hey... im a person that most ppl can get along with. i always have a positive attitude. and i love to give advice. i lived in reno nevada and then moved to Montana when i was 12. i like to feel that ppl can talk to me about anything. i like to be a reliable person. so if you have ANYTHING to ask me just go ahead and test my skills. ill give it my best.if you have a question about something just ask me i have been through a lot of things from guys to family. thats how we do up here in Montana baby.i'm pretty easy going and generally know how to chill out during extreme times lol so if you need advice hit me up ♥
E-mail: blondpie08@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: montana
Occupation: being a total flirt
Age: 17
Member Since: November 25, 2005
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My boyfriend and i have not been dating for a very long time only about 2 months. i am not sure how to tell or not but i think he might be cheating on me. I know he talks to other girls and texts and calls them and stuff but i am fine with that i am not the jelious type. but sometimes i will be holding his phone and i will just pretend to read his texts and he will freak out! i want to find out what he is hiding on his phone. i am not trying ot be nosey but him freaking out like he does makes me nervious... Any advice about either what to say to him or how to find out if he is or not? (link)
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try acting like your looking at them again and wehn he freaks out just be like why do you do that and if he has nothing to hide he'll show you. if he dont then start questioning him
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I'll start with the basics, 18 year old female with boyfriend. 2 nights ago my friend Eddy texted me. He was asking me for pictures of myself and i told him no because i have a boyfriend. he said he respected that. well, eddy knows that my boyfriend likes me more than i like him. it said that somewhere in the text messages. Well, last night i asked my boyfriend to hold my phone while a friend and i used the restroom. I assumed he wouldn't go through my phone just because i thought he trusted me. well i guess not because he went through it. he doesn't know that i found out he did this but the person with him told my friend, who told me. My question is, should i confront him about this? I have nothing to hide because i didn't send eddy pictures. (link)
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always remember... guys assume far worse when left in the dark. tell him straight up... dude look i know you checked my phone out. adn i want you to know that that message didtn mean anything. and explain to him the way you feel and everything ok that usually is a start.. it will be hard to confront him but remember my life's motto always stick it out. but dont be afraid to get it cut off. ok adn go by it
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Im really starting to like this kid, Mike..hes HOT, funny, soo nice and just ah perfect...except for the fact that i dont even know him that well (were still at that flirting kinda stage) and i talk to him on the phone a lot. but sometimes he'll say wicked gross things like "I just farted" or "I have to poop Ill call youu back" and it creeps me out...what do i say?? I like him, but everytime he acts like that it makes me not like him. I know I sound shallow, but itd be different if he was my boyfriend..its just weird when I dont know him that well.. (link)
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well, i think that you should smoothly laugh, like its kinda funny and then be like hey dude thats kinda gross, i dont wanna hear that while still laughing. sounds crazy but it worked for me with my gross ex. and with all my guy friends. now they say excuse me cause they know im classy and have manners.
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k so me and my boyfriend have been dating a while k so a really long while. and just recently we have started arguing and it's like everyday. and i really love him. but i dont know what to do. because i am tired of arguing but not tired of him. and i dont want to lose him. because he means so much to me. but we argue over the tinniest stuff. it is soo stupid. sorry if i am going on and on. and sorry if its a stupid question i would just like somebody else's opinion. k thanks. :) (link)
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ok me and my bf have been off and on for the past year. mostly on. he has cheated on me and done everything possible to hurt me, and visa versa. so to get over little arguments, is say you know what, i dont want to argue with you. i love you and am sick of always fighting. obviously we don't agree but that don't have to be a bad thing. its whateve. im sorry if that don't help if you need anymore help. just ask merree. i would love to see how it works.
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my bf has a problem with drugs, he does them a lot. even though he is on probation and everything. i don't mean only pot but meth and shit. i love him and dont want to walk out on him when he needs me the most. i know i can help him stop, but im worried he wont. i just dont know how much longer i can live with it. when he was on drugs before he cheated on me alot adn did illegle shit all the time. im worried for our future and relationship. ps we have a baby on the way (link)
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goddamnit mary! i kno you love him but he aint good for you! u need to give me a call sam has my number...i love you!!!! _KP
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OK! This is going to be pretty long. I'm a 16 female, and i've been dating this Guy, Logan, for a year and a half. Well, after one month of me and him dating this one Guy, William, kissed me. I of course told William NO, and stopped him, but I had to tell Logan. So I did. And he was mad at me for awhile, but he was over it a month later. Me and Logan fell SOOOO much in love. He came to see me everyday after work, he always said I was beautiful, he was so protective of me, and he ignored his friends if he got the chance to see me. Best of all, he was my very first at sex, and he stayed with me, it didn't change him at all, he was always there for me. But, one day, my mom found out, and kinda went Kookoo, and told me I could never see him again. Well, after that we just sorta fell even more in love with each other. We spent every second trying to be with each other. And then my mom brought that William guy back. She told me if I didn't hold Williams hand than I couldn't call Logan. We went to Missouri on a trip, and she brought him with us, and made us sleep in the same room. And I was always telling William to leave me alone, and not to talk to me, but Logan was always yelling at me and telling me I was cheating on him. And one day, I just kinda snapped, and I felt like Logan would hate me soon because I couldn't prove that there was nothing going on. And then William started trying to comfort me, and he really did make me feel good. He promised to leave me alone, and just be my friend, which is all I wanted. But then, William kissed me again, and Logan found out because of my sister. And after 2 kisses, i'm sure it's hard to believe there is nothing going on. But, Logan broke up with me...So I did the unthinkable, I went out with William. William left for the marines a day later, and couldn't get anything from family or friends for 2 weeks. Logan asked me out the night William left, saying he made a mistake. I HAD to be with Logan. He's the only thing that makes me happy. But, if I dated Logan now, i'd be dating 2 guys at once, which is absolutely not my thing. So I said yes to Logan, and sent William a really harsh break up letter, but it didn't get to him very soon. But, then I figured everything would be ok. William off to the marines, me and Logan here together, everything could work out. I couldn't be accused anymore. And everything was going fine for like another 7 months, until a week ago. Logan said he can't forgive me for cheating on him. And I don't know what to say to get him back. He's the love of my life, and I know i've accidently hurt him, i've hurt him so bad because he thinks I lied all those times. I just want the man who loves me back. I don't want to be accused anymore. I don't want to fight. I want him to come see me everyday again. I want him to tease me, and smile. I want to make him happy, but I want me to be the one to make him happy, no one else. Please help, I love this man so much. (link)
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man, you have no idea... i had the exact same thing happen. unlike you me adn my bf are still together, he didn't pull that dumb crap 7 months later. i'm so sorry. waht i said to my baby is, "jon, i love you. no one else. you make me happy and i thought i made you happy. please give me the chance to prove to you what i am saying. i know i can" and he did. maybe change it up a bit though. go to logan and say, logan i love you adn you said you loved me. love equals trust. i swear on everything i am that nothing on my end was wanting those kisses. if i had wanted to be with him, i wouldnt be here now telling you all of this. its all about you, please show me you still care and give me the chance to show you how much you mean to me. if he doesn't stay away, give him the looks you used to, adn keep to yourself when it comes to relationships. by that i mean, simply make him want you by showign you don't want anyone else. and for the record that was fuc** up what your mom did.
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14/m i'm not to confident around girls and i havent had a girlfriend or asked a girl out before because of it and there is no girls at my school that are single and well does anyone have ideas on geting more confident? and where should i go to ask girls out? (link)
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When you say that your not confident around girls, you need to realize, girls are like guys. Many of us do the same things you do. High self esteem shows a girl you care about yourself, which is important. Find a girl that has similar likes and dislikes. If you find a girl like that, simply ask her to go to a movie or something with you, if she says no, move on, your still young and love will find its way to you. It always does. Show you have confidence, and soon girls will flock to you. Be yourself around girls the way you are with your friends. I'm sorry if this don't help, but I hope everythng goes for the best :p
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ok theres this really hott guy. i know him through my cousin. hes soo sweet and we talk on aim all the time. he always ims me the second i sign on and he always says "heyyyyyy" and i'll be like whats up and he'll say im thinking about you. he always calls me babe and hun and hes a really good kid. we talk about all kinds of stuff and he was talking about his new car and how he could drive me around in it. do you think he likes me? oh yeah one problem though, hes 5 years older then me but if we were together we wouldnt do anything sexual so it wouldn't be aggainst the law. but what do i do, should i date him or is that too much of an age difference?? im 14 hes 19. (link)
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ok to be honest you should stay friends. an age difference like that can be one huge mess in the end. he is a legal adult. i guarantee that he has been in sexual relationships and im sure you haven't. a guy once they get into a relationship with sex, its normal for them to expect it with all. i know. my bf is 18 and im 16. we'v been dating for 3 years. adn i love him. he was my first adn visa versa. the one thing that made it easier. ive dated a guy when i was 13 right before jon, my bf, adn he was 17. he had sex with his ex adn wanted it from me. i wasnt ready. you aren't either. too many girls go with guys too old and give themselves up when they usually dont want to. however. i know you like this guy adn it sounds as if he likes you too. you need to be upfront, ask him on a date adn see. if no, understand adn move on. if yes, awesome. during the date mention your relationship boundaries. if he likes you he will respect you also. so dont you worry. time will tell i hope i helped
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OK well my friends bf's birthday was like two days ago and she doesn't know what to go him.
He is "gangsta" and she was thinking cologn but she can't find him any.
Does anyone have any good birthday present ideas? (link)
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somehting that i got my bf was abercrombie fierce cologne. its pretty boy kind of stuff, but really good smelling. its almost so good taht its a present to hersefl too if he wears it
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i am 13/f and i like guy he is 16 he is my neighbor and we do almost everything together football basketball swim soccer its awsome we are like best friend and well he has a great personality and is really hot lol but i like him a lot and if i telll him then it mite screw up our friendship or we could just stay best friends i need some advice please i rate really high!!! (link)
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a good thing to do, is get a lil more flirty than you are currently. if he is 16. im sure he knows what flirting is. and he'll get it. if he goes with it, go for it. but dont be suprised if you see him with another girl. hope i helped.
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After 3 years of dating my true love, she decided we needed some time apart to get our priorities straight. its going on 3 weeks, and not a day goes by without her calling me, we hang out from time to time, however, there is ovbiously no intimacy. I love her so much and I know she loves me cause she has told me. My question is, with valentines day comming up, iam not sure if i should get her the flowers and a present...I dont wanna look like im trying to push her into getting back with me, and at the same time i dont wanna look like i dont care about her if i dont give her anything...what should i do? (link)
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all you need to do. is call her up and plan a dinner date adn keep it semi-casual. not too formal. not too casual. then talk about everything. get things together. know what you want to tell her. and shell most likely respect it. hope i helped. ~hotrod
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year 8 months. Everything was great. We were in love and always wanted to be together. We made plans to go to college together and we were each other's firsts. But for the last few months he has put me on the back burner for his schoolwork and the high school wrestling team, so we see each other no where near as much as we use to. Now lately I have been feeling very lonely and depressed. I cry all the time and I have no friends and everything seems to be going down hill for me. I didn't make the softball team after playing for the high school for 3 years, and that was always my way of coping with stress. Now I have to work to pay my bills and keep me busy. I feel so depressed because it feels like he doesn't want to spend time with me and he doesn't show his love for me they way he use to. Have we gotten use to each other or are we not in love anymore? Because honestly, I don't know. We argue more now, I cry to him all the time. Sometimes I feel like he'd rather be doing something else with someone other than me. Not romantically, but like he'd rather be home watching tv or playing paintball with his friends. But I use to be his number one. And now I'm not. I'm just his girlfriend that he has and doesn't feel the need to get rid of. I'm so lost and I don't know what to do. Things don't seem to get any better. I miss him terribly and like I said, I am so incredibly lonely. I would try to go out with friends but they work too. Am I just PMSing 24/7 or am I depressed? Or am I just over reacting, because I don't know. Please help me. (link)
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k. what you said was he is putting school and wrestling in first place over you. well, you can't be everything. he is only in high school. as are you. stay young, and have fun. he prolly loves you no less than before, he has other things to do along with being with you. if he hasnt mentioned breaking up or anything, tell him. dont cry and wine to him. hell become annoyed. tell him that your lonely, not desperate. and that you wnat to hang out sometime just the two of you. and work around his schedule adn yours. i hope it works. it sounds like you have a good love going. and i want the best of it. you dont see that very often. not these days. bye
~hotrod
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When a guy says "will you go out with me?"
What are you supposed to say? Just yes?
Were confused!
Thanks in advance!
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just tell him what you want. if you want to say ya. i would love to go out with you. and i guess it also depends on if he means, bf/gf, go out. or date, go out. hope i helped and made sense. bye
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im 15 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 5 months..we had unprotected sex but he pulled out before he came..im really worried that i am pregnant, and i could never tell my parents..i have been gettin pains in my stomach, but it could jsut be me worrying..or my period is coming..what should i do..i cant keep the baby..and im jsut really worried..is there ways i could get an abortion with out my parents knowing?..like the morning after pill
please give me some adivce what to do before i go insane (link)
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ok. 1st dont panic. when u worry ur period stalls. pains happen all the time. the morning after pill will work for up to 72 hours. get it if you still can. 2nd im not going to preach, but if you dont want to have to worry about this then you should have PROTECTED
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well, theres this one chick. and shes hot. but thats besides the point. i like her and i THINK she likes me, but she doesn't want to date. she told me some crap about how shes bad with relationships and she wanted to be fwb. I was all like...um, idk. so now were just sort of like...more than friends but less than other stuff...that whole thing. and the other day she told me that she was going to be all protective of me and stuff. and to me, thats like...WHAT THE HELL!? cause its like, you dont want to date me, but you dont want me dating anyone else. so idk what to do, because I really want a relationship. i tried telling her this but she just told me that she's bad with relationships. (link)
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k, well i honestly think that she likes you and she is truley scared of being in a relationship, but you can't play her games for too long. i went through this stuff too. its a hard deciesion. but you need to make it. keep up with her game. dont get played. let her know that she is confusing you. and tell her that if she doesnt want to date, but she wants to be protective, that she is confused obviously. she needs to come up with a choice too. i hope i helped. xoxo ~hotrod
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How do you attract boys? I mean this might sound really ditzy, but I'm having serious problems in that area. Does anyone have any tips for me as far as getting guys interested in you?
PS. Im 14/F (link)
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all you need to do, is hang around a lot of guys as just friends. if you have a problem with this too, then just ask a guy that you talk to at school to hang out sometime. with a group of people. then once you start hanging out with several guys choose which one you like. once you've done that. let him know that your interested. see what he says. the most important thing about what you do through this entire transformation, be yourself. hope i helped. ~hotrod
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I broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago. Since about the week of our break up, I've been hanging out with one of his best friends, and we've become extremely close. I'm beginning to fall for him, and likewise... but whenever this happens, I change my mind. I like the challenge, but once the other person starts to have feelings for me too, I'm bored and don't like them anymore. I really don't want to do that this time... because I really care about him.
I'm afraid to have a relationship, because I know that, being the way I am, I'm going to ruin it and lose an amazing friend.
Help?
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ya i know how you feel. i had this problem a long time ago. it sux. it was simply a phase for me. i hope itll pass for you. it sux. i know. i think what you should do is tell him that you care for him. but you dont want to make anything exclusive. because your afaid to hurt/be hurt. k taht way he has an idea of what i going on in your mind. hell respect that. if he doesnt, he isnt worth it. k sweetie. i hope i helped. xoxo hotrod
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well. im 15/f and i like this guy that i KNOW likes me back.. i see him about every week or so.. we flirt and all.. but hes not doing anything about it.. all of my friends say that he told them that he 'adores me' and all.. but hes really not taking anything to the next step.. is there something i can do to show/tell him that i want him to go further? tell me if im doing anything wrong.. or if i should be doing something..
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he probably just wants to get to know you a little bit better. i think he might be worried that since you see eachother as little as every week that maybe a relationship cant be held onto. if you know what i mean. i went through this with my ex. just tell him flat out that you like him a lot and want to take your relationship to a new level. he may react the way you want and then again maybe not. but it is always worth a try. lol. i really do hope i helped. drop into my inbox how everything went/goes. xoxo.. hotrod
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I have a boyfriend who i love with all my heart. Hes everything i want and more!! We've been together long enough to.
Anyway, before him i was in love w/ my bestfriend( a guy) and i might still have feelings for him. Now he has a gf but before when he didn't it was hard to flirt with him.
Hes still my bestfriend but i need to know how i can get away from any feelings i have from him w/o losing him as my closest friend!
Could Ya Help? (link)
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to be honest i dont think there is anything you can do to get away from your feelings. its something that just happens on its own. i like a guy that i cant possibly like cuz he is from a rivaling school adn he is one of my friends. you know. but i like him and i try not to. but i cant help it. so u have to jsut try to ignore the feelings. you have a great bf. stay with that path. hope i helped some. xoxo hotrod
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I don't really know if this is considered "love life" or "friendship" cause it's kind of both. Anyways, I'm a senior in high school, and I'm not really one to go out and get guys attention, or talk about them all that often. I mean I certainly think about them as often as the next girl. But anyways, one of my friends is totally boy crazy, she's into about every guy she meets, but the guys never really like her. Maybe it's because she's so obsessive? Anyway, i always get stuck with all the guys liking me. Not that it's a bad thing, but just i always have to hurt them when i tell them how i feel because often times the feelings aren't mutual. Anyways through this my friend becomes really close with all the guys since they have something to talk about. I don't know if i'm jealous or what, i guess it just kind of hurts that i lose all of my friends to this. Any suggestions on what i can do to maybe change this? (link)
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wow... you explained my love life to the t. i have pretty much the same problem. my friend always falls in love with just a random guy. people she never talks to. the guys end up liking me cuz i act like myself. and she picks guys outta her league. guys i hang out with. what you need to do is tell the guys that you like them just not the way they want. you want to have them in your life tho.you just dont want to regret anything. becoming friends with all of these guys will make you have a lot of new friends to run to to talk about everything. and if you ever need a date to something you have one. its what i do. but not to use them... im there for them just as much as they are for me. hope i helped sweetie. if you need anymore help drop it in my inbox.
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