk to new people that don't know me... But I think I tend to scare them away or something, because so many people leave me behind. I guess life just scares me sometimes, and like I said before, other times I feel like i'm on top of the world.
On top of all this I have a huge phobia of the whole "medical" feild... Like I can't even go to a hospital without passing out (panic attack) by just thinking about it... I use to be able to go to the dentist, like no big deal.. But as I got older, the fear got worse, and it extended to the dentist, and now therapist too.. (I havn't been to one since I was like 16) And because of this, I'm too scared to go out there and get help again.
I'm sorry this is so long, but you responded to my last question like you understood and no one has ever done that... I guess maybe I just need someone to talk to sometimes.
Thanks
I'm extremely surprised that no one has ever suggested that you are bipolar. I'd try going to a different therapist (You can go to www.psychologytoday.com to find one in your area). I have no degree of any kind, and the first thought that came to my mind when I read your first question was that you definitely showed some signs of being bipolar. That makes me really doubt how great your therapists were. Did they even have a PhD. in psychology? If they did, I'd be surprised.
But what do you think that your fear of therapists/doctors has come from? From my standpoint, I think that you may be extremely afraid of being let down again. You could be so convinced that no one, even doctors, will understand, that you've built a wall to shut yourself off from them (even the kinds of doctors who really have nothing to do with therapy, such as dentists).
Just remember that doctors and hospitals are there to help you and to make you become better. They're not meant to scare, intimidate, or push you away. Really, without doctors of any kind, where would we be? People would be dying left and right of diseases that would have had no cure if it weren't for the doctors (or, to be specific, scientists) who studied and invented them.
The fact that your brother possibly is borderline, bipolar, or schizophrenic can definitely increase the possibilty that you are, too, especially since you said that your personalities were similar and that you're family.
If I were you, I'd talk to your brother about it. I know it may be hard, but remember that family offers unconditional love and that even if you were bipolar (or anything else), they wouldn't judge or hurt you for it. Plus, your brother would be the number one person to understand you, so you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave another one in my inbox!
-Manders
I'm confused. And this whole world confuses me. Nothing makes sense to me, Everything seems so ridiculous... I don't even know why I feel this way about things, Life & people... I love so much, but sometimes I hate everything. Sometimes I feel like destroying everything in my sight. Sometimes I feel like crying my eyes out and I loose all confidence in myself, While other days I feel like the happiest person in the world, Like nothing can bring me down.
I have thoughts in my head which I can't control, as if i'm having a constant fight with myself.
Everyone just thinks i'm crazy. And I think I am going crazy. But I've always been like this.
What's wrong with me?
You are definitely not alone. I can honestly say that I feel like this often. I know it's frustrating and difficult, but I'm not sure if there's some magical medicine or therapy to get rid of it. You could be bipolar, but I'm sure that a therapist has already suggested that. Since you said that they usually label you wrong, you might not be bipolar.
Personally, my confusion with the world stems from my thoughts. You know, I think too much. Overthinking can twist and distort the truth, which causes confusion, even though you think that a "thinker" really understands everything. It might sound crazy to someone who hasn't experienced it, but I have, so I know it can happen. It's almost like reverse psychology.
On the other hand, you could be very curious about the world, but you don't act on it. You could investigate to clear up any confusion that may be present. Ask questions, observe your surroundings, and look at the little things.
As for the different emotions, (feeling love, and then distruction, etc.) you could just be easily influenced. For instance, if your friend is having a bad day, you could too, and vice versa.
So many things factor into having a "good day" and a "bad day," and it would take forever for me to type them all out. There's not really a good way for me to explain why you have sudden highs and lows, because I don't know enough about you.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
I always look at the bad side of things. So basically that makes me sad or worried all the time. How can I become more optimistic and see the good side of things? =]
Honestly, there's no "big secret" to becoming an optimist, nor does it happen overnight. Believe me, I used to be a complete pessimist, but I changed my attitude, and managed to become an optimist. It's not as simple as it sounds, but that's really what happened. I'll go into more detail about what I did to change.
Optimists and pessimists have everything in common. Both have similar lives, with good times and bad times. The only difference? Their attitudes. A pessimist, like you said, looks on the negative side of situations. An (healthy) optimist will see the negative, and accept it, while focusing on the positive. The reason I said "healthy" optimist is because there IS such a thing as being too positive. (For instance, thinking that you shouldn't lock your doors at night because you have so much faith in people that you think that no one would break into your house.)
Like I said, I'm a pessimist-turned-optimist, so I definitely know what you're feeling right now. First of all, have faith in yourself. You have every reason to believe that you can change your attitude and become an optimist. I have faith in you, and others do as well, so why not have faith in yourself?
That's the first step. You have to overcome your destructive thoughts. (The pessimistic thoughts; thinking that you can't achieve your goal.) A pessimist usually doesn't believe in herself. Well, you're not gonna be a pessimist anymore, so start believin'! =]
Now, you need to start using your newfound optimism in everyday life. This is actually more simple than you may think. Like I said before, there's no big secret to optimism.
Take a look in the mirror. Do you like what you see? You're probably thinking something negative, such as, "Wow, my nose is HUGE!" Well, stop it right now! Whenever you start thinking of something negative, stop. Look at the other features on your face. Think, "Wow, I have pretty eyes. I've never noticed that before." Now, I'm not saying that you should go out and start bragging, but you need to say these things to yourself, and be honest. More than likely, if you focus on the bad, you won't notice the good.
I'm not going to lie to you: No matter how optimistic and happy you may get, bad times are going to happen. It's like that in everybody's life. But, you're an optimist now, so you need to look at the bad times differently. Without the bad times, we couldn't appreciate the good times. Really, without the bad times, we wouldn't even know the difference! Think of them that way. Talk to someone you trust if you need to. Remember that all things do pass, and that bad times are usually followed by something great.
I know this is long, and I'm sorry. But I just thought you'd like to hear everything from someone whose been where you are now. I'm here, and I have faith in you!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
Latley, school has just been getting me down. I've been in the wortst mood for almost a week, no its not due to my period. Its just plain worry, stress, and too much work. I've been taking it out on my friends and family, and saying some truly mean things.
How do I go back to my happy attitude and get everything under control?
With school, clubs, sports, friends, and family, the teen years can be pretty stressful sometimes. These are pretty basic, but they'll help a lot and make you feel less stressed over time.
Do homework or study as soon as you get home from school. That way, you have the rest of the night to relax and do what you want.
Cut down on the caffiene. That includes chocolate and coffee. You probably don't get much sleep at night because of the stress, so the caffiene will only make it worse. I'm not saying you can't ever have it again, just don't have it constantly.
Study material a little bit each night, or during free time in class. That way, you don't have to cram the night before the big test.
Go for a walk around your neighborhood or in a gym. I don't know about you, but when I walk, I can think clearly and sort out my thoughts. But any exercise is good, like swimming, dancing, or anything else.
Take time to relax. Nobody should spend their lives working with no time to play. Hang out with your friends. Talk on the phone. Take a nap. Go and shoot some hoops.
You should be okay once you get your schedule and thoughts balanced.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
Is there any way to get rid of racism? I have a little bit of ethnic prejudice......I feel awful, and I'm trying to get rid of it as much as I can..........this feeling is horrible. Is it possible to get rid of an ethnic prejudice?
Since you're willing to actually get rid of the negative feeling (racism), you're already doing better than most people. A lot of people have no shame in being racist; Just take a look at the alarmingly high amounts of hate crimes and groups out there.
I think that everyone is prejudiced against someone or a certain group of people (not just race).
If I were you, I'd get to know different kinds of people. Break those stereotypes! Like I said, I'm not just talking about race. For instance, if you're more into sports, try talking to someone who's an artist. The same thing goes for race, too; Get to know someone who is of a different race than you are. Take up a new hobby. Join a club that you wouldn't usually join, but that seems interesting. Getting to know different kinds of people and doing new things makes you a more well-rounded person, which gives you confidence. As confidence grows, hate and prejudice die.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
i think that im depressed .. hardly anything makes me happy anymore. i hate school my friends my family life .. everything seems to be going wrong all at once im only happy sometimes and thats when im with my boyfriend and thats not even all the time. please help
I think that you could possibly be depressed. One of the signs of depression is losing interest in things you once loved. Don't lose hope; Depression is treatable.
Talk to your parents about getting a counselor. I'm not a doctor, so I'm not diagnosing anything, but it sounds like there is a possibility that you have depression.
For more symptoms and information, go here:
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/Depression_Information/symptoms.htm
Have faith that things will get better. They will, I promise. As the Beatles once said in their song "Getting Better" (It's a great song, you should listen to it if you haven't!):
"I've got to admit it's getting better,
A little better all the time.
I have to admit it's getting better."
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
My friend has a problem ...she cuts herself and nobody can seem to help her ne advise that i could give her to make her stop?
Well, okay, first of all, have you talked to her about it? If not, that's what you should do. Talk to her when you're alone, and when she's not in a bad mood.
You need to tell her something like, "____ (her name), I want to talk to you. I know that you cut, and it worries me. You don't need to cut to release your pain. I'm here for you if you need to talk about anything. You have people who care about you. I care about you. We can get help. You're not alone."
Now, she might not take your advice. You can't change anybody. You can try, but people, in any situation, will only change if they are willing to.
So, you will have to tell your parents, her parents, and/or the school guidance counselor. Cutting is a sign of depression, and if she's depressed, she needs professional help. You can't do this alone.
You're a good friend to this girl, for caring about her and wanting to help her.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
how can you make yourself happy? because I can't seem to do it. I'm completely miserable, and I dont think its healthy for me toi be so negative.
Well, the number one secret to happiness would have to be optimism. You said that negativity isn't healthy, and you're right.
Life isn't going to be perfect all the time. You're going to go through hard times. There will be times when you feel alone, scared, and unloved. Everyone feels those painful emotions sometimes; it's a part of life.
Have you ever noticed that there are happy, optimistic people and there are also the people who seem sad and negative? Well, you may think, "Oh, those people who smile all the time have better lives." That's not exactly true. Everyone feels pain, at some point. The optimists just make the best of what they have, rather than dwelling on how bad things are.
If you're going through a bad time, you can't just mope around thinking, "Wow, my life sucks." That doesn't get you anywhere. You need to have hope. Have faith in yourself, faith that you will get through whatever life throws at you. Have faith that you will find happiness. Instead of saying, "Oh, this sucks," think something like, "I know it's hard right now, but things will get better for me!"
But, if you think that you have depression, you need to talk to your mom or dad about seeing a psychiatrist or a psychologist who can help you.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
i always feel so ugly my friends are gorgeous and have boyfriends no matter what i always feel left out or outta place what do i do to gain self respect and a more pretty appearance
True happiness and self-confidence come from one place: YOU. Sure, a boyfriend would be nice, but think about it: Once that boyfriend is gone, how do you feel about yourself? Not too good, right? Exactly. Because that good feeling and confidence came from the fact that you had a boyfriend, not from inside of you.
First of all, as many times as you've heard this, it holds true: Attitude is EVERYTHING. Yes, EVERYTHING. What I mean is that you should be optimistic and have a postitive attitude, and to be less negative. I remember that I used to be negative, thinking, "Wow, this sucks." or "I look really, really ugly." but then I realized that my negative comments toward myself weren't going to change anything for the better. So, I decided that I would always be positive, and look on the bright side of life. So, I did. It doesn't just "happen," you just gradually become happier the more you stop being negative.
And the result? Well, for me, I was happier, of course (like I said). Also, I became more open to people and made a lot more friends. That simple change in attitude really makes a difference and draws people to you.
Respect your morals. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Be positive. That, my friend, is the "secret" to self-confidence and happiness.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
my friend says shes gonna kill hetself how can i stop her without telling anyone
Well, tell her that you love her, that she's got friends and family that love her, and that you'll always be there for her. Tell her that her loved ones, including you, would be sad and mourn if she killed herself. Tell her that she will get through this, and that you will help her get better and happier. Every cloud has a silver lining.
BUT TELL SOMEONE. Did she tell you not to tell anyone? I can understand that you want to be a good friend and keep secrets, but TELLING AN ADULT WOULD MAKE YOU A BETTER FRIEND. By telling someone, you could be saving her life. Tell your parents, and maybe your parents, her parents, and you can talk and you can tell them about your friend's suicide threat.
Please tell someone. SHE NEEDS PROFESSIONAL HELP. If you don't tell her parents, the worst could happen, and you don't want to be the one who didn't listen to her threat. I'm not saying that it will happen, but anything is possible.
If you care about your friend, you need to tell her parents.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
I will rate you a 5 for VERY GOOD ANSWERS THAT ANSWER EVERYTHING!!!
-What are some ways to boost self esteem?
-what are some foods that are healthy but very filling???
-what are some ways to lose weight besides drinking water, and eating more healthy??
Here's a way to boost self-esteem: Get rid of those negative thoughts. Thinking 'I'm so stupid!' or 'I'll NEVER get anything right!' are what I mean. Replace those thoughts with something like 'I can do it!' and things like that. Also, do what you love, like a sport or hobby. Be happy! It may sound like it won't work, but believe me, IT WILL!
Some foods that are healthy... well, Special K is a very, very good cereal, in my opinion. Healthy and tasty. Try different kinds of fruits and vegetables, too.
Well, if you want to lose weight, you'll have to eat healthy. There really isn't a choice. You also need to exercise.
But eating healthier isn't as drastic as you may think. Here are some tips:
Drinking water is great! Instead of drinking soda, have tea, water, or juice every once in a while and limit your soda intake to about once a week.
You can also replace white bread with whole wheat bread.
Another great thing to do is replace fried foods with something healthier. For instance, try grilled chicken instead of fried chicken.
If you want more tips, just ask!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
I usually dont eat much. I eat maybe one small thing for breakfast and half of my lunch. I usually dont eat dinner. I usually exercise everything off if I eat a huge lunch or a huge dinner. I constantly worry about how much i weigh but im too scared to weigh myself cause im scared of the effect itll have on me. I usually exercise regularly. I run a mile a day, 30 pushups, 5 minute wall sit, and tons of other things. I'm also involved in Cheerleading so that kind of also is an excuse for me to exercise more often and burn off any fat. Ive been getting sick easier lately and idk why ive been sick for like 2 weeks now. Am i anorexic or what?
Oh also ive noticed my legs are smaller and so are my arms.. and ive noticed other things but i need oppinions i rate 5s. kthanxbye!
It depends. Does that small amount of food keep you full, or are you starving yourself (keeping yourself from eating a big breakfast & lunch and not eating dinner)?
If you're full and you SERIOUSLY don't need to eat much to stay full, then you're probably okay.
BUT, if you're keeping yourself from eating large amounts, then you're getting pretty close to having anorexia.
From what you said about being more sick lately, I'm guessing that you're starving yourself.
If your body is deprived of food, then you'll have less energy. Your body needs energy to do everyday things, and to fight off illess. That's probably why you've been sick lately.
You seem to be overdoing the exercise, especially considering the little food you're eating. You're probably really tired after the exercises; am I right? Your body needs energy to exercise, too.
You eat when you're hungry, and stop when you're full. You shouldn't have any weight problems if you do that.
If you're starving yourself and it's out of control, please, PLEASE tell a parent or guardian so they can help you!
I hope I helped, and feel free to leave a question in my inbox!
♥ Manders
Hi. im not writing this question for people to tell me im unique and crap, but lately, ive just been feeling bad. I think im ugly. People always tell me that im ugly. its just my face..i mean my nose is just so weird that i feel so self conscious and whenever im with my friends it hurts me so much always seeing guys all flirting with them and stuff. ive never been asked out, and people always tell me that im ugly. i know its mean, and only sometimes i feel pretty. i know that if i feel beautiful, i am beautiful, and being confident is bueatiful, but i dont want that crap. i need some way to make me feel better about myself....any suggestions?
Kids are so mean these days. You wanna know the real reason they call you ugly? That's because they're insecure with themselves, so they put others down to make themselves feel good.
Ways to raise your self-esteem? Be yourself. Wear what you feel best in. Be nice and considerate to others, and when I say this, I mean that you should not stoop to the people who call you ugly's level. The only true self-esteem comes from yourself, from within, not from putting down other people. And SMILE. Be happy! Hang out with friends, do things that make you happy!
You're not gonna get anywhere with that "I'm so ugly" attitude, so get rid of that. Instead, praise yourself. Like, when you get up in the morning, say to yourself, "You know what? I look GREAT today."
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders