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why do i feel this way
So, this guy and I have been talking for quite a while. In the beginning, when we first established that we both had feelings for one another, things were great. There was effort from both sides of the relationship. Then somehow, a fight made its way into our relationship and even though we have made up, it doesn't feel the same anymore. He's recently gotten a new job which requires him to work late hours, so he's not really available to talk during the day, but at night he usually is up. Anyway, I feel like he doesn't put much effort like he used to any more and it makes me feel bad and angry at the same time. While he fought, he told me that it never seemed like I cared enough and that he won't try as much because he doesn't want to get hurt. But even though we have decided to start over, I still feel like he doesn't make much of an effort anymore. And I'm really insecure about it. I always over think situations and I constantly feel like he's ignoring me on purpose. For someone who used to call me every day and text me all the time, to once a week calls or barely any replies to texts, I feel like something is definitely missing. I dont want to bring it up and come across as needy given that he's busy nowadays, but I feel neglected nonetheless. He's always hanging with his friends in his spare time, and honestly, its hard for me to go see him when he does have time. Why do I feel this way? I feel like he's not making any active effort and he just talks to me just to keep in contact. Sometimes he will go days without contact at all and it makes me feel bad. I'm trying my best to make an effort more than the first time around so he can't complain I never cared. But I feel like he's just not trying to meet me halfway. What do I do? I'm so tired of feeling this way. I feel like he has the upper hand in the relationship and none of us should be feeling like that at all...
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Right, do not text or message or call him anymore. If he wants to actually sit down and have a proper conversation because he likes you, he will do that. You gotta give him space and time to miss you. If not, then never mind. He was just not that into you.
If you feel you're quite close to him, tell him all of this (but maybe sum it up into one sentence), and see what he says. Is he sorry? Does he care?
Usually men will only want to talk everyday at the start of a relationship... they'll get comfortable enough not to keep on talking.
The worst possible thing is to worry and panic, because that comes across as desperate. Just do what he's doing. Have fun going out with your friends, and as long as you're not looking for it, a new, better guy might even come your way :)
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