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my frend wants a bf and asks me to help her find 1. i dont want to help her. how should i tell her?
Tell her that its no one should get someone to get a bf for her. if she was really ready for one, she would get one herself, or a boy would come to her.
Me and my girlfriend are in a delema she is makeing a dission between me or another guy she says she is confused. and she says she loves me but my point of view is if she loves me as much as she says she does then i would this it would be no comp. I love her like no other. Im thinking she is playing both sides she wants me to be here if she picks the other guy and it goes wrong with them. my prob is what should i do if she picks him. I would hope she'd pick me though.
If she doesnt pick you...then forget about her. She obviously is not worth your time. Sorry to sound so rude..but if she really truly cared about you she wouldnt need to think a second before chosing you. It is to unfair to you. You should just move on, and im sure you will find someone who will respect and love you as much as you yourself has to offer. Hope i helped!
So this one boy tells me that he loves me. And I don't love him. But he really seems to mean it. How do I respond to that statement if I don't love him back and I don't wanna lie?
Say you arent ready tom move that fast into a strong relationship with im. Say you really like him and would like to get to know him better before you can say "i love you" back. Hope i helped!
ok well there is this guy rite and he likes me and i kinda sorta like him... hes not really popular at our skool and hes not the hottest person ever but hes really nice and hes cute idk if i shood ask him out or just not bcuz hes not hott... im kinda afraid of what ppl think... part of me says why the hell shood i care what my friends think but then part of me says care
I kind of went though the same thing you did, but in the end i was happy with my choice, anyway i like lots of guys who arent like popular OR really hot at all. Most of the time im just atracted ot their personality, humor, and how smart they might be. Most of the time the guys arent extremely hot. I htink if the only reason you wouldnt go out with this guy is because hes not hot......thats really wrong. If your friends make fun of you for goin out with him......thats not right, and you need to tell them that they may think you can only go out with hot guys, but your more mature then that. The best guys come in the most unusual packages. Hope i helped!
I have a date with a guy tonight. He's somewhat shy. I am a fairly outgoing person. I'm actualy the one who asked him to go on a date with me. I want to kiss him, but would it be alright for me to make the first move? Would that be too forward of me? Should I just wait for him to make a move on me?
well i always htought girls shouldnt make the first move..but technically you already did by asking him out..and thts fine. I htink you should go through with the day and see how it goes...i mean dont make assumptions before you even go on the date. what if the guy turns out to be a really jerk or whatever...he prob wont, but maybe, and you wouldnt even want to kiss him. But if the date goes well...and you see hes kinda wanting to kiss you but is really shy looking, go ahead and make the move...its ok to make the move..because then he will kow you want o kiss him and stuff...so h will make the moves after on the next dates. Hope i helped! Good luck!
i keep making stupid mistakes in my relationships. i dont know how to stop! i always manage toscrew it up by being with some one else or sleeping with someone else. i cant help it. it just something inside me that make me want to do stuff. i am in a relationship now (4days) and ive already cheated on him. at the time it feels good. i dont know whether its the rik of been caught or what but now i just feel bad and dirty! how do i stop doing this?
You just have to remain loyal to your boyfriend....and try not o go to places and get yourself in situations where you can cheat on him. if you are oging to go out or to a part or whatever where this could happen..take you boyfriend, so you can do it with him i guess lol. maybe your just not ready to settle down and call anyone your boyfriend....you want to party and have fun, but if you cant od that when you have a boyfriend you need ot be loyal to. So dont settle down yet i guess i have ot say...Hope i helped! Good luck!
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 8 months and were like best friends! We have been fighting a lot lately and he jokes around (lies) too much. He always tells me he was lying shortly after but it really annoys me.. on my advice thingy he left me a question.. do you think im gay? and i said no just weird and he left be the worst feedback so people wont ask me stuff.. he never tells me when hes mad at me and i dont know how he really feels... help!
well it seems to me like this relationship is moving no where but down....with no stops. sorry to say but he kinds sound slike a jerk and you deserve better, and he doesnt deserve you. Theres is not one good thing listed her about your bf. what kind of bf leaves you a really bad feedback message on a public website! You didnt even really say anything wrong. Something a relationship needs is trust...and if he lies, then trust is not there which means the relationship is incomplete...so its not ful on other words or not good. I htink you need ot tell him what you think about him...and in a way...i dont think his reaction will be all to calm either by the way you described him. I htik you need ot move on from this guy...hes not worth fussing over..Hope i helped! Good Luck!
Okay, I'm really confused about this guy, it's drving me crazy. This boy and I are in the one of the same classes together, and we talked somewhat, and I did flirt with him, but didnt expect anything to come out of it. Well, we started talking on the internet a lot, and he admitted to me that he liked me. So me and him started going out. Well in school he doesnt talk much and it's kind of awkward between us, and sometimes we don't even talk. It doesn't seem like he wants to be around me much. For that first week, he was online all the time, and was the sweetest person to me, always telling me how much he wanted to see me, and now he's hardly ever on. I confronted him and asked him if he still wanted to go out with me and he said he did. it just seems like he acts like two diffrent people. At times he'll seem like he doesnt wanna be touched, and then the next second he'll put his arm around me and pull me closer. And he doesn't talk to me on the phone, and he doesnt make much of an effort to see me on the weekends. But, he is really nice most of the time, and really sweet, there's just nothing to talk about between us.I know this sounds trivial and unimportant, but it really bugs the hell out of me. So could someone please help me and tell me what's going on or what to do?
You know, im kinda going through the same thing....but not really. I have a relationship with a guy and we are like family friends but he goes ot my school. He like nevr talks to me in school, but onlne we always talk, and like whenever i go ove rhis house in the summer we always have fun. I sometimes do care about the way he acts with me in school, because it makes me sad. But we arent going out. But as for you, i think you need to make a bigger effort to go up to HIM and talk with HIM at school, and make some date plans, and see how he reacts. If in school you try to talk, and he acts like he doesnt really know you..then forget him, you deserve better. I know its hard...but for a relationship to work, there must be communication...whcih there seems to be lacking in this one. Hope i helped!
I had a first date with this guy Jack last night. We have been talking for a while, and so I asked him out, and we went to the movies, and to a friends house afterwards. The date itself was good, no akward silences, kept the conversation going, and he held my hand, which I wasnt expecting him to do, because he is quite shy. At the end of the night, he walked me to my door, and gave me a hug. I almost kissed him, because I thought he would be too shy to make a first move, but he turned away, so I ended up kissing his cheek (and I am so embaressed about it) He said that he didnt want to get me sick (he has been sick for the last week, or something) Do you think thats the real reason, or did he just not want to kiss yet? Is there anything I could say to him to fix this?
I htink that he may be telling the truth about being sick....did he seem sick like caughing?? if not it was probabily just a cover up because since hes shy, he wont move to kissing to fast. or maybe he just believes kissing on the first date is moving to fast, and he was just taking his beliefs to action. I dont really htink you have anything to worry about. Tou guys like each other, and you didnt know. Maybe the next time you get into a good convo, somewhere in the middle just say something like...."hey, sorry i was moving laittle to fast on our date, i wasnt sure i you were ready for it, or even if I was.." I dunno thats just a thought. Hope i helped!
I've always felt that there was no need to be in a relationship at my age(14) but i was just asked out and i think i have fallen in love. but my mother tells me there is no way you can fall in love so young. do you think its possible to fall in love at such a young age? if you dont think so what do you think i should do, i dont want to dump him or anything, but i dont want to waste my time and energy
if there is no point to our relationship.
woah girl.....finding love isnt the big reason of haveing a relationship at your age..which is also mine. Your supposed to go out for fun, and the experience! I guess it also teaches what kinds of guys are good for you, and which arent, and they teach you looks dont matter and its about the perdons personality. I do think you can fall in love at a young age... Some people take most of their life to find their soul mate, some people, find them really quick. Adults are to serious about it, but kids play around with dating, and sometimes find that right person....but would never really know untill you got older and went out with some other people. Since this is your first boyfriend, you might not understand what love really is yet..Hop ei helpedBy the way, if you think your to young to fall in love, and dump a guy because you dont love him (yet) how will you ever fall in love? You would always think the relationship is pointless before you got to know the guy. Your not wasting time and energy with this guy..unless hes not treating you well, but u didnt mention that so....keep with him.
It's me again! If I do break up with my boyfriend under these circumstances how should I go about doing it? should I wait until our next arguement and then ask him how he feel the relationsip is going? or if realistically things could still work out?
ok well maybe..you should wait a little, see how tings are going. if they seem to be going good..then countinue with your relationship. But one thing is...dont TRY to make it good by always agreeing with him, and letting him win fights. Make it good by how it SHOULD be. i mean when you frst got together...your relationship was good...and other relationships you have been in...some where ood right? Is this relationship good like that? if not...and your feeling like your pressuring yourself to stay in the relationship, call him, or do it in person as soon as you can. The sooner you do it, the happier you will be, the closer you are to a new fresh and good relationship! Hope i helped again!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. I am 16 (sophomore) and he is 18 (senior). Recently we have been getting into stupid arguements because he seems to like arguing and always has to be right. I always give into him just because I don't want to fight anymore. He also never listens to me when I say "no" when he tries to touch me. We both lost our virginity to each other and sometimes I let him, but when I tell him not to, if im just not in the mood he, doesn't seem to understand that. We've talked about it numerous times and I've tried everything. Do you think this relationship can be saved? Because he means so much to me and I would hate more than anything to hurt him.
Thank you
-Confused
well....you said you didnt want want to hurt him...well hunny comone...look at all he has done to you. He doesnt respect what you want when it comes to sex....respect is one of the most important things in a relationship, and if he doesnt respect you, the relationship cant work. Dince he doesnt respect you..hes hurting you. Dumping him might hurt him, but by the way hes acting..he doesnt deserve you. If you have talked about it, and nothing as changed..i dont see how it ever will. As it comes to you religions...its very good its so important to and i dont see why he wont talk to you more about his...i dunno of hes hiding something, im not familiar with the baptist religion...but it looks like he just doesnt know enough about it. He should support your beliefs, and if he doesnt...once again, he doesnt deserve you. I hope i helped! Thanx for asking just me, it makes me feel good people want just my advice..it means something i said changed someone for the better :) If you have more questions just ask.
hey can anyone help me? i am 13/f there is this guy at my school who i really like and think he is totally hot and cute and sweet and nice. he is all i think about and i am always talking about him to my friends. but the problem is he ignores me and is annoyed by me but i really just wanna be friends right now but he won't even talk to me anymore!!!! can anyone tell me how to get his attention? i need some help!!!! thanks so much!!!!
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get his attention by being open, if your in any classes with him...answer question! He will see your kind of a leader and very smart...Number one thing to do is...dont look at him...i know it may be hard. Dont talk to him for like 2 weeks...se what happens...he will come up to you to talk. This works becaus ei have done it, i am 14/f, and a guy friend had told me to do this and it works! Hope i helped!
I really need some advice.
I am a 15/F ....I have gone out with this one guy about 5 or 6 times (we arent datiing just hooking up). We were introduced by a friend (he's 16) and is (or seems) like a really good guy. My parents are away for the whole weekend and my sister is going to be out tomorrow night and I think this guy is coming over. We have hooked up.. but nothing more then that. I am kind of concerned that something is going to happen that I don't want to happen (i am a virgin). I don't know If i'm just overly worried or what. do u think its a bad idea for him to come over considering the circumstances? Is it suggesting that I want something more then just hooking up? Please give me your advice. Especially the boys here. Thanks.
Ok im not aboy, but you need advoce so....I dont think its a bad idea if this guy comes over when no one else is home. I mean since you know him pretty well. If you guys start kissing and making out, etc, you might want ot tell him your limits. He should respect them. If he doesnt...kick him out..he shouldnt be in your house. Hopefully if you know this guy, he hsould respect you enough to respect what you want and need. But all in all i htink its fine for him to come over, but also dont forget YOUR limits and dont be tempted to do something your not ready for....unless you want to.
ok... well i have a boyfriend.. and well not alot of guys like me at my school (i mean like bc they are stupid im not like a nerd or anything!) and then like everyone was makin fun of us and stuff and when me and my friend went to his house he was all like flirting with her.. what should i do (I GOT PISSED!)
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Well i think you need to talk to both your friend and bf. Ask your friend if shes interested in him, and that if she is, it may be ok i guess....but to not come between what you already have with your bf. Maybe you should ask your bf if hes interested in her because if he is, thats not cool, and you should end the relationship. But if hes not, just warn him that your friend may possible have a hting for him...Hope i helped!
alright so last month around feb 9th my boyfriend fingered me and i wasnt sure if he had anything on his fingers or not..well i freaked out because my period didnt come till feb 28!! (and im positive it was my period not just spotting) well this month i havent got my period yet and its april tommorow..i havent done ANYTHING whatsoever with my bf at all this month. maybe my period is just late because i didnt end my last period till march 6 or 7th. im not sure. so ive been REALLY freaking out about this. and today i took at pregnancy test and it said i wasnt pregnant. but what if it was lying? could i be pregnant? the test only costed 10$ so it was kind of cheap..
well if you didnt do anything all month, your not pregnant so dont worry about it. Since you got your period late before, its gonna come late again. Your not pregnant. Hope i helped!
I'm very shy and quiet, and I not a geek or anything but I'm not exactly popular either. There's this guy that I think might like me.. but he is really popular and outgoing, so I'm not sure if he really does like me or if it's just my imagination. Is it possible for a popular, outgoing guy to like a shy, not-so-popular girl? What are the chances? I don't know what to do because of my uncertainty.. should I flirt back or not?? Thanks in advance!! :-)
I think you should go for it! I mean if you like him. If you dont...dont play him like that. It is possible for a popular guy to like not so popular girls! Of course. I mean many popular guys have known the popular girls because usually they are all a close group. And we all know how popular girls sometimes can be. Im not sayin they are bad cuz i have popular friends, but some can be mean and stuff, i dont know wat the ones in your school are like. However not os popular normal girls are usually the more down to earth girls that guys can have better times with. And maybe this guy is a popular guy, with a good heart and knows a good girl when he sees one, and doesnt go only by status in school. Hope i helped! And good luck!
Alright I was asked out by this guy i really like but the problem is that my friend likes him too. What should i do? Should i breack up with the guy and keep my friendship togheter, not that my friend won't be my friend anymore, or should i stay together with him and tell my friend that she will get over it?
I think that you should go out with him....and make sure you keep one on one time with you friend too! I mean friends are more important then guys, but sometimes you need ot take the risk with him. You wouldnt want to always think..."what would have happened if I did stay with him." Also dont talk about him infront of your friend a lot, unless she asks about him. Hope i helped!
Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two months now and the guy hasnt even tried to kiss me. Like im sorry if i sound bad for saying this but i have needs! So I was wondering what are some ways i can turn my boyfriend on so that he'll wanna make out with me, or at least kiss me?
sit really close ot him in a dimmed out room, and like play around with his hair and stuff, put your arms around him. or just flat out ask him if you guys are ready to take your relationship to the next level...kissing. Hope I helped!
heres my problem. whenever i start to like a guy, i get really excited about it and tell ALL of my friends. then it usually turns out that the guy doesnt like me and ive been humiliated in fron of my friends. how can i keep my love life to myself?
maybe if you dont think about him a lot, you wont bring him up. or dont talk about things that would make you bringhim up. Instead right your feelings in a notebook or something. this happenes to me all the time. Stinks huh. Hope i helped!