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SO-- my boyfriend and I have been together five years and plan on marrying. We're not yet engaged, but we know that the timeline is so sensitive with us-- he starts medical school in August, and I want to be a newlywed with him for at least a month before school starts, and both of us have leases that end July 1st. Clearly, a perfect wedding date would be late June or early July. Sooner than that would put us living in my crappy apartment (with my roommate) for our first month of married life before we can move to campus, and later than June would put our wedding too close to the first day of school. I want a long honeymoon and time to settle into a new home with my new husband. So we'll get engaged in December, have 6 months to plan, and marry late June or early July. Perfect, right?
NOT-- I just found out that my cousin (who has been engaged for 6 months already) just set his date for early July. We both share a huge Wisconsin-based family who don't have a lot of money. Their wedding is in Nebraska; mine would be in North Carolina. I feel terrible asking my family to spend the time and money to travel to my wedding as well as theirs, plus isn't it rude to get engaged after someone and set your date right before theirs?
What should I do? (link)
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I may have read this incorrectly but you stated you aren't even engaged. I don't think you can really expect people who are actually engaged to avoid the most popular couple of months to marry just because you "might" marry then. I would imagine, since you have a big family and "engaged" people in that family, you would have gotten officially engaged and picked a date if the timing was that crucial. I'm not sure why you would withhold from your family if you knew you had a date set? Usually planning wedding involves lots of input from family, especially if it's out of town. I'd get officially engaged first before you bring it up or it might just come of petty.
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so without going "could i?", i know i could be. i had sex, unprotected, and even though he didn't cum inside me, its still possible, end of discussion.
moving on to my actual QUESTION: my period was due last thursday, (its now monday). i'm going to take a test if i haven't hit my period by friday. is this long enough to wait or should i wait a little bit longer? (link)
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Just go buy the pregnancy test (you have to anyway, right?) and read the instructions. It will be more accurate information on that product or you could look at their website.
You really need to get into the good habit of reading instructions or pamphlets that come with anything to do with medical issues.
While you are there at the store, buy some condoms as well. There is also a possibility you could have contracted an infection or STD from unprotected sex. I think it's time to make a doctor's appointment to get tested and to get on birth control.
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So on the weekend I met a guy. He's 34 and I'm 19 and he lives about 3 hours away from me. Basically I made out with him the first night we met. The next night we slept together, and again the next morning and he was such a gentle person not just sexually but emotionally, didn't pressure me to do anything I didn't want to do. Now, I'm finding myself to be thinking of him constantly. He told me he cared about me but he wouldn't be able to see me much because he's always busy working long hours, which is fair enough considering he works a good job in the city. I can't talk to him until Thursday because at the moment his phone is being fixed and he won't have it back until Thursday, he said he'll contact me when he gets it...But I don't think I can have a Friendship with benefit thing with him seeing as I'm slowly falling for him and I don't know if he feels the same. Maybe he does like me in that way but wouldn't date me because of the distance, either way I'm afraid to tell him because I don't want to hear the "We can only be just friends" speech. And what makes it 1000 times complicated is that I have an ex who is still madly in love with me and got insanely(and aggressively) jealous of me hanging out with this new guy on the weekend annnd I have an online boyfriend who is coming to see me start of next year. You may think I'm a horrible person for this but this guy is just all I can think about and it's driving me crazy.
What should I do? I'm so stuck and feeling so lost :( (link)
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The 34 yr old is not available to you for a romantic relationship, he made that clear- he works long hours and won't see you much. In other words, it will be a FWB at his convenience. Females confuse sex with love and emotion and males do not. For him, out of sight, out of mind. If you are unable to separate love and sex, please wait until you are in a committed relationship to have it so you don't get heartbroken and tossed aside by men who will automatically place you in the "booty call" category for having no strings attached sex with them, no questions asked.
The ex is a person you have yet to set a boundary with- he's an ex for a reason, to be left in the past, and not allowed to abuse you in the present.
LDRs are almost impossible to maintain long term and usually fizzle out once one of the people meet someone who they can have a real relationship with "in person".
You are not a horrible person, you just aren't approaching relationships the right way. Please don't waste your time on lost causes. Date guys who are willing to make time for you on a consistent, regular basis IN PERSON and wait until you get to know them before you give up all the goods so easily. Take care.
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So here's the story...I really just don't know what to think of it all...we are both sophmores in college fyi.
After i broke up with my boyfriend of 6months..because it was a long distance relationship that really wasnt working out anymore...I started hanging out with this new guy. we were hanging out at least 4 nights a week plus seeing eachother & hanging out at parties on the weekend. when we hung out it was just watching movies sitting around..nothing fancy. every once in a while we messed around alittle bit..but not very much. most of the time it was just talking and cuddling..once in awhile we'd spend the night together. after about a month of this he took me to dinner on a friday night. we went to a school basketball game after dinner..saturday I went to his football game & we went out with a bunch of freinds that night. we spent the night together after that & went to lunch the next day. I was really busy on that monday so I didnt get a chance to talk to him..but then when i talked to him on tuesday he had a girlfriend....ummm? what happened? all of his freinds said that they hadnt even been talking and they were all really confused. they have been dating for about 2 weeks now and he continues to call me and text me saying how much he likes me and how much he misses me and how much of a mistake he made....i just dont know what to do now? i was really starting to fall for him and i really wish we could have kept hanging out..he keeps saying hes going to break up with his gf...that hes just waiting for her to give him a reason..idk help? (link)
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Tell him to contact you when he's broken up with his girlfriend and no sooner. Do not allow yourself to be a girl on a string, a back up, for some guy who thinks he can have his cake and eat it too.
I'd also ask yourself if this is the kind of guy you really want to be with. A guy who leads on women and has no problem pursuing other females while he's in a relationship. He's shown you his true colors and don't fool yourself into thinking he'll be any different with you.
There are plenty of guys who honor their commitments and those are "real men", not immature, selfish boys like this one who is stepping outside his relationship trying to get a little extra on the side.
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What kind of (specifics please) job can you get with a regular 4 year degree in psychology? Everything that interests me so far involves grad school and I'm not sure I want to go to grad school. (link)
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A Psychology degree without additional licenses or qualifications is just viewed as a liberal arts degree. Entry level sales jobs like to see that you've had some Psychology courses but in general, you will be looking at entry level positions.
Anything specific in Psychology usually requires a graduate degree. One thing you could do would be to search job sites and find jobs you may be interested in- look to see what qualifications you need and that will probably give you a good direction.
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I've recently got in touch through msn with a guy friend whom I knew like 6yrs ago in a club. We only met once.
We've been exchanging msn messages for about a month now, almost everyday. We share about everything from our boring daily lives stuff to issues that we can debate on. Slowly and I think I'm kinda interested in him and want to know him further but it seems like it's pretty hard to meet him up. He sounds keen but yet he said he's pretty tied down with stuff.
I feel like we're just pen pals and yet there's something special. Do you think we are going anywhere or am I thinking too much?
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Are you interested in a virtual relationship? That's all you have until the guy actually makes the effort to see you and you start dating him. Until then, you are pen pals. Someone can promise you the world in words over a computer but it don't mean much when they can't even hold your hand in the park.
He's keeping you on ice, for whatever reason, and that's your "clue" to put this thing into the proper context. Low effort communication like msn messages should not command this kind of investment from you. It's not "special", it's crumbs he's giving you while living his life with actual people he includes in it and right now, that's not you. Best thing you can do is follow suit and spend time with guys who want to show up and be there. Take care.
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I have worked with this guy for over 9 months and we work in different departments. He comes into my department alot to look up stuff for his job and I catch him looking at me often. But when I smile or look back he quickly looks away. He talks to everyone else in my department but me. I am somewhat shy and do not know what to say to him but I really like him. I know he is single because he came to our Work Christmas Party alone and he kept staring at me there too!! If anyone thinks he like me back then what can I say or do to make him talk to me? (link)
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You will know when a guy likes you when he finds excuses to be around you and then asks you out. Guys are simple- they see something they want and they go after it if they are available to do so. Attractive females are a dime a dozen and while this one guy is the focal point of your attention, he is probably attracted to many females.
I would simply go up to him in a casual way and introduce yourself. Perhaps that will lead to getting to know him better and you'll have a better idea if he's even interested enough to ask you any questions about yourself. If not, move on.
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Iv been having this problem for a long time and it seems like its getting worse .I'm exausted all the time and there is days where I feel like I'm going to pass out or black out because I'm so tierd .I work 2 jobs one part time one full time .but I don't think that's it because iv been tierd like this way before I worked 2 jobs .I can't quit one job because I need the money but I don't know what to do I have no insurance so I can't go see a doctor so what do I do or what is my problem anybody have a clue (link)
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There are usually free clinics you can go and visit on a first come first serve basis. If it's been a while since you've had a regular exam, you probably need to have your blood work done as well. There are many physical conditions that can cause fatigue and depression, like your hormone levels being off or your thyroid.
Another thing you may want to do is visit your local pharmacist and talk to them about your symptoms and have them suggest some safe herbal supplements you can take as well.
Diet can also contribute to feeling depressed and fatigued. Make sure you are eating a balanced diet, getting a few minutes of sunlight each day, and drinking enough water.
Stress compromises your immune system as well. Exercise can reduce stress levels, even if it's just a quick walk around the block to get your endorphines going.
I hope this helps.
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