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My name is Kaci && Im 18 years old. I know I am young, but I have been through somethings that have made me seem as if I am a lot more older than what I am. I love to help people. At my school, I am the person people come too regardless if they know me or not. Advice is what I do best. My strengths are relationships. Im always right when it comes to those, just not when it comes to my own, hahah. I may be young, but I promise you I will help anyone the best I can and I will not let you go through it alone. Im the type of person that likes to know what happens after I gave the advice, so don't be a stranger; Need Answers? Ask questions! *xoxo
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Have recently been dumped by my 50 year old girl friend and she will not tell me the truth why. Naturally I am devastated.
She had accepted my ring, money to save her home etc etc. We never ever met but I was completely honest as she was ? And had been for over 8 months. She still writes, says she wants and needs me in her life but it is very difficult. She is married but very unhappy. I am deeply in love with her and was prepared to buy us outright a home put it in her name and care for her all my life. I am 8 years older than her, retired and well off never having to worry over money. Have I over dine it? Sent too much Money $ 25000 or what. She was my last chance of true happiness. Please no talk of loads more out there. It took me 25 years to find her. (link)
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Wow, this is sad. I'm sorry this has happened to you. I sincerly apologise.
The truth is always hard to handle. Its bittersweet. Wouldn't you agree?
Now, I understand that you love her and that you were relieved when you found her because you thought your search for love was over until she came along.
But, you have to understand, and try not to be blinded by love that if she really wanted to be with you she would. If she loved you as much as she loved you, she would have left her husband. I know it hurts to hear this, because it isn't what you want to hear, but sweetie, she used you. She took advantage of your great, big heart, and demolished it.
You need to let her go. She can't give you the things you need from her. She's in it for all the wrong reasons. Would you rather be with part of her, with no physical comfort, and be used,
or be independent, and not have to worry about someone taking advantage of the amazing things you can give a real woman?
Once again, I'm so sorry.
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well im 14 almost 15/f and he just turned 16 for a while now ive noticed he is really sweet to me sometimes i only see him on sundays at church then we eat lunch at my grandmas and sometimes play hide and seek with my cousins well yesterday at her house he was trying to be with just me and when we were about to leave my grandmas to go to church me and him just hung out outside we sat on the swings well he kinda like carved his name into the wooden swingset then he said he was gonna carve mine too i was like no dont do mine then he wanted me to come sit on the 2 person swing with him then he wanted me to come sit in the back of the truck with him then in the car on the way to church he wanted to draw a smiley face on my hand and he held my hand for a few seconds after he finished. anyways i dont see him at school cuz we go to different schools so i dont really know how he acts around other girls i was just wondering if you thought he might like me (link)
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You know what Missy! (since I don't know your name!) I think he may just like you! (:
Now if you are really wanting to be sure, how about you ask him? Next time you see him, whenever your alone, ask him straight forward if he likes you!
Best of luck!
need anymore advice, inbox me girl!
xoxo*
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Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. He treats me really good and we hardly ever fight. Weve gotten in a couple arguments and he gets on my nerves sometimes but who dosent ? The problem is for some reason my Bestfriend is always rolling her eyes or annoyed with him and I don't understand why. I think she thinks he's annoying but I love him and I want her to like him too since she's my Bestfriend. I know if I confront her about it all she will say is that she likes him and not to worry. So I don't know what to do. Should I just let it go or what? (link)
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Every couple will fight, and being with someone for that long, they will tend to get on your nerves. So yes thats normal.
How does your boyfriend feel about your bestfriend?
How long have you and this person been bestfriends?
If you have been bestfriend with her longer than you've been with your boyfriend, and she's just now recently started with the eye rolling than thats something you need to confront her with.
Tell her bestfriends are suppose to be honest with each other, and you've noticed the way she reacts to him, (eye rolling, being annoyed, ect) and your just curious why. Tell her that you love them both, and you want them to get along.
If she seems to get offended by you asking, or seems to not give you an answer, or says "I like him, don't worry", than just let it go.
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I dated the perfect guy a while back but had to let him go cause i'm not ready for a serious relationship. Of course he did what he had to do and moved on, so now he has a girlfriend. For some reason, we started hanging out again "as friends" but lately I felt like we both still have feelings for each other. We'd see each other 3 times a week, hang out at his apt alone, take me to dinner and flirt non stop. This has been going on for three months now. He asked me if he should break up with his girlfriend.. I told him no, because I know i'm still not ready so he is better off with her. Now he won't talk to me!! :( What the heck did I do? Why did he stop talking to me? Did I make the right decision of telling him to stay with her because i'm not ready, even though i know deep inside I wanna be with him? What should I do? And technically, we didn't cheat did we? cuz we aren't hooking up with each other!!
Thanks guys! (link)
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If you really believe in your heart that you are not ready, than you did the right thing. I can't give you perfect advice because I'm not sure how old you are, or how old he is.
If you guys didn't kiss, have sex, fool around, ect than no you did not cheat. Maybe the reason why he isn't talking to you is because he may have felt like he read your signals wrong. He hung out with you hoping for you guys to get back together and when he was open about it, you shot him down. You should try to talk to him, explain to him you wasn't trying to hurt him or lead him on. Tell him you would like to be with him but your afraid you'll hurt him and thats something you don't want to do.
How do you know your not ready? Are you sure its that, or are you scared of committment?
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Ok I know a lot of people think this after a break up but I really feel that I won't. I'm the kind of girl who is a lot different to my friends, like my friends will go in and out of relationships and it doesn't mean the same thing to them. I rarely meet a guy I really like/love so when I find love it's even more amazing to me.
I'm not really the type of girl who will strike up a conversation with a guy, mainly because I'm too shy. I have confidence in myself and I know I'm a great girl. But since my boyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago I have felt down. I feel like nobody will make me feel how he did. It's a real shame to me because neither of us really wanted the break up but he felt it was right to end it (maybe it is for the best) he's started seeing a new girl recently and it hurts because although I am happy for him (because she seems so nice and good for him) I still hurt thinking I wish that was me.
What can I do to make myself feel better? :-( (link)
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Its been six months, and if the pain hasn't went down than you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You need to realize that its not meant to be, and the more you stay grieving in the past, the longer it will take for the pain to go away and you to move on. Obviously, your ex doesn't really care about your break up as much as you do, because he has moved on. You need to pick yourself back up, and learn that he is just a stepping stone leading you to your perfect mate. You will fall in love again, in time, but you won't if you continue to act pathetic, and not pick yourself up. You have the strength and courage to pick yourself back up, so do it. I know its hard, but it gets a lot easier as soon as you help yourself.
There are a few things you could do to make your self feel better.
1. Go out with friends, keep your mind off of the situation.
2. When you see your ex with his new girlfriend, you need to realize that she is with him now, and how LUCKY you are for that. You know how much he hurt you, therefore you don't need him.
3. Find a new guy. It doesn't have to be anything serious. It can be someone just for "fun". Someone that will give you something else to think about.
For instants, "The only way to get over a man, is to get under another". This statement is practically true. We never really move on, we just find someone else to think and worry about. If the feelings aren't real than they will soon disappear, but if the feelings are real, they will remain to be there deep in your heart, but only remind you of what you and your lover had, to remind you of what you deserve && need in a man.
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Okay, lol I feel like I'm being so unfair to my boyfriend. I know its a ONCE a year thing. But I don't like football. So he is having his big superbowl party and everything and I feel left out.. is this wrong. I won't say anything, just need to know if anyone else feels like this. Ps. Its my birthday (link)
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Boys will be boys; You have to stop being selfish, and do things that he likes to do, REGARDLESS if you can't stand it. Im sure your boyfriend does things that he really could careless for, but he does it anyways because he cares about you. Super bowl only comes ONCE a year, you could have went to his party and tried to enjoy it, or atleast act like you did. Have him teach you things about football, to make you seem interested. My boyfriend is a major basketball fan, I DISPISE BASKETBALL SO MUCH! But I try to stick it out for him; I try to seem interested, so do the same.
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long story short: my boyfriend and i got into a heated argument last night and things just went a little too far (i was drunk and he was drinking a lot too). i said some things i didn't mean, but he took it to the next level and said some REALLY mean things.... what should i do? my feelings are completely hurt and i feel like i could never forgive him for saying those things... any advice would be great, thanks y'all. (link)
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You need to tell him how much his words hurt you. You also need to apologize for the mean words you said to him as well. You both need to sit down and realize that drinking together may not be the best thing to do together. If he hurt your feelings that bad, the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Let him know exactly how it makes you feel.
You will have to forgive him one point or another or its just going to make your relationship with him fail, and Im sure you don't want that. You need to also understand that he probably didn't mean the harsh things he said to you, and if he did, than you need to figure that out. Ask him simply, "The other night when we was drunk and got into it, did you mean it when you said, blah blah blah?" and if he says no, tell him it really hurt you, and if he said he does mean it than ask him why does he feel that wayy.
Communication is the number one thing in a relationship, good luck; xoxo*
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18/f
I need some ideas to surprise my boyfriend (17 years old) for valentines day/weekend.
starting on saturday morning until sunday night.
saturday night we are going to a dance so that night is taken care of. but I wanted to do something extra special with him so he will always remember it.
I was thinking about saturday morning take him out to breakfast? then to this place where you can play laser tag and bumper cars and bowling. then go to the dance.
then sunday i need a little help. Im thinking about telling him we are going to the mall or something but instead drive somewhere with a great view and then watch the sunset (but we will be in the car since its cold where i live). then i for sure want to take him out to a nice romantic dinner. but i'm not sure what to do that first half of sunday.
any ideas? what have you (boy or girl) done for your significant other on valentines day that they thought was adorable?
it doesnt have to be like a place you went.. but like what did you do? did you buy them a gift? make them something? say something? anything that surprised them?
please and thank you :)
PS: nothing erotic or naughty.. keep it clean. (link)
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Im in the same boat you are in; Im 18 and my boyfriend is 17. I want to do something that will always be something he will remember. So what I have planned is I'm going to blind fold my boyfriend; drive him to a hotel; when I open the door; and he takes off his blind fold, theres going to be rose petals all over the floor, and on the wall its going to say "I Love You" in post-it notes with the reasons why I love him on there. Than I'll have a hot bath waiting for him wtih bubbles&&rose petals; and we are going to take a bath together; than I have a basket filled up with all his favorite candy bars; chips; soda's; ect. Than he's going to get a body massage; than total love makingg;; Than I have a mixed Cd with an instructional guide thing; for example: when your mad listen to number 4; when you miss me listen to number 16; when your sad listen to number 7; ect. Than I wrote him a really long poem; and a long love letter; along with a photo book from our very first picture to our very last.
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For a long time I've been struggling with the idea of a "soul mate". I don't buy it. How can there be one person in this world who you're destined to be with? I know so many people who've had broken relationships and marriages. If my sould mate does exist, why is he so impossible to find?
I used to decide relationship status based on the people that I felt I NEEDED in my life. But honestly, do you really NEED any ONE person? Everybody you come across is going to leave at some point, even if it's just by death. That's reality. And the world isn't go to stop functioning and neither am I. I'll be sad, sure. But it won't physically kill me. I'm starting to believe that God allows us to choose who we WANT to be with rather than showing us who we NEED.
With that said, what happens when the person you WANT isn't what you NEED? (link)
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If your question is what's at the very bottom, than obviously if its not someone you need; than you need to move on. You are contradicting yourself in every aspect of your question. If you don't believe in "soul mates" or just the fact that there is someone made for you, than that is your opinion. Everyone has different ones. If the person you want, isn't what you need, than you obviously shouldn't be with them, especailly when you already know you don't need them. It's a simple question that your giving too much thought into, which will leave you alone and lonely.
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if a boy you are dating calls you "boo" what EXACTLY dose it mean....i mean....cant guys come up with a better nickname then that ! ... you dont call your girlfriend a word people use to scare people on halloween ! lol ...my point is....what if i think it is acward for him to call me boo and i dont know really what he means , should i say "dont call me that please" and affend him ...or just go along with it...WOULD I PLEASE GET A LIL GIRL HELP ! lol :) (link)
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Girll! I hate being called boo too. This is the way I did it.
I simply asked my ex boyfriend what was his favorite name for a girl to call him, (pet name wise), and he told me. Than I asked him what his least favorite name for someone to call him was, and he would tell me. He asked me the same questions, and I simply told him being called "boo" gave me NO feeling whatsoever, and I just thought it was akaward. From than on, he NEVER called me that again, lol.
I think you should do it like that; therefore your not really hurting his feelings; and your actually satisfing your own. If he doesn't ask you the same question in return, than when he gives you the answer to his least favorite name, be like "why" and when he answers be like "I know what you mean, thats how I feel when a guy calls me boo, its just akward!" and he will catch on from there.
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15/F
Theres this guy "Z", well he has been a really good friend of mine for a while- He has had a gf for like over a year, so i didnt even think bout anythin 'with' him. But they broke up resently. He is a flirt, and happens to like alot of girls, and ive always been the one girl he talks to about them. Well he knows i like him now, and he says he likes me to. He use to say, yha were "just friends" alot, so i said it back to him and he said "yha for now" and now we always joke around about it. He doesnt talk to me about the other girls as much but i ask about them sometimes, so he knows im OK with being just friends... well yesterday he said somthing about kissing me on sunday when he comes over, ive never kissed a guy so im nervous, advice? also he says he doesnt want a relationship because he is supose to be moving in a few months and doesnt want to disapoint me. and then he turns around and says stuff like "yha, just friends FOR NOW" what should i think about this? I really like him, and really want to be with him, advide for how to win him over? and my first kiss? (link)
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You need to listen to him. He's trying to protect you and your feelings. As of your first kiss, its nothing to be nervous about. Its all instinct. Your body knows exactly what to do. Let him lead the way, and all you do is just go along with it. If he sticks his tongue in your mouth, than simply do the same. Now one things most guys love, is when a girl sucks on their bottom lips. Try that, or even try to suck on his tongue. Its something different, that will make him think you know what your doing.
If the boy is moving, than there isn't a real point in trying to be with him. You failed to mention how far away he's moving, minutes or hours wise. That could be helpful. If its not out of state. You also need to realize that he just got out of a long relationship. Maybe he wants to have fun with other people, since he was tied down to his ex. Let him get all the sexual gitters out, along with the flirtatiousness. If he really likes you as much as he claims he does, than give the boy time. He will come to you as soon as he is ready. All you can do is be there for him, and let him know how you really feel for him. Just prepare yourself for the rejection ahead, incase their is one. Don't get your hopes up either. I know easier said than done, but just try to think a little negative, so your hopes aren't completely trashed if things dont go in your direction. Guys are full of mysterious things, so make sure you know exactly where he is planning on going with the two of you. Like you said he is a big flirt, so when he makes comments like "we are friends just for now" try not to think too much into it. YOu never know what he's saying to those other girls.
Need more help, than you can message my inbox, feel free to give me more details. Thankss *xoxoxo.
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So there was this guy that I have liked for almost 4 years now he bad news he had been with my bestfriends and people i hate I shouldn't like him but i do and i recently just got a new boyfriend to possibly get over him but i can't because he was my first for everything as in EVERYTHING! But i really like my other boyfriend but i can't do anything with him like i dont allow my self too and its not that im self consious with my body its just that I can't seem to be able to get over him and it bothers me. honestly i need help and advice quick so this doesn't keep happening to me I just wanna live a life with out him in it. (link)
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Well it isn't fair that your new boyfriend is getting the bad end of the stick. Everyone says that in order to get over someone you have to find someone else; THATS A LIE. The "rebound" doesn't deserve to go through the bagges you are bringing towards him. I understand you really like your new boyfriend, but you said so yourself that you can't give him 100% because your still hung on your past crush. You need to be single, and be happy with yourself first. You have to believe and realize that what you and your past crush had is completely over with. Maybe you need closure? You need to think about the things this guy has put you through and realize that you don't deserve that. YOu deserve to be treated like a queen, and not a pheasant. Its not fair to your new boyfriend either. Before you can be happy with him, you need to be a 100% over your ex crush. There is nothing I can do to help you get over him, its all on you. You have to stop being blind, and see what your friends see. You need to fully understand the situation and how come it will never work between the two of you.
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me and my boyfriend have had rough times but anyways... Were trying to start over but my problems is im so obsessively in love with him, and hes sort of just really realxed with us at the moment. Like i want to always hold him kiss him love him you know, and he really doesnt like making out with me like we use too. Things are just different. I'm trying to relax my feelings and just "chill" but its hard when their so strong you know. We broke up like three weeks ago because he said he just wanted to be friends, he said he wanted to go out and have fun. So i stopped texting him, exc. like completely eliminated him from my life. But then he called me and i actually answered.. we talked and he said he couldnt stand the pain of not being with me. advice? anything whose been in this situaution before would really help. (link)
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I was/am in the same situation as you are; my ex boyfriend broke up with me last Thursday and Saturday he tried to get me back. I feel the same way about my ex but when it come to him loving me, he is similar to yours; relaxed, which mine shows more affection physically, just not verbally. This is why I told him me and him would take it slow;
If you and the boy are still broken up, than I suggest you take things super slow with him; you know you love him, and he loves you; so there shouldn't be a problem. Try to not talk to each other every single day, and when you do talk to him, let it be for 10-15 minutes max; dont answer his phone calls on the first ring; ignore it; after the second call, than you can decide to answer it or not. Same for hanging out; Don't spend every day together (I know its hard, but its well worth it; trust me on this one) Try maybe three times a week?
Making him take things slow will make him cherish you and the love you give him more (IF HIS FEELINGS ARE REAL) This will also help test his emotions to see if he loves you the way you love him. Maybe the space apart, will make him realize how much he appreciates you, and the little things you tend to do without him noticing.
You need to tell him that "Look, you know I love you more than anyone or anything in this entire world, and I want more than anything to be with you; but you leaving me really hurt me. Im afraid when things get rough again, you will just up and leave, and I can't take that pain anymore than you can handle the pain of being without me. If you really care about me than you should consider taking things slow with me to help make our relatinship stronger in the end. It will help us BOTH appreciate each other more, and help you see what you have been blinded with for so long"
If "taking it slow" is something you would like to consider, just send me a message to my inbox, and I'll help you through it. I know its tough; Im in the process of it as well; just stay strong and positive.
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Okay so me and this kid had both just gotten out of long relationships and we had both been cheated on. im 17 he's 19 We hung out and we soon started to like eachother. a lot. We were inseperable for about 2 months. We did everything together and i had never been so happy in my entire life. I have always said i dont want to get married, im just too free spirited but this kid i would marry in a heartbeat. Every moment is just perfect with him. well then i noticed he had started to back off a little. i was confused but i know how guys are so i just kept acting the same. Then one day we sat down to talk and he told me that he wasnt over his ex girlfriend and he doesnt think that it is fair to me that he is thinking about us both. Soo we called it quits. Then i find out about 2 weeks ago that he is with his ex again. it broke my heart. When this happened i cried and thought more about him than i did when i left my ex of 3 years. Well our group of friends and his group of friends are all friends. So we started hanging out again and he keeps flirting and texting me and last night we were hanging out and he was flirting soo much. He dropped me off at home and texted me 10 minutes later. we talked till one in the morning, i fell asleep and then he texted me this morning. He told me he wanted to kiss me so bad last night and as much as i want to i know its wrong! i dont wanna be a homewrecker so what do i do? im crazy about this kid!!! thanks in advanced (link)
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Well if you don't want to be a homewrecker, than you need to back off. I understand you really care about this kid alot, but you have to understand when it came down to you and his ex, he picked her, and not you. That there proves who he really wants. Yes he may like you, and still have feelings for you, but he LOVES his ex; you don't want to come between that. Try to put yourself in his ex's position;
your in love with him; he's your boyfriend; some random girl comes into the picture; your boyfriend likes her too; than you realize your boyfriend wants to kiss another girl; how would you feel? what would you want your boyfriend to do about the other girl?
ask those question to yourself, and then whatever the answer is, do it. Sometimes we get so infacuated by the opposite sex we sometimes forget what we deserve, and what we really need. If him and his ex has already broke up once, likely they will again, and it wont last as long as it did the first time; which mean there could still be hope for yall in the future.
I was in the same situation you are in; I started talkin to this guy after he got out of a year and a half relationship; we was inseperable, we did everything together, and i could tell imade him really happy. he was always smiling and blushing; than he realized he missed his ex; they got back together; i was heartbroken; 4 months later they broke up, now me and him have been together for 6 months, and we haven't had a fight yet, and his ex is OUT of the picture FOR GOOD.
You get second chances, because you wasn't quite ready for the first*
Keep that in mind.
Sorry so long; hope I helped.
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Okay,
19/F. I asked a question a few weeks ago about my ex-boyfriend on here and got one answer. It was kind of rude, kind of funny. If you would like to read, feel free to.
Anyways, so I have a facebook... just like many other people do. And I guess I always had my profile to where everyone could see my whole profile.
Last night, I changed it to where only my friends could see my profile... no one else.
So my ex-boyfriend and I had a fight awhile ago and he ended up deleting me. No big deal, I figured he would anyways, he does it everytime we have a fight.
This morning, I logged on and he added me. Is it weird that he added me the night I changed my privacy settings? I mean, I know we both still have feelings for eachother but our prides and stubbornness get in the way of us being together (Or, that's what I think).
I'm not worried about it, but I thought it was weird. And I would like your opinions on it too, please. (:
And I forgot to mention I texted him about a week and a half ago to wish him happy birthday. The only reason I remembered was because my little brother's birthday is the same day. Does it make a difference?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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This question isn't a terrible question; its just simply pointless.
No its not weird that your ex added you. Its frankly clear that he only added you because he can't see your profile information since you changed it. All he wants is to look at your stuff to see what your up two, or even if your in a new relationship.
Just because you wished him a happy birthday doesn't necessarly mean thats why he re-added you.
He probably was just thinking about you one day, went to look at your page, realized it was private. Got angry, and re-added you. Its not that hard to understand.
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ok i know this is long but please read i need help.
ok so me and my ex bf hang out like everyday. i dont go to school with him i am outside of his school life. i know the real him more than anyone. He acts like he likes me always flirts with me its almost like were together but were not. He said to me guess what and i said what. He said nevermind you wouldnt care. Then knowing how relentless i am i had to know so i asked him to tell me. He said this girl from my school likes me and her friend is going to ask her to go out with me. and i know who this girl is and i heard from people that she dont know him and they dont hang out. After he told me i had an attitude and was mad and 5 min later he said i told you that you wouldnt want to know. then he said sorry but i didnt care. Then he said that he just had to tell me and then i said why me of all people. I am thinking he just wants to be cool because he told me before that he did certain things at school just because he wanted to be cool. so for almost the rest of the day i was mad and i kept asking if i was still mad and i didnt say anything and he kept saying sorry then he started to get sas because i wouldnt accept his apology and then tried to keep on hugging me and then i kept saying get away. then he said its not like im even going out with her i dont even know if its true. on the bright side of this we never usually talk about how we used to be together without him saying he doesnt want to talk about it and get all mad. and i said to him i dont want to know who my ex bf goes out with. and he said he wouldnt get mad over that like me but i said girls are different from boys. then later he sat next to me and i said eww get away and then i said sorry for saying that. he ignored me and i noticed he was trying to act just like me. and he was he because he said how does it feel to not have your apology accepted. i am thinking is he trying to prove a piont. oviosly he must really care how i feel and that i am mad at him. the next day we didnt really talk about it he was just messing with me and trying to jump on my back to and putting his arm around me trying to hug me. if anything i would think i act like his gf already because i am always at his house around him going places with him. (link)
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okay, so what exactly is your question?
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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Your question wasn't too long at all. The longer, the better, actually.
Well, I can't really tell you what to do, because I don't know what the blog said. It would be helpful, if you could give me a couple of examples, that way my advice is accurate to you.
But if I was in your position, I would tell him straight up that you know about the blog/group he made about ya'lls relationship, and the things he posted on their shouldn't have been for everyone to know, and read. Ya'lls relatioship is between you and him. Its a personal thing. Im sure he wouldn't like it if you formed a group on any website, talking about his dick size, or the negative things about him. He would feel betrayed, and let alone- embarrassed.
Ask him what he would do if he was you, and you posted all the personal things about him, and when he asked, you denied it, and then made it private.
Ask him why he made it private?
*More than likely he will possibly deny ever making a group, he will make up excuses on whether it was "Really" him or not.
If the things posted on the group were negative towards you, than maybe he isn't too good of a boyfriend anyways? No girl deserves to feel betrayed by the one they love. It isn't fair.
He probably hid the group, because he knows your on to him. He probably didn't think you got a chance to read it, so it was hoping he'd make it private before you got to it. There is no need to cry. I know it hurts, but you should be angry. Do the things I listed above, and give me more detail about the group, and I will let you know about ending your relationship, or working through it. Stay strong, and positive.
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I got pregnant & had a baby last month. My boyfriend got me pregnant because he didn't want to use a condom so it's all his fault. I only let him see my daughter when we go out like on a date but she don't stay with him at all & I care for her all the time. Mom said he needs to be a man and support us since he's the one that got me pregnant. I told him I want him to get a job after school and give me money to support my daughter because I'm in school too and I can't raise a baby and go to school AND work a job. He needs to take responsibility. He got mad and was like it's just as much his fault as it is mine that I got knocked up and he was real mad about it all and said if I make him pay me money then he's gonna break up with me and leave me. Mom said to take him to court if he won't pay me money for my daughter and I think she's right that he needs to man up or whatever but then I feel bad because I don't want him to break up with me. Should I go after him to make him pay me childsupport or what? (link)
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First off, its not your boyfriends fault you got pregnant. You make it seem like he is just OH SO TERRIBLE.
"My boyfriend got me pregnant because he didn't want to use a condom so it's all his fault."
Its just as much your fault, as it is his. It takes two people to have sex. You should have known that without a condom, you could get pregnant, you could have said NO, but you didn't. Therefore, its your fault, just as much as its his.
For two, you should feel lucky your babydaddy is still even with you. You know how many teenage moms have their baby's father leave them?
For Three, the baby isn't just yours. It takes TWO people to have a kid, not one. If he is still with you, than you should let him see HIS kid whenever he wants and pleases; and even by himself without you around.How else do you expect him and his kid to bond?
For Four, why dont you sit down and ask him nicely, instead of making it seem like he HAS too?? Make it clear that she is his kid, just as much yours, and he needs to pitch in to pay for some of her needs.
*Maybe next time, yall will buy a condom, considering they cost ALOT cheaper than a baby does. (:
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