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what can I do?
ok, well I just turned 13 not to long ago and I have a boyfriend. But if my parents find out they would kill me. If I'm on the phone with a guy or whatever and my parents ask who I'm talking to I always have to lie and say one of my friends names thats a girl. And if a guy calls me and I don't answer the phone everyone keeps asking me questions about why there calling and stuff. I really love my b/f tho and when i wanna go somewhere with him I have to tell my parents that I'm going sumwhere with my friends. I just wanna be allowed to have a b/f so i can hang out with him all the time and everything without having to have at least one of my friends there. What can I do?
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Tell your parents how you feel. They can't have complete control over you, and hopefully they won't really kill you.
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I dont know how strict your parents are but ask them why you cant have a boyfriend. Say all your friends have boyfriends and its not fair. Tell them IF you have a boyfriend you wont do anything except for just spend time with them nothing more than that. Start telling your parents more about your life so they can understand you. Tell them every good detail about your boyfriend so they can understand. hope this helps! good luck:)
xoxo BLONDE911
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Well my parents used to be like that but then just tell them and tell them that they can trust you that you dont do nuthing bad
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It's not really a question of what you should do, talk to your parent's but they will probably say the same thing. Try looking at it from thier eyes..your thier little girl and it's hard for them to undertsand that your getting older and your gunna wanna do more stuff. Don't try to rush your teen years either, Being a kid is one of the best things in life..because once you get older you realize the responsibility you have to take on. So you kinda just have to wait it out..it's gunna be hard but if you get through it, it'll only make you stringer.
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Just tell your mom that your boyfriend is just one of your best friends and you wanna spend the day with him. I mean, that always works with me. Except, I never really go places with my bf, it works when i'm talking on the phone, but I'm pretty sure it will work. I mean, if hes just your "friend" then your mom would let you go, right? I mean, its perfect. Tell me how it works out and if anything goes wrong, just tell me.
xOo Nikki xO
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I would talk to your parents. You could either start it off by saying "mom..dad..i have a bf.." or you could say.."mom..dad..what IF i had a bf.." The go on to say.. I want to be able to tell you whats going on in my life. I dont want to have to lie to you. I wanted to tell you that i have a bf ..but I just didnt want you flipping out on me. I think this would get through to your parents well because all parents want to know whats going on in their childrens' lives. If this doesnt work and they totally flip out..I guess you will have to keep secretly dating until they are ok with it. Hopefully after talking to them..they will see things from your point of view. Drop me a line in my inbox if you have any more problems..i would be happy to help!
-melissa-
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You should sit down with your parents and tell them that you and another guy like eachother, and ask if it's alright if you go out. If they say no, ask them if there is any particular reason. If things still aren't right, then accept it, and ask yuor b/f if you guys can not be b/f and g/f, but still technically be together.
Hope I helped! =)
X♥X♥---Julia
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well have your parents straight up told you they would kill you? my parents never knew about any of my boyfriends but they wouldnt kill me if i had one.. i mean, so they think your too young, what are they going to do, disown you?
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First of all, sneaking around isn't good because if your parents find out, they're liable not to trust you again, and you may never be able to freely have a boyfriend. Just tell them you believe you're ready to have a boyfriend and ask them if you can have a "test" and let them be with this guy for so long and if nothing bad happens you should rightfully be able to see him because you like him. Never say you love your boyfriend, because Parents thing it's just teenage angst. Just tell them you like him a lot and want to see what will happen. Assure them no sexual activities are taking place.
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well my parents used to be the same way. but i started dropping little hints by talking about him a lot and stuff. eventually i told my mom about him (cuz she's the easiest one to agree on things i wanna do) and she got my dad into thinking it was ok. parents need to learn to let their kids grow up a little faster than they want them to and the only way to do this is by testing their limit and doing things you know they dont approve of. just let them know. at least youre being honest!
Love Always,
Maria
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