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Please Help..i dont know what to do
im 15 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 5 months..we had unprotected sex but he pulled out before he came..im really worried that i am pregnant, and i could never tell my parents..i have been gettin pains in my stomach, but it could jsut be me worrying..or my period is coming..what should i do..i cant keep the baby..and im jsut really worried..is there ways i could get an abortion with out my parents knowing?..like the morning after pill
please give me some adivce what to do before i go insane
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Well, I'm sorry chica, but you HAVE to tell your parents if your pregnant. You have no choice. Actually you do, but you dont want to do that to your parents do you?! I first suggest that you get a pregnancy test, and find out if you are pregnant or not. If your not, then you have nothing to worry about (except being protected next time!) If you're pregnant, I suggest telling your parents. But.. you can just arrange to get an abortion without telling them. But I REALLY suggest telling your parents. Sure, they'll get super mad, but in the end they are just concerned about you.
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Whoa, whoa! Slow down! Just take a deep breath and try to relax. The chances of you being pregnant are very small. There aren't any signs of it (other than a missed period) until 4 weeks later. The pains in your stomach are probably from exactly what you said, your period coming or stress. Unprotected sex is never a good idea, withdrawing doesn't work, and you need to get a day after pill as others have said. If you miss your next period it's okay. You are very stressed out and that alone can cause you to miss it, however, after it's a week or so late you need to get a pregnancy test just to make sure. My guess is that you're not pregnant, you just got a little slap in the face by reality. Sex comes with a lot of responsibility and before you do it you need to know everything about it, especially all of the risks involved. Just try to take it easy and not get ahead of yourself. I hope that I helped at least a little and good luck.
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You probably know this by now, but the "pull out" method is completely unsafe. If you're going to do that sort of thing (and I really think that you're much too young), you need to speak to your OB/GYN first and find out what the best birth control option is for you. Otherwise, I guarantee that you'll almost certainly end up pregnant, even if you aren't now.
Believe me, I know.
As for what to do if you ARE pregnant, start here:
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They don't just provide abortion services, by the way; they also help women who want to keep their babies. That choice is up to you, at least for now. But if you ARE pregnant, no matter WHAT you decide, you need to see an OB/GYN as soon as possible. Planned Parenthood can help you find a doctor or clinic.
As others have said, you can take the morning-after pill. It's effective for up to 72 hours after unprotected sex (that's three days), but you need to get it from a doctor - so if three days haven't passed, you'd better call your doctor or OB/GYN immediately.
Here's some more information about the morning-after pill:
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Good luck.
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We've been talking about this a lot in school recently, and my mom works at a crisis pregnancy center so I should be able to help you out.
The "withdrawl" method (your boyfriend pulling out before he came) doesn't have a very high effectivity rate. Why's this? Well..before the male actually comes, sperm is still dispersed into the vagina and he won't technically notice. This may or may not be what happened to you, but I would still reccomend having protected sex from now on. (But just to let you know - condoms still don't protect you from becoming pregnant 100% of the time. It's close to 100%, but not garunteed)
I'm not sure wether or not you are pregnant. I'd reccomend going to your local pregnancy center or planned parenthood, and ask for a free test.
If you do end up being pregnant, I -STRONGLY- do not reccomend getting an abortion. Studies show that women who have abortions tend to suffer depression later on in life. That isn't the only reason I don't reccomend it. Listen to this: my aunt had an abortion when she was younger and she regrets it now every day of her life. She is constantly wondering what that child would have been like if it were given the chance to live.
Think about abortion this way: how do you feel when you hear on the news that a baby has been hung in a closet or choked? I know that at least I always think "what kind of sick person would do that?". Abortion is the same thing. Killing an infant. Not giving it the chance to live.
If you are STILL considering abortion, I'd do an image search for "abortion" on google.com. The images are very discusting and violent, but that is truly what abortion is.
Good luck and I hope you make the right choices!
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Hey girl,
There are ways to get an abortion without your parents knowing, but you should tell your parents what is going on they deserve to know. Trust me I am going through the same thing as you. I told my parents and everything turned out fine. Also if you tell your parents they can take you to get checked out. If you don't wanna tell your parents you have to tell someone you trust to take you to get checked out because the longer you wait the worse it will be. Espicially if you are pregnant. Well I hoped I helped you out. Sincerly Mesachick51
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ok. 1st dont panic. when u worry ur period stalls. pains happen all the time. the morning after pill will work for up to 72 hours. get it if you still can. 2nd im not going to preach, but if you dont want to have to worry about this then you should have PROTECTED
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hey, take the pill. please rate. cait ♥
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it might just be in your head but you might wanna take a test to be sure and plus if you are tell your parents they cant beatcha your pregnant they wont hit a pregnant woman. but itll show over time so if you are you might as well tell them
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morning after pill is good for five days (best before 3) so hurry. you can get it at planned parenthood which will also give you info on annonymous abortions.
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