Q: when a guy tells me that he isnt glad he is diabetic because im so0 sweet hat does that mean.. does it mean he rlly likes me.. i mean i really think he likes me.. plz answer and i will rate U.. thanks

Q: My bf is kind of startng to annoy me. he wont even look at me when i talk to him, im pretty sure he listens but it seems weird that he wont even look at me. and he wont just like stop and talk to me in the hallways, i always hav to start conversation. And today he like ignored me when i ran up to him. hes really not a shy person its just around me. And at first i thought he didnt like me anymore but he said he does. should i just dump him? i still like him but he acts weird sometimes and i HATE how he wont look at me!

Q: There's a really really REALLY hott guy in my class...let's call him...tim. Well, Tim is a really popular guy who is really nice and well, HOT :)...basically, if you looked at him, your heart would melt...lol. And, well i'm not a popular person..It's not like i'm a total geek or anything but i'm not the most popular girl in my class...im just normal...

ANYWAY...

At my friend's halloween b-day party, my friend told him "You and Em would make a great couple...you should ask her 2 dance"...
Tim didnt ask me or anything so I thought that he didnt like me....

Since then, he's talked 2 me a little bit and I even saw him looking at me a little bit...does this mean he likes me? I doubt this but what do you think? He broke up with his girlfriend a while ago but at the party i saw them dancing together...

Should I give up now while I'm ahead? Any advice would be GREAT!!!

Thanx!!!
*~*EM (13/f)

Q: ok well this guy told me he liked me! and i told him i like him, and we kind of act like boy firned and girlfrien like we always hug and everyhting, but the thing is i have started talkign to him about 10 days ago after the summmer break for which we didnt talk at alll. and we hung out for the first time and idk at first we didnt talk and hung out with other people but then at the end we did and got more firnedly to the point that it was quite friendly. and umm im just wondering how long is it gonna take him to ask me out??? like agh he told me he liekd me like 2 days ago? and i wnat to know how soon he will ask me out!! also a couple of his and my friends ask me if we like each other so i hope thats a good thing =)

Q: I was talking to my best friend on the phone yesterday. (She's a girl, im a guy.) And she said she liked me. I like her too, and I told her that. It should be easy to figure what to do next but it's not. We want to be more then friends but were afraid of ruining our friendship if something happens. Also, she is afraid it would be too weird but I don't think it would. So I guess Im asking, should I ask her out? Or should we just stay friends even though we want to be more, just so it won't be weird?

Q: I broke up with my bf of nearly 4 years about 3 months ago. He was emotionally and mentally abusive to me. I had been in councelling for a while and I thought I had nearly got over him. Well yesterday I decided to sign up for a dating site. I actually received about 4 responses to my profile. Instead of contacting these guys that wrote me; I got freaked out and deleted my profile. Does anyone know what is wrong with me?

Q: I think my boyfriend and one of my best friends may have feelings for each other. They've always been friendly with each other, but lately it's more than that. They're always really playful - joking/laughing together, and they've been quite touchy feely of late, too. The other day I watched them when they thought I wasn't looking, and she said something to him and he started laughing like it was the funniest thing ever and he kinda slapped/punched her on the shoulder. Then he pulled her woolen hat down over the back of her head for her....the whole time I watched she was fiddling/playing with his jacket, and she even touched his face a couple times.....
Am I totally over-reacting here? Maybe they're innocent? What do I do?

Q: My best friend and me like the same guy but i dont want to tell her that i like him to. She talks about him all the time and it makes me sad becuase i have to keep my feeling inside. He asked her to homecoming so i dont know what to do. If i should tell her how i feel or just go on like nothing happen

Q: I am about to leave a relationship that isn't broken, and I'm petrified. I have been dating a wonderful, wonderful man for just over a year. We fell in love very quickly and very soon it was understood that we would marry someday. He's 34 and I'm 26.
The problem is that I have it much more together than he does. I am on the career track, and I am universally acknowledged to have lots of "earning potential"-- I am going to work hard and earn money. He is the antithesis of this; he's not against work, per se, but he's not corporate. He wants to ocean kayak and rock climb and ski and lead tours to Latin America. We joked early on that he would be the house-husband and I would earn all the money.

He also has a very significant amount of debt-- twenty thousand dollars. When his previous relationship of 5.5 years broke up (VERY acrimoniously), his girlfriend shoveled her credit card debt onto him, arguing that she had supported him and he deserved to assume debt she had undertaken. Despite the fact that he had no idea she was getting herself into debt, he accepted the debt load, because it seemed the honorable way to end things and to get her out of his hair. Now, of course, he has no chance of paying it back and might go bankrupt.

I love him. Everyone loves him, but more than one of my family members has come to me to express doubts about him. At first I shrugged off all the criticisms, saying, "If I love him, and I do, we will make things work."

Now I am considering breaking things off. He is the sweetest, kindest, gentlest person; he would be the most wonderful father I can think of; he is attractive, decent, and devoted to me. In other areas, we have nothing in common: he is outdoorsy, adventuresome, confident and arbitrary, while I am bookish, ambitious, tentative, and reserved.

My question to you is: Is it possible to wish someone well, to want him to be happy, and yet to know on a deep level that it just isn't going to work? Part of me wants to hold on to him, just because he is so special. The other part sees fights in the future, conflicts over money and attention.

Perhaps I have answered my own question. I don't know. It is cathartic simply to write about this. Thank you for your time

Q: My situation is quite confusing. I'll start from the beginning. I'm 17 years old...and will be 18 in 13 days. I developed feelings for a guy at work over this past summer. He is 24. Keep in mind, I am a virgin and plan on staying that way for a long, long time...and he knows this.

He always treats me with kindess and respect...and has the ability to put a smile on my face no matter what. He is the ideal guy for me. Well, I am terrible at keeping things a secret. Apparently, I made my crush a little too obvious.

When he found out that I like him, he completely shut me out. I can't even go near him. It's as if I'm invisible. I thought he was mad at me. I asked someone if he was, and they said that I flustered him. That isn't exactly a good thing. Basically, he's going to stay away until he's comfortable around me...especially because he's afraid to lead me on.

What do I do? What does this mean? How do I fix this? Even if I don't have a chance romantically, I need to know how to fix our friendship. I've known him for over a year and for him to completely shut me out like this...it's killing me.

I'm in desperate need of help. Please, any advice you have means the world to me. Thank you in advance

Q: well to start im 14/f.. well i've been dateing this kid for about a month now.. and i love him to death! and there is this really hott guy who is a senior and he wants me to make out with him and everyone says i should.. but idk if i should because im dateing someone else.. but i wanna make out with the senior!! anyone would if they had the chance! so what should i do?

Q: Hey Lalagurly,
I am the girl who asked for advice about that guy Jake. Remember? Well, school started today and I have yet another question for you. So far, I have two classes with him. I acted calm & cool and pretended it wasn't a big deal to me. I felt so proud of myself for being able to do that! Last year, I would act so weird and squirmish whenever he was around. Anyways, during the second class I had with him today he said "Hey Lauren. I saw your sister this summer" with a half-grin on his face. I looked over at him and said "Yeah, I heard" and then went back to my other conversation. So my questions are: Do you think that was a good move on my part? I didn't want to act completley into him like I did last year because I heard that guys like a challenge. Second question: What do you think he meant by saying that to me? Was he trying to just start a conversation or do you think he was kind of teasing me? Thanks so much!

Q: In 8th grade, I developed my first real crush on a guy named Jake. I loved how he could make me laugh with everything he said. I also liked how he was so different from all the other guys in our grade.

In 9th grade, I no longer had any classes with Jake. For some reason, this caused me to act very shy around him. I would write him a note but my friends would give it to him instead of me. My friends even asked him to the sadyhawkins & homecoming dance for me. He said yes to both. But he stood me up at homecoming (he apologized but never explained why) and changed his mind about going with me to the sadyhawkins dance a day after he said yes (Once again, not explaining why he changed his mind). I was crushed after he had hurt me twice, but for some reason..I still had a crush on him. I told my friends to leave him alone and not talk to him about me anymore. Of course, they didn't stop. The end of the year came and I had finally worked up the nerve to talk to Jake. I was going to apologize for my friends bugging him and ask him why he changed his mind about me so many times. I was all ready to do it after school on the last day but suprisingly enough, he was no where to be found. His friend Justin told me he had to leave early for a funeral. I know Justin wouldn't lie because he is my friend too. Embarrassing things have happened this summer too! My sister saw him and gave him my number, telling him he should call me. He never did. I feel like me being shy and my stupid friends have ruined everything. Is there any way I could still make it work with Jake? What should I do?! School starts this Monday!!!! Helllllpppp

Q: I'm currently in a relationship. And i think i'm in love... But how can i tell? What the signs that a girl's in love?

Q:



This is kinda long, but your advice is appreciated :-)

Met this guy Gerard after a bad relationship. Wasnt COMPLETELY over it, but I really liked Gerard, and learned to love him and move on in a short period of time when I met him, like two weeks, after breaking up with the ex five weeks previous. I told Gerard I wasnt talking to the ex, but I was, didnt have feelings for the ex, just felt bad cause he was asked to leave the youth club we met.

I lied to Gerard about my grades (as he placed SO much emphasis on education and made me feel stupied at times, which I am sensitive about) and a few people I dated along with talking to my ex. In my eyes wee white lies occur at the begining of relationships and I didnt wanna cause silly arguments over talking with the ex, and I told him soon after the truth. When I did, he got frustrated, and grabbed my side, sticking his nails into my side in the process. I was left badly bruised and bleeding. I thought I deserved it for telling lies. He also started to scrab his wrists that nite in front of me, hes a self harmer, and its harder for me to accept as my brother killed himself a few years previous, which he knew. Isit right for him to hurt himself in front of me, should I have told him the truth all along, or do you understand I didnt wanna cause arguments over nothing, was his actions ok to do?

When he believed I flirted with people, he cut himself, even though I was in a friendly way, it does not justify his actions. People are flirty.

He found some porn on my computer, and felt totally hurt by it, thinking that he wasnt enough, I tried to explain it was just something I did, and that it wouldnt happen anymore. When I left my room, he searched through all my files to find them, and he also has searched through my phone once or twice to view people I know, and questioned some names.

He can be quite violent and loses his temper quickly, he full scale kicked me in front of friends when we went camping, because I wouldnt speak to him during an argument. He also has a tendency to grab harshly (Once or twicemy arm was bruisedwhich friends have noticed) me when I walk away when he argues and not let me go, which I dislike and find disrespectful. He also has a way of making me feel that most things are my fault.

I went to friends for advice over his self-harming, and told him, which REALLY hurt him, but I had no one else to talk to. Was that wrong? But friends are there when your in trouble and scared.

When we had an argument one night (as we often do), we grabbed me in the bar and I retaliated and grabbed him back, and whacked him across the head becasue in my eyes I was defending myself. If he thought it was ok, why should I hold back? My friends thought I hit him, which was lies as it was in defence, so I put him on loud speaker on my phone to prove my innocence. And he was upset and I asked him why he had to harm me, and he cameback saying "well why do I harm myself" That was not what I wanted people in the room to hear. But after they did, they saw it as emotional blackmail. Was this right of me to do?

I love him, and cant walk away, but I need advice on this drama called a "relationship". Whos in the right and wrong?

Thank you...

Q: My bf is such a hypocrite. Well for starters he is about 30 pounds overweight. I am about average; and he keeps telling me I need to lose 20 pounds although he never thinks he has a weight problem. He also gets upset if he thinks I'm too friendly with the opposite sex; but he flirts outragiously right in front of me. He also has said the he thinks he's smarter then me even though I know a lot more things like about movie and television trivia and mental health and other topics than he knows. He thinks he's king sh_t. It is really beginning to tick me off. He also copies ideas of mine and passes them off as his own and he never gives me any credit for them. Should I confront him? He really needs a reality check before his head swells up any more.

Q: Ok well, here is the deal... I started talking to this girl online, we talked every day, and night, we eventually became liking eachother, so after a few weeks of joking around, I decided to ask if it could be 'for real' as a relationship, She is 14, and I am 24. I know it's a bit of a age different, and no, I am not a pedophile, I never usually like people younger than me, just it's.. She acts more mature and it's really easy to talk to her, and listen to her. We have really great conversations, but we never met, but then one day, we decided to meet, and she brought a few friends with her... the whole time she avoided me, yeah I was shy also, but I would've talked to her if she wasn't avoiding me, cause I could tell she didn't want to be there with me, I mean, she did, but she didn't... and I know she's had past relationship problems, but I guess, maybe I was just another problem in a relationship, and I really fell in love with her, before we even met and she means the world to me, I just don't know what to think, she only lets me talk to her, if I ask her on this, but she speaks as if she don't know me, and I don't know what to think, any advice? P.S. She talks to me still, but don't tell me her true feelings, and acts like nothing happened, but she don't talk as much or act the same.

Q: Alright, well me and my boyfriend are almost at our one year anniversary and im just looking for ideas of what i could get him as a gift? we have the day planned out, but i want to get him something for our one year?..


thanks any ideas appreciated

Q: Ok well i started going out with this one guy named jonathan.The thing is dat he knows i like somebody else and i know he likes somebody else.Yes it seems wierd but we told each other that since the beggining.Its like we like each other to but it kind of feels wierd to know he dosent only think of me...i know he probably feels da same way but i dont know.I seriously dont think we are going to last.Although i wish it did=/So if you were in my place what would you do??

Q: hi im 13/f and i am really confused i went out with this guy for like a year.during that year he never once kissed me,never asked me to call him and we never held hands or anything but after a year he broke up with me.i dont no the reason but he did. i still have really strong feelings for him.so a year passed by and he is in a lot of my classes.in one class he sits right next to me and lately he has been talking to me a lot and flirting and he even likes to sit under my desk during class while we r watching a movie.he even told me to call him and gave me his number and walks with me to my next class,he invites to hang out with him at lunch at school, lately i feel like closer to him then i have when we were going out,why is hes doing this
cuz if he likes me still why did he break up with me?if he asks me out do i take the second chance cuz i really like him alot? help soon please
t.l.h.

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