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I get really nervous when I have to do a presentation in the front of the class (like many other students). I'm in college now and my dread about oral presentations is still fullforce. I will practice forever, but when I get up there, I never say what I want to and end up looking stupid. I have a presentation coming up and we can have flashcards with us, but what can I do to keep myself calm? Sometimes I get so nervous I sweat and feel like I'm going to pass out. What are some tips people use? Any advice would be appreciated, especially if you have this problem too!

The same exact thing happens to me whenever i have to get up in front of people. last year i had to do a performance and i felt literally sick; like i had a fever and i was sweating so i get it. what i do is i think of happy things before i have to get up. or i stare at the back wall when im presenting so it looks like im looking at everyone in the class but im not. another tip: i still have horrid stage fright but remember not a lot of people are really paying attention.

hope i helped !! xx

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i work at a daycare and i need some ideas of some stuff we can do with the kids like crafts and games and things like that any ideas anything will help any websites or anything

heres some ideas they arent the best but i volunteer at a preschool so here goes....
-marble paintings [you give them each a bucket with four marbles and splatter paint on the paper then have them roll the marble back and forth through the paint]
-people drawings [get some felt and cut peices out into human body shapes then have them make what they think they "look like"]
-sponges [get a HUGE sheet of paper and have them all line up on both sides and just completely sponge out paint that you splattered on, maybe wait until spring .... then you can do it outside]


ok im out of ideas ... hope i helped !

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at dance i landed a jump straight legged and my knee popped. the rest of the dance it was numb and i couldnt put too much pressure on it. i have to limp. it was like jello. it still is.
it feels like it needs to pop.
its my left knee and i CANT straighten it and i'm in pain when i bend it all the way.
its no swollen and its not exactly my knee cap its to the left and kind of behind my knee.
it feels like a bone is going in and out when i do certain stuff.
i couldnt dance my last dance.
i have dance practice monday and wed. and i have a tennis tournament tuesday. and i HAVE to dance saturday.
will i be able to do that?

You sound like you may have moved your knee-cap over. even though the pain isnt near the knee cap its likely. this happened to me and i had the same symptoms. im not a doctor so im not diagnosing you but you need to see someone. i understand the feeling when it needs to pop but i cant. it hurts alot. in the mean time you should try going to CVS, Walgreens, or any other drugstore around the area and getting a soft brace. nothing hard, or heavy, but more then an ace bandage. they are either black or tanish-sandy. you slip them on and they give minimal support. if you do get one it will feel a little weird when you walk, almost like you have a little bounce in your step.

hope i helped

good luck

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I'm trying to find a babysitting job but I don't really have any expirience with young children. I got a response to babysit a 2 year old boy from 9-5 3 days a week and I don't even know how to take care of a 2 year old! Do they need changed? Do they eat normal food? Do they talk? Please give me tips so I don't sound stupid asking the mother questions like that.

its great that you got a babysitting job.
okay two year olds can be fun, and hard at the same time.
first about the changing issue, some of them are not potty trained yet some are. some are trained to only do #1 on the toilet and not #2. even if they are trained you should ask them if they need the bathroom-sometimes they don't tell you.
the food issue, this is something i would highly recommend asking the mother or father a question about. questions such as, what kind of food does ____ eat?, does ___ eat this?, or, can ___ eat this? it depends on the child's comfort level. some two year olds like different food then other two year olds. remember to ask about allergies. ask in advance so you don eat anything they could be allergic to before you go. and if you do eat something they are allergic to, wash your face, arms, AND hands. you don't want them to have a reaction while your babysitting.
the talking, most can talk even though it may be hard to understand. some of them can't form sentences but they might form small phrases. a lot of two year olds can say simple words, but if they try to say other things that may be harder it is almost impossible to understand. its hard to understand what their saying anyway, so when they try to say hard words its worse.

remember most two year olds have a lot of energy so try to keep them occupied as long as possible and tire them out so they get good naps in, and so that at night they sleep well. that will impress the parents. ask what activities they like, or what they enjoy doing.

hope i helped!
good luck...you'll get the hang of it once you start thats what happened to me.

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HElp....

I met this girl a year ago and we weren't really that close... Last summer we were stuck in a group project in summer school. Honestly I didn't like her THAT much to begin with.. I mean I had to be group leader and deal with everything and eventually DO everything which pissed me off... and I know I should distinguish between work and friendship but honestly I saw habits that I don't want in friends... anyway... I KNOW for a fact some of the reasons she picked me out of all six members to be my "friend" i didn't mind cause usually I am nice and tolerant and I thought I could set limits with her...
Turns out... she is too nice. TOOOO nice to the extent you feel that there is some kind of motive to it... well that's what it turned out to be... she started doing me favors in exchange for me doing her favors. I'd say urghh i am busy doing this paper that is killing me... and then she'd jump like an overwhelmed dog ready for his walk saying I'll do it I'll do it I'll do it!! i say NO and she says I'll help you I'll help you I'll help you...

anyway needless to say it was my mistake for being lazy and abusing the opportunity. I said okay and I got her to proof read some of them and to come up with ideas for others. we were okay until she started being obsessive (and i guess my guilt sorta allowed her) and inquisitive. she wanted to know about ALL my friends (i am not being cruel she has none but her cousin) and starts asking where when who why how if i say i am busy with some one... and it doesn't stop there... I live closer to campus she lives about 45 mins away, now that we are "best friends" she keeps saying I am coming over or I am coming to organize your room or stuff... I don't want to be mean and i don't mind my friend being over except she goes through my stuff!!! my parents don't even do that!!!! even my roommate knows not to enter my room without knocking or permission this girl comes in and opens all cabinets and drawers and asks a billion questions about everything. so i resorted to saying that my house is not clean to get her to UNDERSTAND that i don't want her there she says I'LL CLEAN IT FOR YOU! or worse I'LL DO YOUR LAUNDRY. i have a damn housekeeper to help around but i don't need someone going through my undies! and honestly thats how she made it sound when i told her i had a housekeeper... she honestly almost said why don't you hire me (FOR PAY!!!) I am a little more well off than most of my friends because my grandfather died five years ago and left me college money and extra. she knows that... all my friends do but none of them ever made it such a big deal or made me feel weird about it... she comes in goes through my shopping bags and says stuff like OH MY GOD YOU BOUGHT A 75$ DOLLAR PAIR OF JEANS!!!! and i don't know what to say... so i say they are on sale.... urghhhh i can't stand her... I finally got her to stop coming to the house but she keeps calling and texting and when i say lets meet at the coffee place instead she gets all cold and mad! she is nice and helpful but not in a friend kind of way!!! and i know i'll feel guilty blowing up on her. but i don't know if i can control it much longer or if i have another option!!! she is getting to my last nerve... oh she also keeps sending me these guilt inspiring messages saying I tried calling you but you are ignoring and I miss you so much and just wanted to say hello and if you need anything call me i am always here for you (p.s i am not ignoring her she calls like 4 times a day and i have classes!!!!)


what should i do...

I think that you should talk to her about it. but you really have to stress to her that your a big girl and you can do this by yourself. you dont need help cleaning your room, or writing a paper. maybe you can also be more careful about what you say around her. im not blaming this on you at all, but maybe think before you say "ugh my room is so messy" or "ugh this paper is killing me". if you try not to say that stuff so much then this issue wouldnt be as huge.
i hope i helped.

p.s. props on dealing with this friend !!!! :D i wouldnt live a day !!






you should say that you dont feel good. or you need to make and important phone call. say i dont need help with anything and i want to read bymyself. things along those lines

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i Think im started to have feelings for my best friend im a girl and hes a guy so yeah nayways.
He has a girlfirend, but the things is, im sure that he jus "wants a girlfriend" dont ask why im just positive about it, well, i kinda think he likes me too why? well hes always saying "i love u" and stuff to me and like the other day he wrote it on my hand right and then the next day i came to school, he was like i wanna know why your hand.... and then he stops and pulls my sleeve up to see if the "ilove u " is still there,like he was jus lookin for an exuse to see it, not only that, whenever im sittin down he'd come pinch my cheecks or sit REALLLLLLLLY close next to me,
like srsly, and like wherever i am he wants to be with me no matter how many people are standing with us, hes always after me.
and hes always commenting me calling me cute
and that he loves me and stuff
i doknt know cause then again he says im his BEST FRIEND FOREVER..
i dont know what do u gyus think??

i think that you should tell him that you like him even though he has a girlfriend. maybe he will tell you that he likes you back. you never know. even though it isnt the easiest thing to do its worth a shot... hope i helped

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