Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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Good morning and good afternoon advicenators. I am an 20 years old girl with a boyfriend who is 23. We have been together for the past 2 years. Here is my situation: Tuesday of last week, my boyfriend texted me in the morning but I did not answer his text. Later in the afternoon he called me but I did not pick up. All this was because I was frustrated with school and I was not in the mood to talk to anyone. Of course he got upset and felt as if I was ignoring him but I was not. I was planning to call him later before I went to bed. I had no intention on making him feel bad about it but when he confronted me with it I apologized and he forgave me. since then, our relationship has been off-balance. He has been ignoring me but I act as if I dont notice it because I feel like he wants to get revenge. When I text him, he takes forever to text back but I always text him right back. When I call him at night, he doe not pick up and texts me in the morning saying that he went to bed early. I really do not know what to do. Can someone please advice me on what I should do. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Can you not go and see him? You can't ignore someone if it's in person. My personal opinion, it doesn't matter what type
Of day you're having- you shouldn't ignore someone your dating, especially someone you've been with for two years. You could have told him you were having a bad day and just wanted to sleep it off, but honestly-you handled it in an immature way. Real maturity would see that. Now your boyfriend is doing the same to you, and you don't like it. Learn from your mistake, and apologize to him
If you think he's doing it out of spite. Sometimes you got to value you're relationship more than your ego. Good luck.
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Hey, I havent messaged you since like december. I had the exbf who lived far away and was on drugs and i could never get over him? I sent you quite a lot of different questions. I hope you remember.
But the reason I am back is way different then when I stopped asking for advice. When I came back up to college, he called me 2 days later to let me know that he was going into rehab. I told him I was really proud of him and would support him whenever he needed me. I didn't talk to him for like 2 weeks and I assumed I wouldnt be able to until he got out. But the rehab wasnt as strict and he talked to me like every night for a month after those 2 weeks. It was like we were falling in love again. Our conversations would go for hours and just joking and not talking about anything serious and then he started talking about coming up and visiting as soon as he could. Then on valentines day it all changed. He started calling less and less and then that day he told me that he didn't want me to think of him as my boyfriend and that he was going to need time. I immediatly started crying before I had time to think of it and he assured me that I was a really important person in his life and he really wanted to be with me eventually. But he wanted to build our relationship back up and have more to start on. I began to see that he was right but my doubt comes in and I started getting really upset.
Then 2 weeks ago I went down to where he lives (6 hours away) and we had plans to see each other. He cancelled saying he thought it was too soon to see me and didn't want to confuse me. But later on in the week he remade plans with me and we went to the beach.
At the beach I felt amazing again. He kept telling me how much he loved me and would talk about marriage and all this crazy stuff. Like 6 hours later he started saying how bad he wanted a cigarette but he left them at home. Then he said he really needed to go home. Then its like out of nowhere we got into a fight. He told me to move on and lots of other hurtful stuff. But that was after I was pressuring him for a while and picking at our fight. We ended by like making up and him saying that he sometimes thinks hes not good enough for me but he really wants a long and happy relationship with me but he just needs time.
So i went back to school and have completely tried giving him space. He texted me just saying I love you like 10 days after I got home. And then I started texting him every couple of days. Now yesterday he said he was ready to come visit the 13th of april. I kept asking if he promised and stuff and he said yes I love you.
This doesnt sound like a bad story. I mean the guy I can never get out of my head wants to marry me and is finally ready to have a relationship again. The problem is I have HUGE doubt. I'm so scared that he isnt going to come up. And this is a huge deal to me because I need to see him if he wants to be with me. I can't help but think that if I dont text him and pressure him to buy the ticket then he wont come. This is such a horrible feeling!! Im not sure how to feel and I think I am falling into a deep depression :/ I wish I had more self worth so things wouldnt bug me so much (link)
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I am just now reading this! Almost two years later and I am so sorry! I would love to know how everything went and how everything is going for you now? But reading your post I wouldn't be surprised if your ex didn't show on the date you guys had scheduled. I really hope for the sake of your heart that you are in a much better place either with or without him! Hopefully I'll get to hear from you soon.
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i and my b.f is luving since 4nd half years.he has a g.f since 4yrs.my b.f luvs me only at first,but that girl is luving my b.f,so she offered to stay with him.my b.f agreed to luv her too,but will not marry her.she agrred for that..she act smart and bcos of her we two of dem got fightings everyday.i warned dat grl to leave my b.f but she refused.i begged my b.f to leave her and stay with me but he refused.he says she is gud grl and iam happy with her.iam helpless but i wont leave my b.f.i loves him alot he too luvs me more dan dat grl..but.plz help me wat can i do now? (link)
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I replied to your other question. If he loves you more than her, than he would leave her. If he really loved you at all, he wouldn't have another girlfriend. A man/woman who loves- respects, cherishes, and adores the person he/she is with.
Find someone better. You can either put up with it or let it go!
Best of luck to you~
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i know he has another grlfnd.i quarelled him alot of times.but nthng of use.he says i'll marry only u.but he asks to be happy with him irrespective of wat he is doing.but how can i forget about her and be happy with him.how to make him happy and how to attract him more.and how to make him forget about dat grl.and how to make him feel that iam good for him than that girl?plz suggest me what to do?..plz (link)
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You leave him. Why? Because the both of you are different. You both want different things. Usually in a relationship, you both have one thing in common- the love and respect for one another; along with faithfulness and committment.
This guy clearly does not want to be committed to you. You have told him numerous times how you felt about the entire situation and he continues to ignore how you feel and resume dating this other woman.
Yes, he may say, 'I only want to marry you' but more than likely, he is full of it. If he is willing to commit to you for the rest of his life, why can't he commit to you right now?
Think about it. There is nothing you can do to make him forget or leave this other girl. Yeah, he may leave her, but there will always be another girl. You will never be his 'only one'. And personally, I wouldn't tolerate it. He needs someone who is willing to be in an open relationship; which is where you are dating each other but OKAY with the fact that both of you date and hook up with other people.
I'm sorry you are going through this; I couldn't never find enough strength to share the person I adore. I think you need to leave him immediately. Save the time you are wasting on him, and cherish it on someone who could not imagine himself without ANYONE else.
You deserve that!
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Hello everyone. I would like to know if it's right or wrong to live together before marriage? What are the reasons of why it's right? What are the reasons of why it's wrong? My ex that I just broke up with told me that she would rather wait until marriage to be living with her lover. I however would rather live with my future wife before marriage if possible. It gives me the chance to see how they normally live and how we can fix issues we don't like about each other. Her reasoning of why she didn't want to live together is because it states in the bible that living together before marriage is wrong. I too am religious, but disagree with that fact in the bible. But I know that once once gets married, your stuck with that person for good. I don't want to ever get divorced and my ex also doesn't believe in getting divorced either. But that wasn't the reason she broke up with me. We broke up because it did seem like the relationship was moving too fast and it seemed like she wanted to get married sooner than later and she was very clingy at times which I hated and she was offended when I would say that to her. She however has been in a couple abusive relationships and had other abuse to her in the past. As a result of the abuse, often she would whine about stuff quite frequently too. (link)
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Like the user below me said, it depends on your beliefs. My fiance' and I have been living together for almost 2 years. I believe that it is best to live together before you are married, because you truly do not know a person unless you live with them. Another reason why I believe its best is because if you do notice things about your spouse that you do not care for, you have time to fix it before you are legally married. If you are married, and than live together, it's much more stressful and finicially stressful if you realize those things cannot be fixed. A lot of people say that those who inhabitate (live together before marriage) have higher divorce rates than those who wait ti'll marriage. Everyone will tell you different things. You will be able to control if your relationship will be another satistic or not. I don't care what anyone else says, I'm happy and comfortable living with my spouse, and I wouldn't want it any other way. Let me tell you, I'm glad we have the experience of living together now, because I wouldn't be quite confident if we were married and just moved in. Why? Because marriage is stressful along with the other things that include in that. I wouldn't rush into living with someone, unless you do think you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Its tough as is to live with someone whom you aren't too sure about.
If you feel as if it is okay to live with someone whom you are not married to, than who can tell you differently? Sure the bible may be against it, but the bible is against a lot of things. God forgives us for our sins, so no matter what He wil forgive you. He knows everything that will happen before it happens, so he's never fully disappointed.
Good Luck
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My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months now. She is 16. The last couple of days I feel like I am not interested in her anymore. I am not sure if it is some sort of "hump" I am going through. Sometimes I feel like i see her too much, we have been hanging out a lot as of late. Sometimes things she does makes me feel annoyed or bugs me. Things that use to never do that to me. She has put me through a lot this past summer and that is when my feelings seemed to have changed some what, i kind of got "numb" to her but when she got back from her vacation (which is when she treated me terribly and stuff) i regained some of my feelings, she lied to me though about some stuff and hid things. I forgave her and stuff. This past week or two some days I wish i wasn't with her.
I thought I loved her, lately i'm not sure. I don't get the same feeling of happiness when she calls or texts me or anything like I use to. Maybe that just goes away after some time? I question if I want to be with her but I don't know how to even bring that up with her cause it would crush her. She has lost a lot of friends and I am almost all she has. I don't know what to do. Sorry if this is confusing just trying to keep it short :p
Thank you for your help (link)
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Leave her. If you are concerned about hurting her, than the more you stay with her knowing you do not feel the same will end up hurting her a lot worse.
I was in a situation like this. I was with a guy who was absolutely in love with me, I thought I loved him, but like you, the 'spark' just wasnt there. I wanted to love him the way he loved me, and I couldn't.
So, I was straight up honest with him. I told him how I felt, and when we seperated if I felt like I missed him, and I realized I did care for him more than I thought I did, I would let him know but to NOT get his hopes up. It would be his descision to take me back or not.
Turns out, when I left him, it was a sigh of relief. I felt 100x times better, and I felt more confident in my choice.
Its good to know that you care about your girlfriends feelings on how she will take it; it shows you have good intentions and a good heart.
Just leave her, and see how it makes you feel. If you feel worse after you leave her, than take her back; if not, than move on!
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Hey everyone! Here's a disappointing story...
I went to a friend's house today. When we got there we were talking in the kitchen for a minute or so then he told Hendricks & I to come to his room and there we watched tv with the two of them. After about 10 minutes his dad left and went to his room to watch tv because we were preoccupied, talking and he was actually watching so he left and so did Sam and then when Sam came back I laid down where he was (on purpose) & then he went over to me an asked if he could borrow our iPod charger so that he could download music onto his iPod and I said sure and then he told me he would charge mine on his deck thing and wanted me to follow him, and then it was only me and him in the room (he has a very hyper personality let me just say) and when he put the iPod on the deck he looked at me and pretended to lick his thumb then my face as if I had something on my face and as an instict, I let him do it because I trust him not to poke my eye and I really like him so I'm not scared around him, and then I was like "oh that wasn't real? I thought there really was something on my face." and he said "No =D" literally with the face and everything... Like I said, hyper. When we went back to the room, he went back to the computer and I flipped on the bed (meaning, my feet were on the pillow instead of my head and I was on my stomach not my back) and his desk is right in front of the corner of the bed so we were closer. Before this though, when I was laying on my back, he was touching my legs a lot (I'm wearing long pants :( he didn't get to feel my freshly shaved leg) so that was when I flipped because I wanted him to touch my back or hair or something else like that so I got obviously closer to him and I said to Hendricks (my brother) "I need a massage..." and this morning he already gave my mom a massage so I took advantage of that and the whole reason why I did it was because I wanted to ask Sam if he would give me a massage but I chickened out (-.-) so I missed that chance and then later on, as planned, at appropriate times he touched my nose, stroked my hair, looked into my eyes, felt my "muscles" and touched my face. Then I touched him too -- his hair, face, and arms. Then he let me use the computer so I could check my email and he kept telling me to put certain songs on and he was talking to Hendricks about some girl other than Kimberly (He has a girlfriend named Kimberly that he's been with for 7 months) and he obviously didn't want me to know, and when I tried to put the song down, he playfully pushed me and was all like "don't think you're slick, I'm right behind you" and we laughed and then I tried to get more out of him and he wouldn't tell me and to be completely honest, I don't want to know. He was saying things like, "when I go to her house..." and then Hendricks said that it was a bad idea to go to her house, and he was like "I'm not gonna do anything, but if she tries to do something, I'm not just gonna leave her hanging!" and I was saying really? You don't respect Kim at all do you? and stuff like that and all he said was "if Kim was here I would be faithful, but she's far away and we're over here." and I said, "That's messed up and you know it" I kinda got upset because I realized, I have a huge crush on a guy that says things like that...
Anyways that's beside the point. So after that, he asked me if I was still mad at him (what he meant was if I was jealous because of Kimberly) and I said "I was never mad at you for anything." and Hendricks, knowing that I have a weakening crush on this guy, says "awwwwwwwwww that's so cute, makeout!" and then he laughed and was joking. I was seriously blushing then, like extremely, and that's kind of hard to do with dark skin, right? Wrong. Anyway, a little later than this, I was saying how bored I was and he said "ok, let's go out on the balcony!" and I said ok and Hendricks agreed. It's starting to get cold out so Sam got us all jackets. Sam and I matched, and Hendricks didn't. I took that as a subconsious sign on his part because he also said something about it. He was also talking to the other girl on the phone the whole time we were outside with him so we didn't really talk, I just leaned back on Hendricks and put my feet up on Sam and relaxed. Then my mom came and ruined everything by saying we had to go. I was snapped back to reality and then about another hour later was when we actually left ^.^
When it was officially time to leave, me and Hendricks went by the door to say goodbye to Sam. He was doing the whole "no you hang up first" thing (I honestly didn't think people did that in real life...) and stuff like that, and it was just disgusting how corny it all was, and then when we said goodbye he hugged me, and I turned to leave and then Hendricks asked, "Who was that?" and Sam said, "oh, just a friend." and me and my brother exchanged looks, and then Sam said, "No, really, she's my friend, I could tell her everything. Like Melanie, I can tell her anything." Hendricks smirked, and said "At almost midnight? Yeah right, and I don't see you flirting with Melanie..." and he said "I wasn't flirting..." then I went over to him and asked for how long the converstation lasted and he purposely took a long time (My mom was rushing me through Hendricks) so for both of them to shut up and so I could be alone with Sam, I told him to leave and wait for me with mom. He did and I turned back to Sam and asked again how long the conversation was. He showed me and it said 52 minutes! I said "wow an hour?" he talks to me for 10 minutes! He said "not even an hour" he tried to make it sound better by saying not even. Then I started to leave again, saying something, I really don't remember, and he grabbed my arm. He said, "Why do you say that like it's a bad thing?" and I said "You have a girlfriend. Enough said." he doesn't say anything, so I say, "what you're doing is stupid. You're GOING to lose in the end. Karma's a bitch." then he says, "Give me a hug" and I really didn't have choice so I stepped up to one step under him (I was on the stairs leading to the front door, and I really should have been his level so I could press into him like I've always wanted to) and I suddenly feel very calm, like I'm in the right place, and he says, out of absolutely nowhere, "I love you, Melanie." I freeze. Not tense, but freeze, for a split second (we're still hugging here) and I say "I love you too..." but it didn't come out in the right tone. I said it in a "what am I gonna do with you" tone, and I meant to say it in a serious tone, pull away and look at him, and say, "Sam, I think I NEED to tell you something." But what do I do? The TOTAL opposite !!! He pulls away, and says, "I'm serious." when I actually look at him, I see a question on his face. I say, "sure you are..." and DAMMIT I DONT KNOW WHY but I turn, and this time, he let's me leave, and he's saying something and smiling, but I'm not paying much attention, I'm too busy beating myself up for what I shouldve done. At first I can't get the door handle. But then after a few tries, I manage to open it. He laughs and says "ok goodnight" and I clumsily close the door (I'm such a dork) and then leave.
Please, tell me your opinions. What do you think I should have done? Should I have told him how I feel about him? Should I let him lead, like he's already doing? Or should I tell him next time? I'm so disappointed in myself, I should have told him !!!!! The timing, mood, situation, and everything was perfect! I don't know why, but God didn't want me to tell him yet.
Anything will be appreciated. Thank you all for your time :) (link)
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NEVER WRITE THAT MUCH AGAIN!
I didn't even bother reading it all,
let me say this,
keep your feelings to youself.
'god' doesn't want you telling him because he HAS A GIRLFRIEND! How would you feel if you was his girlfriend, and all this was going on between your boyfriend and another girl?
If he is going to flirt and try to mess around while he has a girlfriend, he is going to do it with you, so why in the world are you wasting your time??
LEAVE HIM ALONE. MOVE ON.
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I have been w/ my amazing bf for 10 months. I have never cheated until this relationship. Before him I dated a guy who cheated on me a lot. My parents made me breakup w/ him and threatened to take everything away from me.. I'm not in high school btw I am in college. I could not stop seeing my ex, I still love him. I am still seeing my ex and my current bf. it is seriously making me sick to my stomache. Idk why I even so it because I am not sexually attracted to my ex... I just love him and don't know what I would do without him... But I also lOve my bf... None of them know about each other and both think I am exclusive. It is almost making me want to move away and cut ties with everyone.... Advice?? (link)
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You need to leave them both alone, so they can find someone BETTER.
Cheating is never a good excuse, regardless of the situation.
You cheated, therefore you do NOT deserve either of them.
Your 'amazing' boyfriend of 10 months must not be too amazing or you wouldn't have cheated.
You need to tell him the truth, and hopefully he will leave you and find a woman who will love him unconditionally.
So, seriously- leave him. he deserves way better than what you have to offer.
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Hi My Name Is Erin , I'm 13 Years Old Soon To Be 14 In December.. I'm Scared To Lose My Virginity But I Want To... My Friend Adriane Also Wants Me To .. She Tries To Get Me To Do Things Like That .. I Got Forced To Do Thing (Pressured) I Need Help.. My Sister Also Brag About Having Sex.. & My Friend Mariah Lost Her Virginity At 11 & Just Turned 12 Last Year ... I Had Mine Longer Than Her. Please Give Me Advice. My Mom Moved To Florida My Dad I Don't Wanna Talk To About This .. Please Help Me .. Kay , Thanks Bye. (link)
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Hunnie, I lost my virginty when I turned 15. Let me tell you, I regret it! I'm 20 now, and I look back and wished I would've saved that special moment for my fiance'. He was a virgin when we got together.
There is nothing special about sex at your age. It's just 'doing it' that makes it appealing. Like, just to be able to say, 'I've had sex.'
So many guys will respect you for keeping your virginity until you are 17+. Once you have sex, guys will not respect you as much, because they believe you do not respect yourself. When I lost mine, I got called a whore and a slut. How can someone be a whore or a slut when they only had sex with ONE guy? It makes people talk. I wish I could have said, I'm not a whore! I'm still a virgin! Because I couldn't.
I was with my boyfriend at the time, for 5 months- he was 2 years older than me. As soon as we had sex, he left me for his ex. I was devestated. That is all guys your age want. It's hard to find a guy who will love you and not just want in your pants.
You will do what you want, but trust me- personally, your friends aren't cool, and they aren't grown up. They are desperate for attention and statistics show that 87% of girls who have sex before the age of 14 will turn out to be pregnant (due to lack of knownledge about protection) or have an STD from sleeping with so many guys.
Please don't fall into that statistic.
Let me tell you something else. My neice just turned 13. She had sex with a guy at her friend's birthday party, and she found out three days ago that she is pregnant. She is a child, having a child. All it takes is one time. Do you want to risk that??
She was too afraid to my sister and brother in law for birth control even though she knew she was going to become sexually active; now she will have to support a baby, give up school, and everything else.
Do you want that?
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My boyfriend cheated on me several times, i forgave him, i got pregnant and he asked me to abort saying that we are not ready, i refused and he broke up with me.he went back dating one of the girls he was 2 timing me with.later on he said that he can't be with me but that he will be there for the child eventhough he can't provide financially. I was devastated, depressed, and so hurt. i didn't know what to do and i didn't want the child to suffer, so out of fustration i had an abortion, but i told my him that i had a misscaraige. he felt for me and asked me back out again. i accepeted and we started dating later to find out that he was still involve with other women. i broke up with him and ever since now we have being on and off. he says he loves me, that am the love of his life and that we should be exclusive. recently i discovered that he is still involve with one girl and is chasing after other gilrs. i confronted him and he told me that he will set things straight with other girls an let them know that the past is the past and that he wants to concentrate on his future which is me. i don't know what to do,i love him so much,but i can't trust him,i have tried several to move on but its hard, i feel miserable without him. should i give him another chance?i am 23 and i want to be in a stable relationship with someone that i love so that i might end up marrying the person and carrying his childreen. A part of me wants to be in a relationship with him again, but the other part is afraid of getting hurt again. what can i do? (link)
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As a female, I know that is doesn't matter what we say, you will do the complete opposite. You want to hear 'give him another chance'.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Only way a man will stay faithful to a girl, is IF he wants to. This guy clearly does not want to be committed to one girl.
I mean, in a situation like this, there is one word to call you, and that is foolish. Your relationship with him will never be the way it's suppose to be because you both are lying. You lied about the miscarriage. Did it ever click that he ONLY got back with you because he felt SORRY for you? He doens't love you. A real man who loves you, will change and stop hurting and mistreating you.
Stop taking his bullshit, and find someone else. Every girl deserves a MAN, not a BOY. You deserve a man who will be committed to you, and only you. A man who will love you like there is no tomorrow. If you want a stable, committed relationship, and a family in the future; than this guy isn't for you. This guy DOES NOT know what he wants; So what you're miserable without him? Time heals all. You're going to be MORE miserable with him, knowing that you aren't the ONLY girl he's messing with. This boy doesn't not know what love is. He doesn't have the slightest clue. He's immature, and isn't ready for what you are willing to give him.
He needs time to grow up. Leave him alone. Sure, it'll be hard, but hunnie- whats worse? Conviencing yourself that he will change, only to let him have the opportunity to let you down; or going through heartbreak for a couple months, and than finding that person you can give you everything this deadbeat couldn't?? NOw, if he truely loves you, than he will come back when he is ready to give you the committment you are looking for. Chances? Slim to none.
This guy is telling you the things you want to hear, to keep you hanging on. He knows your naive, and he knows he can run all over you. You're going to let that BOY have that much CONTROL over you and your feelings?
A relationship is nothing without trust. Sure, trust can be gained, but it's easier to destroy it, than it is to build it.
Trust me on this one- the time you're wasting on this guy, could be spent on a decent guy who is worth it.
No more chances for him. Find what you deserve. Let go of his excuses, his bullshit, and his lies; and start have respect for yourself.
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HI pls help meh out .. i have a bf n we have been dating for bout 9 months ..at the beginning he used to talk bout all .. how we should have kids n we should marry ... n then .. after we had sex .. not saying only after sex .. but for a month .. its been weird ... everytime i talk bout that he is like .. we ll c .. dont know ... dont think too much .. n then i was like so ur not planning to marry meh n he said i ll be bored to death if we talk bout this .. so i cant talk bout anything i like ... since we r going to uni in bout a month in completely different country .. do u think i should break up with him or should i try to continue it with him? i cry sometimes .. cause wat he says just hurts meh sometimes .. n i m a vry emotional girl .. so m worried .. does he wnts to continue .. n yesterday he asked meh ... if we break uo will we still be freinds .. n all i said was maybe .. so? wat shall i do? (link)
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Leave him.
He's going to end up leaving you when you guys go to different countries.
He's trying to give you signals without giving it away. Read the signs and don't be naive.
No girl deserves to have to wonder what the hell she did wrong- and I DON'T want you to think that. You haven't done anything wrong.
It just seems like,
1. He's bored with the relationship.
2. He cares for you, but doesn't want to be with you.
You need to let him go and stop letting him drag you around.
Of course though,
We don't know your relationship based off the information you gave us.
Maybe he doesn't want to leave you.
Have you tried asking him 'Why did you ask me about us breaking up and still being friends?"
tell him straight up- if you don't wanna be with me, tell me now-stop playing with my heart.
Good Luck
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I am 16 and I have many issues but I think I am a slut I have had sex with 4 guys but they were only one night stands I suck dick all the time and have had 2 pregnancy scares. I go out with a new guy every night and they are always much older than me(18, 19, and 20) I dress in revealing clothes, send a lot of dirty pictures and sext, I party and get high with multiple guys.Currently Im talking to 11 guys and 4 of them are my "boyfriends"...... I am a player and I've had some StDs also I have belly button piercing and a tattoo on my hip leading down to my vaginal area.... am I slut????????????????? (link)
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Why, yes. Yes you are.
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Alright so I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. The initial feelings of infatuation have gone away and I kind of feel like we are drifting apart. I don't think he sees that there's anything wrong, but my emotions are everywhere.
He is extremely flakey and has been canceling plans a lot. It all started when he told me he was going to come to my high school graduation like a month ago but then said he was caught up in a golf game and didn't think he could make it. I was definitely crushed and didn't feel like he valued me enough to come and i told him I was really upset. I think i made him feel guilty because he ended up coming, which was nice but I wanted him to come because he WANTED to ya know? After that I noticed him flaking out on our plans a lot more and it is driving me crazy.
Also... I don't know in general i just feel like he is bored with me or doesn't value me as much anymore. I love him and I really don't want to break up but I just don't know what to do about these emotions. HELP! :O (link)
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You are right; when you are wit someone longer that 4 months the 'puppy' love disappears.
You need to figure out if he is worth working through; and by your last sentence, I can tell he is.
Talk to him about it. Good communication is always a plus in a relationship. Sit down and tell him how you feel. You NEVER ask a guy how he feels baout something; because boys don't feel-they think. So instead ask him what he thinks about it;
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I really appreciate this! Thank you so much. I'm 15, he is 15 too. Yes, school has finished. But I have 2 exams at school coming up, which he will be in them exams. He never really texts me back, I think he's always out with his friends but over the interent when I try and make conversation with him, he seems like he's off with me. As if he knows that the questions coming about my feelings and tries to avoid talking, like... He uses one words answers, you know, no effort? But there's this hope when he smiles at me, I don't think I've once seen him smile at a girl. He just nodds but with me? Different. (link)
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You don't rate well, therefore I'm not wasting my time helping you.
I've told you atleast 10 times to leave him the hell alone, and you aren't listening. So either take the advice, or shut the fuck up about it.
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I really appreciate your advice. But why did he do this? Why did he make me feel special and then just drop me? I always have this bit of hope every time he smiles at me. Is there any way I actually get him to want me again? I don't want to give up, he means so much to me! I don't think there's a moment when he's not on my mind... (link)
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I'll take you step by step; how about that?
First off, I need you to answer a few of my questions so I can give you the best advice I can.
How old are you? How old is he?
Is school already out? If not, how much long you have until it is?
Now, when you guys are texting, does he text you back?
Obviously when you text him about how you feel, he doesn't say anything; thats why Im wondering. He may not know what to say; or how to handle it.
So answer those questions; and I'll help you out
:)
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I don't honestly know what to do. This guy made me feel really special, and it wasn't just in a friend way, he would use the words beautiful, babe and much more. I really fell for him & when I told him... He stopped texting me, he would ignore my messages because obviously he would of read them. He still acknowledges me whenever I see him, like with a smile. But avoids the question whenever I tell him how I feel (I've told him more than once) but it seems like I'm not getting anywhere. The only thing I could think of was telling him in person, so from across the room I mimed “what's wrong? Don't ignore my messages. You need to tell me where I stand” he was saying he couldn't hear me, and kept repeating what? I kept frowning and then laughing, then he started laughing. (I'm a teen at school also) when I got out of the room, he was stood with his friends so I didn't say a thing. I don't really know what to do? I never have a chance to speak up front. Now that I'm no longer at that school, I will hardly see him. Can someone please tell me what could be the possibly reasons for why he's done this? What I need to do, to possibly solve it? Please, that would be a massive help. (link)
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You need to leave him alone. Give up already. He clearly doesn't want to be with you. If he did, he wouldn't play stupid. Mouthing words across the room is silly. If you REALLY want him to be on the spot, write him a note, and have someone give it to him; watch him open it in class, and watch his reaction, that way he can't have an excuse of 'oh well i didn't know what you said'
So put him on the spot;
but since school is almost out; if not already out; you need to just move on. This guy isn't worth your time. He lead you on, and now that he knows you like him, he's taking advantage of it, and treating you like dirt.
GIVE UP.
Plain and Simple
Obviously you didn't like the advice I gave you previously, because you wrote the SAME question again; just worded differently.
So stop looking for answers that you wanna hear, and accept the truth.
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Ok so from november-march I dated this guy. He was and still is super nice and cute and hilarious and did the cutest things like when I was cold outside he gave me his jacket and he said the cutest things to me like "I love you bbg, I want you to be the only one for me. I never want to loose you because if I loose you I loose a part of me. I will love you forever and no one in the world can replace you. You'll be mine forever and I know it (link)
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Does he know you kissed that other guy?
If he does, and he still wants something to do with you than I think you might have a chance.
If he doesn't know you kissed another guy and tahts the reason why you left him, than you might want to be honest about it, and let him know now.
As soon as you let me know if you told him about the kiss, than I can give you the best advice I can.
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What does it mean when a guy asks what are you up to tonight or what are you up to?
Hey, I went to a restaurant five days ago with a friend of mine. I know a guy that works at the restaurant. When I went to that restaurant I had no idea he was going to be working there at that day. I hardly speak to him and whenever I do, I always ask him to help me out or ask him for his advice. That day he saw me and asked hey, Julia how are you? and I said hey Johnathan and smiled. And I continued talking to my friend. He then asked so what are you up to tonight or what are you up to? I can't remember exactly which one it was but it was one of the what are you up to tonight and what are you up to? I have hardly seen him around and this was after a long time I had seen him but before that I had asked him to help me out with something and he tried helping me out he did not mind. So I just said to him oh just with a friend and yeah. And he was like oh okay. So I would like to know what did that mean? Did he want to do something or ask me to do something with him or was he just asking a question as we were just standing in a line and he wasn't serving he was just behind the counter and then walking around serving other customers and cleaning up dishes from the tables. So what does it mean? Was he just being customer friendly or he wanted to do something or what? How would I know if he likes me and stuff? Does he like me or what? Please help me thanks in advance for anyone who answers my question... :)
Also how can I tell he likes me? And also tell me if he was being customer friendly or what please please please I really do like him but I am scared to ask him about anything and I don't want to ask him if he was just being customer friendly ...... How can I tell him I am wanting to be with him and how can I tell if he is really into me? He hasn't asked me if I wanted to do anything with him or anything like that just that question that I had asked you all to answer me please and thanks :) (link)
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Stop posting the same question. I already answered your question, and if no one else did than maybe that means no one wants too so just posting it over and over again will only get it ignored and you kicked off this site.
here is my advice i gave you, ONCE MORE...
That question doesn't mean anything. It just means he's intersted in knowing what your plans are for that night.
If it was me, and I was attracted to the guy, and he asekd that, I would have been like,
'Nothing really, trying to find plans; what are you doing tonight?"
if he says nothing, than I would have been like, 'Oh, well you wanna hang out when you get off?"
guys like a girl with a load of confidence, and you making the first move to hang out will make him know that you like him enough to hang with him.
To me, I think he might have wanted to make plans, but since you said with a friend- he probably took it as, 'oh she has plan, so I won't interfere'. Next time it happens- make the next step; or switch it up.
'Ask him first, 'what are you doing tongiht?' and see if he takes the first step in hangin out.
I say, hang out first; do what I said; and than from there you can figure out if he likes you. HOnestly from what you told me, its hard to justify if he does like you.
Try hanging or talking more, and than inbox me, and I'll be happy to answer any qustions you have.
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PLEASE HELP URGENTLY PLEASE What does it mean when a guy asks what are you up to tonight or what are you up to?
Hey, I went to a restaurant five days ago with a friend of mine. I know a guy that works at the restaurant. When I went to that restaurant I had no idea he was going to be working there at that day. I hardly speak to him and whenever I do, I always ask him to help me out or ask him for his advice. That day he saw me and asked hey, Julia how are you? and I said hey Johnathan and smiled. And I continued talking to my friend. He then asked so what are you up to tonight or what are you up to? I can't remember exactly which one it was but it was one of the what are you up to tonight and what are you up to? I have hardly seen him around and this was after a long time I had seen him but before that I had asked him to help me out with something and he tried helping me out he did not mind. So I just said to him oh just with a friend and yeah. And he was like oh okay. So I would like to know what did that mean? Did he want to do something or ask me to do something with him or was he just asking a question as we were just standing in a line and he wasn't serving he was just behind the counter and then walking around serving other customers and cleaning up dishes from the tables. So what does it mean? Was he just being customer friendly or he wanted to do something or what? How would I know if he likes me and stuff? Does he like me or what? Please help me thanks in advance for anyone who answers my question... :)
Also how can I tell he likes me? And also tell me if he was being customer friendly or what please please please I really do like him but I am scared to ask him about anything and I don't want to ask him if he was just being customer friendly ...... How can I tell him I am wanting to be with him and how can I tell if he is really into me? He hasn't asked me if I wanted to do anything with him or anything like that just that question that I had asked you all to answer me please and thanks :) (link)
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That question doesn't mean anything. It just means he's intersted in knowing what your plans are for that night.
If it was me, and I was attracted to the guy, and he asekd that, I would have been like,
'Nothing really, trying to find plans; what are you doing tonight?"
if he says nothing, than I would have been like, 'Oh, well you wanna hang out when you get off?"
guys like a girl with a load of confidence, and you making the first move to hang out will make him know that you like him enough to hang with him.
To me, I think he might have wanted to make plans, but since you said with a friend- he probably took it as, 'oh she has plan, so I won't interfere'. Next time it happens- make the next step; or switch it up.
'Ask him first, 'what are you doing tongiht?' and see if he takes the first step in hangin out.
I say, hang out first; do what I said; and than from there you can figure out if he likes you. HOnestly from what you told me, its hard to justify if he does like you.
Try hanging or talking more, and than inbox me, and I'll be happy to answer any qustions you have.
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My boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months now, and he's amazing... so funny and respectful and sweet and selfless. He does everything for me and pours out his heart everyday for me. He cried over me once and I felt so horrible for hurting his feelings because I've never really heard a guy cry before...
Lately I've been getting so annoyed with him at things I'd usually find hilarious and cute. I am so irritated at him today that I've almost said, "I'm done" several times... but I get all teary eyed when I think of being without him. I really do love him, I just can feel that I haven't been myself lately and he's annoying me...and I feel so bad because I know he would never say anything so hurtful to me.. I told him he was irritating me so we could talk it out, and he got so upset.
I'm just sick of fighting with him over every little thing. Sure, I'm neurotic and he puts up with me, but this is just aggravating. I love him so much, but I feel like I don't deserve him and I'm so close to the point of leaving him because of how mean I am to him sometimes.
What do you think I should do? Stay or go? (link)
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Only you can answer that. Let me tell you right now from experience. I've been with my man for almost 2 years, and it hasn't been easy; but I think back and its been worth it.
After so long, approximately 6 months, the honeymoon stage disappears. Which means its normal to become irriated with one another. The more you spend with someone, the more likely it is that they will get on your nerves. Try only seeing each other a couple of times a week for maybe an hour or so? I'm not sure how much you guys see each other, but if it isn't alot, than try not to talk that much. Go a weekend without talking or seeing each other. Give yourself time to see him.
Think about the things that annoy you about him. Can it be changed? Is it little? Is it worth being with out someone you love so much??
I live with my man, and let me tell you, even before we lived together, HE GOT ON MY NERVES! Everything I thought was so cute about him, instatnly annoyed the shit out of me.
But I got over it. He still gets on my nerves, but more so when I'm about to start my period. I have my mood swings, and since we talked about it, he understands that although I can be mean to him, he knows its because I need my space, and he knows I still love him. He has also toned down a bit with the things that does annoy me.
Sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel, and tell him that you feel like you should leave him because you feel so so bad for being mean to him when he annoys you and see what he has to say. I'm sure you being mean to him doesn't bother him enough for you to leave him. If you feel bad about being mean, than take a day to yourself and figure out how to change your feelings and fix it.
A relationship takes two people, and I know you love him, from all the sweet things you said about him; I don't think its worth leaving something that means so much to you. It can be fixed, but only if you BOTH work on it, ya know?
If you wanna talk more, and explain what it is that annoys you, inbox me. I've been there done that, and like I said, 2 years strong.
Please don't heistate. I'm here to help, and I want to see you guys last!
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