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Need help :(
Ok well, here is the deal... I started talking to this girl online, we talked every day, and night, we eventually became liking eachother, so after a few weeks of joking around, I decided to ask if it could be 'for real' as a relationship, She is 14, and I am 24. I know it's a bit of a age different, and no, I am not a pedophile, I never usually like people younger than me, just it's.. She acts more mature and it's really easy to talk to her, and listen to her. We have really great conversations, but we never met, but then one day, we decided to meet, and she brought a few friends with her... the whole time she avoided me, yeah I was shy also, but I would've talked to her if she wasn't avoiding me, cause I could tell she didn't want to be there with me, I mean, she did, but she didn't... and I know she's had past relationship problems, but I guess, maybe I was just another problem in a relationship, and I really fell in love with her, before we even met and she means the world to me, I just don't know what to think, she only lets me talk to her, if I ask her on this, but she speaks as if she don't know me, and I don't know what to think, any advice? P.S. She talks to me still, but don't tell me her true feelings, and acts like nothing happened, but she don't talk as much or act the same.
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Wow. Well, I'm 14, and believe me, she is scared. 14 year olds only look for relationships to flaunt the boyfriend, and maybe kiss in public and go to the movies once and awhile. This girl is seriously just beginning to be a young lady, whereas you are a grown man. She's not ready for some commitment with you, she's just barely a teenager for goodness sakes!
My advice is to just talk to her online - don't meet up with her. Don't try and persuade her into dating you when she doesn't want to. Man, go to a bar or something and find someone your own age. Leave the girl alone. If I were in her situation, I would be scared and ashamed for thinking any romantic thoughts about a 10 year older man.
Just leave her alone. 10 years is a big age gap.
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okay.. well the big issue in everone elses advice is that 10 years of age differance considers you a pedophile and i'm not goin to lie to you it is a bit much... but then again age is only a number.. you say that when you talk to her online she sounds more mature than her own age... but when you met her she completely ignored you .. now to me thats not very mature... so my advice to you is to just be friends with her.. after all she is still a minor.. and she is just now maturing into womanhood.. so keep your options open go to a single's night.. meet a woman over 18. but keep writing to her but don't give her the idea you want relationship with her because a 24 year old talking about a relationship to a 14 year old could scare her away so stick with just being friends ... well i hope i helped
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i kno this may sound really REALLY rude. but i think you should stop talking to her, before some1 finds out about this, nd u end up in jail.
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Oh my freaken gosh! What the heck is wrong with you? This girl is 14 years old. You have had a lifetime of expearience compared to her. She just bearly steped into becomming a women. She has a whole lifetime a head of her, and she needs be able to go through life normally.
What your looking for is probably completely different than what she is looking for. Relationships when your young are completely different than when your older. At the age of 24 your looking for someone you can fall inlove with and get married to. At the age of 14 you just want to be able to brag to your friends that you have a boyfriend. You may not be touching her, but you are molesting her mind. Let her grow up normally and leave her alone. Find someone your own age.
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she is probably a bit scared i mean you are much older than her and she doesnt know alot about you i dont care if shes mature or not your age difference is to much right now i suggest friendship NOTHING MORE tell her that. you may also want to avoid seeing her anymore just keep it to the internet for awhile live your own life do your own thing this girl has a rght to immature boyfriends and you have a right to party and be matture if you dont think you can handle this than stop talking to herwho knows maybe when she is like 25 you will run into her and fall in love if you want hold on to that as a hope but realise no matter what she isnt right for you now apoligise if you scared her and just let things be you will carry on fine eventauly
~nikki~
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You're 24 and she is 14. If you touch her, you are a pedophile, no matter what you think about yourself. You really will (in real life) have to register as a sex offender if anyone finds out. As it is, even with no sexual contact, you are persuing an innapropriate relationship. Stop.
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Just because a young lady is mature enough to hold up her end of the conversation with a twenty-something, doesn't mean she is ready for twenty-something kind of relationship. She isn't. She simply doesn't live in your world, sounds like she is even smart enough to know that she doesn't want to yet.
She is backing off from you. She is not interested in you. You probably even frighten her a bit, with good reason: she knows she can't be on equal footing with you. She is smart enough not to try.
Your obsession with her is unhealthy. It would be unhealthy even if she was your age, but because of the age difference it is both unhealthy and impossible.
Back off from her, big time. Stop causing her pain and confusion. She is a kid: She shouldn't have a whole bunch of past relationship issues, and all you are managing to do right now is create an issue that she is trying to avoid as politely as a teenage girl knows how.
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My adivce is this, run now! I know you like her, but you are just waiting to get arested. If you think she could be in your life someday, then just talk to her online for a few more years and wait till she's legal. I know its hard, but it is the best thing to do to avoid ruining each others lives.
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