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Why is it that all the questions on here are about relationship problems? Don't people realize theres more to life then the opposite sex?
Anyway, I actually do have a question. ha.
17/F ... college next year!
I was wondering what everyones take on college is? I think I'm going to look for an all girls college. Are there many around? Does anyone know of any good ones? If there are boys around I will get distracted and won't do my work. I can wait for a boy, I dont need one when I'm in college. I want to get great grades and do all my work constantly.
Also, do you think this will effect how I view my college experience? Part of the actual experience is dorm life, parties, etc. Do you think I will regret choosing an all girls school when I'm rolling in money because I stuck to my studies?
Are you serious? Just because I'm around females a lot at an all girl's school does NOT mean I'd be a "dike". Are people really this ridiculously stupid? Everyone elses answers, though. Great =]
My mother just recently died from lung cancer. She was just diagnosed on Sept. 15th of this year and she passed away on October 28th, 2005.
My boyfriend of several years had already told his spoiled rotten, self-centered, selfish daughter that she could have a Halloween party before the incident with my mother came up.
Instead of being here, supporting me, helping me make the needed arrangements and just being a shoulder to lean on, he decided it was more important to help out with his daughter's Halloween party, because everybody knows "Courtney" comes first....no matter what!
I think that's about as sorry as you can get. What do you think?
His daughter should come first in his life... BUT. A halloween party crosses the line. Halloween is NOT important. NOT AT ALL. Your mother is important. And I think that he was ridiculously wrong. Tell him that you're upse that a halloween party came first, as thats trivial. If he doesnt understand that, then you should drop him. That's really disrespectful and hurtful to pick a halloween party over supporting you.
i like this guy, hes 17, and he has a gf. i was hanging out with my friends yesterday and he was there, i new him from lik 3 years a go because i tired to get the hook up with him, but he ended up going out with my best friend, and that was totally kool wit me. and now 3 years lata i see him. and i didnt reconize him. but then i relized it was him and me and him were ahngin out. well him and his 2 friends had to leave, and he asked if i woudl walk him out to his car so i was lik yea. i did and we walked up the street a lil, and he asked for my number i gave it too him and he said that him and his friends made a bet that he couldnt kiss a girl tonight, so he asked for a kiss and i gave him a kiss, and we made out a lil, not people are saying im a slut because i made out with a guy that i liked but i wasnt goin out with him, and they said it was stupid of me because i new it was a bet, well i new it was a bet and i dont really mind bcuz it was a win win situation, i got a kiss and he won the bet i dont understand the big deal is. y would ppl call me a slut ad stuff just because i kissed him? wats the big deal?
Its not a big deal to kiss someone if you're not dating them. People do that all the time. You're not a slut for that. Ignore what people say.
BUT... it is highly disrespectful that you kissed him knowing he had a girlfriend. That makes you look bad.
I'm 16 years old and I have a boyfriend I've been with for 4 months. I havn't really been the one to have a whole lot of girls as friends and the ones I've had my mom always has a problem with and in the end I'm not allowed to hang out with them. So lately its just been me and my boyfriend, which isn't bad. But I've been thinking about when I go away to college or later on in life, will I look back on this time period of my life and regret not bieng so social? My parents have been together since highschool and they are happy, but I'm not them. I just don't want to have any regrets on highschool or college or anything...
It seems as if your boyfriend IS your best friend. All anyone needs in their life is one good friend. Seems like thats what he is to you. Just live your life the way you want to right now. If having close girl friends is what you want, then by all means - make some new friends. Maybe the girls youre surrounded by right now in high school aren't the type of people you really want to be best friends with. In college, you'll meet a lot of new people and I'm sure you'll find at least one close friend. So dont worry =]
this is more to add on the 2 questions i have bout my ex wantn to be friends..i dont understand what to do. last nite he called and said asked what we were going to do and i said i didnt care well we decide we would figure it oud later so i was getting ready and he txtd me and told me that he didnt want me to come over anymore cuz he had hmwk and it would be to wierd if i came over well i started crying and i calld him and asked him y he told me to come over and then change his mind. he said he didnt want to hurt my feelings by telling me so he did it in a txt. well i was balling b/c it hurt my feelings that he was going to do that and then he said that he would put hes hmwk aside and hang out so i went over there and we went to the college and playd basketball for about an hour or more then went to his house and watchd the texas game. he was falling asleep so i told him to go to bed and i went in his room with him and all my stuff is still on his walls and i tucked him in bed and gave him a hug and kissed his forehead. well i was driven home and i sent him a txt saying that i had a good time and he said he did to. i got home and i sent him another txt saying that i still cared about him and i wished that we could be together well this morning i told him want i wanted outta this relationship and he said sounds good. and i asked him to tell me what he wanted and he sent one back saying that he was doing his hmwk and that he couldnt talk now. i just dont understand him...HELP!
This is where I think you should cut it off and stop telling him your feelings. Obviously he doesnt tell you exactly what he wants or what he feels. Thats not an even relationship (a friendship is a relationship). It's not fair for you to put it all on the line and get nothing back in return. He didnt really want to hang out with you, but didnt want to hurt your feelings. Maybe he doesnt want to be with you but doesnt want to hurt your feelings. I think you should continue the friendship without telling him how you really feel for a while. He may not be sure of what he wants. By telling him what you want you're just opening the door to being hurt.
how do you make out?
The way you make out is to kiss for a long period of time. There is no certain way to do this. Whatever way feels comfortable is the way you should do it. No one's advice will really help you, as you need to find what suits you. Everyones kissing style is different compared to others. Personally, when I'm "making out" I'd rather be laying down or standing up, as sitting in chairs could be rather uncomfortable. I like to put my arms around the guys neck (laying down) or grasped on his shirt to pull me/him closer (standing up). The actual MAKING OUT is the kissing style you use - and everyones is different. Just put your mouth against his, and if he puts his tongue in your mouth (and you want him to, lol) masage his with your own. Little circlular motions are nice. I hope I helped a bit. =]
I'm Karlie, and im 13 in 7th grade. I liked this guy since umm what 4th yes 4th grade. He knows i like him but he says he likes me as a friend. It's weird cuz he shows signs that he likes me (stares and acts hopeless and shy). Like he slow danced with me at the dance and he gave me a hug and he asks for a high five like everyday like thats all he can think of doing cuz he's stuck. Do you think he likes me? Or better yet how do i work on getting him to hang out with me more.
*~* Karlie*~* P.S. HELP
Since he knows you like him, you should just tell him that you think the two of you should just get to be better friends - and the way to do this is to hang out and get to know each other more in different settings (example: the mall, movies, theme parks). hope i helped =)
ok so i like this guy and im afraid to tell my best friend bc last time i told her i liked someone she got involved and it kinda made things confusing but shes my best friend and i think i should tell her but im afraid she will just get involved again like last time its not involved like in a bad way its like trying to help when no1 asked you for help and i really like this guy what should i do tell her or not last time i told her i asked her to not talk to him bc i didnt want her to get involved and she did anyways please someone help me!! thanx so much!
Don't tell her - unless you have a plan of action you want her to take. If you'd like for her to get involved in some way, tell her exactly what you want her to do. But if you dont want her involvled at ALL (example: asking him if he likes you) then DO NOT TELL HER until you and he are something.
ok, i am an 18 year old female and my boyfreind is 22 years old. we live a ways apart (him new york me ohio) because i was forced to move. well, we have been living apart for about a month and a half and we can't take it anymore. but we can't decide wether we should have me move up there with him or have him move down here with me. at first we had sorta planned me going and living with him. but then my mom found out that she might have a tumor on her ovaries, tubes, or liver. She doesnt want me to leave because she needs me and my brother will too. (in situations where there is trouble, my brother looks up to me, if im doing ok he will be fine and he knows that). So my mom asked me to ask him to move here so that we coudl both support her and each other. (my mom likes him) but then i owuld be asking him to uproot his life. from the place he lived for 20 years. from his family and his freinds and everything he knows. so i asked him if he would be WILLING to do so. He told me "Whatever i have to do to be with you". But now i feel like i am being selfish in asking him to do that. did i do the right thing in asking him to move here? please help i will rate all good answers as 5's. any smartass comments dont get rated!
Asking him to come live with YOU, in these circumstances - is not unfair at all. And if he had a problem with it, he would tell you - I'm sure. Set it up so maybe once your mom is fine and healthy again that you can move back to New York with him. Tell him that its probably not a permanent move, and you'd like to go back to NY in the future (if you want to, that is). You're NOT being selfish by asking him to move in with you. You being selfish would be telling your mom "No - I'll go live with him... BYE!" You've made the mature, right, non-selfish decision. Hope I've helped.
how do u play "hard to get" to a guy you like..?
You play hard to get by:
Not answering him when he calls you - but returning his call at a later date/time.
If he asks you out for THAT day... you say you're busy but give him another day you could possibly hang out.
Make yourself seem unavailable, even if you're totally available.
Don't SHOW that youre excited to be around him or hear from him, even if your insides are jumping up and down with excitement - dont let your outside show it.
Basically, you act aloof and like you dont care much - no matter how much you really do care inside.
Hope I helped. =]
how do you make-out..lol odd question..but..i've never done it before..
massage the other persons tongue with yours. move your tongue in circles around theirs. i add a little nibbling on the lips in there. lol. its easy, just relax and follow their lead. everyone adapts their kissing style to suit their partner.
ok so me and this guy are always "cuddling" so-to-speak, we always lay on the couch together and he always has his arm around me and in other words we're always like having our arms around eachother..but that's all we do and its only for a short period of a time. i don't know how to explain it but how do i like "lead him on" to going further like i want to kiss him or make out with him or something, but without just giving it away. i don't want to just say it or anything, how do i "lead him on" to doing something like that? i'll rate 5's for good answers! =) thank you!
What I do is talk to them, about anything but it has to be something kind of personal. Then you move your face close to theirs, not too close to where its weird, but close enough to be intimate. Then you give him a little smile, maybe lick your lip a little bit, or bite your bottom lip. He'll get the hint - and if he wants to kiss you, he DEFINITELY will after that!!
ok, well me and some of my friends are bi. i just found out that one of my friends who i like likes me too. but we dont want anyone to know about us being bi. so we sorta wanna go out but if we were to go out we agreed we wouldnt tell anyone. so we also agreed that we wouldnt be jealous if the other person went out with a guy or got with another girl or something. so my question is should we go out and just keep quiet or shoudl we just stay being friends with benefits?
If you guys really like each other than you shouldn't be together. And if you think about it, that makes sense. Because either way you're going to keep it on the down low - you or your friend(with benefits) are going to end up messing with another girl or a guy and getting jealous and mad. It's too hard to be involved (even if its secret) and not get upset when the other messes with someone else, even if you've agreed not to get mad. Its just not possible if you really care about someone.
hey.
i have a question that has been burning in me for a while, well not really a question i just need a little help. theres this guy i reallly like and he likes me. he has been over here so much this summer, and sometimes up to 5 days in a row. we do stuff together and we really like each other. i feel so happy when im with him. i think of him as a boyfriend but it isnt official. the thing is, he is 3 years older then me. he is 17 and i am 14. but the age difference doesnt bother me because i am very mature for my age and am very comfortable around him. he is a senior this year and i am a freshman. i want him to be my boyfriend so bad, he calls me every night just to say goodnight. all my friends say to ask him out but i JUST CANT. and they tell me to talk to him about it but I JUST CANT. i dont know what to do i think im falling in love with him! please help me! he knows i like him a lot but i just want to officially be a couple! please help.
thank you.
Well, I'm 17. I'll be 18 in January. I'm in the same situation you are right now - with a 15 year old boy. Age really is just a number unless its a huge (10/20 year) difference. So don't worry about the age. A lot of senior guys date freshmen girls. Thats just how high school works. My thing is to leave well enough alone. You are happy right now with how you two are - so why push it by trying to be an official couple. Maybe he's not ready for that yet. Your best bet is to talk to him about it. Ask him why you guys act like a couple but aren't official. He'll either tell you why you guys aren't official yet, or he'll ask you out. If he tells you hes not ready, dont push the issue. You guys sound like youre happy even without being official. Just stick by him and when hes ready he'll come around.
My boyfriend came over the other night and he was impliying that he wanted to have sex But i said no Now he won't answer my calls and Hes always with this girl named sarah and shes a slut Do u think hes cheating on me?
*Nikki 14
All signs point to yes - he's cheating on you. Talk to him about it because let's face it... most guys need the physical as much as they need the emotional. Maybe him getting the physical somewhere else is going to help you in the long run (I've seen it happen). But since he's doing it behind your back you should probably just break it off with him.
sorry this is so long
(15/f)
alright well I like this guy but he's known to just get w/ girls for sex and I know that that's true w/ some of the girls he's been with but not all of them.. I like him a lot and I always think about him and like he's one of the only guys I love to hang out with that I like... if that makes any sense... and well he was smoking in front of me and I was like THATS DISGUSTING and he was like ... well then I'll stop, just for u.. and well when ever we hang out he always like rubs my back and is really flirty and when I was drunk he helped me around (not taking advantage of me in any way) bc I couldnt walk very well and he like made sure i was ok and stuff and then the next day he asked how i felt and made sure i was ok... and well he told my brother that hes liked me since the 7th grade and he normally doesnt like girls for that long, he just fucks them and leaves them and hes always like.. i love hangin out w/ ur so awesome and its a lot of fun, and now i cant keep my mind off him and i hate being away from him...... ok well should i take a chance with him if he likes me? or just let it go?
once again... im so sorry its long..
Well, I was recently FUCKED and CHUCKED. So my opinion on boys right now may be a little biased, BUT... guys are assholes straight up. Once a dog - always a dog! But if you really feel the need to be something further with this boy, dont expect the perfect relationship. Chances are, the more and better you expect from someone that is known to be a dog, the more piles of shit you're going to get out of it in the end. Think it all out before you leap. Take into consideration how he treats you, how he treated past girls, and how he treats your friends, too. Be careful and anything you can take as him still being a dog - dont let it slide. Call him on it.
sry this is really long but I rate really high!!
well i really fell for this guy over the summer and hes been away at summer camp for like 6 weeks and I was wondering weather or not i should tell him because i dont know if he likes me back and hes rarely online so if i do i have to tell him when hes actually online because i cant call him and then I have another problem, I'm not really allowed to have anything to do with boys both my parents think its crazy to have boyfriends at this age!! im 13/f by the way so i cant be with him if he likes me back, I've had a boyfriend before but i had to sneak calls on my cell phone with him and we never actually went out on a date and i cant talk to my parents about it, i mean my mom is ok but my dad would TOTALLY freak out even if i mentioned boys hes so overprotective in that way!! well I'm really sorry this is so long but i need advice!!
If you only talk to him online right now that I don't think you should even tell him you like him. If you can't tell him face to face, then I think its not that good of an idea. Also, your parents think you're too young, so it's going to be all too hard to keep up a relationship with them breathing down your neck.
Okay. I have make-out before but for some werid reason I am scared to make-out with my bf, james since i really love him and i think it might be because I'm scare he will think im bad but i shouldn't be worrying about it sicne the guys i made out with befroe said im good and everything like that. but i don't know its like i dont care if all the guys think im bad as long as he thinks im good. what can help make me not be scared? im suppose to today, and i want to. but ahh!!
and also he is in 8th and im in 9th what will keep up able to stay together during school? and be able to work it out?
You've kissed before, so I don't see what the big concern is. My first kiss was when I was 14 to a 17 year old boy whom I thought I was ridiculously in love with. I didn't know how to kiss, and I just told him I wanted him to teach me how to kiss better. It worked out better that way, because we could joke around about it and use it as a game and have fun. If he really likes you, and you like him - you're going to have a chemistry that goes far deeper than the way you kiss. Theres no reason to worry, everyone has a different kissing style & everyone accepts what the other does and reacts to another person's kissing to fit into it. Everyone adapts their kissing style to fit the person theyre with. As long as you dont drool, you'll be fine! =) lol
I know this might sound nasty but ever since i can remember i have been having this really bad smell in my private area. i know most boys joke around talking about tuna smelling and stuff but i dont think its a joke. i dont think people can smell it when i hang out with them but im not sure if they smell it when i wear shorts? and i get this nasty white stuff in my under wear and mom knows about it. and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me but i dont want to smell and i dont want him to see that white stuff in my underwear. is there anything i could do to prevent from smelling because i wear purfume anyways. and how could i keep this stuff from my boyfriend. i really havent been smelling that bad lately but i dont want him to see the white stuff. can you please help me? anything will help!
thanx so much!
always kayla i rate high
As everyone has pointed out, the discharge is normal. Although, if it looks chunky.. kind of like cottage cheese, it may be a sign of a yeast infection in which case would explain the smell (which depending on the strength of the smell could be normal). If its chunky like I said before, tell your mom. You can get things at the drug store or even walmart to clear them up quite quickly. Three days tops. But if its not that - you're normal and dont be embarassed by it. Change your undies frequently, especially right before you think you're going to be with him. Light pads (the ones for light days) pantyliners are a life saver!
Hi.. im a 14/f okay i like this boy and ive liked him since the day i first met him and we got along really good and my best friend was tryin to hook us up but it didnt really work so i just kept liking him for a while then me best friend went out with him!!! and everytime she asked me if i liked him i said no beacuse i didnt want her mad at me but then they broke up.... he was mad at her at frist but they are best friends still! and me and him are pretty close but now the same best friend was goin out with another guy and now they arent bc they had some problems so a couple days ago we saw they guy i liked and she sat on his lap an they flirted and later that night she said she liked him again but i still do!!! but she doesnt know that but see he dont like me i think he likes her......what should i do? should i get over him or what? i really like him!!!! but i love my best friend too
Never let a boy get in between you and your friend. No matter how much you think you like him. Boys will always come and go but a true best friend is hard to come by. Trust me, I'm 17 years old and I've fought with my friends over guys and it never ends up good. You and your friend could fight over him now and end up being friends again - but you're never the same once that happens. No guy is worth getting in between that. You should tell your friend you like him too and make a pact that neither of you be anything with him but friends. That way you keep all the friendships and no one really gets hurt. I hope I helped!