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Ok well i have been dating this guy for 2 months and I'm honestly not feeling it. I don't get to see him much which makes it worse. I just want to be single, but i don't know how to break up with him and try not to hurt him at the same time. So, I really need advice!!

be really nice and tell him that you just dont like him like that anymore. ask him to be friends (if you want to be) and tell him youre sorry.

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I'm 17 and very shy. I've never had a boyfriend and am not that close to any guys. My senior prom's coming up in a few months and I'd rather not go by myself but I'm not interested in anyone at my school. How do I meet more guys my own age that don't go to my school?

you could try myspace or chat rooms, or maybe ask your friends if they know people.

~hope i helped =]

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i need to know if he likes me or is using me or what!?
i met this guy three weeks ago. hes perfect for me in every way and im a VERY picky girl. we were obsessed with eachother for the first few days. we went out, we kissed, we tried seeing eachother whenever we could, he was the sweetest. i thought we were about to go out. everyone in school was talking about it. we were perfect. i was waiting for him to ask me out...
he never did. the week after we made it clear we liked eachother and went out, he treated me like his girlfriend in front of people. we spent time together everyday because we were doing the same activity afterschool. hes a very flirty/friendly guy and always has girls flirting with him, which didnt bother me because we werent official and im not the jealous type. but other people thought we were going out so whenever he was with other girls, people looked at me like wtf? i think he thought i was jealous though cuz of all the people. anyway it didnt seem to matter to him, but then its three weeks later he still hasnt ask me out and hes different. like i was really starting to fall for him we are so perfect together...i dont get why he hasnt asked me out. im so confused, and now hes not as sweet, and doesnt txt me as often, doesnt call like he used to, and i think all the people got to his head or something. and we had a small argument when we were both in a bad mood and since then its not the same...hes cold and distant at times, especially around others, but then he still acts interested other times. during these few weeks we kissed and got close, and I'm starting to think he just maybe used me, but then y is he still showing interest? he calls and pays attention to me when he feels like it. and another thing, he said all the right things and i really started falling for him so now it really hurts that hes so different...i really don't understand what happened? why didn't he ask me out, it looked like he really wanted to! if he just wanted to use me he wouldn't have treated me like his girlfriend in school! what changed? i really need advice on this!!! should i try and forget about him?

i think that YOU should ask HIM out.
what the worst he can do? say no? big deal. like they say theres plenty more fish in the sea.
i know its not a whole lot to work with but i really hope i helped =]

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When me and my boyfriend are sitting down, we hold hands. Well i love holding hands with him, its just something he does that weirds me out! he like holds my hand and he puts our hands on his knee and slowly moves our hands towards his crotch! i dont know if he is purposley doing it or not! does anyone know what i am talking about??? or what his intentions are?? oh gosh.

Thank you verrryy much!! :D

p.s. any answers will help

next time you guys hold hands just kinda lay your hand(s) on your knee or between you guys. if you still want to have your hand(s) on his knee then i sugest that everytime he kinda moves his hand down, you move your hand up.
hope i helped! =]

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Im a freshman in college and my boyfriend is a junior in high school. should we be together??

if you guys are happy together then you should be all for it. the only thing is that he is not 18 yet (im assuming) so you could get in a lot of trouble--so maybe wait until hes 18 (if not already) and then stay together if youre happy =]

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16/f
I have never been kissed before. I have been dating my boyfriend michael for a week now and he knows that i haven't kissed before. He told my friend he tried to kiss me twice and i just didn't notice. Then today after we hugged, i stood there waiting and he never did and he told my friend "I tried to but she won't do it!!" I mean, i stood there waiting but he never did. Is this my fault? I'm just not sure what to do. I mean, i want to kiss him but i'm not really sure how and i get scared at the last minute.
What do i do?
Is it my fault?
How?
Please help! My name is lauren. Thanks!

tell him that if he wants you to notice then he should give you better hints because you just dont notice. it is not your fault that you dont notice because if you stand there and wait for him to drop you a hint and you dont see it then its sort of his fault.

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I asked someone to homecoming yesterday morning and got a "maybe" because he was already going to ask another girl... so I said alright, just let me know.

But homecoming is next week! (I know, I procrastinated...) So how long should I wait for him to get back to me?? I want a date so if he says no then I want to have time to ask someone else. So should I just ask someone else if he doesn't tell me in time?

i think that you should ask someone else who actually want to go with you because to me it sounds like if he went with you he wouldnt be as happy because he had to go with you and not the other girl. (sorry if this sounded harsh =])

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how I can get my boyfriend back when he only give excuses about seen each other again

you probaly cant because if hes making excuses then he probaly doesnt want to see you anymore

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16/f

Over the summer I met a guy and he was adorable and i fell for him so badly, but he lived about 40 minutes away. So i saw him only 3 times. And
i just started at a new school and i met a guy named Ryan. He's a junior and he's really cute. Ryan looks and acts just like the guy i met over the summer. I developed an awful crush on Ryan and i think it may be because he is just like the summer boy. So one time in class Ryan asked me what my name was and what town i was from. Then later that week he said hi to me. Then this week he came up to me at lunch and started talking to me then he went back to his table and asked me if i wanted to sit with him but i said no thanks. The day after his whole table was telling me to sit there and i just said no again. And then today nothing happened between me and Ryan. It was almost like he didnt notice me. Im so confused and i want to know what hes thinking. I want to know if hes interested in me. So if anyone has any advice or ideas, please help me. Thanks :)

he probaly thinks that you dont like him because you wouldnt sit with him, so what i suggest is that you go up to his table, tap him on the shoulder, and ask "excuse me, do you mind if i sit with you?" everything should work out from there as long as you dont refuse to sit with him anymore ;)
i hope i helped! =]

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How do you know your in love?

when you know youd do anything for that person. Ask yourself: 'Would I be willing to let her/him go if I believed it was the best thing?'
Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to wait for this person if s/he is not ready to have sex?'
Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he gained weight?'
Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her/his dreams to come true?'
Ask yourself: 'Do I respect and admire her/him?'
Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he got sick?'
Ask yourself: 'If you two were in an argument, would you feel the same way?'
If you answered 'No' to any of these questions, think about why you gave that answer. Is it a lack of trust? Is it because you're afraid? Is it selfishness? Do you need more time to get to know each other?
If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.
and last but not least, if you can really, truly be yourself around him without worrying about what he would think.
i hope i helped! =]

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I was in a relationship, and had a male friend who I had a real connection with. When both our lives (me and the friend’s) got busy, I kind of let go of the friendship. My relationship was on the rocks (I sort of knew I should never have gotten so involved with that boyfriend in the first place...) and I was afraid that if I continued to hang out with him I might do or say something inappropriate.

So, I’ve been out of that relationship for while now and I had dinner with my old guy friend and well, the feelings came pouring back really quickly. Although I know he had a bit of a crush on me before, I’m not sure he if he does now. For all I know he might have met someone.

I’m not sure what to do now or what to do say to him. I already apologized for being so flakey, but I don’t know if I should just hang out with for a bit and feel the situation out again or if I should just say straight up that I like him a lot and that is the reason I stopped hanging out as much ...

So I’m wondering, what people thought it would be best for me to do now?

i would say to take it slow at first and just be friends for a while. and then after that, tell him you really like him and thats why you stopped talking to him so much.
hope i helped =]

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Me and this girl have been seeing each other for awhile but i dont know if were dating or just fooling around i asked her about it once and she said we would take it slow but its been a couple weeks and now were pretty hot and heavy but im still not sure. and when shes at work i've heard her say that she was single but im not sure if she's only saying it cause she works at a bar and gets better tips that way.

i dont know what youre asking but if youre asking if you guys are going out then the answer is no. shes probaly trying to tell you in a nice way that she is not ready to be in a commitment yet. she probaly likes you (from what youve said) but probaly just doesnt want to get in a relationship yet considering she said that she wants to take it slow.
take it from a girl who knows.

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I'm 18 and I really need advice.

When I was 15 years old I met a guy (he was 16 at the time) and I thought he was really gross because he was always hooking up with all these girls. He tried to start talking to me and he had kissed me once and he kept telling me he liked me but he didn't want a g/f. I told him that he just wasn't my type and I was over the games. After I said that he asked me to give him a week to get rid of all his hook ups that he had. I wasn't exactly going to hold my breath. Sure enough though exactly one week later he asked me out. Now, me being so young and NEVER having a boyfriend before I thought that was really sweet...

The guy was into a lot of bad things. Like being sexually active, drinking, smoking, and his friends were just as bad and rude. But I really wanted to fit in and I wanted him to really like me and have my fairy tale ending.

He was very manipulative but because I was only 15 I didn't notice it. I thought he loved me a lot...

We dated for over 8 months and then he broke up with me. Then for 6 months after that he kept leading me on asking me to wait for him and I kept going back to him. Well, finally we stopped talking, but I was always hearing stories about the mean stuff he would say about me to his friends.

He told me that he never really loved me and that I was only a bet between him and his friend that I never liked and always called me names to my face.

Anyway, it's been about a year since all of this has blown over but just 4 days ago he turns up in my life again. He told me he was sorry because he knows how I feel now because some girl broke his heart that he was madly in love with and bought her a ring and everything for. He claims he doesn't remember how bad he treated me and would "love to hang out with me and not have any tension between us" and I saw him at a store two days ago and I just wanted to hit him.

The thing I need advice on guys is, why am I still so hurt after it being about a year or so? I usually never hold grudges against people, I forgive pretty easily I think and I don't like the feelings I am getting about him. I am such a happy person when he is not around but anytime he shows up in my life I think of all the things he told me and how I gave myself up to him and how I truly cared for him, how stupid I feel, and how much I think he is a bad person for knowing I was so young and unaware but still used me for a bet with his friends who ACTUALLY paid him. He promised me he'd never tell anyone... He promised me and told me a lot of things that he didn't mean and I'm so sad, hurt, angry, and upset. But I want to move on... I just need help. I feel like such an idiot for not seeing how bad he was... And I feel so alone.

And I'm not sure if this matters but, I was home schooled since 4th grade. So, yeah it is very different for me and wanting to fit in and knowing what's "normal" for people my age. And I did sleep with him but not because I wanted to. I wanted to wait til marriage and I haven't had a bf since this guy and I don't want to be with another guy again because I'm so scared he'll do the same thing to me. I want to wait til I'm married I just want this feeling to go away. I'm sorry that this is so long but I can't talk about this with anyone else and it's a lot to carry. I'm just still so upset with my self, him, and everything. And like I said, not only am I still angry with him. But I haven't been in a relationship since because anytime a guy tires to get close to me, I mess things up because I'm too scared to be with any guy. Can anyone help me at all? Am I completely crazy? (Oh and please no being rude okay? I already regret things enough. I'm really looking for some good advice and guidance here...)

YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!! im in the same situation as you are except that he was 2 years older than me and that im trying to date other guys as i guess you can say a way of relief, like someone actually cares about me- you know? but as soon as someone tells me they love me, i get scared and i want to end things.
what im trying to say is that how youre feeling is perfectlt normal because he played with your emotions and hurt you. you have a right to be upset!
if you wouldnt be upset, youd probaly be treated as a hoe.
but hey, give the guy another chance--maybe he changed ince another girl broke his heart. if he tries anything you can immediately cut off all communication.
i hope i helped, and if you need anything else, inbox me =]

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so fronm that i asked my friend jane and she said joe did say that well know i have no clue what to do! i dont relly know joe BUT hes soo hott!! and i like zac hes so sweet and he allways trying to talk to me so i think he likes me to!

who do i try for?

i think you should go for the one with the personality (zac?) because even though you think he might not be able to give you what you want, you may be surprised! and id rather date a guy that has a great personality and isnt the hottest guy than a guy whos a jerk but really hot.

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I just started hs, n the guy i like is in 10th grade, so i dont have any classes with him, except for lunch because everyone has lunch together.
anyways, this guy, lets call him Jack (thats not his real name), first saw me in the hallway one morning, and ever since he has been standing there every day. Also, during lunch for the last two days he has been eating 10 ft away from me n my friends with his friends. also, the other day, as i was walking with my friends, his WHOLE group of friends turned n looked my way. and last night at the football game, he kept looking my way.

so, im pretty sure he likes me , and i know i like him too. so, now what do i do? I can't go up and talk to him because he is always with his friends, either that or he is always listening to his ipod. We are friends on facebook, but we never talk. & last night, on my fcbk, for the "what are you doing now" thing, I wrote a verse from REalize by COlbie c. and then he wrote some verse from some song, it said "you take my breath away when you walk. you tk my breath away when u r near me. you tk my breath away when u r away. i just wanna be with you even though i am too shy". HELP ME!!!!

so OBVIOUSLY he is too shy to talk to you. so just talk to him on facebook. ask him to hang out or for his number. you know, random stuff like that.

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the past month i've been talking to this boy who i really do like but everyone says hes no good for me. i can see where their all coming from because all he does all day is smoke weed and hang out in the streets. i dont know if i should just let him go and stop talking to him. i would feel so bad if i did that though because he is faithful to me unlike all the other past relationships i've been in. i have talked to him about it before but he just doesn't want to stop smoking.

ive been in this situation before. go ahead and get together with him just tell him not to smoke around you. thatll make him stop smoking as much, eventually. dont expect him to just stop. thatll never happen in a 1,000,000 years! then gradually start hanging out with him more and more, which will make him smoke less and less. then when you guys have started going out for A WHILE kinda give him subtle hints that you dont like it when he smokes and if he could try to SMOKE LESS. DO NOT ASK HIM TO STOP COMPLETELY. then, if he says no, say ok, and leave him alone. then in a couple of days do it again. if he keeps saying no, then youll just have to accept it until he decides that you really want him to stop.

i hope i helped!!

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SORRY for it being long lol.

Theres this guy, jed, and i really like him, maybe even love him, and i honestly dont know what to do. I am 14, hes 15, and i know im not too young to love. But he lives an hour away. We see each other for a week straight ever year and then we visit each other for a couple of days every month or two and we talk like every night. We hooked up, and i really thought he liked me. I mean he was always like i msis you so much. and i have a fb and he always comments like you are gorgeous.

Last nights his away was im a mess. I said i am too. Hes like mines because of a girl, im like mines because of a guy and i really really thought he was going to say it was because of me. He was like i cant tell you i cant tell you and then hes like fine its a girl named jessie you dont know her. I just like couldnt move i felt numb and just wanted to cry. I do now too, i texted him the whole night and he talked about jessie. she seems like a great girl but...idk. I really thought we would end up together just try at least and this crushed me like im tearing up now. I feel for his pain when i see him i cant stop smiling. He is the first thing i think about int he morning and hes always the last thing i thinka bout before going to bed, haha im always texting this boy. When i hear his voice its heaven. When he touches me its like a shock goes through my body. We like the same things, and i honestly cant stop talking about him. My friends think i should get over him but i dont think its possible i mean ive had boyfirends before but ive never felt anything like this. What can i do? i love him and there isnt one thing wrong with him, hes perfect. Help me! i cant tell him i love him. not now after meagan, it would just be embarrassing being like hows meagan? btw i lvoe you? it just wouldnt work. ugh. helpp!

give him hints that you like him. get to meet this jessie girl and see if she likes him back or if maybe you two could become friends =] maybe she doesnt like him and hell get over her and start liking you.

what i do is tell the guy that i like that i like him. it gets stuff out in the open and 99% we start going out because hell start liking me because i told him and most guys like that as long as you dont become all stalker like. l0l

i hope i helped! tell me how it goes. =]

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i and my boyfrd were in deep love for 2 years but then v both had a misunderstanding bout a girl who was his bestfrd.he got angry and he was lyk i dont trust him.i tol him its not tat i don trust him but actually i m jus jealous.but he bcame really violent n sed he doesnt want me at all in his hole lyf.many of our frds involved but he got more angry.i tol him srry in many ways by giving him cake,chocolates and all that but he sed i was over acting.he loved me for 6 years but now he says there is no love at all and he hates me.wat shud i do?plzz help me.he is 20 yrs old and i m 18 yrs

well first, tell him that you DO trust him and that you are very sorry for ever doubting him. tell him that the girl was a misunderstanding. tell him that you are sorry that you are jealous. because honestly if you trust him you have no reason to be jealous because he wouldnt cheat on you. makes sense right? keep friends and family out of it. its none of their business. (im so sorry if i sound harsh) it will only make him angrier that youre getting people involved that shouldnt be. if he is violent as in physically, LEAVE HIM ALONE. if hes violent with words, its not such a good thing but he probaly has a right to be because he thought you dont trust him. it probaly just upset him because he most likely thinks that you dont trust him, love him, etc.

i hope i helped!! please leave me a message if you need help with anything else. tell me how everything goes. =]

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why cant i drink with my bf?

its not just him but any of my exs, i can never drink with them.

i can do it comfortably around my friends (guys or girls) but never someone im dating.

maybe its because you dont want them to see how you act when you are drunk.

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Okay so, Saturday was Old Home Day and at the moment Steven was dating becky a really close friend of mine but she really never liked him. Well they broke up the same day, and Steven ended up saying right infront of me to Abby that if I asked him out seriously he would have a hardtime saying no to me. and I guess all day we were flirting and everything.
I told a lot of people the day and the key points that they lovee to throw in my face cuz I say we werent flirting is
--I played with his feet.
--Wore his sweatshirt.
--Played Mercy and lost miserably.
--Jumped on his back to get back for losing Mercy.
--He baught me french fries and the guy behind the counter was like "You have your boyfriend rapped around finger." and I was like =Ohes not my boyfriend.
--We shared the couch together very nicely lol.

i didnt know i was 'flirting' at the time... and I donno if he thinks I like him but everyones saying that he likes me.. I donno.
I guess flirting is wanting to keep his attention all the time which i guess im good at and he never complained. and he was talking about him and me and group people going over his house to watch a bunch of scary movies and NO. I hate scary movies becuase im the girl in the back screaming her head off and Ill probably grab the first person and cuddle with. Told Becky that and she said that that is probably what he wants.
I donno if I like Steven. I love spending time with him, I hate it when he picks me up, and I scream bloody murder right in his ear to get him to put me down. He's always making me laugh and I dont need to watch what i do with him I ust do it.
I thought thats what friends were... but Im wrong. By A Lot.
What do I do? What relationship do we have Kimberly calls us Flirt Buddies. and, I donno how to act around him now.

you were definitely flirting with him!! l0l
i think you should be friends first for a while and if you want to take it further after a while go ahead. thats what friends ARE for and i think (that by what you told me) he definitely likes you as more than a friend.

if you need anything else or i missed something, send me a message in my inbox :D

good luck and i hope i helped! let me know how everything goes!

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