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boyfriend problems
i need your guys advice on this..so this is like the millionth time hes "blown me off" he doesn't really blow me off but he has this list of chores his dad makes him do and he knows that if he doesnt do them he can't go out or anything. hes basically lazy and its starting to get to me because he always makes plans with me and then cant last minute because he didnt do his chores..what do you guys think i should do? i texted him telling him i had to talk to him...what should i say? and what do i do? i need advice thankss
16/f 17/m
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Theory One:
It sounds like he's not much of a pre-planner. In other words, he may think of things he wants to do with you, but doesn't factor in the time it takes to do his chores. If that be the case, he needs to learn to manage his time, and apparently you gotta be the one to tell him that.
Theory Two (worst case scenario):
It could be that he's not as into the relationship as you are. In my expirience, if a guy is REALLY into his girlfriend, nothing comes in the way of him finding a chance to spend every free second with her. He wouldn't wait til the last minute to do his chores if he knew it would cut into his "you time". But that's the worst case scenario.
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The best way to go about this is be nice but be seriouse. You could say
"You know I feel like we havnt been spending alot of time together because you keep forgetting to do your chores and I really feel like your always blowing me off and it is really starting to bother me"
you have to tell him the problem and how you feel but not attack him because guys are a little defencive.
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Well,
to be honest,
I would just tell him that if he really liked you, then he would bother to do his chores so he could see you, and that he needs to get his act together if he wants to be with you, because you want to be with someone who you can see, and who actually makes an effort to see you, tell him he has one last chance or tell him to get his act together or hes not worth it.
Hope I helped, good luck
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Your just going to have to tell him that you want someone who can go out and have fun with you. Not someone you can't count on because he can't do his chores. He's too old not to be able to do his chores and hes also to old not to be able to take a girl out every once and a while. So the only solution here is just let him know what you expect from him.
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What I would do is tell him to start being more responsible. Not in a snotty way, but it's the truth... It's unfair that he has plenty time to do his chores.. and he makes plans with you, then waits till last minute and cancels on you.. he should balance his home life responsibilities and his relationship responsibilities... Just kindly ask him to stop leaving things to last minute.. tell him to put himself in your shoes.. and if he STILL doesnt change then maybe he shouldn't be in a relationship where he can't keep his promises, you know? Good luck hun,
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you have to tell him exactly what you feel. theres no point in holding back. just tell him you understand that he has stirct parents and stuff but you would really appreciate if he could make more of an effort to actually spend time with you. because right now hes not. and that hes really showing that he doesn't care much which is going to ruin your relationship. just tell him what you feel but don't show anger because then he might get over dramtic about it. just stay calm and tell him what you feel. also maybe you could make suggestions for him to fix his laziness. like you could help him with his chores. or give him a specail surprise whenver he finishes.
these are just some ideas.
hope something works.
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