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Hey! Im Nicole. This is my second advice column. I really ♥ to give advice. I am rated pretty high here too, even though ive only answered about 260 questions. I have pretty much answered every type of question && i can certainly give you some advice. It may not always be what you want to hear, but i'll give you wat you need to hear. Also if your having trouble with finding something on the net, i am really good at that! haha. well please feel free to ask me anything! id be really glad to help you!

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15/F Alright, so I have been dating this guy, ryan, for about 6 months. I can honestly say that I LOVE him. Bu, lately he has been acting distant, strange. I was talking to a girl online and as soon as he found out I was talking to her he made me stop. It's just weird. And This may be a little TMI but the last time we were doing "things" He just stopped and said, "I can't do this." He's never done rhis before, What do you guys think, and any advice on how i may be able to figure out if he is?

It really sounds like he's cheating. You don't want to accuse him without any proof or anything, but try to find out more about this. Maybe you should find out from that girl. If he said that, he is probably cheating & feels a little guilty.
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Okay, so I like this guy alot. And I heard he likes me too (he told my friend that i was hot and sent me 6 messages asking me who i liked), so I called him the other day and his sister picked up. So I asked if he was home and she said to me, "He's in the shower. And I dont mean to sound rude but he's not supposed to have girls calling him and he really doesnt like you that way." I got so upset I just said "Okay, I'm sorry, I didnt know." and hung up. Then I just felt sad for a long time. But I still really like this guy! And I dont know if his sister was lying or not. The only thing is if he's not supposed to have girls calling he's probably not supposed to have a girlfriend either. So what should I do in this situation?

Thank you.. I'll rate as high as I can.

This kind of happened to me before. The guy i liked sister pretty much hated me. It was really weird. She said similar stuff like that but it wasn't true. She probably just made it up to get to you. I'd probably ask him. Say: "Your sister said that you weren't allowed to have girls call & that you weren't interested in me, is that true?" It probably takes a lot of guts to ask that, but its a good way to find out. Don't listen to sisters, they can be over protective. And don't let that hurt your feelings too much. If she knows who you are, it means he's been talking about you. Probably in a good way. :]

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Ok, I have no idea what to say when people ask me out and I don't like them. Everytime I end up saying something nice and i guess I kind of lead them on, but I don't mean to, I just don't want to be mean. So what can I say when I don't want to go out with them?

THANKS =)

Just tell them that your really sorry but you just dont feel the same way. I'm sure they will feel bad at first but they will understand. Just dont lie to them. But dont be too mean, theres no need to make someone feel bad. Just tell them that you'd just rather be friends. And your not interested in going out. It should work fine. =]

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Ok, well, this is sort of just asking guys, but girls, if you have a cute idea, i would love to hear it.

christmas...oh man. this is going to be like, the first time ive had a boyfriend on christmas, and i was thinking about doing "build-a-bear" for him, and get him a card. is that too...not good enough? should i get him something more "manlier"? lol. total it would be about $35/40 but im not worried about price. is this a good idea? would a guy actually like it? (guys thats where you come in ;])
if not, what are some good ideas?

if it matters at all, he is 16, and at the time of christmas, we will have only been going out for a little over 5 months.

thanks in advanced, ill rate good answers ♥

i dont know, cuz i'm not a guy. but i sort of think thats childish. i dont know too many guys who would want a build-a-bear. maybe you should do movies and then dinner and buy him or make him something else.

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I love my girlfriend she means every thing to me and who would i no if she feels the same about me some 1 plz help me out

Tell her how you feel and if she tells you how she feels, then you'll know! sometimes people have trouble saying their feelings and stuff. but just try to talk to her about it.

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13/m
There is this girl at school that I have a crush on and I tend to always offer her a seat in my 7th period class {study support} and I offer to help her with math and social studys. I am always talking to her and commenting her.
Am I flirting?

Yeah i think you are.

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alright i'm 14 and i really like this guy (lets call him joe) and he's 16..i've been hanging out with him ALOT this summer with him, his friend (he's 16 too lets call him matt), and my friend (she's 14 lets call her mary) and we've been hanging out at mary's and matt gives us rides all over and me and joe always have our arms around eachother and i guess we flirt alot and matt and mary, and mary's younger sister always try to hook us up like "are you 2 going out yet" or "you 2 look so cute" (when he's got his arm around me of something) or something like that..and neither of us say anything..and like i'm always sitting on his lap and he's the funniest guy ever and stuff..and i don't know if he likes me..but mary says she thinks he does..but i don't know cause of the ages..i mean so what if we're 2 years apart..but he's like really hot and stuff so i don't know why he wouldn't like girls his age and stuff..lol but from this..would you think he likes me?

I think he likes you. But maybe you should ask him or something? Because if he does all that, it seems to me like he does like you. But you'll never know if you dont ask him.

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I was just talking to my boyfriend about how he makes me feel; wonderful, amazing, incredible, and how I wanted to make him feel that way too. Well, I got something I totally didn't expect. He told me sometimes I make him feel unwanted. I never knew this. My heart is in my stomach. I'm getting chills every other second. What do I do? How can I make him feel more wanted?

Well obviously you dont mean to make him feel this way. I think you should probably ask him how you make him feel unwanted. Maybe he will explain to you & you can try to fix it. Atleast you let him know how much he means to you. But i guess actions speak louder than words. Atleast he was honest to you about it. Now all you have to do is make him feel more wanted. Talk to him on the phone more, hang out with him a lot, and spend time with just him and you. And when you are in groups, pay attention to him a lot. I dont know what else you can do. He is probably just making a big deal of nothing about it. I know a guy who does somewhat of the same thing. Even though he is wanted, he says he isnt. So it could be the same sort of thing. Just try to express your feelings for him, in more than just words.

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how do you get a guy's attention? I'm also really shy .. so any tips on not being.....so shy? haha. Thanks much!

Well i found some sites for you that may help. check them out.

*http://www.shynesshelp.com/

*http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/shyness/index.asp

*http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/downloads/self_improvement/article/get-over-shyness.html

*http://www.adulthoodwonderful.com/Flirting/keys_to_flirting.htm

*http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/Tips.HTM

oh and your not alone. a lot of people are shy like you, check this out.

http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/shypeople.htm

well all these sites pretty much tell you everything. good luck. just try to act confident. and its not a bad thing if you let the person know you are shy.

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i'm going with this boy who is the hottest boy in school. he could get any girl he wanted with the snap of his fingers. but he chose me, which is hardly believable. he gave up fooling around with every girl he wants to with no strings attached, to have a relationship with me. how can i make him see he made the right choice, and that girls aren't just objects, and they need to be respected?

Talk to him. Tell him that you are really happy your with him. Ask him why he chose you. And show him a good time. Make him be happy that he did chose you.

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Okay. I've gone out with this boy 3 times. We've been broken up for about 4 months but I still love him very much. I told him I liked him still and he told me that he liked me too. We'll talk online a lot but the weird thing is that once in awhile, he won't IM me. Almost like he doesn't want to talk to me. When we do talk though, he'll say that we need to hang out and he actually talks to me and we get into a conversation. He asked me out on Thursday but I said no because I just couldn't figure out what was going on and I'd rather have him ask me out on the phone or something and not online. So basically my question is..does he like me or not? What exactly is goin on?? I'll rate 5's for good answers and 1's for smartass ones. THANKS!

I think he likes you. Some guys just dont IM the girls first. Thats just the way it is. It doesnt mean he doesn't like you. If he asked you out, he is obviously interested.

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i want to get my boyfriend something for his birthday.my problem is that he says he doesnt want anything..so what do i do?

hes turning 15

You could make him a really cute card. Find out from his friends what he likes. And you should have an idea of what he likes. Also you could make his birthday be really special and go to dinner with him and stuff. That would be cute, if you set it all up and stuff.

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hey im 13 and my girlfriend is 19 and we do everything together..go to the movies, mall, make out, and more! the only problem is that i think she might be seeing someone else...whenever she picks me up to go somewhere shes always late..what should i do?

-lover boy

Well that may be the case because you are a lot younger than her. I think the best and only solution is to talk to her about it. Ask her why she is always late and see if she lies about it. You might want to just break up with her if you even think this is happening.

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Ok, 13/m, Im out of town, my girlfriends birthday was four days ago and I dont get home for 3 more days... we havent been going out for long, but i still want to get her sumthin nice that says i love her and that im sorry i missed her birthday... any ideas?? thanks

Flowers, chocolate, balloons and a card.

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Hey. I hugged another guy. I have a boyfriend (of over a year a 6months) and my boyfriend who I love soo much got mad, and he doesnt trust me.

what should I do? we are still together, but things are shaky. I know he still loves me coz he told me he did, when he came over to my house to hear the whole story. So that has to mean something.

What are some sweet things I can do?

BTW i have no idea why I hugged the other guy! I wouldn't ever date him! crazy! When I hugged him, I got the worst feeling in the world, it didnt feel good. I got a stumach ache, and wanted to run away. And I felt like I was gonna puke. It was @ work. and after I hugged him, because I felt so bad I ran out of there!

-thanks a million!

I'll rate and leave feedback!

-Kelsee-

Umm okay, hugging another guy is not cheating. Kissing and things like that are, but hugging isnt. Tell him it didnt mean anything and it was only a hug. He shouldn't get POed about that. You can get him a card or something saying your sorry. That's all i can think of. It really isnt a big deal.

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this isn't really a ? but a survey for guys. what do guys like best in a girl
looks
blonde or brunette?
color eyes?
height?
skinny or average weight?
populararity or just a nice average girl?
i'll give everyone who answers everything a 5.

thanks Kate

Okay, i asked my guy friend too! lol. so heres what he said.

-brunette mostly, but blonde is fine too.
-doesnt matter as long as they dont have red eyes, lol
-as tall, or shorter than the guy is
-skinny or average, it doesnt really matter
-and both popular or average is fine

sorry he wasnt all that persise, but i hope it helped you. all guys look for different things.

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what are some good songs to let people know how muhc you love them and miss being with them. please help me! i really need some good songs to express how i feel. thanks much!

Vanessa Carlton - a thousand miles

thats all i can think of right now sorry.

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okay so tomorow im going to this girls house, we have liked eachother for 3 yrs and are going out, i am gonna get there at like early in the morning while she is still asleep, i was going to make her breakfast in bed but she doesnt realy eat breakfast cuz she has a weak stomach. I really want to do something sweet so she wakes up to a wonderful surprise and realizes how much i care about her, any great suggestions would be nice...thank you!

Hey, well what i think you should do is like leave her a note with a poem or something, and leave flowers and stuff leading her to like something she likes. Buy her a little something and leave it at the end of the trail of flowers. And then give her a hug & a kiss! i think that would be super nice! =) well good luck.

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I know you don't want to listen to me whine but really, I have noone to talk to. My boyfriend just dumped me in the rudest way. He made up this horrible excuse that his parents were mad at him and he wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend. He never even told me he was breaking up. Right after that, he put his away message up that said "Oh the phone with the hottest girl ever-Shea!" (Shea is a slut and really easy by the way) Then I imed him to tell him how much he hurt me. And he said, "Yeah whatever, like you would know what pain was. Who cares about you."

I can't stop crying. Is there something wrong with me? He blocked me so anyone who wants his screenname, its: pyroboy9977.

I can't believe this. :(

He might just be doing this to make you jealous. Or maybe she told him to, or something like that. Probably not, but anyways... he's a jerk. Don't waste your time on him. He's def not worth your tears. Move on, and make HIM jealous! haha, oh and next time you see him, if i were you i'd slap him. haha, well hope you feel better about this soon. need any more advice, or if you need someone to talk to, leave on in my inbox.

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I just got my braces a few days ago and I was wondering if I could make out with another boy with braces? Would that make the wires attach to each other? HELP MEEE!

There is always a chance that could happen. But honestly there is MANY people with braces who kiss people, and i dont think its much of a problem.

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