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Unsure about BF
im 21 female and my bf is 23.im on holiday at the moment.i flew out 3months ago and met my bf here while being on holiday with my family.we really clicked at the beginning and since ill be back next year we decided to have a long distance relationship.we both got eachother promise rings and i really do love him but the thing is im having problems trying to read him.im afraid hes gone off me.
at the beginning of the relationship he was all really sweet and loving and kind and cared about me.he use to always call and want to see me and send me txt messages telling me he misses me and loves me etc.
Now 3months have gone by and about a week ago (same time he brought his car)hes been acting distant.i go overseas in 6days and i thought hed want to be closeer to me but hes distant.i havent been getting txt messages from him and hes hardly been calling me.i mean we still see eachother and its fine when were together but when i go home its as if i never met up with him.i dont hear anything from him until i txt him first or until hes about to sleep to send me a goodnight txt.I was also thinking that because he got a car hes driving and cant txt or call or hes with his friends picking them up etc BUT STILL!!
i spoke to him about this about 5days ago and he said its because hes trying to prepare himself for when i leave so that it doesnt hit him hard when im gone.
but love is human,you need to feed it to keep it alive.
i spoke to him again about this 2nights ago and he said its because hes scared of saying soemthing ill take the wrong way.(we got into an arguement over soemthing he said and he didnt mean it the way i thought he did)
now im scared hes gone off me...what do i do?what does this sound like?
thank you for your help!
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i think that his driving is probably part of it. it is new found freedom. also if someone is distant there is usually more to it than just being busy. anytime i've been close to someone online and they told me i was distant i could even tell i was and had actually lost interest. i can't say that is the case here. but see if his ways change and that this just isnt a phase.
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I'm afraid you are experiencing the heartbreak of a long distance relationship. Having one is very, very difficult. I would think it is even harder since it sounds like the two of you didn't have a very long time to make a foundation for your relationship in the beginning. In other words, you and he are trying to FORM your relationship over a long distance, which is doubly hard. Of course you will have misunderstandings and arguments.....you only have calls and texts with each other.
I can't say from what you told me what is going on.....it is hard to tell....but the thing is....even IF he still wants to be yours, the circumstances might be getting in the way. You and he have to discuss your relationship. Talk about what is hard about it....what is good about it. And then, discuss whether you want to keep trying ....or give up. I'm so sorry for you. I wish I could say something comforting, but can't. I wish you luck with this heartbreaking situation.
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