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Hard choice
19/f
I've been with my boyfriend for about two years. We recently broke up for a few days but decided to get back together and try our hardest to solve our problems and change things. While we were broken up, he told me that if we didn't end up back together, he was going to join the air force. However, he wouldn't if we were still together, since he didn't want to be away from me for that long. I really think being in the air force would be good for him, and there's nothing else he really wants to do with his life. I love him a lot, and I want to do what's best for him and not be selfish.
So what's the right thing to do? End things now (I think we're just not ready to be in a relationship now anyway, we need time) so he can do what he wants? (I would wait for him no matter what.) Or do the selfish thing and stay with him?
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Talk to him and tell him that you love him and want to be with him but the airforce is best for him. Talk him into doing it and yet still being together tell him you will wait for him and that you reallyyyy think he should do it. If he loves you and respects ur opinion than he will.
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I think you should end it seeing as you feel that the both of you aren't ready to be in a relationship and you both need time there's no point of in being in a relationship if you aren't happy i'd let him join the air force if that's what he really wants to do there's always plenty of chances for relationships but there may not be plenty of chances to join the air force and experience it if you truely love him then i think you should allow him to do what he wants that way you'll be pleased and happy too(:
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Well it isn't as though you HAVE to break up for him to be able to join the Air Force. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him and tell him he can have BOTH. Many, many people every day live with partners that are in the service. Is it easy? No, but they do it. It is possible, or no one with a partner would go into the service!
Tell him you will be here to support him and be with him through the whole experience. Tell him to do it for BOTH of you...because he will be getting valuable training that will prepare him for a career. What a great thing to do for a relationship! PLAN FOR THE FUTURE!!!
Go for it!
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