I'm an ordinary person who likes the following things: writing, helping people, movies, reading, jogging, animals and teaching.
I don't like: stress, confusion, people who do not drag their weight and laziness.
My good qualities (I think) are patience, open-mindedness and the ability to write and speak in public with ease.
My weaknesses (I'm always working on these!) are the tendency to take on too much, from time to time; the tendency to not get enough sleep and my eating habits could be a lot better than they are now.
I will try to answer questions in an honest, open way, involving what I think is common sense. If I don't think I can answer a question well, I will skip over it.
Go ahead....try me! Ask me a question!
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How can I get real good revenge on my ex boyfriend? He dumped me b/c he got too horny and we started to do stuffthen "god" told him to break up with me... which is a load of shit... someone help plz.. thanx a lot.and nothing that will kill him or hurt him too too bad :D thanx (link)
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Be happy.....get out with new people.....eventually get a new boyfriend. That will get to him!
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I am married, and an adult...I deal with Panic disorder and anxiety... I have a low sex drive, and as a woman, there isnt much help out there. I love my husband very much, and I want to overcome this, so any help would be great. Its not that I get anxious about it, or anything along those lines, I am just very rarely in the mood, and can go months at a time without thinking about it. (link)
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First of all, I sympathize with you. You don't say if you are on meds for your panic disorder and anxiety or not. You also don't mention what other meds you are on.....but, as I am sure you are aware, some meds can contribute to a low sex drive. The first thing I think you might do is talk to your doctor. He/she knows what meds you are on and if they play a part in all of this. If your doctor rules that out...you might want to discuss what help is there for you. Ask about therapy/counseling....ask about meds....
I just think that your physician is your first resource in all of this. Good luck.
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22/f here. My ex, Nathan, is 24, and my current, Kyle, is 28. This is gonna be a bit long...
I was with Nathan for about 4 years on and off. He was emotionally abusive, but I was addicted to him. Being in the mental health field, I know a lot about addiction and how to overcome it. I broke up with him. We ended things on good terms, but I asked him to let me initiate contact at some point in the future. He has broken this agreement many times already with e-mails telling me how much he loves and misses me.
Now, Kyle and I dated during an off-period with Nathan, but I ended it because I wasn't ready to walk away from Nathan, and I recognized that. I am now, though, and I did...right back into Kyle's arms. Kyle is a wonderful man, and makes me very happy (and is a very good kisser ^_^). I have no intention of leaving him anytime soon.
The problem here is that as much as Kyle denies it, I know I have yet to earn his trust back because of the fiasco that happened with Nathan before. I told him I would keep him in the loop if Nathan decided to try anything, and ideally, Kyle and I would discuss the situation and tackle it as a couple/unit instead of me trying to handle it alone. (I did, however, promise that I would never put them together in any physical way...)
My questions are:
1. Should I tell Kyle about Nathan's recent e-mails?
It risks bringing up a very negative past, and I don't want the focus of our relationship to be how to get Nathan out of it.
2. Should I respond to an e-mail and ask him to leave me alone?
I'm hesitant about this because I know how he works - any attention is better than no attention - but I also know that he doesn't give up easily. The only reason I'm consiering it is that I understand that, legally, if you tell someone to leave you alone and they don't, you can file harrassment charges. I'm not angry at Nathan, or anything, I just don't want him to make my life hell anymore...that's why I broke up with him. I am, however, prepared to take legal action if necessary to get him away from me. He hurt me many times in many ways that could've been seriously psychologially damaging.
Anyway. I apologize for the length of this question, and I'm aware that none of you are lawyers. I'm just looking for some unprofessional, uninvolved feedback on this situation. (link)
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Congratulations on dropping Nathan and getting back with someone as nice as Kyle sounds. Alright...here is my best advice:
*Ignore all the emails from Nathan....just delete them without reading them. Better yet, go into your preferences and BLOCK THEM.
*If Nathan tries to call you, BLOCK HIS CALLS.
You will be giving him NO attention and eventually he will give up, hopefully.
You promised to involve Kyle if "Nathan tries something." I wouldn't say that includes your blocking his emails and/or calls. I would think that would mean if he harrasses you or stalks you in some way. Why bring up the emails to Kyle...you shouldn't even be reading them. And if you BLOCK them, you won't. However, if Nathan goes further with bothering you than emails or calls that you block, then of course, involve Kyle.
You are right in that you need to focus on your and Kyle's relationship. Just block Nathan out of your life and your mind (and your emails and calls) and I think he will eventually give up.
Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years. For the first year or 2 he was the sweetest thing ever. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else, then at our 2 1/2 we were apart for the first time ever as I was over seas, and it's like he had a mid life crisis. When I came back he said he was depressed, and he wasn't in love with me anymore, and he wasnt going to college and he was moving back home, and he was joining the military. I was so confused! Well, he changed his mind about not being in love with me, and we're back together, but now he randomly gets pissed off, and I have no idea why. He says its me, he says I'm being bitchy, or that I'm dense, and I am never intentionally being bitchy, and I don't understand why he calls me dense, because he seems to get mad at the most random moments when nothing appears to be going wrong. It takes the littlest thing to put him off. I've tried talking to him about it, and I know that I'm not perfect, but he never gives me a straight answer, it always just 'me'. I want to fix this but I don't know how. Help! (link)
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From the sound of things, it seems as if he isn't very happy with himself. Are things not going well with his life? I am wondering if he is upset and angry that his own life isn't going as he wants it to (or maybe he just doesn't know what to do with his life) and he is showing that anger toward you. I wonder if he really isn't angry with you, but just unhappy with himself.
Without being able to know for sure, this is just a guess. Maybe instead of talking about your and his relationship, you could talk about his life. What are his goals.....what would make him happy....etc. And then help him try to make those goals and dreams happen.
Just a thought.......
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I'm in a long distance relationship, I want to end it. I haven't been happy for over a month, the distance isn't for me, and now it's interfering with my grades in college.
The guy I'm with is extremely emotional & I KNOW he'll cry/be upset for ages. (It took him over 2 yrs to get over his ex!) If I talk to him via the phone, he might possibly be able to suck me back in as he always does. But I'm tired of feeling bad for him, and I need some advice on how to not back down on my decision once he starts crying. I will feel bad, I do have some feelings for him, but I really KNOW in my heart that breaking up is the best decision for me.
I guess what I'm asking is..is phone the best way to do it? My friends suggested email, which I honestly would prefer, but he's very, VERY close with his parents, and I know my email would be shown to them. And knowing him, he might even ask them to contact my parents to try and talk me out of the break up. Yes, I am actually scared. I'm considering telling him that I'm moving so he thinks my address is different, and won't show up on my doorstep. You'd think we're 12 year olds, but he's 22, and I'm 19.
I KNOW he will have an emotional breakdown. Ah, I just really need advice on what to do? I want to this as soon as possible. I also don't know how to bring it up, we talk everyday. Should I start not talking to him as often, and then eventually do it? Please help!! (link)
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If you KNOW IN YOUR HEART that you need to do this, then you will do it. You will not let this man control you with emotional blackmail. Because that is what it is....he is blackmailing you with his emotions and he knows he can rope you back in. I know you have feelings for him, but remember.....you KNOW IN YOUR HEART that this relationship has to end. I agree with you that email is not appropriate. You will have to do it via phone. And you will have to be sympathetic, yet FIRM. You cannot be TOO sympathetic or he will interpret that as an invitation to beg you to stay with him. If you think he will show up on your doorstep, by all means....do whatever you need to do to keep him away. Above all...remember....you are not responsible for him. You are not responsible for his being very emotional.
You can do this. You need to do this. Good luck.
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im 21 female and my bf is 23.im on holiday at the moment.i flew out 3months ago and met my bf here while being on holiday with my family.we really clicked at the beginning and since ill be back next year we decided to have a long distance relationship.we both got eachother promise rings and i really do love him but the thing is im having problems trying to read him.im afraid hes gone off me.
at the beginning of the relationship he was all really sweet and loving and kind and cared about me.he use to always call and want to see me and send me txt messages telling me he misses me and loves me etc.
Now 3months have gone by and about a week ago (same time he brought his car)hes been acting distant.i go overseas in 6days and i thought hed want to be closeer to me but hes distant.i havent been getting txt messages from him and hes hardly been calling me.i mean we still see eachother and its fine when were together but when i go home its as if i never met up with him.i dont hear anything from him until i txt him first or until hes about to sleep to send me a goodnight txt.I was also thinking that because he got a car hes driving and cant txt or call or hes with his friends picking them up etc BUT STILL!!
i spoke to him about this about 5days ago and he said its because hes trying to prepare himself for when i leave so that it doesnt hit him hard when im gone.
but love is human,you need to feed it to keep it alive.
i spoke to him again about this 2nights ago and he said its because hes scared of saying soemthing ill take the wrong way.(we got into an arguement over soemthing he said and he didnt mean it the way i thought he did)
now im scared hes gone off me...what do i do?what does this sound like?
thank you for your help! (link)
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I'm afraid you are experiencing the heartbreak of a long distance relationship. Having one is very, very difficult. I would think it is even harder since it sounds like the two of you didn't have a very long time to make a foundation for your relationship in the beginning. In other words, you and he are trying to FORM your relationship over a long distance, which is doubly hard. Of course you will have misunderstandings and arguments.....you only have calls and texts with each other.
I can't say from what you told me what is going on.....it is hard to tell....but the thing is....even IF he still wants to be yours, the circumstances might be getting in the way. You and he have to discuss your relationship. Talk about what is hard about it....what is good about it. And then, discuss whether you want to keep trying ....or give up. I'm so sorry for you. I wish I could say something comforting, but can't. I wish you luck with this heartbreaking situation.
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19/f
I've been with my boyfriend for about two years. We recently broke up for a few days but decided to get back together and try our hardest to solve our problems and change things. While we were broken up, he told me that if we didn't end up back together, he was going to join the air force. However, he wouldn't if we were still together, since he didn't want to be away from me for that long. I really think being in the air force would be good for him, and there's nothing else he really wants to do with his life. I love him a lot, and I want to do what's best for him and not be selfish.
So what's the right thing to do? End things now (I think we're just not ready to be in a relationship now anyway, we need time) so he can do what he wants? (I would wait for him no matter what.) Or do the selfish thing and stay with him? (link)
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Well it isn't as though you HAVE to break up for him to be able to join the Air Force. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him and tell him he can have BOTH. Many, many people every day live with partners that are in the service. Is it easy? No, but they do it. It is possible, or no one with a partner would go into the service!
Tell him you will be here to support him and be with him through the whole experience. Tell him to do it for BOTH of you...because he will be getting valuable training that will prepare him for a career. What a great thing to do for a relationship! PLAN FOR THE FUTURE!!!
Go for it!
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Next month, our school is having its version of a Sadie Hawkins dance, where the girls ask the guys.
The guy I'm planning on asking is one of my good friends and I like him, and I think there's a pretty good chance that he also likes me back. I'm a year ahead of him in school but that's not really important.
Anyway, this is the way I might ask him and I was just looking for some opinions before I go ahead and do it.
I have a small jar/bowl about the size of a bowl you would use for a beta fish. I tied ribbon around the rim and inside, I filled it with origami lucky stars.
I'm going to put a note with it saying:
"These are origami lucky stars; a jar of them is supposed to bring good luck.
They've already done this for you: you're getting asked to Winter Karnival. I was hoping that maybe they'd bring me some next and that you would say yes to going with me."
I might also put stickers on the outside of the bowl that spell out the name of our dance.
If I don't do the note, I would put the stickers on some of the stars and have him find the ones with stickers and unscramble them, but I personally like the note idea better.
Anyway, any opinions on this would be helpful. (: My plan isn't set in stone yet, so chances can be made.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Wow!!! Impressive! Who could top that? That's a really, really awesome way to ask someone to a dance. Go with it!
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so iv been goin g out with this guy for 2months now and we ve both fallen for eachother.yes i know it didnt take long to fall for him but it is how it is.anyway we started to get physical about a weeks ago.were not having sex yet but i gave him head and he sucked on my tits and rubbed himself against me etc.i have a few questions...
1. why am i not turned on?i should be,hes touching me and feeling me up and i think hes extremely hot and all but im just not turned on!like weve been physical almost everyday for the past week...
2.it kinda feels like now he just wants to hang out to get physicla.i mean every time we hang out he takes me out for a drink then we go and get physical and do all that stuff and then we hang out abit more.but before when we werent physical it felt like he actually wanted to spend time with me for me,not for any physical action.am i being used?
overall whats to do?please just advice nothing judgemental
im 21/f (link)
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It is called chemistry and it doesn't happen between just anyone. It is something special that even scientists can't put a finger on. Even if you really like a guy.....you might just not have "chemistry" with him. It takes "chemistry" or sexual attraction, to be turned on. And sometimes, it just isn't there.
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okay, so i'm pretty good friends with this guy i like.
and sometimes i get the feeling he may like me but othertimes i feel like it's just friends.
last night, he imed me and said i should call him, so i did and we ended up talking for 4 hours, until 2am.
and like we just chatted and discussed things while he played call of duty and stuff.
i don't know if i should just think this is friends, or if there is a chance it's something more? (link)
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Sounds like it may be something more. I would say a guy who asks you to call and talks to you for four hours is interested in you. He thinks you are interesting enough to talk to you for a long, long time. That's a very, very good sign, I think.
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My Boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and since early december he's been at his parents, so we've had even less time to talk than usual. (which isnt much)
Today is my birthday, and tomorrow is our 6 months. I told him I'd be busy today but would love to squeeze in a quick chat sometime during the day. He told me he won't be able to chat today, due to 'guy time' at the house.
So, alright. Then he tells me he can't chat tomorrow either (our 6 month). We don't celebrate every month anniversaries, but I'd like to at least talk to him on our 6th. :/ He can't talk for a little bit tmrw because it's his last day there, so he said he'll be busy packing?
I just feel like I'm the one trying to squeeze freaking 30 minutes out of him just to talk to me, and he won't even talk for that long. I feel like I'm making an effort, and he isn't. I really, have a 99.9% feeling that he doesn't even know/remember tomorrow is our anniversary. I understand he's maybe preoccupied with his parents and being there and such, but i KNOW for a fact he's on xbox at least half the day. And you're telling me you can't come talk to me for not even half an hour?
I haven't brought this up to him, because it's not a HUGE deal, and honestly we've been having more arguments since he's been gone, so I'd like to maintain the peace for now. But, he says we can talk all day monday (when hes back home), which sounds fine, but then when I really think about it..this is all whenever HE wants to chat. ugh, what about me?!
I don't know what I'm asking for, I just need some advice on how to not let this get to me. Please help. (link)
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I think you need to figure out how big a deal all of this is to you. If it is something that you feel is important and you are feeling that he isn't putting into the relationship what you are putting in, then I think when he calls on Monday you need to talk about it with him. If this is a big deal to you, it isn't good for you to hold it in.
On the other hand, if you feel this isn't as big a deal for you, and you can live with him calling and talking to you when HE can.....and not when YOU want. And if you can live with the Xbox stuff ....then don't tell him and just get over it.
I wish you luck with all of this.
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okay so just to warn you this is long.
19/f/nj
Well ive been talking to this kid i went to high school with,we actually started talking about 2 months ago through facebook,text,call. We didnt talk much in school but since we've been talking these last 2 months ive gotten to know him and he seems really great.WE hung out once before college winter break and that was about a month ago.We havent hung out since ive been trying to hang out with him but hes been sick and ive been sick as well but i just feel like its just an excuse to not hang out with me.We talked on the phone about 4 days ago and he seemed still interested in me (I mean we've been texting for the past 2 months almost everyday) he was away at college but he's now going to school close by so that played a role of us not hanging out in the beggining. He usually always texts me first but ive had to do it lately, like we might not talk for one day because i didnt text him and then if i text him the day after that then the day after i text him he will text me. I feel like were in a tennis court going back and forth. He seems to always hang out with his friends and never asks me to hang out since he's been back home. He also got out of long term relationship about 2 months ago. My sister says that he is probably using me as a rebound but we havent even hung out and he talks to me almost everyday so i dont get.I texted him yesterday asking what he was doing he replies with hey! hanging out with my friends how about you? and i said oh i was wondering if you wanted to hang out but alright have fun. But then like on new years i was away on vacation and he wished i was there and said well we have plenty of time to hang out and he always says stuff like that.Im just so confused right now i need advice what do you guys think? is he using me,does he really like me?
thanks! (link)
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There's only one way to tell if he really likes you. Stop being the first one to text/call him. Wait and let him text/call you. If you are always the pursuer, you will never know if he REALLY wants to be with you. If you are the one always asking to hang out, you will never know if HE wants to hang out with you. My personal feeling....though it may be hard to do, is to back off and see if he comes to you. If he does, you will know he is sincere. If he doesn't....then I would say that's a good indication he isn't really interested. I wish you good luck with all this. You are in a difficult situation.
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Okay, so here's my story.
Back in 9th grade (The summer before that, actually) I was dating this girl. We'll call her "Jane".
“Jane” is a year younger than me. She’s an A-B student.
So, anyway. We went out for about a month. We were pretty close. By the end of the summer, right before school started, her best friend told her that she was moving away to Kentucky (Or Kansas, I don't really know anymore). So we through her a big moving away/we'll miss you party. That evening we were sitting on her couch in her basement watching some stupid old movie when she comes out with the whole "I can't be seeing you anymore, I need to be with my best friend before she moves away" thing. I understood (For the most part) and we split up. She said she would always like me. I was pretty upset, since not many girls would even look at me. (Which is weird because I don't look much different and now girls won't leave me alone! Cocky, right?)
Okay, now we go ahead a few years.
So, after that, I went about 3 years single and I met this girl. We'll call her "Judy". She said she liked me, and (I'm pretty sure out of desperation) I said I kind of liked her, too. So we went out for about a month. We weren't very close. But by the end of that month, all I could think about was "Jane". So I told her that I wasn't feeling the "magic". (No, I did not get laid.) I have turned down more relationships than I can even remember. I was getting depressed. Not only could I not look at another girl without seeing "Jane's" face, "Jane" was now seeing a guy that didn't treat her with much respect. (I know, I know. Coming from the ex boyfriend who still likes her.) But he really doesn't treat her with the respect she deserves.
And here's the proof.
I work at the beach in my neighborhood. One day “Jane” comes crying to the beach because she found Mr. Perfect making out with another girl. So, my friend Nick and I were there to comfort her. And yadda yadda yadda she goes on about how he's an ass.
I find out 2 weeks later, she's back with the asshole. And I'm hearing from all of his friends that he's just trying to use her for sex. And other things and so on and so forth.
So, pretty much, I find out this guys a real jerk.
But the fact that she thinks that he's anything more than an angel is beyond me.
Hang in there guys, I'm almost to the question!
Right now I can't live a day without thinking about "Jane". It’s depressing me to the point where I don’t leave my house for months on end. And I really don't know if she knows it or if she even still likes me. I just want her to have what she deserves. If I wasn't right for her, fine. As long as she's not with that jerkass douchebag of a boyfriend she's with now.
My question.
Is there any way I can find out if she still likes me? Or anything I can do to help her find “Mr. Right”? Should I drop little hints? Or should I just tell her straight up? We haven’t been talking much lately, but I want to.
Any information will help!
I really appreciate it!
–Bartol Babich (link)
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I think you should tell her that you are there for her if she ever needs to talk or needs someone to help her "pick up the pieces." There's not much you can say to her more than that, I think. That leaves it open for her to know that you care about her and are there for her any time she wants. I don't see as how you can confess your love to her at this point. She is wrapped up in the other guy. But if you let her know that you care and will be there for her, you are opening the door for her to come to you....and once she does, if she does....you will be able to show her much more about how you feel. But at this point...I think you have to just let her know that "the door is open." Good luck.
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I don't like how I feel sometimes about my ex. He's my best friend and I know that we are meant to be friends. I don't want to like him as more than that, but the feelings haven't gone away. He broke up with me about 2 months ago because he said that his feelings weren't there anymore.
I know that he isn't right for me. I've known it all along, but over the course of our time together I slowly had stronger feelings for him until I really did love him. But certain things about us together were never ideal. Basically, I loved him and imagined my life together with him, but there was always a small amount of doubt. All the same, it didn't make it any easier after the break up. I felt like I lost the love of my life. I became extremely depressed for a couple of weeks.
We stayed best friends immediately after the break up. It's worked out well for the both of us. It's like he said, we can love eachother without all the relationship stuff. So now, I give him advice about the girl he likes and he teases me about my crushes. But sometimes, the thought of him with that girl together, it turns my stomach :/. And I know I can't avoid this feeling, eventually if something does happen between them, it could only get worse.
So does anyone know a way that I could deal with this? Anything would help. Thanks (link)
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Honestly, I think it is difficult sometimes to be friends with someone you love so much. Just because he stopped having feelings for you, that doesn't mean that your feelings just stopped when you broke up. I think that is why more people who break up just break clean. That means by just not being around him so much....not trying to be friends. Sure, it is nice to still have him to talk to, but it hurts you when he is talking about other girls. Honestly, I think you should break free of him. You don't have to do it formally, just gradually try to not see him as much. Try to not talk as much. It is my personal feeling that you need to do this to be able to move on. If you keep on trying to be friends, it will be good for him, but not necessarily for you. It kind of is not fair to you, I think. So my advice would be to gradually stop being so close to him as a friend and move on. If you do that....your feelings for him will have time to heal and you will be able to get on with your life. Good luck.
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m/16.. what things can i go to or join to help me meet new girls, cuz i go to an all boys school and most of my friends r like me wher we know very few girls... its not that i hav a tough time becomming friends with girls and talking to them its just that i just rarely ever get a chance to talk to or do somthing with girls.... (link)
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Is there any way to talk to the principal of your school about having a dance or party with girls from an all-girls school? This would be the best way to meet girls, I would think. And if they say yes, you can....then be sure to get the phone number or email of girls you are interested in getting to know. Good luck.
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it has been a long time since i dating anyone or even approached someone. I am 21(not a nerd) and male and don't have alot of self confidence. What do i need to do to keep someone interested in me? (link)
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I know this will seem like too easy of an answer, but truly, you want to just be yourself. You want to attract someone who likes you for you, so you don't want to NOT be yourself. Being female, I will tell you that the kind of guy that girls look for is as varied as the number of girls out there! Some look for a guy who is outgoing and likes sports, some look for a guy who is more reserved and likes to read or who likes technology. Some are attracted by brains...some by looks. So just be yourself, as you want to attract someone who will want you for YOU.
Other than that, be interested in the girl. Ask her questions about herself and tell her about yourself....your likes, your life...your family. Be open and honest. Good luck!
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4 years ago was the last time I saw my dad. He left without a trace. We've been tracking him and he was arrested today. I might go see him tomorrow, and I am thinking of what to do/say. I could really use some help now. I am a 14 year old male. (link)
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Don't go with any expectations, because you don't know what to expect. That means...you don't know if he will want to see you. You don't know how he will react to you seeing him. So be ready for anything.
Be honest with him. Tell him how you feel about his leaving without a trace. Tell him how it made you feel.
If you have feelings for him, tell him. But be honest.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. No one deserves this in their life. You are very brave in going to see him. Good luck.
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My boyfriend of 14 mths told me recently he joined the Air force. However he told me after everyone else new and over two weeks after he told everyone else. His friends, the lady who cuts his hair, even my neighbor knew before I did. I feel very hurt not just in the fact he kept something from me like that, but the fact he lied to me. He lied to me by saying that he was hanging out with his friends when actually he was joining the air force. I guess I just figure with as long as we dated he could at least be honest with him. I've been completely 100% honest with him from the beginning. I'm am extremely hurt as of right now and been thinking about ending it for the past week and a half. Besides he could be gone for a yr to two at a time. I just don't see it working out. Am I a horrible person if it does end? And also do you think he was just trying to protect me by not telling me till almost 2 wks after he joined? When he told me it was in the middle of a fight we were having and he said that was a good time to tell me then any other. How is that? I asked a few of my friends and they said he was just trying to protect me. None of them really want to get that involved because they said it's a very touchy subject. ERR! I just dunno. Please help me! (link)
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My gut feeling is that's not a good sign that he would keep something like that from you. Didn't he think that you would hear about it from everyone he told? It would be guessing why he did it. I don't think that's the important part. I think that you have to have a heart-to-heart talk with him and start communicating on a real level. You mentioned that you and he were "in the middle of a fight" ...so, I take it your relationship is a rocky one. I would say that to be able to withstand long distances between you two over two years, your relationship has to be very, very strong. Unless you can make some big changes before he leaves, I would agree with you that prospects for success with a long distance relationship are slim.
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so me and this guy have been talking for a few months now and he says that i never show that i like him. how can i show him that i like him? (link)
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If you like someone, then you probably would be talking to him, going places with him, inviting him to your home to meet your family, doing fun things together, talking and texting to him when he calls, smiling at him, listening to him, and enjoying just being with him.
I would think all of these ways are very personal ways of showing a guy that you like him. That's my opinion, anyway. Good luck.
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So here's the story...I really just don't know what to think of it all...we are both sophmores in college fyi.
After i broke up with my boyfriend of 6months..because it was a long distance relationship that really wasnt working out anymore...I started hanging out with this new guy. we were hanging out at least 4 nights a week plus seeing eachother & hanging out at parties on the weekend. when we hung out it was just watching movies sitting around..nothing fancy. every once in a while we messed around alittle bit..but not very much. most of the time it was just talking and cuddling..once in awhile we'd spend the night together. after about a month of this he took me to dinner on a friday night. we went to a school basketball game after dinner..saturday I went to his football game & we went out with a bunch of freinds that night. we spent the night together after that & went to lunch the next day. I was really busy on that monday so I didnt get a chance to talk to him..but then when i talked to him on tuesday he had a girlfriend....ummm? what happened? all of his freinds said that they hadnt even been talking and they were all really confused. they have been dating for about 2 weeks now and he continues to call me and text me saying how much he likes me and how much he misses me and how much of a mistake he made....i just dont know what to do now? i was really starting to fall for him and i really wish we could have kept hanging out..he keeps saying hes going to break up with his gf...that hes just waiting for her to give him a reason..idk help? (link)
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I really do think this guy likes and misses you. It is obvious from how he hung out with you and took you out and spent all that time with you.
The problem is that apparently he wasn't "free" to really do that with you when he did. Maybe he didn't think he would like you so much and he could just spend time with you and then go back to his girlfriend and forget about you.
But obviously he can't forget about you. That is why he is still calling and texting you. He really does like you. He just doesn't have the nerve or ba**s or whatever you call it to break up with his girlfriend for you. I know that you do not want to be his secret "girl on the side." So....no matter how hard it will be for you, you only have one choice. Cut him off from all calls, seeing you and texting you. Go cold turkey. It is the only way to drive him to make a decision between the "girlfriend" and you. Believe me....when you don't answer his calls/texts and cut him out of your life, he will be faced with the decision of either getting rid of her to be with you. Or just letting you go. It is only then....when you see what he does....that you will know for sure if he likes you well enough to do what he has to do to get you. Meaning...break up with the "girlfriend." If he won't, can't or doesn't break up with her....then he wasn't meant for you. Move on. Good luck.
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