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Im sixteen years old. Im in high school. I love helping others so ask me anything and I'll give you my true thoughts. :)

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so im a sophmore in highschool and have never done anything at all risky. i never had a oy friends pr hooked up or got drunk or anything. and im finding out that all of my friends have and it makes me really sad. i hate feeling left out and unexperienced. what do i do?

well here's a thought, do you want to find yourself being called a hoe for doing things with other guys and hooking up all the time? i hope your answer is no. Just give it some time, you will find the right guy, and just because your friends are doing these things doesn't mean it's right for you to be doing these things too. I know how it feels when it seems like everyone is out partying and getting drunk and you seem like your the "goody 2shoes". Yes, it's tough, but in the end you're going to be the one making smarter decisions & being with the better future. You're a sophmore, there's so much time in the future to go clubbing & drinking without having to worry about parents and everything else. But if you really can't wait to grow up, ask your friends when the next party is, and go with them. & for the boyfriend situation, a time will come for that too. The fastest way to get a boyfriend would be to start talking to some guys & show them how fun you are. A lot of guys when they really want to go steady with a girl, have trouble finding one that is actually not a "hoe". Getting drunk and partying is not all there is in life. Remember; better be safe than sorry. Good luck tho. :)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now 9 on October 14th. He's 18 and I'm 16, we clicked the instant we met, only thing was he was a bit of a flirt. I've know him for about two years now, we'd flirt around and what not but I never took him seriously because of all the other females that were after him. He said he'd give up his flirtatious ways if I agreed to be his girlfriend. So I did, I liked him a great deal.
We "fell in love," or I did atleast. Everything was going well, we ended up having sex 5 months after we started going out, I sortah regret it he was my first.
Anyways, we've been having small problems. Well I think he thinks everything's ok, but he doesn't call me much. I'm always the one to call, usually.
At night, after 9 when he has free minutes. :/
Anyways, sometimes he acts as if I bore him, or he doesn't like me or love me...he gets annoyed and irritated with me for no apparent reason.
I want to know, does anyone think he's with me just 'cause of sex?
I mean he lives in chicago and I live in Aurora, he sees me once a week or so, we talk every night usually.
When we're together he seems to push onto sex fairly quickly.
I don't know what to do most of the time, I want to make him happy so I go through with it most of the time, we use protection of course.
But afterward I sortah feel sad, I feel kindda upset with myself, not sure why. Has this happened to anyone else?
I kinda get the feeling that's all he wants, but I do think he loves me, or did atleast at one point, but lately I been feeling as if he only likes the sex.
What should I do?
Am I wasting my time?
I love him alot, but (is this wrong?) love me more, and I've been hurt many times before and don't want to get hurt in the end.
He began to change since he recently started college...I don't know, could he be stressed?
Any help would be useful thanks. :T

i've had the same problem but it happens at different times , usually when he had lots of problems with his family and stuff. My guy wants to do sexual things also when we are together but i do too, so i think its more of the hes a guy, he loves sex thing. Your man could be having some problems too, but it seems like he still trys to get to see you each week. I say next time you guys hang out, try going to eat or a movie, and say you arn't feeling well enough to have sex. See if he still pushes you into it. Any guy that pushes you into anything is not being fair. I know how it feels when it seems like you're the only one trying to make an effort. You have to think about your situation and his. He lives in another town and he's in college. A lot of things happen in college & i know its so hard to think that way, but you can never really know what he is exactly doing over there. & since you said he's a big flirt, do you think hes flirting with other girls? I think you should talk to him , see if he's stressed out in college,see if he still wants to be with you since hes seems so busy with his other things. Ask him why he's been acting so different latly. & Ask yourself this, do you think you can handle being with him like this for another year? Sometimes it's better to move on.

16/male my gf and i are thinking about having sex
we are both virgins im nervous about it my penis is not that big and im worried i wont please her or i wont be any good i dont want to make it bad what can i do? will i be able to satisfy her?

Aw, well im sure your girlfriend would not make a big deal about your size.If she really cared about you, that wouldn't matter. It's both your first time so pleasuring her is going to take some time, since girls usually are in pain the first time they have sex. Since shes a virgin you never want to go to hard on her.Ask her if you are hurting her. Be sure to take it nice and slow, then if you see she isn't in pain, go faster/harder. To make it real special, tell her how beautiful she is and don't rush it, just let it happen. Kiss her neck, her body, her lips. Just be really sweet. I'm sure both of you will be satisfied.

ive been having these weird thoughts latley that i just want to make out with this one guy.
he wants to hang out with me and id think thatd be a great oppurtunity. lol.
but the problem is... im gunna feel like a slut.
or something like that.. you know?
ive never kissed anyone.
but he just seems like the type to kiss.
should i forget about it or just straight up tell him i wanna make out?
nothing slutty tho.
thanks in advance!
i hope its not confusing.

That's not really slutty at all. It's not like you are going to have sex with him, at least I hope not, I would give it more time for that. First of all you said you've never kissed a guy, so he would be your first then. You've got to make sure that he should be the right one for your first kiss because most people do remember their first kisses. You could mention that you want to kiss him but I would wait for the guy to make the move, then you know he for sure likes you. If you want him to kiss you flirt a little, get close to him, stare into his eyes, things like that. Maybe say he has sexy lips.
I hope you have fun. :)

My bf of 4 years told me to take a break about three days ago...i dont understand why he would ask me that bcoz he was the one who messed up..we constanly aruged becoz his girl friends from school kept texting him, and it really bothered me alot..i even cried and told him that i dont appreciate them texting you and he seemed to not do anything about it...so we got into this really deep arugement about the girls texting him....n now he wants a break..i dont understand why he would want to take a break instead of trying to change and work things out for me....He thinks that since we been together for long and wanna get married in the future that its ok for him to take advantage of me and do wat he wants bcoz imma always be with him..idk what to do.....im just really mad that he taking a break with me...

Some times a little break is what both couples need. If you guys were together for four years, I don't think he can just end it like that. He wants a little space probably from all the arguing and fighting and you need it too. He'll start to miss you and you will start to miss him, and then maybe you will get back together, and put all those little arguments away.I do agree though it's pretty stupid if he didn't do anything about the texts when it hurts you so much. Think about this though, if your boyfriend didn't flirt with those girls that texted him then he probably felt attacked when you kept getting mad over it and accusing him of things.But if he was flirting with the girls then you don't need a guy like that anyway.

So there's this guy I was introduced to by one of my best friends,we had a thing for a while and then I brought him into my "group" of friends and after that he told me that he just wanted to be friends.
Me and my group of friends hangout with him all the time now,but they wouldn't know him if it weren't for me.
Lately,when we are together (me and the guy) he acts totally normal and like my good friend but then later on he will talk to all my friends via text,myspace,facebook,etc. and NOT ME anymore!
He used to like me as more than a friend but I find it weird how he's talking to everyone but me now!
We had a talk about how we were together all the time so maybe that had something to do with him stopping liking me,so is he just not talking to me to maybe kind of get space ? Or what's the deal here?

I'm thinking it's because of that talk that he's not talking to you as much. Maybe you made it seem like you guys needed some space. You should try talking to him more via text, myspace, or facebook. Let him know that you are not bothered by him. If he still feels distant, then I would leave it alone, maybe he just connects more with your other friends. Remember now you don't want to be annoying or seem obsessive. Good luck though, I hope everything works out.

what days do you celebrate with your significant other? besides the anniversary (day you guys met/got together)? why do some people celebrate like the 4th month?

All couples are different. Some celebrate every month and some every year. Some just do it randomly to be with their significant other and show their love. People like different things. Some people don't even celebrate their anniversaries.

14 year old Male
So ok. There's this girl that I like a lot. I think I'm in love with her. She's all I ever think about; I even dream about her. She's like my best friend. We tell each other EVERYTHING and we talk everyday. She's amazing bascially; her long, silky flowing hair, her beautiful deep brown eyes that whenever I look into them i feel as though I'm looking into her soul,and who could forget her huge heart.
I've known her for three years now (we went to the same middle school, and now the same high school), and it was practically love at first sight. Oh and the other day she said i could be her savior. :)
Each time that I was about to tell her how i felt, I'd get a case of the nerves and decide not to. Each time this happened (twice), she ended up being taken within the next week.
As of now she's taken, and I like her, and so does another guy, and I don't know what to do. I told her once but didn't really ask her out and now I'm beating myself up about that. Please Please Please help. She's the most amazing person

Aw :). My advice would be to wait again till she's not taken & then start giving her little hints. Girls are not stupid, we know when someone wants us. Be sweet to her, tell her how she is the most amazing and beautiful girl, and when her and her bf break up tell her how he's stupid and any guy would be lucky to have her. But remember if her relationship with this guy is strong, don't ruin it for them & if they do break up, give her some time.& another thing to think about is, how did she react when you told her you liked her that one time? If she didn't care, then I would think twice about asking her out. See if she flirts with you, when you flirt with her. Girls don't like making the first move so if you think she will say yes, then go for it! Worst thing would be if she denied you and stopped talking to you completely. Then she's not worth it.

-Best wishes& Good Luck!
&Remember,you guys are young, you got all the time in the world :), but don't keep it in forever, because one day it might really be too late.

please give me some tips on getting a girl

Find the right one, that you think may be interested in you and what you like, then of course have the courage to ask for her number. Don't talk about things you know she won't be interested in. Be a sweet gentlemen. Compliment her looks. Call her beautiful. Just compliment her. Say the sweetest things to her, but dont make it cheesy like using pick up lines. Pay for her. Don't get obsessive, and call and text her all day long. But mostly be yourself. No girl likes a phony guy. If you are trying to get the attention of her, try getting a new hairstyle. Grooming yourself, maybe buy some new clothes. Just plain look nice.& also looks aren't everything, try giving other girls a chance too if you are only looking for good looking ones. Before you know it you'll have girls jumpin on you!
Good luck. :)

hellooooo, so i have a bf and we hang out togetha alllll the time, but i want more of a physical reklationship and he wont. wut do i dooooo?

Like the person under me said, no one likes being forced into doing something they don't want to do. Your boyfriend is probably uncomfortable with his body or maybe he just wants to wait till it feels right.He must have a reason for why not, so maybe you guys can talk about it? Don't rush things. Good things come to those who wait. Hope I helped. :)

ok well i havent seen my boyfriend in over 2 months and i am going to see him on thursday what do u think i should bring...referring to the bedroom and such...any suggestions would be great

Definitely wear some sexy lingerie. You could go buy some Ky intense gel, heard thats good or some other creams & lubes that work for the pleasure. Maybe even bring a camera or music? Or buy some toys. It all depends on what you like, and what your partner likes. Have a good time. :)

So me and this girl have been talking online a lot lately and texting, and I really like her. I'm getting some signals that she may like me back, although I'm not exactly sure. She's gone for the summer but she'll be back in about a month. Anyway, I'm kind of shy, which is why I prefer texting and chat, but people say I should call her. Do you think I should call her? What kind of stuff should I say? Does it matter if its really short or will that make her mad?

I think you should call her. One day when you guys are texting or talking online be like can i call you later. Most likley she'll say yes. & then comes the hard part. Ask her whats up, how is life, just talk about what you guys normally talk about in text. The worst thing is an awkward conversation where no one is talking. Ask her things about herself. Get to know her more.Maybe even get the courage to ask her out. & if its your first call, I think it shouldnt be really short. Make it at least 20 mins. & it all depends on the girl if she would get mad at that,but most likley again, she wouldnt.Good luck though. :)

okay so i've been dating my boyfriend a yeah and he talks about how one day he knows he is going to lose interest this hurts me and i try not to let it get to me but it does. it's like he knows the end is coming and he is preparing both of us for it. N ow I'm not naive i do know that eventually chances are it will. We don't really fight we don't have problems, we get along great and he tells me if he ends it it wont be because he stopped loving me it will be because he wont be able to be with someone he is "bored of". Now please don't tell me it seems like a jerk thing to tell your girlfriend. I'm just looking for things i could do to make things more interesting, not necessarily sex wise just in general to make him not lose interest. He told me he doesn't like me as much now as he did when we first started dating, I cant go act like i did in the beginning because i haven't changed, hes just getting bored.
What can i do to avoid him ending it or at least to get these thoughts of boredom out of his head.
please help me
thanks x 100000000000

H.R.

Well, most relationships lose there spice sooner or later. Make him realize what he would be missing if he broke up with you. Go out to different places then you guys usually go to. Maybe dress a little different or make your hair different. Flirt with him more. Maybe go do things he likes to do.
I hope everything goes well.

my ex said he loved me and it really caught me off gaurd. i know i like him. but i dont know if i love him. i really really need to know how to figure out if i like him or not. and to see how to find out if he really likes me. we've been on and off. but i really thinks he likes me. i really need to knoww... i need help.. PLEASE!!

Okay, well i think your ex does like you because he wouldn't just say that if he doesn't. About the love part. I don't think he loves you to that extent. Maybe just likes you a lot. I mean you guys are only 13 so you have a lot of time until you really start to get serious. I've had boy friends that have said they loved me but really thats what they all say. If you don't know if you love him then chances are you really don't, because when someone is in love they know it without a single doubt. I think to find out if he really likes you, you should ask his friends. Or ask him. Since you guys have been on and off he probably still does like you because it's hard to get over a relationship like that. Just spend some more time and talk to him. Your heart will tell you when your in love.
good luck. =]

((F/14/8th grade))srry if this is long!

ok, there's this guy I've liked since my last days of being a 7th grader.Ever since school started and around September I've realized he's been looking/staring at me for long time now.I'm now finally convinced he likes me.^^

But I can never figure out what to talk about with him and I've noticed that I get really nervous when trying to think of a topic to talk about than what I do talking to people who I hardly know in school.We talk very little since he's the one who just says things out randomly and thats when we do a small talk about the subject and poof...nothing else to talk about...

I sit next to him in my 2nd per. class and I'm always thinking of what to talk about cause i know most of the things I need to know about him((And no,I'm not a stalker he says things out randomly to our 1st per. teacher or a friend of ours about his bros,his skateboard,his fav music))
So, I can never think of a good topic to talk about and it's worse in 2nd per, cause there are 2 girls in that class that get me jealous cause they are either trying to flirt with him just for fun or put thier hands on him,which disgusts me cause they do that all the time to every guy in the class.But thankfully he insults them all the time.

Anyways it's hard to talk to him in 1st cause I'm somewhat far from him and he is always talking to his friend and I dont want to intrude them,2nd per. cause of those girls and my heart starts beating non-stop and since it's math we ((or mostly me)) i dont want to get in trouble while the teacher is explaning to us.

so...any advice on how to talk to him???

Sorry if this was sooo long!I apologize really!

aw. well i think you should go up to him and just be like wow this class is so boring. Then just be like i can't wait for the weekend it should be fun. He will probably ask what your doing and then you can say im going out with some of my friends at... (somewhere) movies. Then you can just be like you should come along. Or ask him for his screen name if you both have aim. If he likes you like you think he does then he would love to come along.

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