My name is Lacey, I'm 22. 4th yr in college. I like to give advice. I try to be a good person.I'm a very outspoken and honest person.I honestly been through alot throughout my years of dating and taking peoples stuff.I play softball and use to play volleyball.I've been playing softball since I was about 5.And I played volleyball since 7th grade til sophomore year in HS.But that's really it.If you want to know more about me or have any questions.Go for it and ask away.Either message me or IM me sometime.BYEEE!
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I am 25 yrs old and I came from Mexico 10years ago on a visa. My visa expired and I was aware that I could be removed from the country anytime. I met this guy at school and we fell in love right away. everything happen so fast, he stayed at my apmnt once and never left. He loved that I was very independent and a hard worker. He had trouble with the law and he was trying to finish his 4 year probation. Sooner than later I realized he had an anger problem, but I still loved him so much. We fought multiple times were he would loose control and break everything he could. He knew about my situation with immigration and begged me to marry him so I was not on deportation risk anymore. I married him without anyone knowing about it. couple months later I was pregnant. It was shocking to me bec I am in this country alone. Even though his family liked me, they did not like what was happening. Everything started getting bad after that, our fights started getting physical and he hurted me many times being pregnant, he threatened to deport me many times as well. after one big fight he left and never came back. I was so afraid that he would take my baby and try to deport me.He said he was just not ready to be a father. I had an abortion a week after he left and he was not even there for me for that. I asked for help and everyone told me that the best thing to do was to file for a protection order so he could not deport me, and I did. His family hated me bec they said I knew he could get in big trouble after his past. We stayed away from each other for months. I was so hurt, bec after time I still loved him. I saw him again at school and he cried and begged me to forgive him. I started to fix my paperwork through domestic violence, if I removed that protection order they would not longer help me out and I would have to leave the country. I explained that to him and he agreed to see me anyway. His family went nuts when the heard we were together again, especially with him being so close to finish probation and having a protection order. we didn't care and still seeing each other. I was still very angry that he left me, we were fighting all the time, there was nothing good about that relationship besides knowing that we passionate loved each other. couple days ago we got into a fight at school, he started yelling at me in the middle of the parking lot and someone called police. Having a protection order they arrested him and took him to jail and there was nothing I could do about it. His family hates me even more now. His mother called me to tell me the piece of trash I was. I paid a lot of money for him to get out of jail. They are begging me to remove the protection order and blame all on me so he doesn't go to prison. If I do so, my papers won't go through and I might be deported. We knew we were fighting all the time, but nobody understand how much we love each other. I know we are toxic and we hurt each other when we are together but we are miserable when we don't have each other. He is devastated that he might go to prison for violation of probation, and I could not go to bed if I knew that I sent the man that I love the most to jail. I know he was physical when we lived together, but I forgave him and all I want is this nightmare to be over. Everyone says to forget about him and find someone else, that nothing would ever work out, especially with him being so close to his family. What should I do? (link)
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You have a complicated situation but I think you pretty much answered your own question. Why fight for something that isn't meant to be? When you know all yall do is fight and he abuses you? If he walks out on you once, what makes you think he wouldn't do it again? I think you should let go. Some things need to come to an end and it may be hard but over time, things will get better. You WILL find someone who will fight for you and be with you through hard times. I think you know what is good for you even if you think you love this guy. Be happy.
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I'm 24/F and my boyfriend of almost 3 years recently broke up with me. It was a very tumultuous relationship, but we had some amazing times & I truly loved him. I'm trying to move on, even though it's only been a couple months. My heart is still broken, and I'm finding it difficult to not think about him constantly. I've just never had this kind of heartbreak before, so I'm stuck in denial a bit, mixed with a lot of anger towards my ex. I feel like he just gave up on us, and I was willing to work things out. To add more to my misery, all my friends are settling down - moving in together with bfs, getting engaged, etc. I thought I was next for that, but obviously not anymore. It's hard talking to them about it because they can't relate. I feel immense pressure and in a way, have that "I'll never be with anyone again!" mentality. Also, readjusting to single life is horrible! What are some ways to move on & get out there again? I'm sick of my pity party. Are there any suggestions others have used to get over someone that worked? (link)
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I've been there done that. Me and my ex ended our relationship after almost 4 & a half years. It was tough.. I forgot how to be single again. It felt weird and unfamiliar. But my suggestion is to lose communication with him altogether. Delete him from facebook, take his number out of your phone, don't creep on his facebook. Go out. Do not feel guilty for having a good time. Meet new people. Find some hobbies you are interested in. Don't be afraid to meet a new guy and go on dates. It is okay to move on, trust me! I am not going to lie though, it's going to hurt for awhile. It sucks.. period. But eventually it WILL get easier. Give it time. Try to think of the negative aspects of yalls relationship.. it kind of makes it easier to get over him. Hope I helped! If you have any other questions or anything, don't be afraid to send me a message! :)
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Firts things first, I would like to emphasize the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.. You can love your best friend, no matter the gender, but you can be in love with someone of the opposite gender.
In this case, for me it's the same person. I won't go as far as saying I am in love with him, but I do love him and I have non-platonic feelings for him aka I like him as more than a friend.
I am left with the ever so popular dilhema of deciding whether or not to act upon my feelings and impulses, and telling him or showing him that I like him more than he thinks. I currently have no idea how he feels towards me, we have only ben friends for little under a year now, yet a friendship that grew over time.
I am not expecting you to tell me what to do because you know neither of us, I just need advice on where to start, and perhaps how as well. Think of a hypothetical situation, and give it your best. Thanks in advance =] (link)
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Well if your certain of your feelings toward him, then why not express them to him. He may already sense it, idk, but if you don't say anything.. you might regret it. Although I understand trying to save a friendship in the end. Just see how he feels and how you feel about him and see what happens, why not? Hope it works out for you and if you have any other questions let me know :]
- Lacey
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is loving someone enough to make a relationship work? idk im so lost it seems like its never gonna work but i love him and he loves me... bad bad circumstances tho we fight all the time and he makes me sad alot and i never get to see him but when ever i try to end it i cant. I love him and i dont know what to do (link)
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Loving not enough to complete the relationship. It's about devotion to your companion, it's about making your boyfriend/girlfriend happy. Doing what it takes to make the relationship work. Two people make a relationship. One person can't make the effort and the other try when it's convenient for them. If you both are devoted to your relationship then i'd say you have some hope, but if your boyfriend has NO intentions in making an effort to make it work then there's no point in trying to make the relationship work. It's not worth it. You need to either talk to him about it to see where he is and what are his intentions then go from there. Hope things work out for you
- Lacey
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I'm a 16 year old male, who is currently in a relationship. My current "girlfriend" is going to a different school than me, and we haven't spoken even over the phone for almost two weeks. I'm getting fed up with this. As I feel like I'm being brushed off when I do make the effort to call, either she's busy or her brother says she isn't there... but it's her cell phone so I don't really get that. Well I'm just wondering if I should break it off and move on to whatever else life has in store or if I should just stick it out for a bit to see what happens with us. We've only been going out for two weeks prior to the lack of communication. (link)
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Well I see no point in staying in a relationship where you have almost no communication at all. It's about TWO people making the effort in trying to keep the relationship solid. You can't have ONE person trying to make things work. Your wasting your time if you think that things are going to last with no connection. Your 16, you have alot ahead of you. You don't need to wait around and HOPE she comes to her senses and realizes your right in front of her. If she doesn't want to keep in touch with you and try and see/talk to you, then just leave it at that and move on. Sorry if I'm being negative. It's just how I see it. Although it's only been 2 weeks or whatever, you COULD try and talk it out with her and she what her priorities are because obviously it seems she's been a bit distant from you. It's all up to you though, if you think it's worth it, go for it. Good luck my friend. Hope things work out for the best. :]]
- Lacey
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thats what all my friends say. but im still not sure what im trying to tell myself ! i would date him if i had the chance but on my birthday he wished me a happy birthday at midnight then when he woke up and then a minute before it hit 12. but i have talked to him i said i liked him for awhile when he was drunk. and this one time he was drunk again and i wasnt completley in it either we sopposedly flirted A LOT!!!!! and i really dont remember but he says he remembers everything and he had a lot of fun!!! so what does this all mean? and after i told him that i liked him he just sat there on his bike. so what should i do? (link)
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Somehow you need to figure out what's going on between you guys. Not just tell him when he's not sober. Best bet he does feel the same, but doesn't want to pursue the relationship, kind of just mess around, but I'm not sure. He genuinely cares about you and you know that. I don't know what else to say though because you have to figure out what's going on in his head. I can't talk for him and neither can you. Just find out how he's feeling and it he wants to move forward in yalls relationship. Hope things work out for you. Let me know if you need any more advice.
- Lacey
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over the summer i met this guy and i like him for awhile but he didnt feel that way about me so i slowly moved on. but we flirted like crazy when he had a girlfriend and when he didnt have one. we hungout a lot and he talked to me more then his girlfriend so we became close friends and when i say stories about the summer his name is always in there because i was always with him. his ex girlfriend when they were going out called me and said i think u and him have something going on together and i cant be your friend if thats what is happening. then my bestfriend says that he is jealous of me when i talk to other guys and everyone says were in love but i have some feeling s for him but not a lot. and he gives the act of being jealous when i had a boyfriend he got mad and asked how it happendd and then metioned that i liked him first. so idk does he like me or is it just a friend basis thing?sorry its so long anddd thankkksss a bunch i need the help (link)
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Alright, so I think you already answered it yourself, but I guess you need reassurance possibly? Well seems like he's attached to you and wether or not you recognize it or not, he is. Basically he's jealous because we all know what's really going on. You guys just won't realize it. He's in denial I'm assuming. You guys need to talk about what's going on between you. I take it that if you got the chance, you'd date him. The reason why he never tried to get with you was because how good of a friend you are and doesn't want to change things between you guys. There's probably numerous amount of reasons why yall aren't together but you need to talk to him. Well good luck with everything. Hope I helped! :]
- Lacey
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18/f
So me and my ex boyfriend went out for over a year. I broke up with him 6 months ago because feelings faded. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. For his benefir we didnt talk for a few months he clearly wasnt over me. Hes been dating a girl for 2 months and he thinks he loves her. I was legitimately happy for him. We started talking again.
She left him a week ago and hes come to me for support. As he describes his lost relationship, it makes me feel miserable, jealous, remembering what we had. I just dont know how to comfort him without rekindling old wounds.
What should I do? (link)
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I know you think it's your job to be there for him and what not, but if you don't feel comfortable in talking to him about his relationships and it makes you remember you guys, you shouldn't put yourself in that sort of situation. It's not smart to do something you know you'll regret doing. I know you feel bad but you can only do so much you know? I don't want you to end up as a rebound you know? Just say a few inspiring words, but let him have time. Time heals all wounds. Good luck.
- Lacey
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me and my boyfriend live in different states
and he got kicked out of his aunts house. again..
he called me like the day after cause his work scedual is really lame so we barely talk anymore
and when he didnt have work on sunday. he decided to go hangout wiht his friends and not talk to me. i understand. but he always see's them and talks to them. and me and him go like a couple days without talking. which is his fault. but he still chose them over me.
he called me yesteday morning and told me and stuff bout what happened so he said he rented himself out an apartment. but i think hes lieing cuase he called me from the same number he called from last time he was kicked out. which is his friends? so idk. but i really dont care about that
but then he got off of work at like 1 at night so then he called me after we talked for like 10 mintues and then he said hes gonna go get something to eat and then he call me back. which of course never happened. and that made me really mad/sad. he alwaysss says he will and then never does. what i dont get is what is more important to do at like 2 in the morning? and im pretty sure he just had to go call another girl.. but whatever. this whole relationship thing is making me soo stressed out and its to the point where i dont even care anymore. and i never say that cause i always care. i care way too much. im the only one putting effort into this. and hes not. but then we do talk hes always like oh i dont think you like me blahblahblah but when really. its him who doesnt show how much he wants to be with me casue hes losing me. i really need help. i dont know what to do.
oh and ps. sorry this was long anddd. dont say try calling him cause his cell phone isnt working so he has to call me from one of his friends phone or something.. (link)
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I'm pretty sure you answered your own question. This guy your with shows he doesn't care about this relationship. If he did, he would choose YOU and call you every chance he had, also knowing you guys don't see each other it's hard to maintain a healthy relationship. Things are falling apart and your the only one putting an effort into making it work. It's time to let him go and find a better man. Honestly.. he seems like he has more "important" priorities. Find a guy who you can actually see and have a decent, healthy relationship, instead of waiting out for a guy who doesn't put an effort. Well hope I helped, good luck!
- lacey
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Hi. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for a year and 4 months now. When we first got together, I remember him telling me about how his neighbor would beat his wife all the time, and he said this with admiration in his voice. I asked him if he thought it was okay to hit a woman, and he said yeah.
He does have anger problems, and the least little thing would set him off.
He used to tell me not to come to his house unless his cousin was with me, and one time I did go without his cousin and he huffed and puffed and balled up his fists, and turned sharply and walked away...later on he told me that he was going to knock me across the yard...he would always tell me how badly he wished he could put his hands on me and put me in my place. One time I was standing outside his car, and he hurt me by pulling my arm halfway through the window and pushing down on it from inside. But he never hit me.
But now he's taking medicine to control his temper and things are much better, and it's like he's a different person. But not long ago, I went to a friend's house, Don, to do his hair, and my boyfriend followed me there and hit the gas and kept speeding past the house, back and forth like a maniac. Then he called everyone he knows and got them to call me to tell me how much he was sorry, etc.
Another thing is that one night he took my cell phone from me and went through it and started calling numbers he didnt know, accusing me of cheating. When I tried to get the phone back, he almost hit me. Then he cornered me, grabbed my face tight, and told me that I had better not be cheating on him.
I'm afraid of him, so when he does things like that, I just lower my head. Then, when we're on the phone the next day, he laughs about how scared of him I was. Now he's told me that he doesnt want me to talk to Don at all anymore, even though I've told him constantly that we're just friends. And to top it off, he's trying to get me pregnant. I've told him I don't want kids right now, but he keeps 'forgetting' condoms or takes them off when I'm not looking. He has actually told me that he wants me to have his baby so that I can't leave him.
He's really a sweet person, and compared to what I went through when we first started dating, our relationship is peaceful now. But now that we're supposed to be living together soon, I'm worried that he might change and go back to his old ways. Call me crazy, but we have a great relationship when he's not angry, and I don't want to leave...I've tried leaving him in the past, but he cries and begs for me to come back. Since he's been taking his medicine the only time he gets really mad is when he thinks I'm cheating or something.
How high is the chance that he's going to become physically abusive in the future? Would this already be considering abuse or controlling behavior? Any thoughts/advice is appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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You need to get out of this relationship wether or not you want to or not. Your putting yourself in a BAD situation and alot of the times, people who are with someone for a long time and have been taken advantage of, DON'T get out of the relationship. I think you might be getting into something you can't handle to be honest. You know what's he's capable, why put yourself in such a big hole where you can't get out by living with him? This act of violence and abusiveness will not stop. He might go off on you and end up hitting you or harming you some how. I don't see any reason to stay with him. Obviously he doesn't trust you and you guys don't have any communication between you guys. All these things you've said are negative except when he's on meds, but even on meds, he freaks out on you, thinking your cheating. What good is that? I don't see him ever changing the way he is. That's how he was raised and what he believes in. He thinks it OKAY to hit a girl. If he already believes that then he won't doubt hitting you when he really gets ticked off. My advice is to get out of that relationship quick.. before he takes advantage of you and you won't be able to get out. I really hope things work out for you and if you ever need any other advice, let me know!
- Lacey
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I sort of have a few questions in one here.
So i'm 17 years old, female, and i'm graduating high school next week. (i'm a young senior) Firstly, a ton of my friends drink, and i don't, so i haven't been hanging out with them lately, which is sad. Now my little brother (going to be a junior in hs next year) wants to start drinking. What do i do? I feel like i'm losing my friends and my brother because i'm not comfortable partying with them.
Also, This boy i liked forever is back from college for the summer and i want something to happen but i'm afaid of ruining a friendship. He told me recently he liked me back when i liked him two years ago... and now he's single again. We go for walks, watch movies together, and talk all the time. He always says the right things. I was really upset the other day, and was basically freaking out. And after a while i was like well, you probably want to get back to what you were doing or whatever. And this was his response:
him: hey hey hey
him: don't think you are ever inconveniencing me if you have to come to me with a problem
him: it's what i'm here for
him: whenever you need help dealing with something let me know
him: i don't care what i'm doing
him: i'm glad you feel you can talk to me when there is a problem
me: thanks. i really appreciate that.
him: try to relax and get some sleep
And i felt so much better. So how can i keep this bond we've got but make it something more? And is it worth it? We'll both be in college come september, on other ends of the country. (boston for him, savannah, GA for me.) I'm worried about starting something before college. oh and he isn't over his ex. that may pose a problem.
my last point. How do you meet the right guy? i got lucky with the boy i was talking about above, but when i get to school, how do i met new people, make new friends? I've wanted a boyfriend for some time now... but i want it to mean something.
i'm just so clueless.
Help?
Thanks.
Panda (link)
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Alrighty, so your young and you don't drink. So what? If you believe things will work out , then it will. Things will fall in place once you've settled down in college. You have to have a open mind and let people into your life. If your friendly and positive I'm sure you'll make friends fast. Even if college is going to be party enviroment doesn't mean you can't hang out with them and have a good time without drinking. Also, with this guy your talking about. You could try and develop something, but I wouldn't exactly suggest it because we all know how hard it will be to leave him for college. If you believe in long distance relationships and as well as him , maybe things will work out for yall. But the fact that hes not over his ex, it will be hard for you and him to develop a relationship and last. Don't think so much about the future and just let things happen. You'll be fine. I hope everything works out for you and if you want anymore advice, just let me know. I hope I helped by the way. Good luck! :]
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17/f
I just graduated high school and a couple of weeks ago I met this guy from my school at a party. I had seen him around before but never talked to him. Anyways I got his number and then he called me and stuff and we had a “date”. (He called it a date, but I would just call it hanging out.) We ate, saw a movie, and walked around for a bit. So there’s nothing really wrong with him. He’s really nice, and he seems to treat everyone the same. The only thing is, he’s a baby.
He’s a junior at the school I just graduated from. He’s actually a month older than me, because I started school early. But it’s not just about the age; he’s only like 4 inches taller than me and he only weighs like 15 lbs more.
The thing is, I know that his size will probably change. He’s one of those guys that was like 60 lbs his freshman year (you’ve all seen them), so I’m thinking that he’s just a little behind on the growing thing. And he’s cute now, it’s just the size thing is kind of a turn off. And I mean like I said, he’s nice, and I talked to someone that hung out with him after our “date” and they said that he wouldn’t stop talking about me. So I know he likes me, and I know he’s genuinely a good guy too, because even though I only went on one “date” with him, I’ve already gotten the “don’t hurt him” lecture from 3 of his friends. (so like I know he’s not just putting on a show for me, and that he’s actually nice to everyone).
My question is, should I give him a chance and try to get past the fact that he’s a baby?
Or should I just tell him I only want to be friends?
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Look, if you like this guy and he's nice and everything, why not give him a chance and stop judging him. It's not always about how they look and age and what not. And plus he's older than you, so you shouldn't put it against him that he's "scrawny". You need to look past all the flaws of him, he seems like a very sweet and loving guy. If you don't give him a chance, you might miss out on something good. If you don't end up liking him then let it go. It's not a big deal. Hope I helped.
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so i've been dating this guy for 5 months but 2 days before our 5 month he broke up with me saying "his feelings changed"
but know hes saying everytime he sees me smile he thinks he made the wrong choice and wants to date again just not anytime soon
i have no idea what i should about him cuz i still really like him....but i cant tell if hes playing me of not? (link)
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Well he's being a bit misleading because one thing he's saying his feelings changed and next he's saying he made the wrong choice. A part of me is thinking hes saving you as a rebound just in case things don't work out with other people which is quite wrong and I don't think you should wait out for it. Yeah you might like him alot, but you shouldn't stand for a rebound. If he really wants to be with you he'll be with you now, not way later. You have to move on and try and find someone new. I know it's hard and everything but things happen for a reason and it's time to find the better. Hope everything works out for you.
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okay so
this guy (not my boyfriend...though we act like we're going out) when we're together...well we're all over each other. like ill sit in his lap and he'll have his arms around me...we tease each other and talk to each other in baby voices...hold each others hands everywhere, lean our heads on each other, rub eachothers legs, give each other massages, kiss... yada yada.
and im sooooooo happy.
theres just one issue.
like
when we're leaving
like
we just leave
we say bye, see you (whenever)
or what ever
but like
it just seems so unfriendly!
like
a hug would be nice
how can i make him see that??? without asking him, i dont wanna seem over clingy and stuff since we "arent going out" (link)
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So you guys need to talk. Have a one to one heart talk to see what's going on in yalls relationship. Obviously yall have something going on and it seems to me yall need to move on in the relationship but you need to figure out what he sees yall and what shall yall do next. Tell him you would like to move forward and want a relationship with him. And if your comfortable, just put your arms out to him and hopefully he gets the message. Make sure he knows your quite intrigued by him and want him to be yours. Well good luck and hope I helped.
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hey guys. ive been going out with my bf for almost 5 months now. after 3 weeks of talking we started going out. yes quick i know. i really liked him. after about a month drama started settling. ex's, best friend, arguments.. and eventually we broke up for about 1 month and recently we got back together. he says he's going to change, meaning he's going to try to put down his pride, avoid arguments, etc. and i promised i'd do the same. but it's like everytime we talk, something always happens and someone's feelings gets hurt. thing aret the same, not much fun in the relationship, less smiles lil bit more tears or hurt feelings, and everytime we;re apart we almost have no time to talk or its over txt. whats your opinion on this? what do tou guys think is going on? and how can i fix it?
thanks much =/ flirty (link)
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Looks to me you two are growing apart. I mean I'm sure yall are crazy about each other but every story has an ending and this may be the case. I know you like him alot and all but you two need to talk things out and see how yall feel about everything and check yalls priorities because relationships are about love/arguements and fun, not JUST about argueing and crying all the time. There needs to be limits and if your unhappy all the time then what's the point. Their suppose to make you feel like a princess and make you happy. So talk it out and hopefully everything turns out okay. Good luck! :]
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for a week now ive been feeling distant from my boyfriend. some days ago on zwinky he met this girl named rose and rose fell for him pretty hard. and ever since then we havent been talking like we usually have. hes like distracted and its even worse now since rose's friend is after him too. and when i try to talk to him about it he laughs it off like its not important. what should i do? (link)
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Well THEY are falling for him, until you know for sure don't assume something is going on. You need to talk to him before you go ahead and assume. You two may be growing apart though. Not just because of those 2 girls. In order to anything across to him, you need to communicate with him and ask why have you guys been so distant and what not. Work things out and hope everything works out for the best for you.
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what does lust feel like (link)
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Alot of people mistake lust for love. Mostly because it's a desire or attraction to someone. You seem to be extremely attracted to sexually and physically. You might THINK you love them like them but your only intentions are just to have comfort/messing around with. Don't mistake it for love. In the end, it will bite you in the rear.
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who have i had sex (link)
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I don't understand your question and how would I know who you've had sex with?
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soooo how long should you wait after a guy asks for your number to give up on him ever calling you? (link)
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I wouldn't waste your breath. If he really wanted to talk to you/hang out then he'd call right away or a couple days or so. It's a mutual thing. Don't wait around, alot of guys forget to or just asked for it to ask for it. Be patient and don't wait for them to call. Do your thing and if he wants to call he will.
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17/f and he's 18
We've dated 2 years but took a 2 month break a year ago.
Okay.
We decided to take another break on Sunday night, he said we had nothing in common and his parents and friends dont like me. But what hurt the most was when he said "I dont really see you in my future so i dont see the point in still dating" He said how people never marry their first love and if they do that they end up getting divorced because they have never been with other people.
I feel like he would have wanted to break up right then but I convinced him to just spend some time apart. So I thought about our relationship and realized if we got back together I would be the only one trying to change things and he wouldnt want to compromise on anything. I think I would be miserable in that relationship.
So today he texted me and said "I love you" and then a few minutes later said "Lets try to fix things thats if you still want to"
Honestly I'm not sure what to do. He is my first love and I want to be with him, but he said some pretty hurtful things and I'm not sure if HE is willing to make changes.
What should I do? (link)
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I understand that yall been together for a long time, but some love dies hard. No matter what you do, you can't change the way he feels. Either he REALLY loves you or he's just lonely and wants someone. There's no telling what he really wants. You need to really talk to him. Make sure your clear on what he wants. It can't be a maybe for love. He could of said stuff out of anger or what he said was true and real. If you really love him and he loves you. You guys could try to fix things.. but that's only if BOTH of you are willing to fix things. Not just you. A relationship consist of two people. You can't have one trying to keep each other together. If he really wants to be with you. He'll find a way to be with you and TRY to fix things. You need trust and communication in order to have a decent relationship. Without that, you really don't have much to work with. It's like fighting fate and being with someone your not meant to be with. Well hope I helped and good luck! :]
- Lacey -
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