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confusing guy
So here's the story...I really just don't know what to think of it all...we are both sophmores in college fyi.
After i broke up with my boyfriend of 6months..because it was a long distance relationship that really wasnt working out anymore...I started hanging out with this new guy. we were hanging out at least 4 nights a week plus seeing eachother & hanging out at parties on the weekend. when we hung out it was just watching movies sitting around..nothing fancy. every once in a while we messed around alittle bit..but not very much. most of the time it was just talking and cuddling..once in awhile we'd spend the night together. after about a month of this he took me to dinner on a friday night. we went to a school basketball game after dinner..saturday I went to his football game & we went out with a bunch of freinds that night. we spent the night together after that & went to lunch the next day. I was really busy on that monday so I didnt get a chance to talk to him..but then when i talked to him on tuesday he had a girlfriend....ummm? what happened? all of his freinds said that they hadnt even been talking and they were all really confused. they have been dating for about 2 weeks now and he continues to call me and text me saying how much he likes me and how much he misses me and how much of a mistake he made....i just dont know what to do now? i was really starting to fall for him and i really wish we could have kept hanging out..he keeps saying hes going to break up with his gf...that hes just waiting for her to give him a reason..idk help?
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Tell him to contact you when he's broken up with his girlfriend and no sooner. Do not allow yourself to be a girl on a string, a back up, for some guy who thinks he can have his cake and eat it too.
I'd also ask yourself if this is the kind of guy you really want to be with. A guy who leads on women and has no problem pursuing other females while he's in a relationship. He's shown you his true colors and don't fool yourself into thinking he'll be any different with you.
There are plenty of guys who honor their commitments and those are "real men", not immature, selfish boys like this one who is stepping outside his relationship trying to get a little extra on the side.
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ok girl im going to try to help you out with this as much as possible. im sure youve read all the answers people have given you for this qustion. hears wat you do. read them again! when you read them listen to the one you feel is the rite one. i know that when people told you to let him go and move on you didnt want to. if you thought this its because you know hes a good guy and will do the rite thing if he loves you. if u think, well i guess maybe their rite, then its because you think they are and you could live without talking to him again and really move on.it just depends wat you think when people tell you wat to do. but dont listen to them follow ur own heart because your the only one who really knows this guy so your the only one who can make the choice.
i wish you the best of luck on this one girly and dont forget to follow YOUR heart.
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The truth of the matter is this. He spent all that time with you. Got a few perks making out, then decided to go make some other girl his girlfriend.
Don't waste any more time with this guy. Having a girlfriend and getting a little action on the side is the oldest trick in the book. He is going to say ANYTHING to give you the impression you are the one for him. He's lying.
Get real. If you really like someone and want to be with them, you Do NOT wait for the current girlfriend to give you an "excuse" to break up with them. You just do it for you and the one you really care about.
What his friends know is not important. Friends have been known to lie too. The smartest thing you can do here is to forget this cheat. Do not talk to him, do not listen to his bullshit. He is
wanting to use you. He will hurt you. Move on before it gets even more complicated.
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I really do think this guy likes and misses you. It is obvious from how he hung out with you and took you out and spent all that time with you.
The problem is that apparently he wasn't "free" to really do that with you when he did. Maybe he didn't think he would like you so much and he could just spend time with you and then go back to his girlfriend and forget about you.
But obviously he can't forget about you. That is why he is still calling and texting you. He really does like you. He just doesn't have the nerve or ba**s or whatever you call it to break up with his girlfriend for you. I know that you do not want to be his secret "girl on the side." So....no matter how hard it will be for you, you only have one choice. Cut him off from all calls, seeing you and texting you. Go cold turkey. It is the only way to drive him to make a decision between the "girlfriend" and you. Believe me....when you don't answer his calls/texts and cut him out of your life, he will be faced with the decision of either getting rid of her to be with you. Or just letting you go. It is only then....when you see what he does....that you will know for sure if he likes you well enough to do what he has to do to get you. Meaning...break up with the "girlfriend." If he won't, can't or doesn't break up with her....then he wasn't meant for you. Move on. Good luck.
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Honestly this guy doesn't care about you. Sorry to sound harsh but if he really likeed you he would've asked you out right away. It seems that he fooled around you just to play around with you. And he obvioulsy does like his gf becuase than he wouldn't be with her and he knows your gonna be waiting so he'll just stick around.
What you really need to do is cut all contact with him. If he relaly likes you he will dump his gf and come abck to you but what you are describing, he is just an a** wanting to use every girl he can. And like you said you2 are in college, all guys wanna do is have fun in college and not be attached
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If this guy wanted to be with you, he would stop seeing the other girl. Two weeks is not any kind of emotional investment that he can't call it off easily.
He is playing you like a fiddle. He wants to keep you on the side so he can continue to fool around with you no strings attached. This other girl likely needed a relationship before she'd let him get in her pants, so he went with it.
Now he's trying to manage seeing two women at the same time. Don't fall for it. Also, in the future, if a guy spends the night at your place, doesn't have to make any effort towards you or make his intentions known, this sort of confusing "hanging out" and moving on will probably happen again.
I'd drop this dude like a bad habit, no matter how much you like him. Guys who really like you back don't date other women. Guys who really like you won't lose the chance to make sure you're their girlfriend and not some other lucky guy's girlfriend.
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