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trying to mend this
Hey im 17/f and my boyfriend is 20/m. Yesterday i made a terrible mistake. I promised my boyfriend i wouldnt talk to my ex boyfriend again. I made that promise at like the beginning of our relationship. I broke that promise. I wanted to give him his stuff back and it was only like 5 min. My mom hates my ex boyfriend and she saw me with him and she freaked and called my current boyfriend and told him that im playing games with him and how i was with my ex. I tried explaining the entire situation to my boyfriend and i just wanna get all of this behind us but hes making a huge deal about it. Is there any way i can try to fix this. Im trying everything. And also my mom grounded me i have no phone no car and suppose to have no computer. Please help me :(
Thanks so much sorry so long!
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I would go bat shit crazy on my mother in your situation.
She has no right to be interfering in your relationships, this is between your boyfriend and you, and considering the innocent circumstances...
This is one of the few times I would recommend opening a can of verbal whoop ass on a parent. You're 17, and she violated your right to privacy and meddled where she does not belong.
Talk to her calmly if you can't scream, but you should be shaking with anger over this. Most people would. If you feel that anger, let it flow. This isn't an area where logical explanations are going to get you anywhere. She feels she has the right to be a drama mongering idiot.
In this case, you need to make a firm stand. You're already grounded, you've got little or nothing to lose. Draw a line in the sand, and push her back if she tries to step over it. This is your life we're talking about, and if you don't push her out now she's going to be meddling until you're 50.
As to the boyfriend, apologize and explain. Get a phone however you have to and call him, whether you steal your phone back or borrow a friends. He shouldn't have a huge issue with this if you explain that it was completely innocent, just calmly assert that you weren't doing anything except giving the guy his stuff back.
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he's going to need time. hopefully he will end up understanding. write him a letter tell him why you did and why your mom called, explaining everything, not holding back. that should calm him down and then just give it time. he probably trusts you its just you broke a promise so that put him in a bad situation. just make sure he knows you love him and you would never do anything to hurt him.
hope everything works out.
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I have been in that EXACT same situation except for the whole mother getting involved like THAT.
I promised my boyfriend I would never talk to my ex again PLUS my mother absolutely despises my ex.
Well, I broke the promise. I told my boyfriend though and he was upset, but he understood. My mother, however, did not get involved and it's not her place to.
Give your boyfriend some time and during this time think about how you want to explain this to him. Explain you just wanted to give him back all his stuff because your sick of looking at the junk! Tell him it meant nothing. If he can't understand that, then he needs to be single for a while and get his own crap straightened out.
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