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Hey my names Kait and I'm 15. Music is my life i can't live without it! I am always giving advice to friends and such! Also I relate to situation very easily and love helping people. I decided to start one of these and I hope that I can help you in the best way possible. Thanx♥


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14 about to be 15/F (Grade 9)

Okay, so i'm going out with one of my ex's, and I don't know if it was just a spur of the moment type of thing, but I hung out with him Friday night, it's now Sunday morning. And I don't really have the same feelings for him.

Now my other ex, the one that i'm compleatly in love with, we never stopped loving eachother.
I really want to be with him, and I know he wants to be with me.

But my BF now, before we started going out, said that I better not dump him 4 another guy.
Anyways, I have kind of a bad rep right now at school.

People think i'm a hoe just because i've been out with a lot of guys, BUT I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING except making out.

I just want to break up with my bf now,and get my ex back.

HOW DO I DO IT????
Please hurry .

And thanks in advance =)



That just doesnt't make sense! Tell me why you'd wanna go back to you ex? I mean seriously the two of you obviously broke up for a reason and those reasons will just come back if the two of you go back out.

It kinda sounds like you just need to be single and get your morals straightened out. You dont sound like you're really all that sure of what you want in a guy or anything like that.

My suggestion: Break up with your current boyfriend and just give yourself some time. Time to think about wheather or not you do want a boyfriend. Also to figure out what you want in a boyfriend if you do decide you want one. Make a list of the qualities you want in a guy. Not just appearence but personality traits also. That way you'll know more of what you want in a boyfriend.


Good Luck.


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theres this guys that likes me and keeps telling me that he likes me but the wont ask me out cuz he thinks i like other guys cuz it alk to some of my best friends in the hallway which just happen to be guys and he always mad at me and he is also always trying to make a move on me but im not sure if im ready for that yet what should i do?


It sounds like this guy is really intimidated by your guy friends. Personally i woulndt go out with him and heres why... If he's this jealous now and you're not even going out think of how jealous he'll be when you are! And you dont want some one whos jealous and tries to control you. Besides he should be able to talk to you and act the same around you infront of your friends.
But if you like him then let him know you do. Also thought dont go rushing anything you're not ready for. you can always take it slow with him.

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my boyfriend just broke up with me over email...we've been together for a pretty long time and i thought he would be more considerate then this. also, he didnt tell me why he wanted to break up, so i have no idea...i just dont know what to do


have you considered asking him why he broke up with you? you could send him an e-mail asking him why. but if you do be sure to not sound whiney and desperate. just simply ask him why.

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all my mates have kissed some1 , i havnt, what is the first kiss like and "how do you"kiss lol!
13/f
sadie x


Don't rush your first kiss!
there isnt a way to really teach some one to kiss.
A kiss should be a natural thing and should happen at the right moment.
You want your first kiss to be special not something that was planned!


Kait♥

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This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other.


Personally i like guys that are hott.
but every girls viewpoint on that topic is a little different.
for me if i say a guy is cute i might be refering to a bestfriend thats a guy or like little kid cute.
so personally i like guys that are hot.


Kait♥

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f/15

I had this one REALLY close guy friend, Jason, who I had been friends with for three years. Recently we told eachother that we have stronger feelings than 'just friends.'

Since then nothing had happened between us and I was okay with that but I REALLY wanted to kiss him. So last night we were at a party and when he arrived I kissed him. It was shortlived since it was just a 'hello' kiss, but it was our first (and last?).

Five minutes before this I told one of my best friends, Ann, that I liked Jason a lot. Ann has a boyfriend.

Just after I kissed Jason, so did Ann. We had been drinking (Jason hadn't) so I thought it was kind of funny and she only kissed him on the cheek.

About thirty minutes later Ann, who was NOT drunk, said 'Jason, I want to kiss you' so she kissed him on the cheek again. As she was pulling away Jason started to make out with her and they frenched for about 30 seconds. I was shocked but blew it off. I was SO turned off by what Jason had done and he looked at me right after he did it. I don't know what was going through his head.

I quickly left the room and tried to forget about what I just saw. I was shocked that Jason would do that.. and shocked that Ann would too since she knew I liked him.

Once it came time to go back to my house (Ann was sleeping over), Ann and I were saying bye to everyone. Then Ann went up to Jason and they french kissed and it was obvious that he likes her now. I couldn't even look at him, nevermind say bye, I was disgusted.

Should I ever talk to Jason or Ann again? Right now I am telling myself not to be upset (since that never helps anything) but I need to make a decision. I don't know if I should even continue to be friends with Jason. Plus, Ann cheated on her boyfriend by doing that but Jason doesn't know she has a boyfriend.

If I stop being friends with Jason I will probably lose 20 friends since he is always hanging out with them and I won't want to be there if he is. And he is usually the one to invite me to be with them. I have a lot of other friends since I'm one of the 'popular' girls but I really like being with them (I get straight A's but that gets boring so I like to party and drink with them.)

I am thinking of forgetting of what Jason did and if I run into him at another party I could be like Ann and make out with him and then he could like me again.

Sorry that this is SO long, advice is greatly appreciated so thank you so, so, SO much. :)


First of all dont be like your friend Ann and make out with him to get him to like you.
I would be more mad at Ann than Jason if it were me. You told her you liked him and she obviously knew that. Also she cheated on her boyfriend. Explain to Ann that you are upset by the fact that she made out with jason considering the fact that she know you liked him. The fact that you were drinking really doesnt matter thought because you said neither of you were drunk so ann obviously knew what she was doing when she kissed him. Just let her know it upset you and that you would like an appology.
As for Jason... Pretty much all guys are pigs and will kiss any girl that kisses them. which is probably the case with him.let jason know that ann does have a boyfriend at that she doesnt like ihm in that way. but do it in a way so that you dont sound jealous. Then just see where the relationship goes from there.
HOPE I HELPED!

Kait♥

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13/f
its almost been a week ive been sad. and he still ignores me. i found out another reason... he thinks i like another guy, and he thinks i flirt wit' him... and its pretty much natural rightt? you flirt when you dont' know that you are... but he should've told me to change, or told me, or asked me if it was true. Instead of saying "its over." and leaving me there.. thenn some of my bestfriends is on his side, and im like "we have sides now?" and hes still ignoring me.. he looks at me.. but he doesnt takl to me, im trying to straighten things out wit him.. but he wont listen to me. its nearly impossible to get his attention. if i told my friend to tell him he'll say "so?" in a mean way. if anyone wanna know what else happened.. aim me.. i need ALOT of advice. As for it.
he seems happier than i am right now. my life is messed up at the moment, idk what to do.. im sad, im stressed out.. i cried yesterday.. i felt like crying today..
the things i wonder; if hes sad too..
if he regrets it.. [but hes hiding it.. not sure]
if he still likes me.
lemme guess you must be wondering.. "why do you even give a shit about him ?!" maybe because i still like him.. and wondering if he feels the same. i want him back at the moment. its like nothing .. or nobody can cheer me up or get my mind off of him.. HELPP ?! ADVICE.. ?!

let me start off by saying i know exactly how you feel.
maybe you can try calling him and talking to him so then he'd sorta have to listen.
or write him a note and explain everything and hand deliver it to him.
let him know that you still like him and that you're sorry you flirted with another guy.
make sure he knows you're willing to change.
and that you want the two of you to have a second chance at the relationship.
more than likely though he over reacted about the whole thing and now realizes that.

GOOD LUCK!


Kait♥

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okay so this guy thinks that i have kissed a guy before. i havent. he is much more experienced then i am sexually. will he know that i havent kissed someone before when we do kiss. should i let him make the first move and do the kissing. i want to be a good kisser. any tips would be great. and i know that i shouldnt lie to him. but. i already have. so any help would be greatly appreciated. thank you


More than likely he won't know that you've never kissed a boy before. Like alot of the people below said kissing is just something that comes naturally. after about the second time you'll catch on trust me. but when it does happen just go with the flow. maybe the fort time you could "follow his lead". more than likely though he'll make the first move. (its a guy thing)!



Kait♥

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My bf always tells me to ask him questions, but i never have any, i know alot about him already. can sombody give me a list (as long as possible please)


what did you notice about me when you first met me?
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what is one thing that irritates you?
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if you could change on thing in your life what would it be?
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favorite movie?
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favorite animal?
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most missed memory?
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most vivid memory of his childhood?
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something that scares him?
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one thing he wants to do before he dies?
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what he dreamed about the night before?
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craziest thing he's ever done?
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ketchup or mustard?
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computer or cell phone?
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one thing he regrets doing/not doing?
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favorite website?
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favorite candy?
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funniest experience he's ever had?
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if he could go anywhere in the world where would it be?
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ever broken any bones?
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when he was little what did he want to be when he grew up?(career)
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does he like to draw?
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favorite teacher?
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favorite piece of clothing?
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stay in or go out?
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day or night?
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his favorite thing about you?
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has he ever traveled out of the country?
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does he like the ocean?
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does he like thunderstorms?
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would he die for you?
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does he still watch cartoons?
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has he ever gone skinny dipping?
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whats his favorite season?
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favorite instrument?
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favorite color?
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favorite pass time?
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favorite sport?
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shorts or pants?
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is he closest with his mom or dad?
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what time was he born at?
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ever touched a dead person?
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coffee or soda?
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favorite tv show?
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favorite position to lay in?
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does he sleep on his stomach, back, or side?
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did he go to preschool?
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ever got his tongue stuck to a pole when it was cold out?lol
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does he like sports events?
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what does he think of himself?
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favorite icecream?
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favorite resturaunt?
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black or white?
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his favorite band?
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i think thats probably enough.


Kait♥

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My boyfriend(we're 14)is going back to visit his hometown soon...he lived there till last year..he has 4 ex girlfriends that live there that he is still good friends with and im pretty sure hes planning on visiting them! im so worried that these girls(who by the way are very slutty and did alot of things with him) are gonna be all over him and he'll be tempted and he ll cheat on me! i trust him alot but hes so close with them that i bet anything could happen! what should i do?


You didnt mention that he has cheated on you so if i were you i wouldnt be worried. he obviously likes you since he is going out with you. everyone has a past and has past relationships. but remember that there is a reason why those past relationships failed. if he is smart he wont do anything with those girls. just because hes done stuff with them before doesnt mean that he will do soemthing agian because now the circumstances are different than they were before. you say you trust him alot and you obviously have a reason to trust him just remember that. its okay that he is still friends with them but thay are friends and nothing more. so there is nothing for you to worry about!


Kait♥

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ok well me and my "bf" want to go somewhere special and we dont want to go to the movies been there done that to many times! and not my house b.c heres the thing i want to tell him i love him for the first time!! and he has something to give me and things like that so not my house to many people, there is like 8 people there. not his house his mom is all over his kids when girls coome over, well thats what he said. so any ideas its tongiht or tomorrow but i need answers quick thanx!


you could go on a walk at a near by park. you could watch the sunset together and then look up at the stars together. maybe the two of you could have a picnic.


Kait♥

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Hi all I would like to know how it feels like to be kissed? Anyone can feel free to share your stories with me cos I love listening to these stuff.

Btw, would it be wierd if i just tried it on any one of the opposite sex?


a first kiss is different for everyone. it also depends on what you consider a first kiss. wheather it is a kiss on the lips or wheather its with tounge.

Mine was two years ago. I went to the movies with a group of friends and so did the guy i liked. Both of use were really scared to kiss and our friends actually ended up daring us to. It was sorta awkward but at the same time it was really really sweet!

And yea it might be wierd if you kissed just anyone. In my opinion a first kiss should mean something to you and not just be a random kiss. It should be something you will always remember.

Kait♥

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Before school let out, I liked this kid, let's call him steve. We both liked eachother, and he still likes me, but I don't like him anymore. He's really sweet and nice, but I don't see him much and I like someone else. So, tonight I am going to a party and he is going to be there and he thinks I like him, but I don't. Should I act like I like him just for tonight, and then tell him I don't tomorrow, or tell him today, before the party?


You should be honest with him and explain to him that you don't like him. Let him know that you do just want to be friends. Because by leting him think you like him will send him the wrong message and possibly hurt him. If I were you I would tell him before the party and explain that you would still like to dance with him and hang out with him but just as friends and nothing more.
Good luck!

Kait♥

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I had asked a question almost a week ago about my boyfriend dumping me out of the blue. Well, I find out today that he and one of my GOOD friends had sex.


Now, this is for anyone to answer. She thinks there is nothing wrong with it because we broke up. Tell me how FUCKED up it is that she would do that when she KNOWS I'm not over him and we broke up not even a week ago.


Right when I was just starting to be okay with us breaking up... This happens.


Its completely clear that this girl is not a true friend! There is something completely wrong with that! She must know that you are not yet oever him. More than likely she knows she messed up and is too immature to admit it or is just that dumb and really thinks she did nothing wrong. Don't worry things will get better eventually.
I suggest finding a new friend!

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I like this guy, Nick F. I think hes realy hot and I think he like me. But theres a problem, he cheats on all of his girlfreinds. Hes realy nice to me and I realy like him. But my freind wentout with him and she says that he abused her. But she has been nown to lie about her boyfreinds. So I dont know what to do. Please help.
~ from needs help~


Trust your friend on this one she's looking out for your best interest. If he cheats on all his girlfriends then more than likely he will cheat on you. You may think that you're different and that he won't do that to you. But in his mind you're just like the rest of the girls he's cheated on or abused. If this boy truely likes you he will prove that to you but be careful with him.

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i like this guy and i know he liked me back once but now i'm not sure anymore. he told me he loves me once and at that moment i was in a bad mood so i was like: whatever. we ignored eachother since then and i couple of days ago he talked to me again he was like: hi , how are ya.. so i thought everything is fine again but the next day he ignored me again so what does that mean? i really dont get it. and i looked at him again for like 3 days (then i gave up because he always just acted like i wasnt there) i really dont get it please help!!



It sounds like he doesnt want to tell you he loves you because you answered "whatever". He may feel that since you dont have the same feelings for him there is no point in liking you. So that may be his excuse for ignoring you. There is also the chance that he may have moved on and doesn't want to give you the wrong idea.
Good luck!

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