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Broke up with my boyfriend
Ok so I just broke up with my boyfriend this weekend. We're both 16 and it had been a 3 month relationship. I told him we couldn't keep being together because I don't treat him the way I should. I would always act distant towards him and never very enthusiastic. At first I didn't but gradually the feelings began to fade and the attraction wasn't there anymore. It all seemed very routine to me but I couldn't bare to let him go. We've become extremely close in the past months. But I finally did the deed, and now at school he's all alone. I was the person he would hang out with everyday but I guess he doesn't want to do that anymore. Every time I see him it really hurts to know that it's really over and that it's because of me. And it doesn't help that I know that he is extremely upset about the whole thing. I spoke to him today but only briefly because I saw him at our locker. We both agreed to still be best friends but that isn't happening at the moment. I know we probably need time away from eachother now, but I don't know what is the best way to handle this situation. This is my first real lengthy relationship so I've never been in this situation before. But I care so deeply about him and I just want us to both be happy. :/
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it's going to be hard for a while because he obviously had strong feelings for you. so he probably can't handle being around you and won't for a while. its easier if you just give him his space. eventually he should be comfortable with you again, and then you guys can work on having a friendship. it's going to be hard to stay away from him but you have to do it, for him. just imagine if it was you in his place. give him some time and try to become friends again.
hope i helped.
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Get ready! This is not the first or last time you will encounter this situation. And sometimes it will be you in his shoes. Main thing is respect his feelings which you did and be honest with him which you were all while bein true 2 your feelings. You did the right thing! Just remember the more positive energy you release more comes back 2 you! It'll be ok!
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You did the right thing. If you weren't happy in the relationship then there was no reason to continue it. Even if he had feelings for you, it wouldn't have been fair to him to continue it if you didn't have those same feelings for him.
The best thing you can do is give him time. Naturally, he's still probably upset over the whole thing, so just give him a little while to heal, & if he really wants to be friends he'll come back around.
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