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I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.
People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.
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22/f
my bf is great,but when it comes to making out he doesnt know how to. i try to take control and guide him but it doesnt seem to work. i dont want to tell him because i dont want to be rude but how can i work on this with him?
Tell him bluntly.
And suggest that you will teach him how.
With practical excersises.
...
...
How can he refuse?
;)
I am going on a date to the beach with a girl. I am looking for some suggestions of food to bring since I wont be able to heat it up. Something surprising! She doesn't yet know I am planning a picnic for dinner. Please and thanks!
Hey I'm from the UK and omg picnics are like our thing when the sun comes out annually for ten minutes-- http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/0/22515044
If you scroll down this webpage, on the side by pictures are recipies and "styles" of picnic you could try like meditarianian, "romantic" and middle eastern.
If you want vegetarian healthy and delicious:
Cheese and lettuce and tomato sandwiches (Beautiful ,really)
Tuna mayo sandwich ( ou may like it)
Crisps. (potato chips?)
Cold pasta salad is always a win.
SCONES. SCONES SCONES SCONES. Jam, cream and SCONES. (Google their recipie, they are amazing and simple to make)
Oh and complete with Ice tea. So posh and girly, i know.
As was suggested below, watermelon. Fruit salad. Grapes, tomatos. Actually, a salad in general- you can make some really exotic ones.
Dont forget quiche.
Or pies- apple, etc.
Orange juice, Pimms, or vodka, what the hey.
Stay away from meat unless its cooked ham. Or cold chicken.
And other than tuna mayo, stay away from fish and sea food. Thats dangerous for food poisoning when its not absoulutley fresh.
How can i make my girlfriend make sex with me
Could you give us more information?
And some grammar please?
Thankyou
:D
Hello, I am female and 19. I've been talking to this guy I met at college. We started texting on move out day and we haven't really stopped since. He has no problem wearing his heart on his sleeve whereas I'm very introverted and have a hard time with "feelings." We argue a lot and that sucks a lot because we both get kind of pissed off pretty easy but I think that factors into us knowing each other so well that it just kinda happens.
Anyway, I have a lot of guy friends and I talk to him about them quite a bit but they are all only friends and I can promise that's all they ever will be. Well, he gets jealous of me talking about them because he thinks I'm going to hang out with them so much and forget about him. I talked to him about this numerous times that they're only friends and I don't hook up with them and all of that stuff. Whereas, he talks about this girl that's now his best friend but he used to like her a lot and, honestly, I get pretty jealous when he talks about her because I know how much he used to care about her and I told him that and he completely overlooked it. I believe he actually told me "i think you're making it a way bigger deal than it is. She's so cute but she isn't who I like right now." So, that pissed me off. Then today, we were talking about people from school and who we miss and everything and he told me he thought there were a lot of cute girls living in our building so I became very despondent in that conversation which lead him to name all of the cute girls in our building. He put me first in the list, obviously, but it just pisses me off a little when he does that because I am trying so hard to not talk about my guy friends as much to him anymore because I know he doesn't like it but he talks about all these girls to me all the time even after I told him that I'm not the biggest fan of that. What do I do?
To be honest, the fact that he is talking to you about other girls is kinda good.
He trusts you- he's telling you quite personal things.
And would you rather not know, what with your jealousy? Are you having a thing with this guy? I mean, youre not going out are you? So... maybe the jealousy of each other is a sign you should be...?
But otherwise, cool it! Both of you!
You'll always be friends- its possible to have more than one girl/guy friend.
Just tell him you don't like it.
Just, grow the balls, talk about the feelings.
If you're really friends he should be okay with it.
So what can it possibly mean that my ex keeps checking each and every snapchat story update I have?
1) Theyre just wanting to see how you're getting on.
2) They check everyones story, youre no exception, just to get rid of the notifications.
Please, don't read too much into this, and get hopeful/worried.
I wouldn't say it means anything.
Alrighty so I'm a junior (17 and a girl) in high school and I previously attended another high school for about 2 and a half years, but recently transferred into this new school. I've been in the school for about 4 months or so and haven't gotten too involved into social circles because I'm a pretty shy person... So, here comes the problem, I have this huge crush on a guy in one of my classes. I don't know too much about him, but from what I've seen he seems like a very laid-back, funny person. I noticed that we make frequent eye contact multiple times throughout the class. I try smiling at him to leave a good impression, but he usually gets flustered and walks away. Occasionally we make off-handed good-humored comments about each other (to each other) and I always find that we usually end up very close together even if we don't talk. We always end up paired up, using each other's equipment, or just general situations where we get stuck together. Now, I'm a bit helpless because I really like him but I don't have the confidence to actually start up conversations. I also have two friends (who are guys) who I'm very friendly with (physically- hugging, etc) in the class as well and I've noticed my crush always looks upset when I'm with them. What should I do?
Gooooo for it!
It seems theres nothing wrong and he's willing to talk to you and there are signs he likes you by the sound of it sooo
GET HIS NUMBER
if you can't do that add him on facebook, twitter or whatever and TALK. Just... strike up a conversation. Open ended questions about his life etc.
Don't forget to flirt a bit and tease him etc.
Subtle signs to let him know you're interested- touchy feely giggly girls BUT not stupid head over heels. Play it cool.
When the time is right, you can ask him out to town or something.
If he doesn't accept you first time don't get upset because that's not attractive.
Act aloof, not desperate. Don't let him think youre waiting for him etc etc.
You can google all these things that cosmo and seventeen will tell you but quite frankly I say GO FOR IT.
I'm 19 and he's 27. We've been dating for 4 months, we're in love and I can't picture my future without him. Though, I'm afraid problems will occur regarding our age difference. Not so much what people think and say, more of me worrying if it will cause problems between us.
Whenever we go grocery shopping, he can't buy alcohol with me. I can't go with him to any event that is serving alcohol. It makes me feel utterly indifferent, I have 3 more years until I can drink. That's just one problem that has occurred regarding the age difference.
I would just like know, do any of you fellow Yahoo users know of any cliche and or very real situations that can occur because of a vast age difference in a relationship? I'm not looking for relief, I would just like to know of what could come and prepare for it.
Other than him looking significantly older than you maybe later on in life....
Unless you\'re worried about that theres not much.
I\'m from the UK
Drinking age is 18!
But to be honest, the age gap will only be a problem if say...
Your boyfriend wants kids and you aren\'t ready.
But since the woman getting older is the problem with natural birth then its not that much of a problem.
You have an 8 year gap. That\'s not a 10 year gap. Not a 15 year gap like my grandparents. Not a 50 year gap like Bernie Ecclestone and his current wife!
You\'ll be okay.
This question is going to send you to sleep...
So, I'm 14 and there's this boy that I'm honestly so In love with and he's 13. We've been talking since December 2013 and we went out in January for 6 days then I needed it with him because he started ignoring me and it really hurt me, we used to talk so much, all the time! On snapchat and Facebook and text. Then when we split up I really wished I hadn't ended it, I missed him so much I got depressed and started cutting and stuff. Then he started talking to me again, online... Which made me happier then we ended going back out in April for only 3/4 days. He dumped me because he wasn't ready for a relationship, he asked me out though?...
And still today I really miss him 😩😖
But it's soo awkward! We've only spoken a bit in person, and never have really met up, only twice but we didn't arrange it for us we just tagged along and didn't talk to each other. I've spoke to him twice but not saying much, he's very very shy and so am I! We haven't actually hugged or made any physical contact yet... 😢
I see him every day at school but I see him a lot, still today we walk past each other and just stare for a few seconds and then he looks away to quick for me to smile or anything, I really want to be able to talk to him somehow!?
I literally cannot explain how much I love this boy, your probably going to think I just need to move on but I seriously can't! I've tried so hard soo many times, I get soo jealous when he's talking to another girl and I even stalk him on Facebook I can't help myself 😂 I can't stop thinking about him and I can't help but talk to my friends about him, I could say I'm obsessed with him!
I don't actually know if he knows I feel this way about him but I'm really struggling to tell him, we're both so shy it's almost impossible to make any contact!
Someone please help me, I have no idea what to do or say, I just really want to build our relationship stronger and even be able to go back out!
I can't talk about my feelings for him to my friends or family as I'm too embarrassed so I'm hoping for some advice on here, thanks! X
So if you get over him...(which is one option)
Reach the \"I just want my beloved to be happy\" stage. If other girls make him happy, you\'ll just have to accept it.
Try not to stalk him on facebook. Or if it makes you feel better, talk to him about his life. DONT PRY DONT STALK DONT BE CREEPY be natural. Don\'t force secrets out of him- give him advice, that way you\'ll become friends again.
If you want to get back together with him (another option) start a clean slate. Learn to flirt, entrance him into thinking about you that way again... but also in a new light:
LEARN SOMETHING NEW! Get a new skill- get a party trick, learn Beyoncé\'s single ladies dance off by heart or something- Something that will awe new guys into your life (making this boy look up again and wonder if he made a mistake. But don\'t lead these new guys on, that\'s cruel)
GET A MAKEOVER. Like a drastic one- dye your hair (Semi permanently, cus permanent is horrendously bad, and don\'t go some chavvy colour, youre 14. Look au natural)
Get new wardrobe, new makeup styles and nail varnish.
Try to deal with your shyness- dare yourself to be a little more forward, a little more confident.
When the time is right, you can make the first move again and get the boy back.
Good luck!
My boyfriend keeps touching me all the time and its whenever his ex is around. I feel like he is trying to make her jealous and he doesn't really like me. He keeps asking for me to send naked pictures of myself to him and he's also been asking for blow-jobs and I've never given a blow-job to anyone . I'm really scared he's just using me what should I do.
Confront him with this-
Say you\'re not ready for that yet. Tell him what you\'ve just told us.
If he sticks around a while, he genuinely likes you. If he decides not to date you because of this then he probably was just using you and wasn\'t worth it anyway.
Where is Island of Gozo?
Next to the island of Malta, in the Mediterranean sea, between Italy, Sicilia, and Tunisia.
If a guy stares at me here and there and smiles at me sometimes and makes some conversation with me does that mean he likes me?
Possibly, but does he do it ALL the time. Do your friends notice? If your friends notice, you're not just building it up in your mind.
Watch his body language. Is he flirting? Guys are said to push their chest out, stretch more and be turned towards you if they are flirting.
Watch his feet. Feet are the part of the body people forget to control, and its believed that they will be facing in the direction of something that person wants.
Search the internet! There are thousands of websites with the general facts to help you.
So, this guy and I have been talking for quite a while. In the beginning, when we first established that we both had feelings for one another, things were great. There was effort from both sides of the relationship. Then somehow, a fight made its way into our relationship and even though we have made up, it doesn't feel the same anymore. He's recently gotten a new job which requires him to work late hours, so he's not really available to talk during the day, but at night he usually is up. Anyway, I feel like he doesn't put much effort like he used to any more and it makes me feel bad and angry at the same time. While he fought, he told me that it never seemed like I cared enough and that he won't try as much because he doesn't want to get hurt. But even though we have decided to start over, I still feel like he doesn't make much of an effort anymore. And I'm really insecure about it. I always over think situations and I constantly feel like he's ignoring me on purpose. For someone who used to call me every day and text me all the time, to once a week calls or barely any replies to texts, I feel like something is definitely missing. I dont want to bring it up and come across as needy given that he's busy nowadays, but I feel neglected nonetheless. He's always hanging with his friends in his spare time, and honestly, its hard for me to go see him when he does have time. Why do I feel this way? I feel like he's not making any active effort and he just talks to me just to keep in contact. Sometimes he will go days without contact at all and it makes me feel bad. I'm trying my best to make an effort more than the first time around so he can't complain I never cared. But I feel like he's just not trying to meet me halfway. What do I do? I'm so tired of feeling this way. I feel like he has the upper hand in the relationship and none of us should be feeling like that at all...
Right, do not text or message or call him anymore. If he wants to actually sit down and have a proper conversation because he likes you, he will do that. You gotta give him space and time to miss you. If not, then never mind. He was just not that into you.
If you feel you're quite close to him, tell him all of this (but maybe sum it up into one sentence), and see what he says. Is he sorry? Does he care?
Usually men will only want to talk everyday at the start of a relationship... they'll get comfortable enough not to keep on talking.
The worst possible thing is to worry and panic, because that comes across as desperate. Just do what he's doing. Have fun going out with your friends, and as long as you're not looking for it, a new, better guy might even come your way :)
I'm a 14 year old girl in 9th grade, whenever I like a boy or if I don't know them well I get really nervous, my hands just shake and I can't control it and I stutter when I talk to him! I've found it's with every boy I like and not just ones that are shy too. It's always really awkward, even on FaceTime or Skype and I just can't think of things to say!
Someone please help me!
Wow, never heard of this before.
Well, what do you want to know about him? Everyone, when given the chance, is good talking about themselves. Ask him a question, that will lead to a long, open ended answer. Not a yes/no thing. Ask him about his family... holidays or whatever. His response might remind you of something funny or whatever that happened to you and then just tell him! Just tell him what you're thinking (of course, filter, FILTER) and that's how a basic conversation works. Of course, you know that. The only way to get over this is to talk to lots of boys, and the one you like. Just put your hands in your pockets or behind your back. Don't think about them. Relax, immerse yourself in casual conversation and once you've done it, you'll be able to do it again.
I made out with this guy at a party and he has a girlfriend. I do feel terrible about it but it happened and I can't take it back. However, the next day, my roommate was talking to his roommate and he told her that the guy I made out with always tell his girlfriend when he cheats but he didn't tell his girlfriend about me. He told his roommate that he doesn't want his girlfriend to know. That would make me believe that he regret it happening and that's why he didn't tell her but his roommate said every morning after, he always says he regrets what happened and he wishes he could take it back but the morning after we were together, he didn't say that and we continued on being normal friends and we went to the diner together to get food after we woke up and it was all good.
I'm just confused and wondering if somebody could give me insight as to why he always tells his girlfriend when he cheats but why he didn't tell her about me.
19/f
Thanks
Do you know his girlfriend?
Maybe he wont tell her because she knows who you are and things could get sticky...
Or perhaps he hasn't told her yet.
Were you drunk when you made out with him? I'd consider that being slightly better than cheating sober.
But don't worry too much. These things happen and there may be a bit of drama but somehow you'll all move on from it.
It seems to be this guy cheats a lot, so its more or less his girlfriends problem (why is she still with him?!) Perhaps he's cheated so much he doesn't want his girlfriend to know he's done it AGAIN. Maybe she's very angry with him now~ just continue being friends, but try not to do anything with him again.
Ask him out
go for it
Hi
I have feelings for one of my guy friends. We are 21, I have known him for about a year and there has always been sexual tension between us. We would always talk and we always saw each other because he works at the gym I go to.
About 4 months ago he started seeing a girl, and recently I realised that I have feelings for him. He is VERY flirty towards me and he asks to hang out but then he bails last minute.
Last week i was out and saw him, we were all drunk and he kissed me on the lips just a peck. Then a bit later he sat down with me and was cuddling me on his lap and stroking my leg and I tried to kiss him but he wouldn't kiss me back he just kind of kept his face straight. Sooo then I tried again but the same thing happened. I brushed it off and we walked back and the next day I said sorry I was really fucked but he pretended like nothing happened and said all we did was cuddle.
I don't understand we talk ALOT but I always start the conversations. But the way we talk seems like he is interested. Should I just change gyms so i can get over him or is that weak?
Eyeee eyyeee yeeey this is very confusing.
I'd ignore the kissing thing, as that's not strong evidence for either way.
The fact that he's seeing a girl and always bails may suggest he's on to you, and not interested.
He may be trying to stay friends, and brush you off gently by cuddling and such. Don't change gyms, don't get over him quite yet-
You can always try a different approach to make him interested. Don't start ALL the conversations, don t be desperate for his attention etc. If he's interested, he'll naturally chase you. If not, he wont.
Simply keep calm and carry on. If it continues to no avail, you may want to try moving on. But he seems nice- so try not to lose friendship, because that would be sad!
Ok,I know what your thinking you just tell him how you feel, but it doesn't work. I have told him like ten times that I don't feel the same way but he keeps insisting and bugging me trying to win me over. He is a real jerk and a big player. While he has been trying to get me to go out with him over the past four months he has had fourteen other girl friends including one of my best friends!! how do I get him to leave me alone?!?!?!
Oh tricky, a persistant player eh?
Just totally ignore him then. RUN AWAY! If you've let him down easy, told him over and over again, theres nothing more you can do, other than just block him out entirely. Its mean, but he should get the message! Its a game of stubbornness- either you'll give up or he will.
Ok so this is a really hard one. I am in 8th grade. I was recently cast as the leading female role in our school musical. We triple casted so there were 3 main girls and 3 main guys. I was with guy 2 and 3 because I did two performances. There was a kissing scene but my director gave us a choice. The guys pestered is about it for days because they wanted to kiss us. (The girls were all in 8th, boys all in 7th). We all stood our ground with a no. The first performance was with guy 3. We messed up a lot and only hugged because he is a creep. Over practice time I had begun to like guy 2. I had a performance with him in front of the 7th grade. All of the sudden right before that show everyone wanted me to kiss him. In my heart I realized I wanted to kiss him (during the show there was a song like this). So during the song where we kissed. We both nodded to each other and we kissed. Everyone in the auditorium freaked out because out of 7 performances, this was the last and the only any one had kissed. May I remind you that this is the guy that everyone likes. It was not the best kiss but it worked. Two days later. Now. Everyone is talking about it. I am a mystery girl to most because I didn't wear my glasses during the performance. I kinda like him. No. I like him. And I kissed him. The entire performance was perfect between us. Fellow cast members said us playing those roles together were the best combo. But the dance is in two days. He is going with my friend. This was decided by him before all this. I am sure I doesn't like me. I realized I liked him when I realized I was jealous. He has ignored me and I have ignored him since. What do I do?
Before I give you an answer can I just say woah, you should write that down its like a dramatic plot for a chick flick/manga/fairy-tale! And thanks for coming to me~
Okay, so you like him? Its good that you kissed him and for future reference, please, kiss the guys on stage. Yes it may not feel right, but you get used to it and its the professional thing to do- especially if you get an audience response like that. Actually fancying the guy you're working with is a lucky bonus! What play were you doing?
AnyHoo, So you like him, and you had this perfect kiss? Well, don't worry about the fact that he's going with your friend to this dance- don't interrupt that, it;d just be mean. Go with someone else for now, because in the long run it doesn't matter. But for the rest of the time...You have two options.
OPTION 1) (Difficult but most recommended) Play "Hard to get". This means stop ignoring him! Start by those little conversations. Texting- be a friend! Smile in the corridors. Its Flirting, (read those teen magazines. Its cringy but it works), flirting, hinting that you like him but leaving him to guess whether you really do or not. One minute you're hot, the next, cold. Look pretty and don't act at all bitchy though. Keep him interested in you and the wondering will keep him thinking about you and eventually liking you back. Welcome to teenagehood- the time to practice the dating game!
Option 2)Be his friend, and build up to a confession. Tell him all you've said here about your feelings for him- I mean, what have you got to lose really? Or if you want, get a friend to "accidentally" spill your secret crush. Trust me, whether he already likes you or not, just knowing exactly which cute girl has a crush on him will get him thinking about her! He may even feel jealous of anyone you dance with- "Wait a minute, why is she with him when she's into me?" etc. etc.
If it doesn't work, have no shame! you're an actress- BE CONFIDENT. If he really doesn't go for you don't worry. Pick yourself up and dust off. His loss. At 8th grade there really is a future of surely much hotter guys falling at your feet ahead xD... sorry for the essay! Hope it helps.
My boyfriend won't touch my boobs I know he wants to but how do I get him to touch them!
Hug... and take his hand. You shall be his guide~
(f,16)
So technically i fell in love with a guy who is one year younger than me, but he like hangs out with my friends and he is very mature for his age thou. I love him. We have been dating for 2 months and i knew i could trust him with literally my life. Like we were getting to the point where it got INTIMATE in our relationship.So,I told him that I USE to smoke ciggerates, cause apparently he smocked weed. But i was wrong... he didn't and i eventually ended up telling him my secret which he seemed cool knowing about. After like a day thou, we were alone together, he told me that he couldn't do it anymore and he wanted out of our relationship because i USE TO SMOKE! and let me Emphasis on the word USE. AS IN LIKE A YEAR AGO! HAVEN'T GONE BACK TO IT SINCE. I've even like explained that to him but he wont listen, he keeps saying hes sorry and everything like that.. i've been crying and throwing up for the past 4 days and i cant even stand to see my now ex boyfriend. How do i stop thinking about him, i think i've tried everything..
Sincerely,
Nobody :'(
This sounds like particularly bad break up!
But you'll get over it, I promise. Youre young, youre 16 and there will be plenty of other wonderful guys out there in the future. I get the feeling it may not have been the smoking that was his problem- but if that really was it, then he's not worth your time! seriously! SMOKING A YEAR AGO? THATS the deal-breaker?! What a pussy.
Here's what to do:
First take a moment to calm yourself. If this is how you are after 2 months, whats going to happen when you get into that first fight with the boy of your dreams after 6 months?! YOU'LL BE A MESS!!! xD So breathe. Relax. You can do this.
Don't go see him- don't let him know you're upset. Don't talk to him. If he wants to talk to you, and theres a possibility of getting him back, don't be desperate. "Be mean and keep 'em keen."
Get a hobby- paint, play sports, read books- anything to focus your mind elsewhere. (Don't watch romance movies, and take a special "me" day for valentines day. Or hit the clubs. idk)
You could invite a few girlfriends round for a sleepover to cheer you up and do the cliché breakup thing- ice cream, bad films etc etc. Take your time~
Look at things a little optimistically-breakups are a sweet sorrow in life- but at least you're going through one. Some people don't get the chance! Come back to your friends, all made over, badass and over it. I get the feeling somehow, it'll be his problem more than it'll be yours. ;)
AIM: make everyone say to him: "Daymn you broke up with her? uhmmm... WHY??! IDIOT lol!