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Never had a bf, going to college, how to meet guys?
I sort of have a few questions in one here.
So i'm 17 years old, female, and i'm graduating high school next week. (i'm a young senior) Firstly, a ton of my friends drink, and i don't, so i haven't been hanging out with them lately, which is sad. Now my little brother (going to be a junior in hs next year) wants to start drinking. What do i do? I feel like i'm losing my friends and my brother because i'm not comfortable partying with them.
Also, This boy i liked forever is back from college for the summer and i want something to happen but i'm afaid of ruining a friendship. He told me recently he liked me back when i liked him two years ago... and now he's single again. We go for walks, watch movies together, and talk all the time. He always says the right things. I was really upset the other day, and was basically freaking out. And after a while i was like well, you probably want to get back to what you were doing or whatever. And this was his response:
him: hey hey hey
him: don't think you are ever inconveniencing me if you have to come to me with a problem
him: it's what i'm here for
him: whenever you need help dealing with something let me know
him: i don't care what i'm doing
him: i'm glad you feel you can talk to me when there is a problem
me: thanks. i really appreciate that.
him: try to relax and get some sleep
And i felt so much better. So how can i keep this bond we've got but make it something more? And is it worth it? We'll both be in college come september, on other ends of the country. (boston for him, savannah, GA for me.) I'm worried about starting something before college. oh and he isn't over his ex. that may pose a problem.
my last point. How do you meet the right guy? i got lucky with the boy i was talking about above, but when i get to school, how do i met new people, make new friends? I've wanted a boyfriend for some time now... but i want it to mean something.
i'm just so clueless.
Help?
Thanks.
Panda
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I'll address your last point since the rest have been already. Firstly, if you ahven't had a boyfriend then, there is no harm in tryign out and experiencing, learning how the opposite sex works. So try it out, talk to a couple of guys, flirt with them very subtley and just see how things go. the one that means something to you will be VERY distinctive and meaningful, but remember it isn't if the guy doesn't feel the same. A relationship that lasts and means something take two people! :D
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Alrighty, so your young and you don't drink. So what? If you believe things will work out , then it will. Things will fall in place once you've settled down in college. You have to have a open mind and let people into your life. If your friendly and positive I'm sure you'll make friends fast. Even if college is going to be party enviroment doesn't mean you can't hang out with them and have a good time without drinking. Also, with this guy your talking about. You could try and develop something, but I wouldn't exactly suggest it because we all know how hard it will be to leave him for college. If you believe in long distance relationships and as well as him , maybe things will work out for yall. But the fact that hes not over his ex, it will be hard for you and him to develop a relationship and last. Don't think so much about the future and just let things happen. You'll be fine. I hope everything works out for you and if you want anymore advice, just let me know. I hope I helped by the way. Good luck! :]
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your not clueless... just a little confused, its okay!
... first off, you should not feel bad just because you don't drink. there are a lot of people who choose to do the right thing and not drink! but that doesnt mean you cant still hang out with them, and you shouldnt feel like your losing them. unless drinking is their only priority then I am sure things will work out between you and your friends.
...this guy seems like one of the few guys who are really worth the long distance. I am not a firm beleiver that long distance works but if you two really care about each other then there is no reason why you can't start something before you all go to college. but you have to make sure that he likes you and he is just using you as a rebound after his ex. from what you have said though, he seems like a really great guy... you bare very lucky! so just tell him that you really really care for him and you'd like to try being together if he is ready.
...as for meeting new poeple and the right guy. you have to be open to anything. if you go into college looking for a certain type of guy with certain characteristics chances are you won't find him. if you go into it with an open mind and you are friendly to everyone... and i mean EVERYONE... chances are you are going to find people that you really like.
Good luck with everything :) inbox me if you need anything else!
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