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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.

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I need a girl that lives in Waterloo Iowa and goes to Hoover middle school in 7th grade

This isn't a dating site, nor do you need to be in love in 7th grade. Do this on your own.

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ok my bf is 2 years older than me and probably alot more expirienced...and he keeps asking me weird questions and it sounds like he is trying to hint at sex and i dont want to yet..wat do i do?

Tell him. Don't let him, or any guy for that matter, pressure you into something you don't want to do. If he dumps you, so be it. You'll meet someone who wont do that to you.

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Okay. There's this guy. We've only been dating for three and a half weeks but I can't do it. It was a mistake. I just can't handle a boyfriend right now. I feel like a bitch breaking up with him so early and I still wanna be friends but I can't do it anymore! I don't know what to do but I feel like shit when I think about being with and I feel like shit thinking about dumping him because it's not his fault... Help! I'm 15/F he's 17/M

You need to do whats right for you first before you devote yourself to anyone else. Tell that to him, and if he really likes you, he will understand and remain a friend.

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okay im 14 and last year i got fingered n da laundry room of my house n i gave da guy a hand job (the guy was my bestfriends ex n dey broke up on da day of, later on i stole anutha one of my friends boyfriends, next i lost my virginity to n da band room at skool to one of da snair drummers( da percussion section is full of players) im on da flag team by the way. also i gave da guy a blow job on da staircase at skool while three of his percussion bruthas watched, den i gave anutha one of the snair drummers a blow job n da bathroom at skool, den i had sex with one of the drill(dance) team girls boyfriend which is also a snair drummer... does that make me slutty???

If you even have to question about this being slutty, then the answer is usually yes.

This is slutty behavior, whether you like it or not. Have some self respect girl.

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when did you have your first kiss?
where?
with you?
was it good?
did it come naturally?

Naturally, everyones answers to this particular question are going to be different.

I had mine about 5 years ago in 5th grade. (I'm a sophomore now)
In School
My "Boyfriend" (I don't consider middle school boyfriends real ones)
It was good, since it was my first one
And yes, it did.

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when a guy looks at you and smiles and then looks down and smiles?

He thinks your attractive. :)

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I am a female senior in highschool and I currently like a guy who is a freshman. He's three years younger than me. Is that wrong? What should I do? I'm afraid to tell anybody because I think I'll get teased, but on the other hand I really like the guy and hes way mature for his age :) Help! Im so confused.

If you really like him, it shouldn't matter what your friends and his friends think. The age difference isn't weird. I've seen it a lot in my school, and its not a very rare situation. If you like him a lot, don't worry about what other people think. :)

Good Luck!

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I read ur post and she meant it,I think she may want me to finger her,is that possibly what she means???

It could be. But, make sure you ask her first because she might mean something else. And make sure she wants you to do it because it would startle her if you just started doing it.

Hope I Helped!

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We were having sex when she asked me to be her gynocoligist. I know what a gynocoligist dose but is that what she's asking me to do? We are fairly young(15 and 16) thank you

Well, a gynacologist is a doctor who studies the female reproductive part- the vagina. But it seems to me like she doesn't really know what she's talking about. She wants you to be her doctor? She might have been really in the moment and just blurted out something she didn't mean to say. Don't hesitate to ask her what it means.

Sorry if i couldn't help much, if you maybe provide me with a little more info, I can answer it better, feel free to come back!

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Okay so I've had a crush on this boy brian pretty much since the day I met him.. which was about a year and a half ago..we've been hooking up for the past year on and off..sometimes drunk sometimes sober.. I really want to ask him how he feels toward me because I honestly don't believe its solely physical..how do I go about asking? I need it to be casual, I'm so nervous! Thanks

Don;t be blunt. Boys are stupid and don't like to dig around the bush. They like girls who just tell them straight up, so thats the best way to do it. Don;t be nervous It sounds to me he's into you.

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Do I spit or swallow?

If your scared, don't let him pressure you into it. Ask him what he prefers.

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how can i get any guy that i want ? i really like this boy in my class but he have a girlfriend and this crush is driving me crazy i don't really know he's so hot and really cute ! what to do ?

I would reccomend to not flirt with him for the time being that he has this girlfriend. You wouldn't want to start any tension. Wait for him to be single again.

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Okay I'm 17 guy, so there is a girl I like and I believe she likes me to from the way she acts, but then again she always seems far away when we talk half the time, how should I tell her i like her alot? We've gone on one date already and hung out multiple times already, how should I ask her out long term? Thanks Em

Well from what you wrote, it seems like she's really into you. From a girls point of view, accepting a date with a guy means she likes him. Being bold is the way to go. I love guys who tell me straight up they like me or something about me. It shows their confident and honest, 2 key things in a relationship. Pop up at her locker and just ask her, or if thats too risky for you, drop her a little cute note in her locker. Girls love cute surprises.


Thanks for the question, and feel free to ask me anything else you may need help with.

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I have a boyfriend that no one but me and a couple of really close friends know about. Ive made out with him, but never went "all the way". I kinda don't want to, but its all he talks about. What should I do?

Tell him. If he really likes you, he will understand your feelings. If you aren't ready for sex, DON'T DO IT. If he breaks up with you for not having sex with him, he wasn't worth being your first.

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Hey so I was at a b~day party and I was dared to ask Seth {my crush at the time} out on a date. So I texted him and he didn't respond. So now I've moved on to like another guy that is my bestie and I love him more. How can I tell him that I don't like him anymore?

If he doesn't ask, you don't have to tell him.

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What are some things that me and my boyfriend can do to spend time together that doesnt cost money or at least is cheap? ...he lives like 40 min away so he comes over or i go over there and we meet half way. Either that or we go to the mall, movies, bowling, KD, and stuff like that. Anymore ideas? please help! :o)

Me and my boyfriend sometimes just chill in his car if we don't feel like spending money. We talk about life and such and listen to our favorite songs. I made a playlist for us when we hangout, and we play that.

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How do you know which hole the penis should be inserted in?

It can be inserted in the vaginal hole (where a tampon is supposed to do up) or the butt hole. Although, most women prefer it in the vaginal hole.

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My boyfriend wants to see my vag and I told him OK and planned to take a few pics of it. I kinda told my bff who was like I shouldn't do that cos somebody can hack his phone && get my nude shots later. How safe do u think it is to take pictures of my vagina && send them to his cell phone?

Not only is it not safe, but it's illegal. Boys love to brag. No matter how much you may trust your boyfriend, the chances of him keeping it to himself is very slim to none.


Don't do it. There are many other ways for him to see your vagina other than taking pictures. Be safe.

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Ok so I have a boyfriend. He's on the school football team. Nd I went to the game today to find him sitting on the bench with the parametics. Nd they took him in an ambulance. Nd he's at the hospital with a concusion. Idk how bad it is. Nd bc he's at the hospital I'm sure he doesn't have his phone. Nd I wanna tlk to him. To c if he's ok. I'm really nervous to c how he is. I googled it. Nd it sed something about short term memory loss. Does tht mean he culd forget who I am or something. ???

Just like the person below me said, usually concussions just produce short term memory loss. If you guys have been dating for a while, he will remember you. Try going to visit him in the hospital if your worried about him. Try getting a hold of his parents to see if you could take a ride with them to see him. Or, just wait until he comes home and surprise him with lots of hugs, kisses and gifts.

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple months now. and all of a sudden hes asked for a naked pic ( i wont and havent given him one) i told him i deserved more respect than that, and he didnt seem to care that he hurt my feelings.
so school starts tommorrow and i will see him again. io want to break up with him and have waited till now to do it face to face.
how do i break up with him.
he wont care when i do, i doubt he even had feelings for me.
so suggestions?

That is a very bold move, and a smart one too. It is good that you have respect for yourself and for your body. Just tell him straight up what he did wrong. Don't lie to him because then your being the jerk. Tell him the truth.


Good Luck!

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