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its gotten tot he point where I feel so low about myself I could crawl into my bed and never come out. I want to be with someone that makes me feel special.. Why cant i find that guy?
Ive never had a bf treat me good and for a long time now i havent had a bf.
Im a normal girl and I know im not realllly ugly.. I actualy sometimes think im pretty..
I have talents and yes I have flaws. But i think id be a really good girlfriend.
what can I do? (link)
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Hi there :o) You need to understand that No one can make you happy, its something you have to do on your own.... Its funny how it works but usually when you stop looking for a boyfriend one seems to find you...
I am 20 turning 21 and guess what!! I have found that guy that makes me feel really special just 1 month ago, don't get me wrong I had boyfriends while I was in school, I dated a few, 2 where long term.. but non of them made me feel really special (it was puppy love, it was special but nothing like now....) When your older and more mature you will find that special guy, that makes you feel like your the only beautifull woman on the planet...
Enjoy dating while in school but just keep in mind that there is only better to come don't try to get to serious!
Enjoy your friends untill you find a boyfriend (because usually when you have a boyfriend your friends sort of stand last in line)
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15/f Okay, so I went out with this guy for almost 9 months. I grew really attached to him. Then suddenly he said the relationship wasn't working. So you can imagine I was crying nonstop for a few days because he was acting all happy while all I do was lay down, not eat and sleep. So 3 days after the split, I went to see him and before that, he said we shouldn't kiss but yeah...we made out. I went to see him again after that and we made out again. So a couple of days pasted by, he said we shouldn't get back together but lately he's been calling me "babe" and telling me "I love you" and similar things to that. He said he won't date other people and that he hasn't been flirting with anyone. A lot of girls found out he's single and has been flirting with him like crazy but he's avoiding it all. What am I supposed to think? He says hes single, what am I? Am I on a leash? He says he still likes me a lot. Should I still hold onto him or try to move on? (link)
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Hi there! He's just playing with you, looks like he wants to be single for a while, he wants to play the field (even though he says he woun't date other girls, doesn't mean he wouldn't make out with them...) I would say try to move on! I know its hard but it would safe you from alot of heartache!
Goodluck!!
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ok...i am dating this guy ...have been dating for ...7 months now and i like him....i am really young and so is he...i am 14 and he is 16..... he dont live in my town but he comes to see me and my dad and my brother every weekend..... he gets very mad and upset when he cant c me when he wants ... hold me or touch me ..... well i like him ...and i really dont want to hurt him and i dont want to lose him.......but he is wanting to run away and try to make it on our own........ hes family is very welthy so he has the money to run away .... and he is saving up ..... i dont want to run away .... i want to finish school and make a something of myself... not having to lean on him for everything...i want him to finish school and to make something of hiself 2!..... but i dont want to hurt him by saying i dont want to run off with him... what can i tell him ? ........... ps..... plz dont tell me that i am to young to b dating or anything like that ..cuz that isnt really helping me at all!!! (link)
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Hi there!! I know you don't want to loose him, tell him that!! But you have to tell him that you don't want to run away and tell him why! Tell him that you can get married after you both have finished school and then get your own place... if he says something like thats to long a time to wait then tell him it would be worth the time and that that would show his love to you, because if you guys are still together by then that would mean you guys are really ment to be together! don't let him pressure you into running away, if he really loves you he would respect your feelings!
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I'm 13 and in 8th grade, and I still haven't had a boyfriend yet. I'm not HORRIBLY ugly, I actually think I'm pretty. But NO guys approach me at all. I've been told it's because I'm shy. And I am shy, but...I'm not sure if it's something else. Do you think that the fact I didn't have a boyfriend in middle school will make guys turn me down in high school? I don't want to be single forever.
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Hi there!! DON'T worry!! You will get a boyfriend when the time is right!! I had my first boyfriend when I was 15, and im considered pretty and was also very shy... in the mean time just enjoy your friends and concentrate on your grades :o) Try to make some guy friends, im sure if you start talking or even just greeting some guys one will ask you out
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(I'm 13/f)There's this guy (lets call him M) and I thought I liked him so I told him I did and now he's my boyfriend. But the problem is I don't anymore. And I don't think I ever really did. He likes me a lot. Another problem is I like another guy (let's call him S) and I know he'll never like me back because he's really cute, and I'm, well, not. (He's into really pretty, really skinny girls)
So, what do I do?
1) How do I let M down easy and not hurt him too much?
2) Should I forget about S and move on?
(P.S. I know it said only to have 1 question per thing, but I thought maybe it'd be okay since it's the same topic?) (link)
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Hi there! :o) tell M his a really nice guy but you just want to be friends with him, he is probebly going to be upset but break ups are part of life (you learn from them) and he deserves someone who likes him just as much as he likes her....
And about S... dont sell yourselve short like that! There is always a possibility! Try to talk to S more, talk about things that he like and laugh at his jokes... but don't put your heart on him, in the mean time just scan your school for other possibility's.. your still young! soooo many guys so little time :oP
Never compare yourself to other girls ("He's into really pretty, really skinny girls") Your really pretty in your own way (everybody is!) and those really pretty girls might just lack in their personality! Be the best YOU can be, make the best of what you've got
Goodluck!! :o)
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Well ive had a crush on this real nice guy ad we talk alot and he told me about his ex who broke up with him twice in 2 weeks. I told her that I liked him cause she was going out with someone and she told me she was over the guy i liked and that we should go out...she gave me soo much hope. Then the nxt day she comes in and tells me that shes breaking up with her b/f and that she thinks the guy I like (her ex) thinks that she likes him again because she kept asking him who he liked. I was mad cause i trusted her but thats not it. The guy I like told me that she was telling people that she liked him again....Rite after I told herow i felt! Ughe everyone sais shes a slut cause shes gone out with everyone on our sports team!!!! Was she jus trying to screw me or is this a coincidence???? HELP ME.... he said all this bad stuff to me about her but now they are going back out!!! Shes "wooing" him! (link)
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Hi there! I think she did it on perpous, maybe she relised she has feelings for him when someone else wanted him... mmm... Keep talking to the guy and kindoff flirt with him but don't be to obvious, smile alot in his company and laught at his jokes, talk about things he likes... just be a really great friend maybe he will start to like you more than her! Its likely that she will not go out with him for very long (as you said, she broke up with him twice in 2 weeks and she dated the whole sports team, that means she's not one for long relationships)
Goodluck!! :o)
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Alrighty. So my junior year of college I developed a most excellent friendship with this guy, a senior, who we'll call Joe. Joe and I got really close and I asked him to my prom, and we were both on a band trip for a month that summer, so eventually we got together. Joe went to college 2 hours from home and we managed to make the long distance thing work for a while. As much as I loved Joe, he wasn't the greatest boyfriend... he rarely called/IMed/e-mailed, and I sent letters all the time, never to receive any back. I visited him a few times and he came home once or twice.
I thought we were doing ok til I went to visit March my senior year and he was really distant, and then in the beginning of April (this would be 2005) he dumped me over the phone, kinda out of the blue. I found a few things online and assumed he cheated on me, blah blah, we had a fight, and made up, and I know now he didn't cheat on me, and we still get along, which is good because we have a tight-knit group of friends who still hang out together on breaks.
So the problem with this is, I'm still having problems getting over him. We went out for pretty much a year and a half, and I know that I deserve better treatment and more attention than what I got... but it's difficult to hang out with him without thinking back to our relationship, and I often get super jealous of other girls I suspect he's interested in. I don't want to believe he's over me, but I know that I'm fooling myself, and I feel like a really pathetic person. I know there's no easy way to solve this, but any advice on how to "get over" him as more than just a friend would be appreciated. (link)
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Hi there! :o)... I would suggest you try to avoid him for a while, maybe 2 weeks or even a month or two, as long as it takes! (just to give you some space and to except that its really over) avoid him untill you feel that you will be able to move on.... Its really hard just being friends with someone you love as more than a friend, most of the time it doesn't work! Pack away all of his things (and the things he gave you, or anything that remind you of him) in a box and put it far away! do things you like, go shopping, get dvd's and eat popcorn, go out with your girlfriends.... then try to find someone new (its the fastest way to get over someone, because you develop new feelings for someone els... Time heals all wounds!
Goodluck! and im sure you will find someone way better than "Joe"!
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Hiya, my name is Diane I'm 13. I really like this guy, lets call him Tom. Tom and I used to hangout every Friday and I mean we've kissed and stuff during spin the bottle but it has never ment anything. In november i was at my friend Joe's party. Joe was with his girlfriend, Joe's other friend John was with his girlfriend and I was just with Tom like walking around this park we went to. Since we were alone we talked alot and he put his arm around me for a good 10 minuets...until I kindof push him off. Anyway since then we've been really close friends. We flirt all the time even when his girlfriend walks by (one girl dumped him cause of that). And he tells people he wants to hangout with me, but I want him to make a move already I mean i'm probably sending mixed signals or something but how do I get him to make a move? (link)
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Hi there :o) Well maybe you should tell him why you you pushed him off after 10 minutes with his arm around you... Tell him you like him alot and then just see what he does... It sounds like he likes you!
GOOD LUCK!!
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me & ryan ex boyfriend, we're realllyyy close. we used to hang out everyday and always talk on the phonnee. then about 2 months ago we stoped. he stoped calling and stoped hanging out with mee. then about 2 weeks ago a girl who likes everyone, started to like him. and i thought i could trust him and no that he wouldnt like her. well he told me he didnt and was pretending then 5 days after this girl sent me proof. a myspace message that he sent her. it said blahblahblahblah i love you. =[ it made me really sad because i knew he wasnt kidding. and he wasnt. i talked him about it and he was like "im sorry for lying and messing things up but there nothing i can do now to make us the way we were. so this is bye." it was very hurtful.=[ then 2 days after that day. i was walking in the hall (in school) and then he was behind me so i tryed to walk a little faster then he was saying my name i knew i shouldnt of awnsered. but i did. i turned around and was like yes... and then he just told me an inside joke he had with someone. i was like okay. but i think he kinda did that just to talk to me. but then that same day on the bus (were on the same bus) me and him were talking and i was like can i just have one more hug and he was like yeah. then while we were hugging my best friend emily said "do you still like her" and he shaked his head no. but he always says he doesnt mean anything he says when were in fights.
so im really confused. should i try to get over him. or maybe talk to him about this.. or something =/
ohh yeah and then the other day i was in the car, and then i relized i missed him alottt. and bursted out in tears.
--confused.
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Hi there!! write him a letter telling him exactly how you feel about him and that you miss him alot, tell him you miss all the goodtimes with him.... Ask him to write back in the end of the letter... If he doesn't write back or if he writes back and tells you he doesn't want to be more than friends or even just friends with you anymore... It might be a good idea to move on, I mean you want somebody that loves you just as much as you love him! Time heals all wounds! Try getting your mind off him by doing things with your girlfriends that you like, go to the movies, do some window shopping, eat lots of popcorn while watching dvd's at home... Fall inlove with a new guy!
Hope I helped! And hope everything works out for the best! :o)
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Ok so i have known this guy all my life! well a few years ago he moved ..but we still kept in touch occasionally. and also we have always considered each other bro and sis, well he moved back this past summer and everything was ok and all but now he calls me at a minimum of 8 times a day! and every weekend he is with me. now dont get me wrong i love the boy to death but he comes with me and my frieds on our "girls night outs" and then staurday nights he comes to my house then sunday he is hear to! and i dont want to be mean and i have even tried saying things in the past liek well why dont u go do this or that...and even trying to be mean dont work because he doesnt take me serious! please HELP ME i dotn no what i am going to do. and the other problem with him he tells me who i can and cant date..he doesnt liek me are anything he is just..i dont even no how to explain it. and GUys want talk to me alot becaus ethey think im dating him or there afraid he want liek him. (link)
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Hi there!! :o) Are you sure he doesn't like you?! Well try to get him a girlfriend, because if he has one he would want to spend alot of time with her and he would be spending less time at your house.... Also stand up for yourself, he hasn't got the right to tell you who you can date, you are your own person and you make your own decisions!
Hope I helped! :o)
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Next week I turn 21. No big deal really, I was legal at 19 were I live.
A while ago me and my boyfriend agreed for a whole bunch of reasons to not focus on our birthdays too much this year, just do something nice for valintines day. Which was totally cool with me. But now my girlfriends want to take me out for my birthday.
The thing is everybody, even myself, wants this to be a girls night thing. I don't even think my boyfriend would want to come to the place they have in mind, but I'm not sure how to tell him that I want to spend my birthday with just my close group of girls. What should I do? (link)
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:o) WOW!! happy birthday!! Im turning 21 this year aswell... Just tell him that you want a girls night out, maybe see him an hour before you go out with the girls, and then promise him a date the next day? Im sure he will understand, suggest a boys night out for him :o)
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i like this guy and he likes talking on the phone, but i don't. i just never have anything to say so it ends up being a boring and silent convo. what are some ranodm topics i could talk about so it's not akward silences the whole time? (link)
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Hi there!! you sound alot like me!! (im very quiet and sometimes that can be a problem) Try asking him some questions to get to know him better, you can then awnser your own question aswell.... ask him what movie he saw last, ask him what type of movies he like, ask him what his favorite colour, food, animal, sport is ... ask him what type of music he likes.... talk about things you both like.... You will find its not that hard to think of things to talk about the more you do it...
GOOD LUCK!!! hope this guy falls madly inlove with you :o)
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Okay, my boyfriend and I had went to wal-mart recently and he saw his ex girlfriend there. She's 14 and I am 17. My boyfriend is 16 (and they dated for about 9 months and broke up cause she cheated on him twice). Anyhow, he didn't speak to her in the store, he just waved. Now I've been nice to where he can still be friends with her like on the phone, but she took things into her own hands. She called him this morning and told him that she loves him and misses him, and that if we don't work out, that she'll still be there waiting for him....anyhow he says to her, "Do you think I am gonna break-up with for you?" And she got quiet... then she says to him "Well would you go back out with me if that happened?" And he says " I don't know..." ( and as my boyfriend is telling me this I'm thinkin to myself...what do you mean?) So then as we were going to our separate high schools, I gave him a kiss and I told him I loved him... and the he goes "I love Rowbyn (that's the ex's name)" And I knew he was doing that to make me mad... but as I was walking him to his school, I remember him saying "I'm gonna feel funny the rest of the day". So I am wondering if yall think he may leave me for her, or does he still have feelings for her. Any advice I am sure would help! THANKS FOR READING! (link)
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Tell him how you would feel if he left you for her, Tell him you really love him and don't want to loose him... Then just ask how he feels about you and then ask him how he feels about Robyn... I think his reaction to those questions would give you the awnser...
Hope I helped, I hope he doesn't leave you and that everything works out for the best!
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14/f...What's a good way to make a move that is NOT SO OBVIOUS on one of your good guy friends? A way that won't totally freak him out and is like dropping hints?
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When you talk with him just smile and look him directly in the eyes.... start playing with him by messing up his hair, pumping him softly in the ribs with your elbow... just try to think of any playfull excuse to touch him....
Hope this help!! :o) Good luck with this friend!!
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okay well i met this guy like .. 2 months ago .. well i had been VERY hurt before & to b perfectly honest.. i didnt have much interest in this kid i was mad & wanted to leev my house so i told em to come get me liddle did i kno wat was happening.. well we ended up hittin it off we were perfect for eachother.. weird eh? .. well we ended up kissing & it just all felt right.. well still i was worried of my image at school cuz it was liek a complete random hook up & wat not.. well we ended up gettin together.. & all was GREAT i loved being with him & he always said the right things & wat not well one night to much liquior & sweet talkin led to sex.. i was SO SO SO scared to open up like i HAD A HUGE TALK with him the night before & hes liek u gota trust me babe im different i promise.. & i bought it all well next day.. we broke up i culdnt figure it out he swore he stillw anted to b with me he juss needed to think i culdnt figure out wat i did that was oh so wrong but i dont kno.. well he invited me over that night nothin reallty changed we still kissed & stuff.. school eh okay i guess kinda embaressed but okay i guess well we spent the next month off & on till i got so fed up with i ignored him more & more then one random night he came back & told me he wanted to b together & he was really sorry bout it here we go again all up hill.. he called em everynight & called me baby & there i was fallen again.. & i was so ready to be his.. well i went to his house a few days later.. & he told me he was in love with me i didnt say anything i thought he was jokin but i juss sat there so he walked off then no lie 5 minutes later & he told em he didnt like me at all.. so there i was cryin hurt cunfused & it didnt get much better a few calls & kisses still back to the start,, well then it got good again sorta.. we were supposed to hang out & i was so totally happy all day a HUGE smile ! well then he text me & said dotn ever talk to me again... & supposevly one of my guy friends said i promised i wuldnt talkt o him & now he wont talk to me & he said "i want nothin between us juss friends i cant deal with you" so i spent the entire night cryin i didnt go to school i culdnt face him i cant let go im stuck i have no idea wat im doing so wrong && i love him alot .. i really do it sounds dumb but i do & he was juss in a long relationship & the girl broke his heart so i feel terrible liek i cant amount to her i wana juss show him i love him & i wana b okay.. but i cant.. & i kno he'll coem back but i cant do it again & he leaves at the end of the year .. so im screwed i just wish i never met him.. im sorry this is long but i need someone out there to help me.. & sayin "get ocver it" wont work ive tried so so so hard.. i love him i need something better.. thanx....... (link)
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His just messing with your emotions.... what ever you do, however it must hurt DON'T go back to him... this isn't a healthy relationship! You deserve sooooooo much better!! Try moving on, find another guy (someone cute, sexy, funny) fall inlove all over with another guy! ignore any calls, text messages (dont even read the message just delete it if you see its from him) from that guy, get rid of all his stuff or anything that reminds you of that guy... cry, feel bad, miss him but think of all the bad stuff he has put you trough all the hurt... go out with girlfriends .... This guy is only going to hurt you again!
time heals all wounds!
You will get over him!
Hope I helped and good luck!!
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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on? (link)
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Hi there!! :o) .... His just being mean... You deserve someone who makes you happy and says nice things to you!! If you really like him try working things out by telling him you like him but it hurts you when he puts you down like that... If he keeps doing it leave him because he wouldn't be worth your time! Get someone who respects you and who makes you feel good about yourself!
Hope everything works out for the best! :o)
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Hey me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and we are very protective of eachother. Like if he thinks im looking at another guy then he get mad @ me and it ends up into a huge fight. I cant talk to guys either. We are just soo over protected and it gets us into huge fights everyday. Got any suggestions on how we can stop this jealousy and fighting and be less protective? (link)
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You both need to except that there is always going to be other beautifull people, you need to trust eachother and get some self confidence!!!
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ok me and my gf r goin on 3 months........thas my longest relationship and shes the first person ive eva said i love u to and.....she talks bout her ex bf ALOT it seems like every convo we have is bout him.....and then when we r around each other she neva wants to get close i have to sit next to her and kiss her and stuff like tha.......n e ways this had happened a couple times and i need sum opinions......should i break up w/ her or wait it out and see wut happens.....i dont know wut to do...i still love her but it hurts when she talks bout her ex and ive asked her to stop but she doesnt.....n e ones opinion helps.......thanx (link)
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Hi there! Ask her straight out why she talks about her ex so much, ask her if she's still inlove with him... Tell her you really love her but it hurts you if she talks about her ex so much. If she doesn't stop then you should really think about breaking up with her because that would mean she doesn't give a damn about your feelings
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