My name is Nikita. 19 years of age. i answer all questions. However i answer truthfully so don't take it personal if i say something rude. I've been on this website for 6+ years. I live in Texas. And right now i go to hcc. I love hanging out with my friends, facebooking, pigging out, and going on walks. If you have a question please inbox me :D thanks bye!
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i know its soon but my bf is 18 and valentines days coming up. we didnt get eachother stuff for christmas but i want to just send him something for valentines day. were in a long distance relationship. hes not very open about being affectionate and stuff and i dont think hed be into anything too "cutesy". and i dont really want to go alll out on this just a little something hed appreciate or get a smile out of. what do guys like to get as gifts? hes not at all into clothes or shopping and doesnt have any particular hobbies/things he needs. thanks. (link)
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The best thing to do is to ask him what he would like for valentines. Just say you know valentines is coming up and i was wondering what you want for v day. you know something like that and just see what he says. i hope i helped.
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how can i convince my parents to be okay with the fact that i want to be with a 22 year old? they would not like the idea of it at all im seventeen i dont know how i can convince them to at least be okay with it. i havent said anything about this to them yet. (link)
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I understand how your parents feel. Try to get them to meet your boyfriend and talk with him and get to know and see how he really is like.
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About a year ago my ex lost his mother and then a couple weeks later his brother followed. And soon after that we ended up breaking up. I thought he had moved on because i found out that he was back with his ex girlfriend a month or two after we broke up. I was happy for him because it meant that she could help him cope with everything that had happened to him. We last talked in August and he was really rude so I never again tried to make contact with him until about a week ago he text me and we started talking again it was fine for a couple of days he seemed like his old self until a couple days ago he starts getting really depressed about his mom and brother and I try to talk to him and he shuts me out... But heres the thing he was with his ex for 7 months after his mom died how come he could act so cold towards me but have a real relationship with her? I don't get it.. I want to be there for him but I don't want to get screwed around either.. What should I do? (link)
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I think maybe him and his ex have been together longer maybe and have a closer bond. You should probably leave him alone and not talk to him. He's been through a lot so that's probably why he's like that and maybe because he's not dating you or your ex and he feels alone. So just try and not talk to him and see how it goes. i hope i helped
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18/F
My boyfriend has been very depressed for a while. It's mostly because of the way his parents treat him. They're constantly pressuring him to go into the military (even though he doesn't want to) and they're always calling him a failure, an idiot, dumb, etc.
The other day I talked to his mom about how they can stop pressuring him so much and to stop with the name calling.
Well, last night my boyfriend and his dad got into a physical fight and his parents kicked him out.
What are some things I can do to help my boyfriend feel complete, happy, and worthy?
Thank you! (link)
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Even he's your boyfriend to be honest there isn't much you can do. Though you should report his parents for physical abuse if you think it was bad enough and if they do it often. You can talk to him and your parents and see if they'll take him in. If not then he can live on his own away from all that, find a job, and support himself. i hope i helped and hope everything works out.
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I have posted a couple questions about my husbands and my relationship the thing is the only respone I ever get is to leave him. What i am trying to say is i am scared to or feel that way. its like he does things that make me feel like he cares even though he doesnt work he doesnt help with the kids and he wastes money like i could go pick it off the trees. I feel obligated that i have to stay in this realtionship and that i couldnt just go ahead and kick him out. (link)
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I think you should both go to couple's therapy. The therapist will work with you both to help you solve your issues. good luck, and if your husband doesn't agree to go to therapy with you then you should leave him.
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I am 13 and the guy I like is 13 too. I am a female and he is a male. How do I know if he likes me? We are good friends. I know all his secrets and he knows all mine...we hang out a lot too. Does he like me, or like like me? (link)
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If a guy likes you he'll flirt with you, treat you differently than he does other girls, and if he's bold enough he'll ask you out! i hope i helped.
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22/f
i need advice. i've been with my boyfriend for about 7 years now and hes great and we're really in love and we have plans to marry eventually. the problem is when he gets angry or upset even if its a stupid fight that could have been over with one word, he gets too angry and just opens this whole portal of really hurtful words. i know he doesnt mean it cuz hes angry but at the point it really hurts and it makes want to leave him which i dont want to at all. so how can i get him to stop being mean when hes angry? thanks. (link)
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here's the thing with that you can't make him stop. in other words you can't control what he does. you can talk to him and tell him how you feel, when he says those things, but if it doesn't stop then you need to leave him, because he has no respect for you or himself probably. i hope i helped.
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My ex broke up with me 3 months ago...pretty long story, basically he broke up with me as he had a feeling I was gonna break up with him (true to some extent, I was crazily stressed with work & didn't think it was fair for him to deal with me like that) OK so I realize that was a mistake. any way he's tried staying friends with me but I have refused...all or nothing. I told him I want to get back together but he said he's not sure what to do. he's been saying this for 3 months now!
when we first broke up he didn't do much, but ever since I told him I went to clubs a lot, I've met new guys, he turned crazy and he's honestly out every night! more to the point, after I told him id gone a date with a guy, he started seeing this girl, took her on a date and stuff. thing is he doesn't know I know this (im friends with his friends) I know they text and stuff and it does really hurt because I'm only going on dates, not seeing anyone. any way a week ago he text me saying he loved me still, missed me, can't get over me, but he's still unsure what to do with us. at first I thought maybe he's doing this cos he's finished with this girl, but his friends said he still sees her! why is he still talking to me if he's got this other girl?!? (link)
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I think you need to talk to him yourself, and ask him do you really want to get back together with me because it's been 3 months and your friends told me that your seeing some girl. You really can't believe what his friends tell you, but at the same time you have to protect your heart and make sure he's not playing you. Also you said you were stressed, so you might want to think about if getting back together is a good idea. You can get back together with him if you want to, and find healthy ways to relieve your stress. Just talk to him, let me know how it goes. hope i helped. Nikita
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There is this boy in my life and he is special to me i really care about him and want us to be more than friends. we tell each other everything but there is one problem HIS EX ugh she hangs around him nonstop she cheated on him so he says he doesn't like her but i know she likes him should i be worried? (link)
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You guys aren't dating yet, so i wouldn't be too worried about his ex. talk to him flirt with him and see where it takes you. if he doesn't flirt back then he's not interested and you should move on. i hope i helped.
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heey so there's this guy and lets call him j and i met j in a very weird way... i was at my sister's boyfriend's hockey game and j is on the team and after he asked for my number and i gave it to him. But later that night i heard bad stuff about him that he is a player and hes a jerk to girls buut i didnt really listen to that and i talked to other people and they say hes really nice.
Anyways we started texting and at first i wasnt attracted to him and he was trying really really hard to get me and he complimented me every single text and it growed on me and i started liking him too and one day things were great and then the next day i texted him and he didnt reply and we didnt talk for a week.
So at this point i liked him alot and was really hurt by him not talking to him but i wanted to tell him off, so i texted him and said "thanks for showing me that everyone was right about you" and he replyed and asked what i was talking about and i told him that one day he was all sweet and the next he didnt reply and he told me that he didnt get it and the reason why he didnt text me was because he thought i didnt wanna talk and i told him that i did. I never did tell him i liked him but i told him that i did wanna talk to him and we talked for a fewdays, he was pretty sweet but not at all like he was before we stopped talking. but the one night after he said goodnight he never texted me the next day and i havent talk to him since and its been about a week and a half
So what do you think i should do? should i just leave it? But i really was starting to like him... or should i text him? and if so what should i say?
Thanks sooo much! :)
kaaitlyn (link)
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It seems to me like what other people say about him is true. And let me just say i don't believe what other people tell me about someone else. But this guy sounds like a jerk. You don't need a guy like that. Move on. and find someone who appreciates you.
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how do i get over my crush that i see everyday? he said he doesn't like me but we're still friends. i think it's going to be awkward though. help! thanks. (link)
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hangout with other friends. meet new people. find a hobby to do. anything that'll take your mind off of him. i hope i helped.
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Okay so im 16 bisexual girl
I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. well my question is should I brake up with my girlfriend because one we arent how we use to be before I started dateing this amazing guy. I mean dont get me wrong I love them both but I love him more. plus my girlfriend has a boyfriend that I know has a past and every time i try to to talk to her he either pulls her away or she defends him. she doesnt have a problem with my boyfriend but I have a problem with hers and I cant be with someone who doesnt listen to my advice because im usally right. this guy has cheated and lied he's no good for her I care deeply for her but when she doesnt listen it makes me debate our relationship. I've been with her for 5months he's been with her for a week and he's stealing her from me. what should I do? (link)
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break up with her. she seems to care more about him and since you guys just argue what's the point? if you love that guy then you should go for him! i hope i helped.
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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hey well i am sorry about your boyfriend. I think you need to make clear with him that he shouldn't be posting things on facebook that other people need to know, and hiding it from you. Tell him how you feel and if he continues to do this then you need to break it off with him, because he can't be trusted. I hope i helped. Nikita
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several months back, i was in school and my boyfriend was neglecting me. he'd rarely ever call, always forgot our plans, etc. i didn't want to completely lose him, so i didn't dump him. then a guy that i'd had a crush on a few years back started telling me he liked me and so i decided to hook up with him, bad mistake number 1. we didn't have sex, all we did was make out. but i regretted it as soon as i got home that night and was really sick for the next few days. he'd asked me to hang out again and i blew him off, so he got peeved and started ignoring me and being pretty rude, but i didn't care anymore.
well now its many months later and he started texting me every few days. i don't reply to them. i've realized i'm completely sick of him and i just want him to leave my life completely, but he won't. and i don't want to tell him that cuz i'm afraid he'll get pissed and tell my boyfriend what i did. i don't know what to do! i can't tell my boyfriend, he'll be so hurt. and i really screwed up a couple of months ago and he gave me a second chance, but now if i fuck up again he won't give me anymore chances. i know i probably don't deserve him but i don't want to lose him. we're a lot better now, almost perfect. what the hell do i do? (link)
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i've been a in a similar pickle. you need to tell the boy to stop calling and texting you. and if he continues to do so you need to file a harassment report with the police. And don't delete any texts or missed calls or whatever from him because you'll need it to show to the police.
As for your boyfriend yeah you shouldn't have done what you did, but last time i checked everyone makes mistakes. You should just tell him what happened and tell him you thought it was a mistake. It's not the other guy's job to tell you anyways. I hope i helped.
Nikita
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what are some big (non-obvious) turn ons for guys during sex and stuff? (link)
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kissing their neck
moaning
riding him really fast and then you could grind on him
stuff like that. hope i helped.
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18, male. Me and my girlfriend of 10 months broke up about a month ago. Ever since, i'v been rebounding trying to get over her. Lately i'v been feeling better, and this weekend I had sex with another girl. But tonight I went and hung out with my ex. Things went perfect, and we both clearly miss each other and could without a doubt get back together after prom. Except, like I said, I had sex with someone else. Should I tell her, or just get back with her and live a lie? And if I tell her, how should I do it? =/ Thanks a lot to whoever can help me out here. (link)
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What you do with other people is none her business. Unless you have feelings for that other girl i would just keep it to yourself. If you like you Ex still definitely tell her how you feel. I hope i helped.
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Heyy, So there this guy that I have seen since september and I always think he's soo cute and some of my friends are firends with him . But I'm not good friendss with them so I can't really just go up and start talking to him. So I have a couple options, tell my friend that i think he's cute and to talk to him for me? Or they are on the track team and so are my friends but there not friends with himbut they know that I think he's cute so they think I should go to track and try out so I can talk to them bout track and well be on the same team, but the thing is... I hate running and I am really bad so I would probly embarrass myself? And if you do say the first one .. What do I tell my friend to say to him to seem I interested but not creepy ?
Thanks
Kaaitlyn (link)
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I think you should talk to him yourself. i read somewhere that getting someone else to talk to a guy for you makes you look desperate. & just be yourself don't join the track team just be cause he's on it & you don't like running, you know? If he's in your classes maybe you can start a conversation with him, or get one of your friends to introduce you to him instead of talking to him for you. hope i helped!
Nikita the Cheetah :) ♥
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in few words, im absouluty in love with this girl. i know she loves me as well. but we split up about 3 months ago. she is now with this other guy. she said she love me and this guy is holding her back. i desprately want to be with her. and she is torn between us two. her current Bf stole her from me. he drew her in by his willingness to rush into a physical relationship. i was a bit hesitant because i wanted it to be specail when it actualy happend. so thats realy it. that wasnt nearly as short as i wanted it to be. (link)
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my advice to you is to just move on. She doesn't know what she wants & she's just confusing you. there's a big chance that she might want to be with this guy. but who knows? For now you should just let her be & don't pressure her to do anything with you. It sounds like to me that she wants only a physical relationship with that guy & she'll probably do the same with you.
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i really like this guy and he is really nie but he doesnt or i dont think he knows who i am..and i am not that strong with boys so i dont know how to get him to like me...? (link)
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you should o up to him & start a conversation with him perhaps? or if your too nervous get one of his friends that you know to introduce you to him. & just start talking to him.
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I'm a 26 year old female and I just want someone to please tell me what you think! Ok here goes... About three years ago I meet this guy... And real and kinda soon I fell real fast for him... We became inseprable, and I have a daughter that's five and she grew attached to him as well... My family did to and he and my brother became fast friends... We were so in love... And a year later he broke up with me after a argurment... But instead of telling me it was over he decided to just dodge me... He never even spoke to me or my family members... He wasn't even man enough to come to me and tell me how he felt... And my daughter who grew attached to him was deeply hurt... It really took me about over a year to get over him and to this day I still harbor hate and resentment issues towards him... So about 6 months ago I went to enroll my daughter in school... and to my disappointment his mother works there... So I had to run into her... Even though I didn't feel it I was nice and I spoke to her... And until today I really never held a convo with her... I would just see her around in school... But today I had to actually go to her office to talk to her about my daughter missing school... Because she was sick... And his mom is the school nurse... So we begin talking... And she started bringing up his sister... And how she was doing... And then she brought up him... She actually told me that he was getting married... To his exgirlfriend which is his sister best friend and the women that she wanted him to be with all along... She even went as far as to take his fiances picture off her desk and show it to me... Ok now here goes... My opinon of it was that she was super insensitve... She shouldn't have brought that up to my face and it was like she was bragging and boasting about it... It really hurt my feelings because even though we've been broken up for two years now... I still had a small hope that one day we will reunite and now it's totally out of the question... So please someone anyone tell me about this siuation let me know what you think thank you (link)
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Hey well i do think what the mother did was cruel and unnecessary, but that's life. You just need to realize that your better off without him. But i think you should talk to him, for closure. Don't bring up the fact that you talked to his mom. Just ask him why he decided to leave you over 1 argument? well good luck & i hope i helped.
Nikita the Cheetah
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