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I just started talking to this guy and he seems really cool. We go to the same school but we've never talked in person before. He randomly sent me a message on facebook then we started texting. He wants us to hang out together but I'm worried he just wants to get in my pants. People have told me to stop talking to him because he just wants to hook up. I want to hang out with him but what do i do if he tries anything? I don't want to do anything with him I just want to hang out as friends. How can i make this clear to him? (link)
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you can just hang out with him now cause you don't know for a fact that hes like that but if he does try anything you're not comfortable with tell him. say i really like you but i'm not ready for that yet. i want to wait. if hes like no or anything. say well i'm not a slut and if thats all you want then i'm sorry cause i don't want to do that.
henaaaa :]
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i love my boyfriend so much. and i know he loves me. we were meant for each other. just couple things that make me :/ are....sometimes randomly he brings up something 2 of his exs did. his not comparing me or anything. but its just you know idc care about them i dont want to hear about them. and sometimes he has plans and ill think i get the whole day with him and then he'll tell me like the day before. waht to do. we neverrrr fight. and are relationship is nottt falling apart. its just those thinngs get to me sometimes. i love him. with all my heart. (link)
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there are always going to be things that bother you when in a relationship. sometimes you just got to deal, but if they're serious then you should just talk to him about it calmly. and see what he has to say. maybe he'll understand and stop. just make sure to never tell him hes wrong, it'll make him mad.
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Hey im 17/f and my boyfriend is 20/m. Yesterday i made a terrible mistake. I promised my boyfriend i wouldnt talk to my ex boyfriend again. I made that promise at like the beginning of our relationship. I broke that promise. I wanted to give him his stuff back and it was only like 5 min. My mom hates my ex boyfriend and she saw me with him and she freaked and called my current boyfriend and told him that im playing games with him and how i was with my ex. I tried explaining the entire situation to my boyfriend and i just wanna get all of this behind us but hes making a huge deal about it. Is there any way i can try to fix this. Im trying everything. And also my mom grounded me i have no phone no car and suppose to have no computer. Please help me :(
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he's going to need time. hopefully he will end up understanding. write him a letter tell him why you did and why your mom called, explaining everything, not holding back. that should calm him down and then just give it time. he probably trusts you its just you broke a promise so that put him in a bad situation. just make sure he knows you love him and you would never do anything to hurt him.
hope everything works out.
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ok...
so i've been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now. he's been great, up until about two weeks ago when he got drunk and cheated on me. i broke up with him, but we got back together a week later because he promised he would do anything to have me back. Now, I believe that he's sorry, but it was kind of a relief to not be with him. don't get me wrong, i love him. he's awesome.
but i have a big problem.
my ex, who i dated for two years, has been calling me. he has wanted me back since we broke up in August. basically since i got with my current bf. i love talking to him... but he will call or text one day, and then i won't hear from him for a week or so...and so then i kind of start to heal the pain a bit and appreciate my boyfriend and think i'm over my ex, and he will call again, completely re-opening the wound.
when i'm talking to my ex consistently, my boyfriend kind of fades out of my mind. but then when my ex stops calling for a week, my attention is back on my boyfriend. I've never cheated on my boyfriend and never would, but i know i still have strong feelings for my ex... but is it just because he was my first love and i should get over him? or is there something more there?
my bf treats me right (except for the whole cheating thing...) but my ex is soo tempting. i think maybe i should decide who hurt me more... my ex broke up with me because he was dealing with his dad being on drugs and he couldnt tell me about it because he thought i would tell someone... so i understand why he left. and maybe i rushed into things with my current bf too soon after my ex and i broke up. but i think my bf hurt me worse by cheating on me. idk. any advice would be greatly appreciated =)
sorry it was so long.
btw, i'm 17, my bf is 21, and my ex is 18. (link)
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ok so i can see you're super conflicted. obviously your heart is still with your ex but also with your boyfriend. the only problem is your ex doesn't seem way too up to the commitment since he's on and off. so that could be something bad to get into to because he may end up hurting you. but since you felt a relief when not with your boyfriend maybe you should just break things off since you are having feelings for another guy. that way you can just be single and find out where your heart really is and who is more worth it to be with.
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I miss my ex (we broke up about 2 years ago)
we are 'just friends' but really, really good friends; we share everything. EXCEPT that i still have feelings for him. and very strong ones...
should i tell him? if so help me about when/where/how
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if these feelings have stayed for two years then it's obviously a big deal. that means it's best if you tell him. and it will make you feel so much better just to let it out.
a way to do it is just ask him to hang out one day. maybe a place you guys had a special date at that could bring back some old sparks. and then just striaght up tell him. theres no right and wrong way to go about it as long as the truth comes out.
but a sentence starter would be i'm glad we're still close but i really miss us together. and say you might think this is weird cause it's been 2 years but it's true. and just see what he says.
hope everything works out.
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for me getting guys has never been a problem, the problem is they always screw me over. every guy i go for, no matter how different they may seem they usually turn out to be worse than the last. ive been through sheer hell in the relationship department and have felt like giving up but as sad as it is, i really do need a man to feel happy. i dont know why, or if thats pathetic, but i am not happy alone. i never feel good enough for anyone and each relationship results in my ego becomming lower and lower. i honestly have no idea what i do wrong. i try very hard not to be annoying, i stay in shape, i try and do nice things for them, and i try to take things slow sexually. im good at sexual acts so my problem is not that i dont know what im doing physically, but emotionally rather. i used to believe it was the guys but now im beginning to question, is it me? and why doesnt anyone actually like me? why do they all just want to use me? why is everyone capable of getting into amazing and functional relationships and im not. if you have any advice please let me know. i would like to know how i can become more of a relationship person, and how to detect if a guy is just looking to use me. (link)
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maybe you're being too nice. i've had tha problem. they guy i dated was amazing before but then he became a complete jerk. it was because i let him. i let him do/say things he shouldn't have and just let him get away with it. it might be that. the might pick up off your behavior and see that you'll let them get away with whatever they want so they'll start doing things they shouldn't be doing it. thats one of the things that could be going on. it also might be that they just are how they are. they might just be a jerk and you don't know it. you can't blame it all on yourself. and if you end up falling for the wrong guys be more careful when you pick them. like get all your friends opinions and see how they treated their exs before you get into anything you might regret. and remember don't change for a guy. you are who you are and guys cannot accept you for that then it's their lose.
good luck.
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I HATE MY EX BOYFRIEND! he acts like he still loves me and then he ditches me to smoke. im fourteen. i want to show him that im done with him but idk how... help? (link)
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take him out of your life. don't make any contact with him. if he tries to speak to you just ignore him. and take out everything you have that reminds you of him. delete him on myspace and facebook. that will give him the message. hopefully then he'll also understand he messed up and if you wanted he might even give up smoking and stay fiathful to you.
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do twins date the same kind of girl/guy? (link)
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not neccesarily. it could happen but not likely. cause they're usually trying to be different from eachother. i dated a twin, his brother's girlfriend was nothing like me.
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how long does it take for a guy to say he loves you when you know he truly cares for you?
The first time I fell in love I told the guy I loved him after a month, I was also 14 and probably didn't know what love was. But the point is he got freaked out.
Now with my current boyfriend we've been dating for a month and a half and he is the most classy respectful guy I have ever met. I didn't even knew they existed in this decade. Flowers, candles, cooks for me..the whole 9 yards. He's told me how crazy he is for me and he told me that he could picture being with me for life. His best friend is my best friend's boyfriend and even he says that he's never seen him like this before.
I know people don't fall in love overnight and we're not the type of couple who date for a week and start saying things like "I love you, you're my everything, I can't live without you"
anyway..so I was just wondering. How long did it take your guy to say it..and mean it? (link)
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for my guy to actually mean it and me too it was almost 2 to 3 months. it just depends how you guys are doing. and obviously you are. so just wait a little. he might just want it to be special and he doesn't want to say it unless he's a 100% sure. 6 weeks might not be enough for him. and hes still shoing how much he mean to him though so its not too bad :]
good luck.
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this senior at my school started looking at me in the hallways back in october and so i told his friend that i thought he was cute. nothing happened though so i figured he wasnt interested even though i knew he was shy. we would still look at each other though. so recently a few weeks ago my good friend is going out with one of his friends and said she could set us up. i was reluctant since nothing happened before but i decided to go for it. she tells her boyfriend to tell the guy (alex)that i thought he was hott and that i wanted to hang out but he didnt tell alex that it was me. i figured he would know it was me though. the weekend we were supposed to all hang out me, alex, my friend and her bf, they got in a fight so it didnt end up happening and i was pretty dissapointed. the next weekend i didnt even know we were going to her bf's house but we went and half way through alex comes and i had no idea he was coming although it was in the back of my head. everyone was pressuring me to go up to him and i kept telling them that i would make my move when i was ready. before i know it my friends bf goes up to him and tells him i wanna hook up. so i follow my friend and basically we hooked up even though it was pretty awkd in the beginning but anyway so that was two weeks ago. the following week in school it was so awkd cause the whole school was talking about it and i avoided him cause i was nervous and didnt know what he thought about it. i thought maybe he was embarassed. he doesnt usually hook up with people i hear. but basically im just so confused cause i like this guy and have been waiting so long for something to happen and it finally did. but we havent talked since then...i know hes shy but i am too and im the one that has made all the moves, ive done everything to show him i like him, he knows i think hes hott, i initiated the hook up, i asked for his number. i have no idea what he thinks! ugh part of me says to just forget it and move on but another part feels like i finally got him so i dont wanna lose him since i have the chance. last week we didnt look at each other at all, but this week we have been making eye contact everyyy day but havent talked. last monday he asked my friend if i talk about him and she said no..idk if thats a good thing. i have no idea what to do. maybe he just wanted to hook up? idk. what do you think he thinks of us hooking up? should i even bother anymore? what would you do? plus his friends always talk about it so it makes me feel awkrd. any advice is reallyy appreciated (link)
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you need to make the first move if you want it progress. but you also got to think about that other guy, if you want him in your life. cause if you do you're going to need to take his feelings into account and not do anything with alex. but if you definetly want alex make a move. you can text him first and say i don't want it to be awkward anymore so lets talk. or something like that. and then hopefully go guys will start talking during school.
good luck.
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okey so theres this guys at my sschool and i liked him for a long time. & i told my friend who then told him but then i told the kid that i didnt like him. then i started to not like him, i dont know why. but i stopped. now that i stopped and he knows i dont like him anymore, he is talking to me more & like today he like stepped in front of me quickly to scare me. & im really confused b/c i thought he didnt like me. but at the beginning of the year he liked me i think b/c he flirted w/ me..... or at least it seemed like it so maybe he didnt like me. but my question is, i want him to like me. so how can i do it? i cant text him b/c when i do, he barely texts back in a way i can reply. bad texter i think. what flirty things can i do that send him a flirty message but dont straight out say "i like you!"? thanks.
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when you're around him make sure to laugh at his jokes and smile so he knows you're interested. and try to keep converstaions going your hardest because then he'll see you want to be around him. that will make him feel more comfortable.
when texting just send him cute little messages every once in a while, like:
hey cutie. what's up?
hey stud. how you doing?
or like funny stuff.
hey cutie, can i get your numba?
i mean i know you already have his number but it will definetly make him smile.
and then for the most part just let you shine. you want your personality to draw him in because thats why he should like, not because of how good you flirt.
good luck.
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f/19 i go to uni doing my second year. theres this guy that started uni on his first year that i see around the campus. i dont no but we seem to ALWAYS glance at eachother whenever we notice that one another is ther.i dont no who he is or what degree hes doing or anything hes just this boy that walks around campus and looks at me he hasnt smiled at me yet and i havent at him either i dont no if he likes me but i think with all that glancing at eachother i have a major crush on him. im just afraiid to put myself out there and have him not like me or maybe he looks at all the girls and i just think he does it to me.should i wait till he smiles or says hi to me first or should i smile at him first or make a move i dont no what to do i dont even no if he thinks anything of me what do u think?or should i just forget him?
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don't be so afraid. start with maybe just giving him a smile. if he smiles back it will definetly give you confidence and make you feel special. and so then maybe one day you can strike up a cute conversation with him. just see how things go from there. and if things don't work out then its no big deal because i mean before you didn't even know who he was before so you won't have to talk to him.
good luck.
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I'm seventeen year old girl.
Here we go, there is this boy Mike who is friends with my friends. I met him a while ago, but never really got to know him. That is until last Saturday. That night he and I were hanging out with my sister, and her bf another girl and two other guys. He and I talked most of the night. We did a little flirting. Every time he'd look over at he he'd smile, and I'd smile back. We sat in the car together we went places, he put his arm around me. We played a little game where we flicked a bottle cap back and forth to each other. When I was about to go home, I mentioned I wasn't tired so he suggested I text him, so he gave me his number we talked the rest of the night till I fell asleep. We hung out the next day too, more of the same. A few days later I added him to MySpace,and he denyed it. AH idk why. And there was a rumor going around that we made out, his crazy ex either started it or her friend did.
Then last night I hung out with the same people again. And he was very nice, and more little flirting. He opened my door when we were getting out of the car, and when we were all finding seats at our friends house he got me one next to him. We exchanged a few text messages in the car and after I got out of the car then he said good night. He said a specific goodbye to me as I got out of the car.
So the problem is I'm confused. What do you think is going on. Where do I go from here? Please, I need opinionss :) (link)
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theres definetly something going on there :] the myspace thing might have just been an accident. so i think you should keep the flirting going on a little longer. and just see how things work out. if they seem to be going good try suggesting a date with just you two. that will show if its serious or not. if you guys are both feeling it then it might just amount to something. just go with your gut. and don't rush into anything if you're not sure.
hope i helped.
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17f.We broke up about a week ago, but I couldn't stand to be apart from him, and he has openly said that he would want to get back together. The reason I left the relationship is because I have a deep rooted fear of commitment among other things (he does drugs, smokes, drinks, and is often gloomy and down). So we continued to be friends as if nothing had happened, meanwhile trying to forget what we had been through. But I don't think it ever really ended, because everytime i see him and am around him there is something there that makes me want to be with him. But I keep trying to convince myself that I can't be with him because I don't want to. And that is half true because when we broke up, I definitely thought it was over for good. I told him that I have commitment issues and that perhaps one day i will get over them and be a different person. When we were dating I acted completely distant towards him, yet now outside of the relationship I act so close to him. So today we went to a movie and there was some hand holding involved and now I feel terrible. I don't know how to handle this. I don't know what I want...I don't want us to get hurt again...:( (link)
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i see what you're going through. there was a guy i dated forever and then it ended but we still stayed close but then ended up kissing and stuff and i didn't know what to do. so what i would say is you obviously still feel something but you have that fear. and i think your fear is because you think hes going to hurt you. so you should say i don't like the things you do and i can't be around that, so if you really care you would stop and then we could be good. that would show what kind of person he really is. now thats if you want to be with him.
if you decide that you can't its not going to work then you have to stay away for awhile. not forever but enough to make sure your feelings for him as something other than a friend are gone.
do what you know will make you happy.
thats what is most important.
good luck.
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Okay, so, this may be long-im sorry. But Its been on my mind for 2 years and i feel like if someone out there feels this way too, they could help me as to what to do.
2 years ago,I had a boyfriend that i really did like. He was great, we felt instantly connected. Somehow,i loved him right when i saw him...i don't know how. But back then i was shy and unhappy, so i couldn't be who i was with him-seeing as he just made me even more nervous.I recall one time,when someone actually said "All guys want is to get in your pants!" and he whispered in my ear "i would never." I knew he ment it,its just who he was. After a month or two, i wimped out and broke up with him. For reasons like-we didn't talk much,hangout,and i was positive he could find someone better. And even though it was that short of a time-i still feel like i should be with him. I've found myself liking guys that have his features. His personality is exactly like mine,now(2 years later). He's moved on,had other girlfriends. After we broke up,he was so mean to me.i told him to never talk to me again. Then he apologized and i asked him if we could ever be friends and he said no. Then months later of not talking he comes out of no where and tells me he has a girlfriend,i say "thats good :D"(obviously i'm going to be happy for him) then he signs off of aim.That was the last time we talked.(about 2 years ago? maybe)
Which brings me to now.I actually think he hates me. See,starting this year-I see him everywhere(in school). He looks away every time i look at him-so do i. I went to a dance the other day(we met at a dance)And he was there. Everything came back to me,so i decided to dance near him with my friends.And as strange as it is..it felt good to be even near him. and my friend who knows about the situation was telling me he was staring at me.I was really happy,then really sad.I've been thinking about him a lot lately. I get these feelings-and it feels like he's thinking about me too. But he hates me. So i don't know what to do,i REALLY want to smile at him or say hi to him in the halls. But i know he won't do it back.
Leading to the grand fanalie, Should I try to talk to him again? Has anyone ever felt this way before? What did you do? Is there such thing as a connection between people that have to be together? Lastly, Why do you think he hates me,even after 2 years? Anything,anything to help this feeling go away,please. Thankyou (link)
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you obviously had really strong feelings for this guy, and still do. and the reason why you probably feel this way is because you ended it off for no good reason leading there to be unfinished business. and he probably doesn't want to talk to you because you hurt him. he must have had strong feelings for you and then you just dumped him. guys are really bad with dealing with this kind of stuff. if i were you i would try to make contact with him, anyway you can. maybe to avoid the akwardness write him a letter or send him a message. in it you should explain exactly what was going on in your head and why you made that move. hopefully he'll understand. and also make sure you tell him how much he still means to you. and you would do anything to be just friends. because you miss him so much. hopefully he'll believe and undertsand and be ok with you. and then you;ll have to work on strengthing you guys relationship. and maybe one day if you want him as your boyfriend again it can happen.
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i need your guys advice on this..so this is like the millionth time hes "blown me off" he doesn't really blow me off but he has this list of chores his dad makes him do and he knows that if he doesnt do them he can't go out or anything. hes basically lazy and its starting to get to me because he always makes plans with me and then cant last minute because he didnt do his chores..what do you guys think i should do? i texted him telling him i had to talk to him...what should i say? and what do i do? i need advice thankss
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you have to tell him exactly what you feel. theres no point in holding back. just tell him you understand that he has stirct parents and stuff but you would really appreciate if he could make more of an effort to actually spend time with you. because right now hes not. and that hes really showing that he doesn't care much which is going to ruin your relationship. just tell him what you feel but don't show anger because then he might get over dramtic about it. just stay calm and tell him what you feel. also maybe you could make suggestions for him to fix his laziness. like you could help him with his chores. or give him a specail surprise whenver he finishes.
these are just some ideas.
hope something works.
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I am fifteen years old, female. I am not in any relationship. I have random, strange, out there ideas, im pretty spontaneous. Im a pretty opposite person, meaning i take either one or the other extreme. example relating to this, i will either take a long time to romantically like someone or i will like them really fast. its always one or the other with me, not in the middle. I feel like when i get older im either going to take long to get married or get married spontaneously to a guy that i havent known very long. That will just result in multiple marriages. But to get to the main idea of this, a little while ago it randomly came to me that I WANT TO GET MARRIED, and NOW. I know it sounds stupid, because im young and dum and not even with anybody but the whole idea of it sounds so appealing right now, at a young age. Then when im a bit older like 22, thats the time to party and date to get to know people and few years from that get to know people to find a husband. I just kind of wanted to know about why i feel this way, about other young peoples marriages if its your own or someone you knows' personal experience. (link)
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don't worry about it. many teens feel the same way to you. young marriages appeal to many because it just seems to romantic. and it also might be your want to be in a realationship resulting in you wanting to get married so early. just let these feelings take their course, hopefully you won't do anything you regret. and when your hormones die down you'll know wha you really want and it's probably not to get married at 15.
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Hey!
So yesterday i randomly friend requested this guy who is friends with my guy friend because i thought he was really cute lol and he seemed familiar. turns out we know eachother through some people and I have met him like once (but i dont really remember haha)
anyways we talked over messaging for like 2 hours and he seems really cool. I know this is a stretch but i maybe want to possibly go to prom with him or see if something happens (i know this probablly wont happen im not getting my hopes up) but i dont know if i should message him again tonight or wait? or how i should approach this? (link)
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you should definetly let him make the first move, up to a limit. because that proves that hes into you. hopefully it'll be soon, but if he doesn't after a day or two just send him a casual message. like hey, how are you? and then keep the conversation going. and try to sneek in a wanna hang out one day. just as a friend. and then see how that works and if theres a connection. it might then amount to something.
henaaa :]
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normally i dont need help but this is like serious haha. my exboyfriend & i went out for 2 years.. im finally over him after 6 months. of course there are a cute guy in atleast 1 of my classes, but most of the cute ones are in honors.. surpisingly. haha well this one boy lets call him shae, is in my math class but sits on the other side of the room. hes REALLY quiet, but i kinda am too cause i dont talk to alot of people in that class. ive only talked to him twice lol. i asked him if he talks and hes like yeah i do i just have no friends in this class.. and i asked if he got a haircut and he said yes and i told him i liked itt lmao. i really dont know how i'm spose to talk to this boy who sits on the other side of class.. same with alot of other boys. & we have assigned seats. s0o how do i talk to the boys that arent in my classes.. or sit on the other side of the room lol =) (link)
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assigned seats are horrible first of all.
and good job on getting over your ex :]
but you can probably figure something out.
first, try to get to class earlier so you can strike up a conversation before class. also stay a little behind so you can run into him after class. and say did you get that at all cause i didn't. and if he does maybe you can ask for him to help you later, hopefully getting his number or screename. another thing you could possible do is find out who they hang out with so you can find out if his friends are in any of your classes so you can become cool with them and then they can introduce you.
hopefully something works for you.
& if these don't work just try things your friends have done to get with thier guys.
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Ok so I just broke up with my boyfriend this weekend. We're both 16 and it had been a 3 month relationship. I told him we couldn't keep being together because I don't treat him the way I should. I would always act distant towards him and never very enthusiastic. At first I didn't but gradually the feelings began to fade and the attraction wasn't there anymore. It all seemed very routine to me but I couldn't bare to let him go. We've become extremely close in the past months. But I finally did the deed, and now at school he's all alone. I was the person he would hang out with everyday but I guess he doesn't want to do that anymore. Every time I see him it really hurts to know that it's really over and that it's because of me. And it doesn't help that I know that he is extremely upset about the whole thing. I spoke to him today but only briefly because I saw him at our locker. We both agreed to still be best friends but that isn't happening at the moment. I know we probably need time away from eachother now, but I don't know what is the best way to handle this situation. This is my first real lengthy relationship so I've never been in this situation before. But I care so deeply about him and I just want us to both be happy. :/ (link)
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it's going to be hard for a while because he obviously had strong feelings for you. so he probably can't handle being around you and won't for a while. its easier if you just give him his space. eventually he should be comfortable with you again, and then you guys can work on having a friendship. it's going to be hard to stay away from him but you have to do it, for him. just imagine if it was you in his place. give him some time and try to become friends again.
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