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yeah so only seventeen, but ive got a pretty good idea about giving decent advice. anything from serious relationships, not-so-serious relationships, friends, family problems, what looks good & what doesnt, and how NOT to be a bitch! i love to have fun, but im not an idiot! im just your typical clowner and i pretty much know it all - well, kinda : D ask anything!!

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im almost 16 and have NO boobs at all. it is pathetic and i prob have the smallest boobs of any girl in my grade maybe my whole school. i havnt had a boyfriend in like forever and i know boys are probably turned off by it. do you think guys wont wanna be with me cause of my no boobs? plus is there any way to make your boobs bigger. lol

well im sorry to say this but, no, there's no way to really make your boobs bigger. unless of course you get pregnant or something, but thats not a good option..

i know it seems like guys can be shallow and overly concerned with BOOBS and whatnot, but there are plenty out there that are looking for something more than that. so dont worry, youll get a boyfriend at some point..just stay away from the guys who only care about physical stuff, because they usually dont have much going for them anyway ; )

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This is going to be pretty long, so I apologize in advance.


I like this kid named Sean. We dated for a little bit last year, but I broke it off because I didn't think I saw him in that light, which was incredibly stupid, because I did and still do have feelings for him, which he doesn't exactly know about.

We're friends, and we chill with the same people, if that adds any clarity.


Now for the problems. Their names are Molly, Michaela, and Tiffany.

Molly also likes Sean. She's a freshman, while Sean and I are juniors. Molly is best friends with Sean's best friend's girlfriend. So she kind of comes into the group by association. She kind of doesn't have a personality that I've seen, but I don't really know her. He's told me that he hates the people that she hangs out with, and that the fact that she's a freshman is a turn-off.

Then there's Michaela, who likes Sean. I personally think that she's completely fake (which is probably just because I know that she likes him). But that doesn't mean that Sean doesn't like her. She's friends with a friend of mine (who is also a friend of Sean's). She's supposed to hang out with Sean this weekend with our mutual friend and her boyfriend (I guess like a double-date?).

Tiffany is Sean's ex-girlfriend. She cheated on him, he broke up with her after confiding in me that she was "never happy", and he told me that he had these feelings for her, but that she didn't have them back. They broke up about a week ago, and she's texting him asking if he misses "them", saying "Ugh. I hate this.", and so on. They only dated for about a month.

I think that the only reason that I haven't told Sean about my feelings for him is because I know how confused he is dealing with Molly and Michaela, and I don't think that I want to add to that. It's impossible for me to get over him, and I don't know what to do.

I see him between classes and he nudges me playfully, we shoot smiles at one another, he teases me playfully, and I can't get him out of my head.

What should I do?
I know I should tell him that I like him... but how?

okay, so from past experiences, i would definetely say that you need to tell him asap. yeah its gonna be kinda wierd since he has all these girls after him and i totally understand that you dont want to be just another one of them. however, if you like this guy, dont let him get away! just tell him up front. when you two are casually talking (maybe even about his girl situation) just be like "okay, so i know youve got a lot on your mind right now, and im not really sure what your gonna do with this, but i thought id throw it out there: i like you.. im not trying to put any more pressure on you, but i didnt want something to happen that made me regret not telling you, so there." be confident when you tell him too, guys like confidence. good luck =]

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ok so i have a boyfriend problem. (he just turned 19 and i'm 15 going on 16 in february.)(that's not the problem though) so anyway, he tries to control me too much. we threaten to break up with each other but we never really do. He has a court date in 2 days for "trespassing" into my house. (It was behind my dad's back and my dad caught him in my room). i really don't want to break up with him, but he said that if i say no to him one more time about something, he'll smash my head into the sidewalk. I don't know what to do...i say no to him when he asks me to not talk to any of my guys friends, not to see my friends on the weekend, or to call him twice a day, everyday. i just don't want to and i think i should get my freedom...

woah this guy's gotta go.

just like they said below me: dump him over the phone and alert the police of his threats.. its not okay at all

you shouldnt see him ever again, trust me, no one deserves that for whatever reason

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So I asked a question a couple of days ago about my boyfriend who was constantly hanging out with his ex (who's a slut and cheated on him multiple times) and I thought he didn't like me and whatnot. But anyway, he cheated on me, and I was extremely hurt... he told me that he'd never hurt me and that I deserved the best, and I actually caught him and his ex making out. Now I haven't talked to him in 3 days, but I've seen him and he looks extremely depressed and he keeps saying he's so sorry. And now it makes me feel horrible for not talking to him because he seems so sincere and apologetic, and he keeps telling me that he understands it if I don't wanna talk to him... but I just feel bad for ignoring him. But I was just so damn hurt by what he did I didn't even want to look at him. But I still feel horrible, he just looked so sad and I just ignored him. Am I doing the right thing by not talking to him? I miss him.

bullshit hes sincere. if he was sincere he never woulda done it. once a cheater, always a cheater. DONT GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE. at least not right away... man id be shitty if i got cheated on like that. ignore him as much as you damn well please, and when you do talk to him, let him know how it made you feel - he shouldnt get out of this that easily.

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17/f... so there's this kid and we like each other and he says he's gonna ask me out soon. but the thing is, I honestly don't think he likes me anymore and it's getting me down. like, when he first told me he liked me, he'd be all happy to see me and compliment me all the time and always want to be with me. but now, it's like he just doesn't care anymore. plus, his ex-girlfriend is still in love with him and he talks to her about 75% more than me. I've talked to him about this twice already and my friends (without me asking them to) have confronted him mulitple times as well. I just don't understand why the hell he promises he likes me and tells me all the time but never ACTS like it. it would hurt alot less if he just stopped leading me on and just told me WHY he's been acting this way. I don't even know what to do anymore; I like him alot and he claims he likes me, but he is always with his ex, who he claims he has absolutely no feelings for. is it worth it to still pursue him? Should I just act like I don't care and see how it goes, or keep persistenly asking him about it? Please help; I'm seeing him all day tomorrow (and his exgirlfriend is gonna be there, too. =( eh.)

this situation happened to me almost exactly like this..
i tried to act like i didnt care but it ate me up inside not knowing what was going on. not saying that this will happen to you, but i ended up letting myself keep pursuing him, and got shot down. and it sucked. and your right - it would hurt a lot less if he wouldnt keep leading you on, so tell him that. just say "look idk how you feel about me, but im not just gonna hang around wondering what you want. you need to tell me because the more i hang on, the worse itll be if you decide you dont want anything with me" he'll prolly feel like a bit of an ass if he doesnt stay with you, and if he DOES - then, well, there you go.

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alright, so i moved into my new school last year (7th grade) and i didnt start of with a good reputation, because i was the new girl. but now a year later i have a very good reputation. i mean, i am friends with the populair people, i cant compiments, and people always say they want to be me.
there is this kid in one of my classes, and i have gotten a very big crush on him. he is nice, sweet, and very cute. i did some asking around and i have found he is a loser. like .. dork kid. hanging out with other dorks.
i think dating him might effect my reputation, but should i go for him anyways?
some one please help me.

first of all, you shouldnt hold yourself back from liking someone because of thier reputation. (remember, you used to be that "dork kid" yourself) i dont think it will affect your rep. if anything it will just help make his better.. bottom line: if you like him and he likes you - you should be together, regardless of popularity

*A*M*Y*

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Hey all, this is my first question (among probably many) that I'll be asking on this site! Ok now that that's over with, where are some fun places to take your date on? I just started dating (this is my first time ever) (I'm 19) (and she's 17) and already going to the movies is kinda boring. I mean, the whole point of being on a date is to be with the person that you like, and spending an hour or two (or three) staring at a silver screen and *not* talking to the other person seems kinda... strange. We do talk, mainly to make fun of the movie we're watching, but still, where could we go where the activity actually encourages us to talk or play while we're there? thxxx, and i heart all of you :)

~ you guys could go out to dinner, bowling with a group of friends, gocarting, to CHUCK-E-CHEESE, or just have her over at you house to hang out... have fun! ~

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What are some things to talk about with friends and stuff. I always have trouble starting conversation over AIM, and I really need help. Thanks

Lets face it..theres NOTHING to talk about on AIM.. ;)

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Okay me n my boyfriend has been dating for almost 4 months and everything has been going good we have a couple of disagreements but who doesnt.. well a couple of weeks ago he got me a cell phone but i payed for it but its in his name and everyday he goes through it. people tell him that im messing around with other guys but how could i when im with him 24/7 well last nite my bestfriend who is a girl texted me stuff she didnt want anyone else knowing and he went to go through my phone and i took it from him. i knwo it looked as if i was hiding something but im not. now he thinks that im hiding stuff and im cheating so he doesnt want to tell me he loves me anymore intill i can change and get my priorities straight or however u spell it. and he doesnt knwo right now if we are gonna work things out he just always tells me i dont know i dont know.Please help me try to get my boyfriend not to break up with me im sorry its long.

♥ well.. first of all, its YOUR phone, and YOUR business. He doesnt need to go through it anyway, but whatever. Just talk to him and explain what happened. Explain that it was your friend texting you and it was "girl stuff"..that'll make him stop budding in - lol! Anyway, just tell him you're not cheating and he should be able to trust you, and if he cant..well it should've been over a long time ago..♥

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Heyy! I am a 14 year old girl
I have a MAJOR problem... I have a boyfriend of almost 5 months and we are really happy! He was my first kiss...let alone that but we haev madeout and french kissed! which sounds like alot but when you see how happy we are you could see why we have done that! The only problem is our parents dont know and we dont plan to tell them any time soon...both of us arent supposed to have a gf/bf until we are 16 or 17.... we are seriously meant for each other and he says he loves me and i love him...i haev never felt this way!
WHAT SHOULD I DO! I dont know if we shoudl tell our parents or just wait to tell them...what would you do???? any advice would be helpful!
thx

why would you tell them?? there is no need to.

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Okay..i like this guy but i know he doesnt like me and if he ever does like me it will be in the future. However, my friend likes him too and she is prolly gonna ask him out! and she knew i liked and like him. then there is this other guy that i like that asked her out already. soo i dont know if that person will say yes. plus im not that "hott" and thats all guys see at this age...soo..what do i do?
LoVe,
ME(13-f)

Well, first of all, I'm sure you can find a guy that likes YOU not your friend, doesnt just look at "HOTNESS" and can treat you right. They're out there. I promise. So..my best advice would be to flirt with the guy you like (unless of course he goes out w/ your friend) and get to know him. Also, let him get to know YOU. You can't expect a guy to go out with you if he doesnt already know you really well. THen, if it seems like he likes you. Ask him out yourself.Dont get a friend to ask him out for you. Things will go better if YOU do it. That way he knows you guys can be honest with each other. Now as for your friend. You need to talk to her. Tell her that you dont think its right for her to go after guys that she knew you already liked, and friendship should never be ruined because of a guy. Just talk it out with her. Im sure u can figure something out. And if u find that no one will compromise, then that guy obviosly isnt for you. At least not right now.

Hope it helps!! IM me @ ab12804atx3 if you need anything else!
♥ xOxO ♥

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ok I broke up with my bf and from doing that my bf and his friends found me and beat me up pretty badly....i meen no broken bones but still pretty badly....so I was wonderin if he can get in like trouble 4 that because i kno like at school wen kids beat eachother up they dont get in trouble and i was wondering if this is like that...(my ex also did this to his last gf)....and is this my fault because thats how I feel..that its my fault...cuz my ex said that it was and it kind of is because im the one who chose to break up with him in the first place...and thats y he beat me up with his friends...well ya so do u think its my fault 2?

NOOOOOOO its not your fault.. you should tell someone and he WILL get in trouble! its physical abuse. your school probably shouldnt be the first place you go to because they obiously seem like they dont enforce and rules regarding physical abuse so tell your parents or someone you trust. You dont deserve to be beaten up, neither does the other girl.

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This is gonna be long but I need help..

So me and my boyfriend were totally in love.. But then he cheated on me with another girl, he made out with her for like an hour. AND he was the one that came onto her. I broke up with him, and was totally heartbroken because I still love him... So then I saw him, and he apoligized, saying, "I`m so sorry, You are perfect, I only want you, that kiss from her meant nothing, I love you so much and I`m so sorry.." And so now I`m going back out with him.. But the thing is, I`m not sure. I still love him, but I can`t trust him.. And things are just kind of awkward now. I have no idea what to do.. Please help, I rate high !!

ok well if he did it once..what makes you think he wont do it again. He completely crushed the trust between you too and you should let him off that easy. Oh and by the way.. if the kiss meant nothing, why'd did he keep doing for "LIKE AN HOUR"???

♥ ami ♥

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iv been going bak and forth between these 2 guys((dating them)) and i luv them both equally and im jst as happy w/ 1 as i am w/ the other..and going bak nd forth like this...its hurting us all..i jst cant do that anymore..im w/ 1 of them now..but i still rele like the other..i dont kno wat 2 do w/ out hurting them..nd myself..wat should i do?

okay well you obviously dont like one of them enough to choose them over the other, so i dont think its worth it. If you cant easilt choose one over the other than neither one of them are specail enough to be for you. Plus, your only causing confusion and hurting people. So just dont go out with either of them.

♥ ami ♥

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i dont kno how to tell my gf that i love her. i kno it sounds simple but i wanna find a way bettr tahn words. hmmm. can u help me ???????????

just say "AMY I LOVE YOU!!" i think she'll get the idea

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Ok, so... I have a regular body. I'm pretty skinny, and just... well... regular. I dont have huge boobs or anything like that. I'm just a typical young teen. But I would consider myself more "pretty" than "hott". I'm not trying to sound conceided... but I have a prettier face than anything. But, it seems like all guys care about is "hottness". It's like they could like some of the most ugly girls just because they have a "hott body". Does anyone think... or know if guys will ever grow out of this and start actually looking at girls faces and caring more about beauty than hottness? please let me know

thank you

well yeah..some of them will grow up and gain a little maturity..but some of them will only think about boobs..boobs..boobs.. and only boobs..just hang in there. Theres guys out there that arent completely shallow.
♥ aMi ♥

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i kissed my boyfriend on the cheek for the very first time and im thinking now its his turn, should he kiss me? my friend told him "kiss her!!" but he never did. i was thinking he was suposed to be the one to kiss me first but i realized he was too shy so i kissed him, should i be looking for signs of kissing? haha i guess....alright help.

you slut! you kissed him on the cheek?? omg.

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Hi..my boyfriend is coming back in town tonight..and i want to plan something fun for him..the thing is that there isnt much to do around here..we usually just go to parties and drink, and we wouldn't be able to do anything at my house b/c of my parents. Also going out to dinner wouldn't be that much fun. Does anybody have any good ideas? Anything fun & thrilling!! Or simply any ideas?? PLEASE RESPOND!! I would really appreciate the help.

♥ hey.. well you could try going to a movie, putt putting or gocarting, skating, bowling, or just whatever sounds fun!! my best advice would be to ask him.. that way he wont be bored, but chances are if hes really into you, he wont care. ♥

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this might sound really bad but how do you get a boy to break up with his girlfriend. i like this boy a lot and i really think he would like me if he broke up with this other girl. what can i do to make him break and get him with me? please help!!!!! i rate high for anything!

woah.. you wouldnt want anyone doing that to you would you?? yeah thats def. not cool.. you dont wanna be the girl thats selfish and controlling. You'd be killing whatever this guy and his girlfriend had..and responsible for her or both of thier broken hearts... sometimes you have to just realize that HE isnt the one for you, well at least not now.

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OK this might sound a little strange but i think my boyfriend is bi. I want to dump him but i don't know if i should or not though. I think he's bi because he acts gay and when we started going out he said he was really glad we're going out because before he thought he was gay. And he just acts like a girl. PLZ help me i don't know if i should dump him or not. What do you think i should do?

alright well no one wants a gay boyfriend.. but gay GUY friends are fun! haha well i say that you should break up with him.. tell him that you cant see a future with him but you stil want to be good friends.. hope it works out! xOxO

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