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Too soon to think?
I'm 16 years old and I have a boyfriend I've been with for 4 months. I havn't really been the one to have a whole lot of girls as friends and the ones I've had my mom always has a problem with and in the end I'm not allowed to hang out with them. So lately its just been me and my boyfriend, which isn't bad. But I've been thinking about when I go away to college or later on in life, will I look back on this time period of my life and regret not bieng so social? My parents have been together since highschool and they are happy, but I'm not them. I just don't want to have any regrets on highschool or college or anything...
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I think the way to avoid having regrets is to not do things that you KNOW you're not comfortable with and to also avoid not doing things you want to do just because you think other people will frown on it. I'm sort of in the same situation as you are, only minus the boyfriend. I'm not friends with a lot of girls either, and my guy friends are the greatest people in the world. There's nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with your boyfriend either. Why wouldn't you spend time with the guy you're dating?? There might be a time in your life when you want to be more social than you are now, but don't go out of your way to change who you are just because you think you may regret it in the future.
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It seems as if your boyfriend IS your best friend. All anyone needs in their life is one good friend. Seems like thats what he is to you. Just live your life the way you want to right now. If having close girl friends is what you want, then by all means - make some new friends. Maybe the girls youre surrounded by right now in high school aren't the type of people you really want to be best friends with. In college, you'll meet a lot of new people and I'm sure you'll find at least one close friend. So dont worry =]
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Do what makes you happy now. Would it make you happier if you made a few friends? There's no harm in trying. If you don't really think it would make you happier, though, then don't bother.
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If you take pleasure in being lonely (or if Internet is your best friend), then you shouldn't force yourself to socialize. Don't believe what you see in T.V. shows about teenagers, or book series - you don't have to be friends with the whole football team and their cheerleading girlfriends to be happy in high school.
You know, regrets is all about what you make them to be. If you do what you really want to do, then you should have no regrets. If, one the other hand, what you really wish for is to be elected Homecoming Queen, well, yes, you might regret it later on. But if you want to be a loner, then that's fine.
Just keep in mind, though, that you and your boyfriend might not last forever... and if you lose this relationship, you'll probably need a shoulder to cry on (or at least an ear to hear you rant). So you should stay in touch with a small group of people.
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