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Date or not?
I truely like this kid so much. I've known him for 4 years, and he knows I like him and such. Actually, last year in 7th grade, he asked me out. He was smiling although he said he was serious, but I said no because I figured that he was joking (he's that type of person). Than after he asked me out, he started doing weird stuff to me, and requesting I do things to him. For instance I would usually help him with his French homework, and he would ask that I sit on his lap. He would always hold my hand, try to kiss me, etc. Then he started to get worse, like ask me to have sex with him, flash him, go over to his house and in his room...
This year, he acts as none if it happened. He won't mention the slightest thing to me. That doesn't exactly bother me but it's weird. I still like him and it's not that he acknowlages me (because we're still best friends), but he doesn't like me this year like that.
I just wanted to know if anyone here thought that maybe he took advantage of me. Please help (easy 5's)
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he probly was just realy imature before and just really really liked you and he probly also noticed when it started to get out of hand. its a good thing that you didnt do that stuf cause maby he was useing you. he might have just been going through a really rough time before or something and started to act kind of weird. maby hes matured or just simply stopped liking you because he was confusing himself, or i dont really know. but if you still like him, then maby some day when you are talking to him just simply say, "can i ask you something? when you asked me out last year, did you mean it?" there might be an aquard silence or he might anser rite away, or he might just think about it for a min. but at least you will get a anser. hope i helped!
ps: when you ask him, make shure you are alone!
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Whoa, this guy sounds a little messed up (no offence). He shouldn't be asking for sex at your age, and if he did to me, I would slap him and call him a jerk. It isn't bad to sit on his lap, hold hands, kiss, etc. but to ask for sex? It seems like he's trying to forget all that happened last year because he doesn't want to go out anymore, or maybe he was embaressed about the way he acted. Ask him what's going on, and why he's acting the way he is.
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Hi,
Assertiveness is a way of expressing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in a direct, honest, and appropriate way. An assertive person effectively influences, listens, and negotiates so that others choose to cooperate willingly. It does not mean being aggressive, nor does it mean you will get your own way all the time. But it should help prevent you being burdened with other people's problems and responsibilities.
If you tend to panic, hide under your desk or fly off the handle at the first whiff of a problem.
Be clear about what you want to say: Make direct statements that take responsibility for what you say, i.e. use 'I' rather than 's/he' or 'everyone thinks.'
Get straight to the point: Don't allow yourself to get sidetracked by colleagues or trying to soften the blow.
Be prepared to compromise: Remember that other people have rights too don't become the office bully.
Use suitable facial expressions: Maintain good eye contact and keep your voice firm but pleasant. By keeping calm and attentive you will make the other person more ready to compromise.
Listen: Let people know you have heard what they said. This doesn't mean you have to agree with them.
Ask for time to think, if necessary: There is nothing wrong with admitting that you need time to make a decision.
Don't apologise unless there is a good reason to do so: Don't say 'sorry' merely because the other person is unlikely to be pleased with what you are saying. It is better to give reasons rather than excuses for what you want to do.
Learn to say no to unreasonable requests: Use the word "no" and offer an explanation if you choose to. Do not apologize and do not make up excuses. Paraphrase the other person's point of view. This will let he/she know that you hear and understand the request.
Often you can get assertiveness training within the workplace or at a local evening class. Ask your boss or contact your local careers centre for more information.
Goodluck
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Well ou never mentioned if you did all the things he asked you to do. If you did; yes he did take advantage of you. Move on hun, he doesnt sound like some1 id give my time to again!
Respectful guys dont use girls!!
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well, it sounds like the kind of person that I wouldn't go out with, because he was sending you some uncomfortable signals. But you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Ask him about it, he will prbably not admit it, but it is worth a try. It is never worth just ignoring or something. Make sure that there is no misunderstandings between you two. If you like him, persue it. You aren't getting any younger you know! Take a chance, it will be worth it. I hope I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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Well he's a guy and he must have grown up a little more from last year. Boys can be immature so maybe he doesn't want to bring back things from the past. Just tell him that you still like him again so he knows your for real. Hopefully he'll be mature and take you seriously this time like seriously. Dont do everything that he tells you. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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