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restraining order
I am 25 yrs old and I came from Mexico 10years ago on a visa. My visa expired and I was aware that I could be removed from the country anytime. I met this guy at school and we fell in love right away. everything happen so fast, he stayed at my apmnt once and never left. He loved that I was very independent and a hard worker. He had trouble with the law and he was trying to finish his 4 year probation. Sooner than later I realized he had an anger problem, but I still loved him so much. We fought multiple times were he would loose control and break everything he could. He knew about my situation with immigration and begged me to marry him so I was not on deportation risk anymore. I married him without anyone knowing about it. couple months later I was pregnant. It was shocking to me bec I am in this country alone. Even though his family liked me, they did not like what was happening. Everything started getting bad after that, our fights started getting physical and he hurted me many times being pregnant, he threatened to deport me many times as well. after one big fight he left and never came back. I was so afraid that he would take my baby and try to deport me.He said he was just not ready to be a father. I had an abortion a week after he left and he was not even there for me for that. I asked for help and everyone told me that the best thing to do was to file for a protection order so he could not deport me, and I did. His family hated me bec they said I knew he could get in big trouble after his past. We stayed away from each other for months. I was so hurt, bec after time I still loved him. I saw him again at school and he cried and begged me to forgive him. I started to fix my paperwork through domestic violence, if I removed that protection order they would not longer help me out and I would have to leave the country. I explained that to him and he agreed to see me anyway. His family went nuts when the heard we were together again, especially with him being so close to finish probation and having a protection order. we didn't care and still seeing each other. I was still very angry that he left me, we were fighting all the time, there was nothing good about that relationship besides knowing that we passionate loved each other. couple days ago we got into a fight at school, he started yelling at me in the middle of the parking lot and someone called police. Having a protection order they arrested him and took him to jail and there was nothing I could do about it. His family hates me even more now. His mother called me to tell me the piece of trash I was. I paid a lot of money for him to get out of jail. They are begging me to remove the protection order and blame all on me so he doesn't go to prison. If I do so, my papers won't go through and I might be deported. We knew we were fighting all the time, but nobody understand how much we love each other. I know we are toxic and we hurt each other when we are together but we are miserable when we don't have each other. He is devastated that he might go to prison for violation of probation, and I could not go to bed if I knew that I sent the man that I love the most to jail. I know he was physical when we lived together, but I forgave him and all I want is this nightmare to be over. Everyone says to forget about him and find someone else, that nothing would ever work out, especially with him being so close to his family. What should I do?
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You have a complicated situation but I think you pretty much answered your own question. Why fight for something that isn't meant to be? When you know all yall do is fight and he abuses you? If he walks out on you once, what makes you think he wouldn't do it again? I think you should let go. Some things need to come to an end and it may be hard but over time, things will get better. You WILL find someone who will fight for you and be with you through hard times. I think you know what is good for you even if you think you love this guy. Be happy.
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I really think you should forget about him, even though it seems hard to do but love is blind, you can eventually get over it and no one deserves to be treated like that and if his family doesn't really like you then it's no win. If he was a good guy that treated you properly I would tell you that you should try and make it work but he's being a jerk and NO girl wants it deserves that so it might be time you say goodbye before you get really badly hurt or worse
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