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I like this guy at my school ALOT. He is in 5 of my classes, but I have no idea how to tell him I like him. I don't want to write a note, because then he could show other people. Any good ideas of how to tell him that I like him?
Get his email address, phone number, IM...anything so that it would be just you and him talking. Then just tell him truthfully. I suggest you use IM because its fast, theres a garuntee that you twoo are alone, and, yeah. so, just tell him and dont be afraid cause you two are computer screens apart. who knows, maybe he likes you, too :) hope I helped.
xOo Nikki xO
whenever im talking to this guy i like on the phone or online i never know wht to say!! its soo annoying and awkward. i dont know him tht well so what would be some things to say that would start a conversation?? please help! i rate 5s to answers that dont piss me off!!!
Well, just bring up stuff like "do you have a girlfriend?" or something that you can talk about for a long time like "are your teachers mean?" or "popular kids are soo stupid". you know, random things. Maybe sports or movies are some other examples. I have trouble with conversation starters alot, too, especially with my friends Kyle, Chris, and Mickey. Lol, hope I helped.
xOo Nikki xO
ok well i have a boy singing partner, and we spend alot of time together, and well my boyfriend thinks i like him. and hes all mad at me because, well, i had to kiss my partner for this song, and my boyfriend didnt know that it was part of the song and he got really mad.
Ok, if your boyfriend is really that good of a boyfriend, then he'll trust you and believe that it really is a part of that song. I mean, if you dont trust eachother, then thats not a relationship. Its just....fake. I mean, just go up to him and go, "Hey, I know you think I like my singing partner, but I dont. I mean, its just a part in the song and Its not like we want to or anything. If you're my boyfriend then you have to trust me on this." I hope I helped.
xOo Nikki xO
I never got a chance. He never game me one. For 3 years i begged for him to want me, even for one day. His name is Drew and he is a year older than me. When i was in 7th grade, and him in 8th, I fell head over heels for the cute and innocent, yet devilish boy. I never expected much from the crush, maybe a week of staring and pining for this boy. But instead I got 3 years of heartbreak, because in my heart I knew he would never want me. He has had plenty of girlfriends over the past 3 years, none of which was me. Although I have been strong over the years, last night he told me that I need to get over him because he never liked me and he never will. How do I just move on with my life? I built my world around one boy, and that one buy tore my world apart. How do I move on? I need as much advice as I can get. Please Please Please HELP ME... Love Kelsey
Awwwl! I'm sorry, Kelsey. Anyway, I think I can help you cause I have been in your exact same position. You have been building this world around this Drew guy for 3 years and you had nothing else. I think its time you looked at the world around you, not that little universe you built for two. You'll start seeing other guys that you like, trust me. I mean, Drew is right, you have to move on. I know it'll be hard to like other guys, but you just gotta move on. And I bet you're a great girl and that he's just making a mistake. I hope you try to move on, for I am trying to do the same thing. You're not alone. I'm always here for you. If you need anymore help, just contact me, and we can get through this together.
xOo Nikki xO
I was at my cousin's house when he got a call from his other friend, Tyler. We were playing Halo2, and Sam just kept talking to this "Tyler." Then, I guess Tyler heard me make comments baout the game, he said he wanted to talk to me. We talked for a while, and then we hung up. He called several otehr times that day. And on the last call for the day, Tyler said he wanted to meet me.
When I got home from staying at Sam's house, IO got on Runescape. Sam and Tyler were on. I talked to Sam and Tyler on teh PM messaging, and Tyler must have sent me something by accident. It read: "Will I like her?" It got me pretty suspicious. I asked sam, and he said Tyler told him he liked me. I thought: "No big deal. He'll get over it." But I still wanted to meet him. He seemed pretty cool.
So, two weeks later, I stayed at Sam's again when I met Tyler. He was cool. We played a lot of video games, and had fun. But, late at night before we went to sleep, Tyler asked me out!! I refused, cause, y'know. I had a BF. And he went pretty okay with it. For now.
When I went home from that stay, my mom told me I couldn't go to stay the night at Sam's anymore. Tears and such. Anyway, when I got on Runescape today, Tyler was on too. He kept asking me questions like: "When you break up wit ur BF and I break up wit my GF, will you go out wit me?" and "You're beautiful and charming" and "When I learn to drive, will you go on my frist date with me?"
I couldn't take it. Before I could say anything more, he said he had to get off. I said bye to him and that was it. I need to do something about this. I only want him as my friend, but I don't know how to get him off my back! He won't stop takling about how much he likes me!
PLZ HELP MEH!
~J...
P.S. I don't want to hurt his feelings. But I still don't want him on me when I have a BF!
Ok, so you think this Tyler guy is "cool" but you dont wanna go out with him because you have a boyfriend, right? Ok, got it. So, this is what you do. The next time you see him at Sam's house or the next time you see him online at runescape, just straight out tell him, "Hey. Ok, yeah, I think you're pretty cool as a friend. But I dont like you that way. I have a boyfriend, and were probably staying together for a long time. And even if I do break up with him, I still dont have those kinds of feeling torwards you. I mean, I think its really flattering that you like me and you think that I'm beautiful and all, but no. Its not neutral. It wouldnt be right. And I'm sorry, and I hope you'll understand." And maybe if he's a good friend, he really will understand. And while you're at it, tell him this, "Hey I think its nice that you talk about me and stuff, but I dont really like hearing about myself all the time, lol. Lets get off of the subject for a while." But, I mean, if that doesnt work, then maybe you can tell Sam to talk to him. Anyway, I know exactly how you feel and i can tell that Tyler is just waiting for you to break up wif ur BF. If he understands and gets off of your back, then you got a mighty good friend there. I hope I helped. If you need anything else, feel free to ask me on my advice column, okey?
xOo Nikki xO
ever since i moved i've felt misserable and depressed... i moved to africa a little ova a month ago and left a girl that ment the world to me... i would do anything for her... but i might never get to see her again... all i can do is hope shes on-line when i am... all i want is to be with her and i cant... so idk wat to do but talk to her whenever i can... wat can i do to talk to her or even see her again? i'm not goin to give up or forget about her. shes the only thing keepin me alive...
AwWwWwWwWwWwWwL!!!!! Ok, I know that you might not get to see her at all in person, but I betcha with my advice you can get pretty damn straight up close. Ok, so make videos for eachother. Just video tape yourself talking to the camera, as if you were to talk to her in person. you can send her presents on holidays, and maybe write letters to her. The next time she gets online ask her for her address and surprise her with a video of yourself telling her stuff. Trust me, its better than just chatting online. I'm really sorry, and I know how that feels....I hope I helped some.
xOo Nikki xO
ok, well I just turned 13 not to long ago and I have a boyfriend. But if my parents find out they would kill me. If I'm on the phone with a guy or whatever and my parents ask who I'm talking to I always have to lie and say one of my friends names thats a girl. And if a guy calls me and I don't answer the phone everyone keeps asking me questions about why there calling and stuff. I really love my b/f tho and when i wanna go somewhere with him I have to tell my parents that I'm going sumwhere with my friends. I just wanna be allowed to have a b/f so i can hang out with him all the time and everything without having to have at least one of my friends there. What can I do?
Just tell your mom that your boyfriend is just one of your best friends and you wanna spend the day with him. I mean, that always works with me. Except, I never really go places with my bf, it works when i'm talking on the phone, but I'm pretty sure it will work. I mean, if hes just your "friend" then your mom would let you go, right? I mean, its perfect. Tell me how it works out and if anything goes wrong, just tell me.
xOo Nikki xO
Can someone define the diffrence between love and being in love...anything corny is fine! Or could you define love itself.
Oh and is it possible to find love at any age? 15?
Love is a feeling you have with a family member or a close friend. Being in Love is when you see a person you like and you get butterflies whenever you're around them. And yes, you can fall in love at any age ;]
xOo Nikki xO
ok, so my best friend's boyfriend raped her, and i don't know what to do. i know i should tell someone, but she's being dumb, and saying it was her fault, but when you get down to the point SHE WAS RAPED. i don't want her to be mad at me, but i should tell someone right? either that, or i could kill him, but i wouldn't do that. so help????!!!!! please. thanks everyone
Sincerely,
Confused concerned friend
Ok, so you dont have to KILL the guy. Just, you know, verbally kill him. Go up to his face and go, "You little rat! I cant believe you did that to my best friend! Now shes thinking its all your fault, but it was YOURS! Ohmigod you little son of a B*tch!!!" and maybe your friend and you can go to the counselor's office and talk it over. I mean, the counselor is the best way to go. She'll understand. And make sure that none of your other friends go out with that jerk off. I hope I helped.
xOo Nikki xO
me and my bf have been going out for 5-ish weeks now and we're both pretty easy going people. But we haven't ever fought about anything and we spend SOOOO much time together. Is that bad?
Why would that be bad?? I mean, that's pretty good. But even if you two get into a fight, that's a sign that you two care for eachother and you want to keep your relationship alive. Pretty soon you'll start bickering like an old married couple. Trust me on that one ;] But right now, you guys are doing fine. No worries.
xOo Nikki xO
my boyfriend said something really mean to me about the way i look earlier today on the phone. i hung up on him and he keeps calling back and i wont answer. he left a message saying "if you ever stop being mad at me call me, ill understand if you dont though" i want to call him back...what should i say?
Tell him that you forgive him, but he should respect that you get hurt when he says things like that to you. I mean, no girl deserves that, right? A boyfriend is supposed to be supportive. Anyway, I hope I helped. Tell me how it turns out.
xOo Nikki xO
How do I get my gf to think im "sweet" and really hang out with me alot? movies? talk on phone alot? what should i do?? I RATE REALLY HIGH!
=)
Ok, so this is what you should do to make your gf think you're sweet;
-Call her like 5 times a day just to tell her that you miss her.
-Get her roses and a teddy bear on her birthday.
-Write a song/poem for her (this would be awesome if you knew how to play a guitar)
-Make a mix CD for her listing a bunch of love songs on it
-Hug her and kiss her!!
Those are just a couple things you can do. If you need any more, feel free to ask me in my inbox. Take this from a girl who likes sweet guys ;]
xOo Nikki xO
Ok...Here's the story. I have been friends with this guy since the 5th grade.We're both 16 and I have had a crush on him since 5th grade too. Finally, 5 years later,(2 months ago), we went out for a month. I thought "Wow, I can't believe this.It's what I've always wanted." Well it wasn't. He was always around his friends. I mean I don't see ANYTHING wrong with guy time,because I want girl time too. But he was ALWAYS with them. He barely called cause he was always with them. The funny thing was that before we went out we talked every night for like 4 hours! I adored him and I know he adored me. But being alone all the time just wasn't working. So we broke up. We THANKFULLY went back to being best friends again. Well now 2 months later we have a little problem. We went to a party and we kissed...I loved it and I know he did. Then 3 days later I asked if he liked me. His answer was "Yea but I don't see us as anything more than friends right now...but yes I do like you." I was devastated...did I read his signals wrong? Well we had a heart to heart and came to an understanding and hung up the phone with saying we loved each other! The next night we went to a basketball game, then to the pool hall. As he played pool and I sat there watching...our eyes met for the longest time,he smiled at me with the cutest smile, and my heart just melted! "Maybe he really does like me the way I like him!!" I thought. Well when it was time for me to leave he said "Bye I'll call you later" Without anything else...he usually hugs me or kisses me on the cheek!! Once again...a signal misread. My friend Beth, whom was there throughout it all, spoke to him one night about it. He said he didn't want me to like him the way I did because he didn't know what he wanted right now and that he didn't want it to end up like last time and him "hurting me". Problem was...he never hurt me! Now, almost a week later, we have yet to speak to each other. BIG CHARACTER HERE!! Morgan... a girl he is/was in love with has hurt him twice. They didn't even go out...she lead him on and then let him down. He claims he doesn't care anything for her. I believe him...but if I could just find out what it was that he loved about her I would change and just to gain AT LEAST one characteristic he loved about her! I have never been like this...I've always said I would never change for anyone! Especially not for some guy. But for him I will do anything. WHAT DO I DO!! Please don't say "Girl, don't change for anyone" or "Let him come to you"...seriously HELP ME!!
Ok, I'm sorry I gotta say this, but...DONT CHANGE FOR A GUY! I mean, if you have to change for him to REALLY like you, then hes not really worth it. The perfect guy is a guy that will love your for your perfections, imperfections, and YOU. Not some chick pretending to be something she's not. I mean, I would think that it's common sense or something. Its totally girl code. Soo...my advice to you is to not change for this guy, and at least TRY to move on. Because he isnt worth you if you gotta change your personality even a little bit for him. I hope I helped.
xOo Nikki xO
I know this is weird...But whats a descrete way of giving the guy you like a hug? :P Besides just walking up and hugging him. Sorry this is weird...But I rate high :)
Just...you know, go up and givem a hug! Theres nothing really embarassing about it..I mean, its not at our school. I'll juss go up to muh crush at the end of the day, hug him, go, "cyuh bud," and he'll say "bye" back to me. So, just give him one! It doesnt have to be a long one, maybe just a one second hug. Dont be scared you'll like giving hugs after a while :D hope I helped.
xOo Nikki xO
I somehow got my bfs friends number in my phonebook. His friend texted me saying "i need to tell u something" so i told my bf i found something that i didnt want to knw. then i went to work n my bf calls n tells me he cheated on me. i go home, call him n he tells me he wont do it again, he wants to be w me, he wants a straight forward relationship. so I gave him a second chance was that wrong?He cheated on me w a girl he supposable hates, they went out b4 n she cheated on him, she hates his best friend. First he said he did it bc he didnt want to hurt her feelings then he said bc hes stupid then he said bc it just happened then finally tells me the truth bc he wants to get laid.
I think that you should have dropped that guy. I mean, he CHEATED on you. I mean, he was with another girl, and that alone is wrong. No girl deserves to be cheated on. I mean, he should be greatful that you gave him a second chance and he should be treatin' yooh like a *PriiNcEsS* right now. So..Up to this point I dont know if you made the right decision or not. I mean, if you really trust this guy then I wouldnt blame you. But I guess if you find him cheatin' on you again then at least you learn a valuable lesson: NEVER give men a second chance. I hope I helped some, and tell me how it turns out.
xOo Nikki xO
me and this guy went out for like 2 weeks, right. so anyways we did a lot of bad stuff but of course hes in 11th grade and im in 7th. i cry ever morning because i think of what we did. he dumped me the next day after we did it. and told me that he was using me to get down my pants. please help me on what i should do! you are like the only girl i can trust, and plus you are so pretty. i love you and thanks! please!
This guy you're talking about is getting me really pissed off right now. You betta listen cause im on a roll! Anyway, some guys are so freakin stupid! I mean, girls arent just there to be sex bitches I mean, cmmon! If he abused you like that then he got another thing coming. I mean, you lost your virginity to a guy who just used you. Im not blaming you at all, but this is what you do. Just go up to this guy and slap him on the face. "You idiot! Why did you do this to me? You took away my happiness...my cheer...my virginity! I dispise you, how could you do something like this?!" I know that I dont know what youre feeling right now but if I was there right now with you I would tell that guy off because it disgusts me when guys do stuff like that just to get in people's pants. Tell me how it works out, I'm soooo sorry I got worked up, hun, I'm just so mad at this guy...
xOo Nikki xO
when it comes to tryin to get a guy...how do know when ur tryin too hard, or not hard enuff.Or wen u should give up...??
Well, sometimes its hard to tell whether youre trying too hard or not trying hard enough. Thats why im glad you asked this and this question is worthy of being answered lol. Anyway, if you're trying too hard other people tend to notice. If you're getting into arguments or catfights with other people who have a crush on your crush, thats trying too hard. If you flirt with him CONSTANTLY and ask him out at least twice every 2 weeks, thats trying too hard. If you're really shy around this guy and you dont talk to him at all, then thats not trying hard enough. I mean, the guy's gotta at least know your name, right? And if you ask him out and he says no, thats a sign to give up. I mean, if he says "No," Then no means no, right? I mean, that means he doesnt like you. And if you ask him out once or twice and he says he'll think about it and a couple months go by without him telling you, then you should give up. I mean, girls arent freaks that wait around for something to happen. I mean, we can wait, but we cant wait around FOREVER. If that guy doesnt work out, try looking around for another guy whos sweet and is worthy of having you. Tell me how it works out and if you need anything, I'm here for you.
xOo Nikki xO
I really like this guy...he knows now and i hate it! I like him a lot though! What do i do???
Ok, theres no need to freak out. I mean, first think to yourself. Did he freak out when he found out? Did he care that you liked him? Was he really shy about it or say it was cool? I say you get his phone number or email address or IM and ask him if hes cool with it. I mean, who knows, he might have a crush on you, too! You shouldnt hate it. Its not the end of the world. If you need anything, I'm here ;]
xOo Nikki xO
im trying to brake up with my boyfriend things just are differnt between us and i really have no clue is on how to do it i cant just go up to him i have tryed it and i frezz so yea if any one can give me answers it would be helpfull
by the way im 15/f
Ok, this kind of thing works out for different people. If you're one of those stuck up preps, just go up to him and go, "Its Over!" and make like some dramatic scene from it. Or if you're too shy for your own good like I am, then tell a friend to tell him or call him or IM him or email him and tell him. Or if u juss wanna be honest, go up to him and just tell him, "Hey, this isnt really gonna work out. Were too different. I'm sorry, but I'm just going to have to break up with you." If hes that good of a boyfriend, soon to be "ex boyfriend", then he'll understand.
xOo Nikki xO
okayy well i was going out with this kid for 2 months and 3 weeks and then one day he dumps me because he said hes friends think hes whipped and he sed he kind of was too ..he says he still likes me but he really never talks to me and yesterday he hugged another girl ..do you think he still likes me ?..should i keep trying to get him back ?..i dont wanna chase after him ..
This kinda happened to me and my last b/f. Anyway, dont chase after him. Just because he says that he still likes you doesnt me that he REALLY still likes you. Boys are full of lies. Anyway, just move on with your life and be happy that it happened. I know it might take a while, but you'll get used to it. Trust me, I know exactly how it feels.
xOo Nikki xO