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I am a fourteen-year-old freshman female.
So, the thing is that I'm random. I'm thinking that because of that, boys choose to avoid being in a relatioship with me.
For an example of my randomness: I will be the kind of girl who skips down the hallway singing, "If You're Happy and You Know It". I would say, "The stick people are here to conqure the world and kill us all!" randomly in class.
As for the boys, I do believe that they flirt with me a lot because, for example: They insult me in a playful manner, try to take stuff of mine, etc. However, they NEVER go any farther than that. Most of the time they go out with one of my friends or other classmates.
Now, I generally can't help the randomness for the sake of my santiy, and I've tried to calm myself down, but it generally doesn't happen. So we know that me changeing for a boy is out of the question.
So, forgive me for making the question seem so long, what exactly is going on? How could I fix it? Will it be like this for a while?
I would greatly appreciate it if you give detailed (As detailed as possible) advice.
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It might go on for a while, but then again your fourteen. You have your whole life ahead of you. You'll get a boyfriend, just be patient. Anyway at you age having a boyfriend is never really that serious, and almost always never lasts, so don't stress. You not missing out on much.
And as for you random personality I wouldn't worry about that either. Don't try to change for anyone, you'll find someone who like you, for you. My brother for example will only go out with girls that are random. He loves the crazy ones :P He says they are way more interesting and fun. There's someone out there for everyone, and that means you too :)
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im 15/f
ive been with my bf for several months now. hes fingered me ect and were pretty active (still virgin)
so i was wondering if there is any fun games we could play.
or any naughty questions i could ask him
????
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Your FIFTEEN and already wanting to 'spice it up'?!?
Wow...really?
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My boyfriend and I are sexually active. The sex is alright, but I noticed he has never gone down on me, although I frequently go down on him. So today I called him out on it, "I said do you not go down on girls?" He said that he didn't, its something that girls should do, but for a guy to do that for a girl is not acceptable.
This is the only way I can get off, but I don't think he really cares. How do I get him to stop being selfish in bed? (link)
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"its something that girls should do, but for a guy to do that for a girl is not acceptable" wtf?!
He sounds like a douche.
What you should do is go down on him...and in the middle of doing it bite it off?
Just a suggestion.
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So i was with my boyfriend the other day..and the topic came up, and he basically said that he thinks vaginas are unattractive. I thought guys liked...looking at that? I mean he didn't mean specifically mine, he just meant in general. I was kind of offended and now I'm really self conscious about it. Is that normal for a guy to say he doesnt like the way they look or whatever? (and no he isnt gay). Guys opinions would be good. Can anyone give me some insight please??
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Dude. Genitalia in general is ugly. Or alien. Or whatever.
Breasts are way better looking than vagina's ever will be. (seriously, think about it, strippers don't wear tops, but they wear panties. Why? Vagina's...are...kinda weird.)
Its even more weird for guys because they don't have a vagina, so it's even more foreign.
It's pretty normal for a guy not to like they way they look, but it's all the fun you can have with them that makes them so damn attractive ;) haha
There is no need to feel self conscious or offended or anything.
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Hi!
I know that dreams can be really random and now one can tell for sure what they mean but I would like to have some of your thoughts on a reoccurring dream I have.
I have been dating a girl for about half a year, and now we are doing a long distance thing. I will see her in a few months though. I'm happy being with her but we have been apart now for about a month.
Over the past few weeks it's been odd because I've had 4 or 5 different romantic and sexual dreams about being with various girls I have never even met. I'm a 22 year old guy so I bet it's relatively normal but I just think it's odd that I have never had a sexual dream about my girlfriend even though we are active. When I wake up I always feel bad after these dreams cause they're so realistic I feel like I'm cheating on her! I don't even remember in the dreams that I have a girlfriend it's after I wake up that I feel like I cheated. I haven't told her about it of course. How would you interpret the dreams? Is it maybe a message of some kind?
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This probably won't help you but I'll say it anyway.
I think you need to remind yourself that they're just dreams. There's no point feeling guilty over something you can't control. I probably wouldn't look to much into either, because the more you look into it the more you try to justify why your having them.
Who cares. They're just dreams. I have had sexual dreams about pretty much everyone I've met but funnily enough my boyfriend wasn't one of them. I've told him about them too, but he doesn't care, because I don't care and life goes on.
Are you happy with your gf? Yes? Then you don't need to find a message in your dreams because chances are there isn't one.
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There's this girl who lives near my house. She's four years older than me and im 20.Our families know each other for a very long time. At first my elder brother wanted to be with her but that didn't work out because of the family issues and now he's married.
From last month we started textin each other. I made a total independent impression and she and i became somewhat close to each other. I felt like she had feelings for me and so did i.
we usually chat during the night.we didn't chat for two nights, for me it was like normal to give a break to increase curiosity. But now when i chat she's different. She doesn't take that much interest and her responses seem artificial.
I dont know what i did wrong. And i also know that she's not seeing anyone else.......i just want her to be like she was before.......ANY IDEAS WHAT IS IT ALL ABOUT???? (link)
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If your pretty sure she does have feelings for you then it sounds like she may be talking a step back, to evaluate things.
Your four years younger then her, which for some girls is a bit too much of an age difference, especially when the guys the younger one (I say that from experience) also your elder brother had feelings for her too which will probably make her feel as though she shouldn't like you. If you really like her, you'll have to convince her it's ok.
All this being said if you talk to her about it she probably would appreciate it. Even if you say something like, "Hey are you ok? You've been acting kinda different lately and I care about you and wanted to make sure you were alright." Or something along those lines. She'll appreciate it.
Good Luck!
I hope that helped!!!
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I started talking too a guy, A, about 8 months ago. He lives in another state then I do, but we've been making it work. He's a little bit closed off, just like I am, but there's something about him I just can't give up. He's in the same career I am, and that's music. He's very sweet and not normally my type. Though he tours all the time, I still get to see him when I can. We have a connection I've never felt before. I'm crazy about this guy.
But then about 4 months ago, I met this guy, B, through friends and he's been amazing. We spend so much time together. He's the same age as A, has the same career as I do, but doesn't really tour. He lives near by me. He's going to school and doing music. He's got a good head on his shoulders and has a back up plan in life.
Both of these guys are the same age. Have the same career, although A is more successful then B is. And I'm crazy about both of them. I know that I can make it work, long distance with A, but I don't know if I should just stay with B. I feel like B is the safe bet, and A is a risk. But it's a game between my heart and my head and I don't want to feel like I settled for anyone. I need serious help with this. I want to choose because I feel terrible seeing both of them.
Please give me your input.
-Anndie (link)
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Go with the one you love the most.
Who knows, it might not work out, but there is absolutely no point in settling just because someone may be a safer bet for you.
Later on in life you will always regret the boy you loved but didn't chase because you were too afraid it might not work out. So go for boy A. It sounds like you love him more.
Hope that helped :)
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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Wow. It always sucks when someone you hold close is lying to you. And to be honest, its just not on.
This is a hard one, because it sounds like he's not going to admit to you what he did, even though you know.
The only thing I can suggest is that you tell him everything. Talk it out. Tell him you've seen it, how it makes you feel, how you don't think its appropriate.If he has problems you both should be working them out together, not him posting them for the world to see. If he doesn't listen or just denies it more it's probably better to get rid of him. Its not fair that he makes a facebook group out of your intimate and private relationship. And you shouldn't have to deal with that. Period.
It sucks, but I hope in someway that helped you.
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So i am 18 years old i liked this guy i worked with since the first time i saw him. We flirted a lot and he made it known he was in to me. I soon found out he was married and had two kids. He took it to the next level and gave me his number but was casual about it. I knew where it was going. We texted a lot and he told me everything a girl would want to hear. he seemed so sincere. I truly believed him. He wont respond to my text or calls. What do i do? I think i love him. I told him once that i didnt want to talk anymore but then told him i didnt mean that. do you think he may be sincerly hurt by the things i said or does he just care? Please give me advice. (link)
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I see no future in this relationship to be honest :(
Your whole relationship is based on a lie so don't expect him not to lie to you when he wants to jump ship to another girl. I think you should break it off, and not make contact with him. He is married with two kids and you'll be hurting them all if you become between them. It sounds like he'll say anything to make you like him but it is all just words!
Your eighteen! You have so much life to live! Seriously, there is someone out there way better for you then him hun.
Hope that helped.
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Hey.. I'm just wondering what girls would think about this. I have an odd but harmless fetish but I'm terrified to tell my gf or anyone else. The fetish is called WAM, I like to see girls who are dressed up wearing nice clothes with makeup/hair done nicely get messy, like with pies, cake batter, chocolate, nickelodeon-style green slime, etc. All fully clothed, I hate when it is mixed with nudity although some other people like it that way. What would you think if your bf told you that? Would you do it with him if he would pay for new clothes or for your clothes to be cleaned?
Thanks, hopefully you don't think I'm totally crazy. Believe me otherwise I'm a normal guy.
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Haha no way is that crazy!
Actually to be honest it sounds kinda cute (really fun) and I would definitely be in for it.
Granted it's not exactly something you tell a girl you just meet, but if your girlfriend and you have been going out for a while I don't see why she wouldn't do it.
I'd go for it. It's not weird at all. :D
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Soooo... one of my really good friends is a girl, she's a year younger. (I'm seventeen, she's sixteen). Well since she's younger, and a really good friend, I'm kinda protective of her. She's pretty much like my little sis. Yeah, she's hot but she's also like 5'4/100 lbs... Sooo mix her tiny body with juuust a pinch of alcohol and she's every guy's dream. A hot drunk girl. It really doesn't take much to get her wasted. See, I don't even approve of decent guys for her (what brother does??) but when we got out to parties and stuff and she's wasted and all these d-bags are tryin to get on her, I have to protect her. Which I don't mind too much, but I'm worried about her. That if I'm not there, some guys gonna take advantage of her. I've tried to tell her about this... tell her I'm concerned about her but she WANTS to hook up with guys... And nothing I say can get her to take it easy on the booze and be a little smarter with the boys. She's gonna get her self in trouble! And I just don't knwo what to do... She's my bestfriend but I don't OWN her ya know?? If she wants to get her drink on and hook up, I'm still gonna love her but I'm worried... (link)
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Aww first of all that's really awesome that you look after her!!!
Good on you, your an awesome friend!
The fact is I think she might just need to get this out of her system. She'll realise it's not as great as she thought it was anyway.
All you can really do is keep being an awesome friend and support and comfort her when she makes mistakes. I now that sucks, but its really all you can do without pushing her away
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Movingg on is something I need to do!
One night I was with this other guy, I was smiling, laughing, and I was happy(: But then the radio was on and mine and my exes song came on and I started crying. This guy had no idea why I was crying so he just kept hugging me asking me what's wrong, and I told him I wasn't ready to move on and I'm sorry. So he left. He started dating one of my old friends, and Me? I was stuck on the ex. Me and that girl became friends again because we talked about our problems. Now theyy aren't together anymore but she's in love with him, and I'm finally ready to move on! and I feel like he's the only guy I could move on withh! What should I do? (link)
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If she's still in love with him, to be honest, it's probably not a good idea.
I guess you just have to ask yourself whether being with this guy is worth losing your friend. (Which most probably will happen).
If he is, go for it.
But if he's not, or you simply don't know, maybe you should just wait a bit and see what happens. You don't wanna lose a friend over something your not sure about.
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 6 months. he treats me good, and were like best friends. only problem is, he is not like romantic. Hes never done anything really cute for me... he hardly ever takes me out on dates, and i have to like nag him to like go out to dinner or a movie and he never wants to pay.Besides that though he treats me really good, and its the first guy i can actually trust. He just doesnt know how to be romantic and do cute things for me, and when i try to tell him i need more, he'll ask how or what i want him to buy me, and i dont want to have to tell him, thats rude, his sisters husband says shes the same way, so it must just be the way they were brought up.
I've already told him he is not romantic and i need more, but he just doesnt get it, and its nothing like worth breaking up over but it would really make him so much more perfect. Plus, he hardly says i love you cause he says it was over used in his last relationship, but he still shows he loves me in his actions.
any advice on what i could doo? (link)
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If he's not taking the hint, maybe you should just tell him! The kind of romance your looking for isn't something that comes easy to some guys. So you can either be annoyed that he isn't doing enough cute stuff for you, or you can tell him what you like and make it easier for him to understand.
Also do you do things for him that he really likes or enjoys? Maybe if you do he might be more eager to please you in return. :)
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