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Shyness & Friends Ruining Relationship
In 8th grade, I developed my first real crush on a guy named Jake. I loved how he could make me laugh with everything he said. I also liked how he was so different from all the other guys in our grade.
In 9th grade, I no longer had any classes with Jake. For some reason, this caused me to act very shy around him. I would write him a note but my friends would give it to him instead of me. My friends even asked him to the sadyhawkins & homecoming dance for me. He said yes to both. But he stood me up at homecoming (he apologized but never explained why) and changed his mind about going with me to the sadyhawkins dance a day after he said yes (Once again, not explaining why he changed his mind). I was crushed after he had hurt me twice, but for some reason..I still had a crush on him. I told my friends to leave him alone and not talk to him about me anymore. Of course, they didn't stop. The end of the year came and I had finally worked up the nerve to talk to Jake. I was going to apologize for my friends bugging him and ask him why he changed his mind about me so many times. I was all ready to do it after school on the last day but suprisingly enough, he was no where to be found. His friend Justin told me he had to leave early for a funeral. I know Justin wouldn't lie because he is my friend too. Embarrassing things have happened this summer too! My sister saw him and gave him my number, telling him he should call me. He never did. I feel like me being shy and my stupid friends have ruined everything. Is there any way I could still make it work with Jake? What should I do?! School starts this Monday!!!! Helllllpppp
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well you could still talk to him or email him this guy probably just doesnt like your friends bugging him talk to them tell them to stop and if they care about you they will
talk to him just about normal stuff email him or something maybe you guys could be friends
your shyness will eventauly go away and when it does you will be glad
remember there are others guys so dont worry about him to much just kinda carry on with life and mabe jake will notice you more
hope i helped and that i made sense i am falling asleep so the advice not be th best but o well
~nikki~
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Well, that's like me and a nother boy and I just accepted his decisions and kept him as a friend. We didn't have any classes together for two years but I still talked to him ALOT on AIM. And over time I figured that there was nothing to be embaressed about. We can't control our feelings and you know, this is all part of the kinks in life.
You should start talking to Jake on AIM or some type of messenger or email him. If he won't call you, you should call him. If you still want to confront him about why he ditched you and such, make it friendly and don't get too serious about it. I mean there are many other guys out there for you =D & if you still want to apologize to him about your friends and sister, do so (which he will see as a plus).
After getting that out of the way, why don't you carry on small conversations with him--act like none of those embaressing situations happened. Just be yourself and don't mold yourself into what he likes
have fun =D
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