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hey. yeah. i keep it real, and i'll try to help out annyway with annythin i can. im Em, and im a pretty smart chick. im a preddy good person, you know the type you would let babysit ur kids. dont take me for granted. i k how to rock it and keep it kool. w/o all the drugs and tequila. go ahead, ask me. ill anser. cuz u k im good lik that ;)

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i dont like my boyfriend. hes sweet and really nice, but i dont love him.

i dont know if i can break up with him though because first of all he really loves me, and second of all he is my best friends cousin and they are really close.

i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to hurt my best friend. to make it all even worse is that all his relatives know about us and support our relationship. =/


15/f


how can i break up with him without hurting anyone and without losing my friendship with my friend?

a nice way to break up with him would be to say that you care about him so much and that youll always be there for him but you cant be with him annymore because time has changed things to the point where you like him only as a friend. if you want to take a less honest approch, you could tell him that you dont want a relationship right now or that you are dealing with a lot of pressure lately and you dont feel like you can deal with having a boyfriend. if you do the deed nicly, your friend shouldnt be upset or feel like she has to choose.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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Is it sad that I am 16 and never had a boyfriend? I feel stupid walking through the halls seeing all the couples and knowing that I have yet to experience that. Please let me know if I'm pathetic.

nah ofcoarse not!
what makes you think that your pathetic?
it might be a good idea to start looking around for guys in your playing field so that you can have that kind of a relationship, but just because you dont have a boyfriend doesnt stamp annything on your forehead that sais 'loser'.
start talking to some of your friends to see if they cant hook you up. nobody ever got annywhere by sitting still. no, you arent a loser, but being in a realationship IS really fun and sad to miss out on.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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13/F

O.K. so I really like this one guy. Hes really sweet & cute. The only thing is he is like so quiet! I mean, he will talk to people and all, but hes not the type to talk out in class or anything, && I am. Im really loud & outgoing & stuff. I mean, he will talk to other kids if they talk to him first, and he will always talk to me and he flirts with me, but I cant tell if he likes me.

Well the real question is do quiet guys make good boyfriends? I mean he has never had a gf before (or atleast this year) and I dont know if he would know how to treat one. Like if he would hold my hand or anything.

just becuse a guy is quiet, doesnt mean that he wont know what to do. sometimes quiet guys are more faithful/sensitive/not completely cluless than loud ones. it could be kindof hard for him to talk to you at first when you are around other people, so its a good idea to start talking to him a lot on msn or aim or myspace, just because its easier to talk to people in person if the ice has already been broken(i would know, im a shy female) it is also really easy for me to talk to people on the phone before i talk to them more in person, but thats because i dont like walking up and talking to people i dont really know. ive gone out with both shy guys and loud ones, and there really isnt too big of a difference.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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How do you handle jealousy in your relationships. Not freindships, because i get jealous of my friends all of the time, but i handle that (sorta) but how do you handle jealousy with your boyfriends...i just dont know how...suggestions anyone?

my boyfriend always got jelous of me, and everyonce in a while i would get mad or jelous at him and try to make him even more jelous by saying something stupid. jelousy sortof wrecks relationships if it gets really extream. people often mistake the jelosy for not being able to trust them, and that actually does have at least a little to do with it, but when someone thinks they cant be trusted they sortof end up feeling a little crappy. sometimes you have to accept that your boyfriend has other female friends and that he likes other people, but it really helps when you tell your guy to not talk about other girls or talk to them a lot when you are around. thats what worked for us, annyway.
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hope i helpedxoxo

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ive been talking to this one guy for about a month now and he asked me out the other day.. the only problem is is that hes shy! i dont know what to say or do to make this work because i really like the boy but it just gets so annoying! any ideas?

well if he really is as shy as you say he is, you are probly going to get bored. if it is really going to bug you that much, it is probly a good idea to avoid a bad situation
hope i helped
luv, emi

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Oh my godd. My boyfriends mom saw his hickie that I gave him!! When he gave me my 1st one my mom found out and wasnt so mad, but his mom was upset when she saw it!! I have no idea wat to do. Now wat if his mom hates me. I already thought she did even though i was very polite and try and act normal around her and she caught us making out today too!! Oh my godd!! What should I do im gonna be so humiliated next time I see her!!! What woudl you do if you were in my place?

well it night be a good idea to not make out with him by his mom. it also might be a good idea to not give him hickys if he thinks his mom will freak. either you 2 are too young to extange hikies or his mom is living in a stone age. ask him to have a talk with her explaining that you two are having fun and not doing annything dangerous. just try to act natural around his mom like it never happened.
hope i helped
luv, emi

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Alright this guy I've known since September, we dont have any classes together except an after-school elective. ive noticed he flirted with me a lot, but i didnt take it too seriously since a lot of guys do that, and he kinda has a flirty personality. well recently on a school field trip he was like seriously flirting with me and its relle obvious he like worships me, like 10 people approached me and said that, even this girl he asked out a few years ago, and she said he acted the same way around her. hes really sweet and all, and funny, but hes never, ever serious, and i sincerely have no physical attraction to him at all. i know hes gonna ask me out soon and i cant help but think that if he was good looking id give him a chance. hes not exactly the coolest kid, but he has a bunch of friends. i dont know what to do. id feel horrible if i rejected him, cuz hes my friend and all. what should i do?

hey-
there really is nothing you CAN do
if you arent atracted to him and you dont like him that way, then, you just dont like him that way.
if/when he asks you out, just tell him you only think of him as a friend. hopefully he will get over it, keep being friends with you, and not be too upset
hope i helped
luv emi:)

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I need some good date ideas that aren't totally expensive. I was thinking bowling and dinner, anything under 70 bucks a date - cause thats as much as I can afford right now..... I know, I'm cheap - but I'm getting a job soon, so that wont be too much of an issue soon enough.

ice skating doesnt cost too much, and its normally really fun, even if you dont know how, as long as youre willing to try
swimming is a good idea, but its obviously way too cold
movies are always fun, plus they never have akward monents, unless its really sexual...
going to the zoo is ok, sence its free... even if it sounds kindof childish its actually really fun
the mall is kool because EVERYONE can always find something at the mall
well hope i helped
luv emi:)

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So, for Christmas I had every intention of buying my boyfriend of five months an iPOD shuffle. [The new one, the one with the clip.] I pawned my alto saxophone, and got $150 for it. I gave my parents half of the money that I had gotten. So I had $75 left, and had an extra $35 to spend. I bought the shuffle for $80 and I had $30 left over. So, I wanted to get him the FEAR computer game. Which is $30. I have enough money for it, but my sister & mom are getting mad because they don't think I should be spending that much money on him.

He bought me a $70 pearl necklace and is buying me more, we made our price range $110. Everytime I ask them to take me to the store to buy it, we'll get into a huge argument about spending too much money, but I want to buy it for him. What can I say to defend myself?

Thanks mucho.

well, it is really sweet that you want to buy him so much stuf to make him happy...
but have you ever thought that maby HE cant afford to get you so much stuf back?
and it IS human nature to feel akward when someone gets you more expencive things than you get them.
you shouldnt have to give away your owne things to get him stuff... it is your money, but i can see why your fimly would be so concerned...
i can see that you want to buy the stuff for him, but arent you taking it a little extream? save some of that money for his birthday or something.
maby you should buy yourself a little something as an award for being able to give so much to other people
hope i helped
luv emi:)

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see heres the deal. my ex boyfriend and i are amazing together i love him but of course there are things about him that bother the shit outa me. but me and him are gettin bak together. i've been thinkin about the future alot lately and i dont like the way i've been thinking. see.... and him and his dad all hang out alot of the time! his dad is THE shit! well i've been thinkin about the perfect man for me, and the perfect man is.... his dad! his dad is 34 yrs old! hes the greatest. now dont think his dad is a petafile and dont think im into the older men, cuz normaly im not. i mean i dont wanna b with his dad but his dad is everything i've ever wanted to b with...... is that normal? cuz it makes me feel uncomfortable. and im not sure if i sould b worried or not

staceys mom
has got it goin on
shes all id ever want and ive waited for so long
stacy cant you see your just not the girl for me
i know it might be rong but im in love with staceys mom


well sence i said that... i should probly anwser your question sence that was kindof rude of me... i mean i dont even know you so i dont know if that made it worse or if you started laghing...
im sorry

yeah that has happened to me before. it doesnt mean you are into older men or annything, and even if you were, that isnt really that bad unless you try to get with one...
it isnt rong that you like an older guy...
but it is kindof rong that you are getting back with your x and you like that perticular older man.
sence you are getting back with your xboyfriend, it might be a good idea just to stay away from his dad... like if he wants you to eat diner with him and his dad try to steer away from that
nah you dont have nnything to be worried about it might even just be a phase. it was for me...
again no hard feelings bout stacys mom
hope i helped
luv emi:)

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14/f

i messed up with my boyfriend. i feel horrible.

ian and i have been going out for 3 months now. i just told him something big about my life that i think he should've known. i told him that i have cut myself before. he flipped out.

he also said that he was gonna end the relationship until i can prove to him that i really want to stay in it (from something else that i did i think). what can i do? talking to him on the phone wont help.

any ideas on what i should do?

um...

why would he think that you didnt want to stay in the relationship because you told him?

in what way did you mess up? did you tell him it was because of him or something? holy crap

hes an asshole. it must have tooken some guts to tell him that(i would know, but im not gonna go there)and he practicly threw it in your face.

you THINK it was because you did something else? how bout you ask him why?

if he cant understand that you confided in him with something really important and scary, you shouldnt even try to get back with him.

hope i helped
luv, Emi:)

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I have a crush on this guy, actually it's more than a crush, I think I'm in love with him. We have been friends for 3 years, but I've always hoped we'd become more than friends. Well someone recently asked me what qualities about this man that I love attracted me to him. Then suddenly it dawned on me: He's exactly like my father!!! These are all the similarities:they both have dark hair and brown eyes, they both have really hairy chests, they are both very tight-wadded with there money, they are both workaholics, they both drink a lot of beer, they both are very flirtatious with woman, they are both humourous yet serious, they both have REALLY bad tempers, they both have been the boss of there own business, they both have been called an asshole behind there back, they both have been to court because of enemies made at work,they both are the oldest child, and they both have sex addictions (my dad cheated multiple times on my mom, and my crush admitted to me that he struggles with pornography.)
Well now that I've finally figured out why I'm so attracted to this man, it kind of grosses me out. Should I still have feelings for this man? Because in some perverted way it feels like I have feelings for my dad.
What should I do?

its perfectly normal. that happens to me, only its with my brother. yeah it is kinda discusting when you think about it, i mean, i always thought my brother was the uglyest thing on earth and now ive fallen for someone lik alsmost the same as him... its perfectly normal. there was a study done that said people are attracted to others based on the past acperences lol well i hope i helped :)

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I think I am in love. Can someone tell me if this is love. I'm only 14 but I think I get it. There's this guy that I am going out with. I like him alot. I can't help but smiling everytime I talk to him on the phone and on the internet. I smile everytime I see him. I think about him before I go to sleep and when we hug neither of us can really let go. He tells me that he loves me alot. I think I'm definately in love. So please tell me does it sound like love to you?

ok, im going to tell you rite now, that i have had love and obsession. obsession is where you cant stop thinking about someone and its the only thing you can talk about even if the other person your talking to is talking about something serious. you think about them so much that it keeps you from doing things like homework, eating, sleeping, etc.
love is where you care for someone so much that you would die for them, and you still think their gorgous when there sick and have no hair. love is when you can actually imagine yourself dieing and suffering for that person. you decide if its love or obsession, and no, you cant have both. hope i helped

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17/m/lonesome

Ok there is a girl at work that i have feelings for, but I dont know if she likes me or not. I mean whenever I talk to her she alwasys gets a smile on her face, or starts to giggle. I will tell you this right now I'm not too good at reading the signs to tell you if someone likes you or not... no its more like i trip and fall into love., but I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I've alwasy treated women with the highest respect and dignity, and I think I could build a very long relationship out of this but idk, PLEASE HELP ME!!!

well, if she always gets a smile on her face, that means you mae her happy, witch makes her want to be around you more. when ever i like a guy and he talks to me, its hard for me to stay serious, like i giggle if they say hi to me and stuf. maby you could buy her a flower and just leave it with her stuf or something. that can be pretty romantic. or comment on her eyes and see how she reacts. it also gives you an excuse to stare into them. the flower thing is a good idea to because it will give her a thrill and also let her know that someone she works with likes her. i know this stuf would work on me. hope i helped

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Hey, i kind of like my best friends boyfriend,...but the thing is,...i hooked them up,...it's all to strange for me and i dont know what to do. he's nice, funny and cute and everything....i got myself into something big, i know and her mom is like real sick and she's gonna die soon which makes the drama so less appealing

i would just let it go. your rite, its not a good time for drama so you should probly just talk to her boyfriend snd tell him you didnt mean for it to happen. you shouldnt tell her about it or she would probly be varry upset.it feels rong but later you will realise that it was for the better. think. if she found out, she would probly maby b/u with him and get mad at you and it sounds to me she could use a good boyfriend and not to mention a good friend. but make shure no one else knows about the hook up or the plan not to tell her could backfire. hope i helped

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okay, so i REALLY like this guy.. and he says he likes me.. and we are liked "together" but not going out.. like we are basically dating.. but we have a commitment like we cant date other people. and he comes to my house every friday and he like kisses me and holds my hand and stuff.. but he will hardly ever hug me at school.. is he just playing a gam?

ok, so you really are 'going out', witch is dating without seeing other people. do people know you 2 'like eachother'? if so, i wouldnt be to worried. maby hes just not into the hole p.d.a. stuf (publicly displayed affection)but if noone knows about the 'thing' you 2 have than i would ask him if he wants to make it offical and see how he reacts. hope i helped

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my bestfriend that's a girl just broke up with her boyfriend today i really like her and have liked her for two years i don't want to be her rebounder but i still want to go out(m13)

i'd wait about a month, just so she had all the time she needed for her to get over him. but you can hang out with her to 'cheer her up', like you can rent movies, go to the movie theatres with other friends along, have dinner at her/your house with family, etc. and when she is over him just casualy ask, "hey, have you ever thought about what it would be like if we were more than friends?" it should st least get her thinking about it if she hasnt already. hope i helped

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I am a 25 year old female with a huge life decision to make.I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. And i love him with all my heart, he's pretty close to being perfect. Hes kind, caring, smart, athletic, he's the whole package. And of chorse im not satisfied. My problem is, i still have a crush on my high school crush...i know it sounds silly because high school was 8 years ago for me, but yes there has not been a single day since high school where i have not thought about him in some way. After high school we kept in touch at college for about a year, and after that we kinda lost touch. But that didnt stop me from thinking about him all the time. I always compared every guy to him, and every guy i dated i always told myself if "Bob" (my high school crush) were to ever come to me and say he wanted to be with me i would breakup with whomever i was with and date him. About 2 and a half years ago me and "bob" found each other again. We began talking again, it was like we never lost touch, we picked up where we left off. The problem was that i had a boyfriend whom i really care about and love. "bob" on the other hand was single. And since i already believe that him and i are soulmates i thought that was a sign, because he is so gorgous that him being single wasn't bound to last long. Just like high school every female that lays eyes on him instantly is drawn to him. I have opted not to tell him my feelings because of my boyfriend. Him and i still talk on occassion, and maybe once or twice a year we hang out and catch up on "life". I have found out from sources that he too once had a crush on me in high school. And when we do see one another he always asks if i still have a boyfriend and when he finds out i do, he asks if im happy, and if i see a future with me and my boyfriend. He has been in and out of a few relationships, but i know the time is going to come soon when he thinks he has found the person he wantst to spend the rest of his life with, and when that happens i would have lost my chance to tell him anything forever. And this just kills me because i want him so badly. I want to be able to tell him everything on my mind. I want to tell him that i love him...yes i do love him, but i cant tell him that cause its not fair to my boyfriend. But at the same time this is just killing me inside. All i want to do is just get everything out in the open so i can have a sense of relief. Im curious how he would respond to my feelings. i truely believe he is my soulmate, i have always been drawn to him. i believe he is the person im suppose to marry. Whenever i have dreams of him (which are often) i try to hurry and go back to sleep just so i can be with him. What do you suggest? am i crazy? is this jsut a silly crush?...well i dont think its just a crush because the crush evolved to me loving him....and you see the reason wny i never told my crush my feelings when i was single was because i am really shy, and i thought that he was too perfect for me and that he could have any girl he wanted so why would he choose me....and i use to push him away big time a few years back because i was affraid of my feelings for him, and i was affraid of getting hurt if i told him. But now i feel an almost need to tell him my feelings just so i can get on with my life. What do i do? please suggest....

you should tell him your feelings, but you shouldnt drop your man. he came at the rong time. ya, you probly will be able to get on with your life after you tell him. but inless you two are truly just friends afterword, you probly shouldnt see him, sence it would be out in the open. and if you have had a boyfriend for 5 years, there's gotta be something to that. you shouldnt ruin it for a highschool crush. hope i helped

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I truely like this kid so much. I've known him for 4 years, and he knows I like him and such. Actually, last year in 7th grade, he asked me out. He was smiling although he said he was serious, but I said no because I figured that he was joking (he's that type of person). Than after he asked me out, he started doing weird stuff to me, and requesting I do things to him. For instance I would usually help him with his French homework, and he would ask that I sit on his lap. He would always hold my hand, try to kiss me, etc. Then he started to get worse, like ask me to have sex with him, flash him, go over to his house and in his room...

This year, he acts as none if it happened. He won't mention the slightest thing to me. That doesn't exactly bother me but it's weird. I still like him and it's not that he acknowlages me (because we're still best friends), but he doesn't like me this year like that.

I just wanted to know if anyone here thought that maybe he took advantage of me. Please help (easy 5's)

he probly was just realy imature before and just really really liked you and he probly also noticed when it started to get out of hand. its a good thing that you didnt do that stuf cause maby he was useing you. he might have just been going through a really rough time before or something and started to act kind of weird. maby hes matured or just simply stopped liking you because he was confusing himself, or i dont really know. but if you still like him, then maby some day when you are talking to him just simply say, "can i ask you something? when you asked me out last year, did you mean it?" there might be an aquard silence or he might anser rite away, or he might just think about it for a min. but at least you will get a anser. hope i helped!
ps: when you ask him, make shure you are alone!

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I need your opinion:
I have been love for four years.
I am 17 now.
Some people say I'm too young and others say that seventeen is ld enough to know what you want.
I've always been mature for my age and when I told everyone I was in love at fourteen, needless to say, they didn't believe it. But it has been years and I am still in love.
Do you think I'm "old enough" to be in love? If I am, then wasn't I old enough when I was fourteen because back then, I was sure I would be in love forever and I still am.

in my opinion, there is no age where you are suddenly 'permitted' to feel love. you are never to young to love, no matter what others say. but thats just my point of veiw. hope i helped!

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